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Release Date: 06/18/2020

Good Girls Talk About Sex

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Good Girls Talk About Sex

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Find the red flags! - Coaching Sophilia

Good Girls Talk About Sex

In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don’t feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her? Leah works with Sophilia to: understand the red flags for this type of relationship, the communication skills that will help screen them out, rethink her own experience of being turned on. Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black father. In the past she’s been in monogamous relationships, but currently prefers the idea of being...

When the man teaching consent is the one violating you

Good Girls Talk About Sex

Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story. The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man’s abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling you what’s going on; it's about shining a light on the dark corners of abuse and systemic failure....

Pop Culture Pillow Talk: Starstruck on HBO

Good Girls Talk About Sex

What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you? In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah Tuesday, March 5 - Sex toys show & tell...

Having the best sex of my life at 63 - Debbie

Good Girls Talk About Sex

In this coaching/storytelling episode, Debbie talks about having the best sex of her life at age 63. Her question: Is that usual? While Debbie has always been multi-orgasmic, now she's having dozens of orgasms in a single sex session. And the connection with her new husband is a big part of the reason. Debbie is a 63 year old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married. She describes her body as slender and athletic. And don't forget: the BEYOND PERMISSION workshop starts next week! Use coupon code "beyond20" to join us! BEYOND PERMISSION workshop...

Why don't you want to have sex with me?

Good Girls Talk About Sex

Togetherness is an HBO show that explores the challenges of maintaining a healthy and active sex life in a long-term relationship with small children. In today's episode, Danielle Silverstein from the popular Marriage and Martinis podcast joins Leah to discuss the first two episodes of the show. They dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment, gender roles, expectations and resentments. Join us for a deep, thought-provoking, and insightful conversation about challenges of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship. BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off...

Navigating the sex talk demons

Good Girls Talk About Sex

Leah joins Danielle of Marriage & Martinis to talk about why Danielle's conversation with her husband about intimacy and pleasure was explosive and chaotic. Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. They talk about why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be played in lieu of telling our partner, “we’re not satisfied” as means to get a...

I wish they would SLOW DOWN - Coaching Maria

Good Girls Talk About Sex

In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as...

Leah faces an identity crisis

Good Girls Talk About Sex

Leah delves into a deeply personal topic: how trauma and mental health have impacted her ability to show up authentically. She talks about the impact her demanding, charismatic father had on her psyche and sense of safety. In admitting her fear of being viewed as not good enough or too much like their father, Leah discusses the creation of a performative persona and the desire to shift to a more authentic voice. Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? Work with Leah: Apply for a free coaching session: Support the show: Full show notes:

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In this episode, Leah begins answering the Lowdown questions – with a twist!

To date, she has done well over 60 interviews, most of which have included an in-depth Q&A. As she answers each Lowdown question, you’ll hear a chorus of voices answering the same question. The goal is to remind you, once again, that no matter what your answer is, you are completely normal and you are not alone.

In the second half of the show, she answers an “Am I normal?” question about feeling attractive after major surgery.

2:00 – Chorus of voices answering “Do you have sex during your period?”
8:30 – Leah answers the question “Do I have sex during my period?”
8:50 - Leah talks about her earliest shame/trauma experience around menstruation, being lectured by her dad in a way that made her feel overwhelmed, invaded, and disgusted.
10:30 - When Leah gets her first period at age 12, she ignores it. Her mom discovers evidence in the laundry.
12:00 - In her 30’s, she has her first experience with a partner wanting to proceed with sex while she is on her period. He’s fine with it. But the sight of her blood on his fingers nearly breaks her.
12:55 - She occasionally will have sex while on her period with her current partner, even though she still experiences shame and emotional discomfort.
14:03 – Am I normal? question – how can I have sex and feel attractive after major surgery?
14:55 - Leah talks about our culture’s ideal body type, how we are harmfully held against a specific and limited standard, and how our belief that we are lovable is tied to that standard.
16:34 - Going to a nude sex resort helped Leah see that all types of bodies are sexually attractive to someone.
17:58 - Leah directs the audience to Instagram to see bodies with colostomy bags, in wheelchairs, and after breast cancer normalized.
19:13 - Leah talks about “body neutrality.”

Check out some of these Instagram accounts to see a variety of bodies enjoying life:

Normalizing ostomies:

https://www.instagram.com/ann_liseeva/

https://www.instagram.com/ostomydiaries/

Love and vacations in a wheelchair:

https://www.instagram.com/naomifernandez__/

Life after breast cancer:

https://www.instagram.com/laureneliseox/

Fat yoga / Curvy girl yoga:

https://www.instagram.com/journey2antoinette/

https://www.instagram.com/thiscurviyogi/

https://www.instagram.com/bipolar.yogi

PSA from Leah -

Body Neutrality: Body image is tied to feeling lovable in our culture, and the specific body image (young, thin, smooth, and perfect) that we hold as the standard actually rarely occurs in the population. So, most of us feel like crap—and the uber-positivity message of “love every inch of your skin no matter what” rings false and seems impossible to achieve. Body neutrality takes a different approach.

These are some of my favorite Instagram accounts that are working in the field of body neutrality:

https://www.instagram.com/virgietovar/

https://www.instagram.com/tiffanyima/

https://www.instagram.com/jessikneeland/

https://www.instagram.com/iamstefaniemichele/

https://www.instagram.com/beyondbeautifulbook/

https://www.instagram.com/kenziebrenna/

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