HBW104: Creating Your Ideal Life by Stopping Self-Sabotage

On this episode of Happy Black Woman, Rosetta addresses the topic of creating your ideal life by stopping self-sabotage. It’s often hard to achieve one’s goals because it’s easier to default to destructive thought patterns. By following Rosetta’s three methods of stopping self-sabotage, you can move towards the life of your dreams and overcome the barriers that have been in your way. Be sure to listen to discover her insights!

Self-sabotage manifests in many ways

One of the biggest barriers to your ideal life arrives in the form of procrastination. Rosetta explains that after a while, procrastination can begin to feel normal and acceptable. It can even take on the form of perfectionism - focusing on “perfect timing” in lieu of taking action is a form of procrastination. It can also arise because of a fear of the unknown. Be sure to listen to the full episode to discover how Rosetta overcomes procrastination in pursuit of her ideal life goals.

Method #1 - Make a decision!

Even people who are passionate about pursuing their ideal life can fall victim to not making decisions - which leads to never taking action. Rosetta explains that “maybe” turns into “never” but that making decisions allows you to move forward in your life. If you make a decision in your life there’s no reason why it will not happen unless you prevent it from happening. This form of self-sabotage prevents you from committing and stands in the way of living ideally. Catch the full episode for more information about making proactive decisions in your life.

Method #2 - Stop asking the wrong people for advice

Your friends, family members, and coworkers are all known constants. Sadly, many of them have never taken a major risk in their lives. Rosetta explains why you should not turn to these people for advice on your personal or professional life because they “validate the fear you have, which is a form of self-sabotage.” They will give you the permission to quit, doubt, and procrastinate, all of which are going against your plans for an optimal life. Rosetta explains the concept of protecting your goals from the people who care about you most in this stellar episode of Happy Black Woman.

Method #3 - Don’t settle for less than what you deserve and desire

Perhaps the greatest concept to take away from this episode is to never settle for what you don’t desire, want, and deserve. Life decisions are not always easy but you cannot allow subpar “opportunities” to get in the way of something that you actually want. Rosetta encourages her listeners to never allow things they don’t want to take up space in their life. She wants her listeners to understand that settling allows for complacency, which never leads to ultimate goal achievement. Be sure to listen to the complete audio to fully understand the three methods to stop self-sabotage, as well as hear from some great listener questions. And don’t forget to listen for your opportunity for $200 off your registration to the Manifest Your Vision 2018 retreat in January 2018!

Outline of this great episode

• [1:00] Rosetta introduces the episode, regarding reasons on why it’s so hard to achieve life goals
• [3:00] Three ways to stop sabotaging your own success
• [5:17] Method #1 - Make a decision - stop being indecisive about what you want
• [8:40] Method #2 - Stop asking the wrong people for advice
• [13:25] Method #3 - Stop settling for less than what you deserve and desire
• [17:44] Rosetta explains how jobs can be a means to an end, not THE end
• [26:00] Work with Rosetta in person in January at the Manifest Your Vision retreat

Resources & Links mentioned in this episode

• Manifest Your Vision 2018 Retreat