Wrestling as a Proving Ground for Life | Nick Eby | Ep 35
Guy Shrink
What does a wrestling mat have to teach us about how to live? More than you might think. In this episode, Bill sits down with Nick B., a high school wrestling coach and teacher from Monroe, Michigan, who's spent seven years building not just a competitive program — but a culture of character. With 28 athletes on his roster and a coaching philosophy built around core values and pillars like honor, accountability, gratitude, and "iron sharpens iron," Nick is in the business of making better people, not just better wrestlers. Nick and Bill dig into what it really means to compete — and why...
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Grandfather’s Dirt, My Hands: A 26-Year-Old’s Entrepreneurial Roots | Devin Shaw | Ep 34
Guy Shrink
In this episode of The Guy Shrink Podcast, host Bill Roman interviews 26-year-old Devin Shaw, owner of Soul Patch, a thriving greenhouse and plant farm on his grandparents’ former property in Swanton, Ohio. Devin shares how he traded a potential career in classical violin for horticulture after high school, earning a two-year degree in greenhouse management at Ohio State’s Agricultural Technical Institute. Right after graduation in 2019, he built his first greenhouse on the family land, driven by a deep connection to his late grandparents and a desire to work with his hands instead of...
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Beyond the Court: Leadership, Friendship, and Becoming Better Men | David Bensch | Episode 33
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In this episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill welcomes guest David Bench to reflect on a remarkable adventure from nearly 20 years ago. As college seniors in 2006-2007, David and his lifelong friend Andrew embarked on a 15-month road trip across the U.S., interviewing 29 legendary college basketball coaches, including Rick Pitino, Thad Matta, Coach K, Rick Barnes, John Beilein, and the iconic John Wooden (at age 96). What began as a spontaneous project evolved into the book Destination Basketball, which captures not just basketball strategies but also profound insights into leadership,...
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The Addictive Science of Revenge | Dan Schaefer | Episode 32
Guy Shrink
Ever fantasized about getting even? You’re not alone — and it turns out revenge isn’t just satisfying… It’s literally addictive. Clinical psychologists Bill Roman & Dan Schaefer dive deep into: Why revenge triggers the same dopamine rush as cocaine How harboring resentment is a “behavioral addiction” (new brain science!) The dark reason Hollywood revenge movies (John Wick, Kill Bill, Gladiator) make billions Why “venting” your anger actually makes it worse The one thing that finally breaks the cycle: forgiveness (and it’s harder than it sounds) If you’ve ever...
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Wired Differently: Unpacking Men and Women in Relationships | Jan Meyer | Episode 31
Guy Shrink
On the latest episode of the Guy Shrink Podcast, host Bill Roman welcomes seasoned therapist Jan Meyer to explore the fundamental differences between men and women in relationships. With over 50 years of friendship and professional expertise, Jan shares insights from her practice and personal life, highlighting how men often focus on solutions and efficiency, while women prioritize emotional connection and relational understanding. She discusses how men tend to let go of issues quickly, whereas women may dwell on them, leading to communication gaps—like when a husband forgets a morning...
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Symphony as Antidote: How Music Sharpens the Male Mind | Zak Vassar | Episode 30
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In this engaging episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Rothman sits down with Zak Vassar, CEO of the Toledo Symphony Orchestra, to explore why men should embrace the symphony as a powerful antidote to the chaos of modern life. Vassar shares his passion for classical music, emphasizing its ability to cut through the noise of "doomscrolling" and digital distractions, offering a visceral and authentic experience that fosters emotional depth and presence. From the transformative power of live performances to their role in enhancing leadership skills, this episode highlights how symphonic music can...
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The Power of Questioning Your Thoughts: A Guy's Guide to Better Thinking | Chris Niebaur, Tim Lusch, Jordan Valdiviez| Episode 29
Guy Shrink
In this episode of GuyShrink, host Bill Roman and guests Tim Lusch, Chris Niebaur, and Jordan Valdiviez delve into epistemology—the study of how we know what we know—and why men should critically examine their thinking processes. Drawing from his background in neuroscience, Chris explains how the brain often confabulates explanations for actions, as seen in split-brain studies, and how many thoughts aren't truly our own, urging awareness to avoid detachment from reality. Tim emphasizes staying grounded in truth to extract meaning from life and avoid self-deception, while Jordan highlights...
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Now What? Navigating Retirement, Empty Nests, and Life's Next Chapter | Joe Gerhardinger | Episode 28
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In this episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman discusses retirement's challenges with guest Joe Gerhardinger, a retired math and astronomy teacher from an all-girls Catholic school in Toledo, Ohio. After 25+ fulfilling years, including teaching his own daughters, Joe chose to "graduate" alongside his youngest child, recognizing he'd peaked and sought new adventures. He faces the "double whammy" of retiring amid becoming an empty nester, which leads to sleepless nights filled with questions about purpose, potential, and whether he's squandering opportunities. Joe tried handyman work, school...
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The Power of Choice: Redefining Pornography Recovery | Jordan Keefe | Episode 27
Guy Shrink
In this episode of GuyShrink, host Bill Roman reconnects with Jordan Keefe, an entrepreneur and coach who shares insights from his nomadic RV lifestyle and his work helping men overcome pornography addiction through his program, "Take a Break from Porn." Jordan discusses the challenge of letting go of the need to control unpredictable outcomes in life, drawing parallels to the entrepreneurial experience. It introduces his approach to addressing pornography use as a choice rather than an uncontrollable addiction, rooted in managing anxiety or boredom. Jordan outlines his coaching...
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Facing the Silent Fight: Prostate Cancer and the Power of Attitude | Matt Kutz | Episode 26
Guy Shrink
In this deeply personal episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman sits down with his friend Matt Kutz, a professor at Florida International University, to discuss a life-altering diagnosis of advanced metastatic prostate cancer. Matt shares his journey from being an active, symptom-free athlete to facing a challenging reality that affects not only him but his family. With candid vulnerability, he opens up about the emotional and physical toll of treatments, the stigma surrounding prostate cancer, and the importance of routine checkups. Matt also introduces his initiative, Battle for the Bulge,...
info_outlineEver fantasized about getting even? You’re not alone — and it turns out revenge isn’t just satisfying… It’s literally addictive.
Clinical psychologists Bill Roman & Dan Schaefer dive deep into:
- Why revenge triggers the same dopamine rush as cocaine
- How harboring resentment is a “behavioral addiction” (new brain science!)
- The dark reason Hollywood revenge movies (John Wick, Kill Bill, Gladiator) make billions
- Why “venting” your anger actually makes it worse
- The one thing that finally breaks the cycle: forgiveness (and it’s harder than it sounds)
If you’ve ever replayed “that moment” in your head, chopped wood while imagining someone’s face, or cheered when the bad guy finally gets it — this episode is for you.
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