How to Use Little Limits Stop a Child's Whining, Neediness & Pestering
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Release Date: 08/31/2022
Am I Doing This Right?
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
What to do if you feel stuck, freeze in the moment or second guess how you use the Hand in Hand Tools. Am I doing this right? How do I know what to do? Why do I freeze when I want to use the tools? We hear these questions more often than you might imagine from parents who are using the Hand in Hand approach. So for this last episode of the season, Emily and Kathy delve into how second guessing and doubt about connected parenting stems from our own childhoods, as well as what to do so you know for sure you doing a great job. This episode is for you if you are new to the tools...
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What to Do When Your Child is Hitting
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Understand the unseen fears that drive a child's aggression and stop it using nurturing supportive strategies. Emily and Kathy address a parent question from the surprised parent of a child who has started hitting out at other kids. This child, like many others who lash out, has not grown up around hitting or seen it modelled elsewhere, so the parent is confused about where the behavior is coming from and how to address it. Listen in as Emily and Kathy share how a current situation can activate a child’s past fears or scary experiences and propel them into a “fight” mode that...
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Parenting After Separation: Revolutionary Ideas to Support Kids Through Divorce
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Today, Emily and Kathy are joined by Hand in Hand’s founder Patty Wipfler, who shares her insights for parents on how to support their children when they have chosen to divorce. As a new family dynamic forms, it is natural for children to experience a range of emotions during separations and divorces, even when terms have been friendly. Patty shares unexpected behaviors children can display, as well as practical and connecting tips about how to respond so your child feels supported and hopeful during this challenging time. Join Patty, Emily and Kathy for a warm and insightful...
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Does Birth Order Make a Difference?
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
How to Tailor the Hand in Hand tools with different age kids - With Summer Sheldon This week Emily responds to a parent question: “Does birth order make a difference to how you use the Hand in Hand tools?” and calls on mom of three, licensed counsellor and Hand in Hand Instructor Summer Sheldon to help answer. Listen in to hear how you can adjust the Hand in Hand tools for each of your children, based on their personality, traits and needs. You’ll hear about common traits that seem to be shared by oldest and youngest kids and how to assess their true needs. Tune In To...
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Helping Tweens and Teens Feel Heard: How to Respond Well When Your Older Child Needs to Let Off Steam
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Using the Hand in Hand Staylistening Tool with older kids. It’s fairly easy to tell when a toddler’s emotional system has taken over. Tantrums. A toddler will yell when they don’t get the blue cup or can’t take another cookie, and then scream, throw themselves on the floor, or send something crashing. Not so with tweens and teens. In fact, the way they signal their upset can feel very much more like a criticism or a complaint that invites us to offer some advice or reflection – which can lead to disaster. “I hate you.” “You never listen.” “You just don’t...
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Reset Your Day With Roughhousing With Special Guest Lawrence Cohen
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Unplug & Play With Dr. Lawrence J. Cohen In this episode, Emily and Kathy sit down with Dr. Lawrence J Cohen, a Nappa Gold -award winning author of Playful Parenting and a play therapist. Dr. Cohen is a strong advocate for physical play and roughhousing, and how it can positively impact children and adults. Dr. Cohen talks about how roughhousing can make your day so much better in just a few seconds, through shared laughter and connection. Plus, how it can help children build problem-solving skills, confidence, and work through anxiety and fear. Listen in and hear how you can...
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Keeping Connection Strong With Your Tween or Teen With Kirsten Nottleson
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Strategies That Bring Smiles & Joy With Kirsten Nottleson Sometimes it feels like our tweens and teens are living on a different planet. How are we supposed to know exactly what they need from us? That’s exactly what Emily asks play expert and Hand in Hand instructor Kirsten Nottleson this week. Listen in to hear how to decode tween and teen behavior, keep relationships warm, and connection strong. Because although they may act like they don’t need or value your caring, tweens and teens still need you close. Tune In To Hear: How to give the downtime your child needs...
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Rebuilding Connections: How to Repair With Your Kids After Losing Your Cool
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
There’s an idea out there that a good parent is serene, caring, all-knowing-never-cross creature… It’s such a fairytale fantasy. The reality really is so much more human. It’s messy. It’s awesome. It’s draining, delightful, sometimes dreadful and so on: Parenting demands the full spectrum of human emotion for many, many, years. And we’re sorry to break the news but it turns out a human can’t alway be perfect for that much time! Sometimes the stress and heaviness of a phase of development or certain behaviours just bring us to our knees because we’re triggered or because we...
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The Guilt-free Parent: How to Let Go of Guilt and Navigate Your Parent Journey With Compassion
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
“Am I good enough?” “I should do more…” “I never get it right…” This week Emily and Kathy are talking about overcoming feelings of parent guilt. Parent guilt can creep up on us, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and questioning our parenting abilities. And while that desire to want to do everything perfectly is often born out of love for your child, mixed messages from the media, and old messages from your childhood can leave you feeling anxious and worrying that everything you do is wrong. Join Emily and Kathy as they offer some guidance on how to shed those negative...
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Finding the Fun: Get Strategies for More Fun and Laughter in Your Daily Life With Kids
Hand in Hand Parenting: The Podcast
Strategies for infusing fun and laughter into your daily life with kids. When we approach parenting with a sense of playfulness, it can make all the difference. Play has the power to melt away tension, create a culture where mistakes are okay, and leave us feeling more open and flexible. And yet, the burdens of daily life can leave us feeling heavy. Plus, how can you possibly be playful when your child asks “why,” for the millionth time, or snatches away a cookie you already said no to? It’s possible – and it makes parenting feel a whole lot lighter. That’s why, in this...
info_outlineWhat these behaviors really mean, and how to see them off without blowing your top.
Whining…
Pestering…
Days when everything has to be “just right” for your child.
These behaviors can be very triggering and really push on a parent’s buttons.
Unless they know how to read the behavior.
In this podcast, Kathy and Emily jump into “pretexts,” (behavior that asks for a limit).
They share how these pretexts are kind of like your child’s emotional system asking for a reset, and how pretexts show up in behaviors like teariness, neediness, perfectionism – when a child has to have everything “just so,” – and whining.
Plus how you can use a little limit to your advantage – and your child’s – to stop the behavior before it drives you to your last nerve and results in a big meltdown.
Little limits are the ideal solution if your child has been a little off-track for days…
…If it feels like they have something bothering them but you just aren’t sure what.
And if you’d like a gentle way to restore easygoing cooperation and see your child happy again!
Join Emily and Kathy and discover how you can use little limits to handle a child’s pretext – and curb their whiny, needy, or pestering behavior.
Tune In To Hear:
- The little-known connection between stuck emotions and your child’s whining, pestering, perfectionism and other offtrack behaviors.
- How saying no to a small thing your child whines or complains about gives them space to clear a deeper upset – and how that shows up in easier behavior. Yes! There’ll be smiles and cooperation again soon!
- Don’t be surprised if your child has a big hearty cry over something really small. Why kids can get deeply upset over little things – and why it can be good for both of you.
- Identifying when your child needs a little limits: What does their behavior signal to you, plus, when is a good time to hold your limit or say no to a request?
- All about “emotional splinters”: Why setting little limits is like pulling an emotional splinter out early, so there’s less inflammation to treat later.
- Common times for pretexts. Which of these annoying behaviors crop up in your family? Try overcoming them using this little limit approach.
- Got a big event coming up? How to set limits early when you want things to go easier later on.