426: How to Find Purpose and Not Regret Your Life with Jordan Grumet
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Release Date: 01/10/2025
Intimacy, Breakups, and Dating in the Real World: A Conversation with Dr. Justin Garcia
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Dating and relationships have never been simple — but in today’s world of apps, algorithms, and endless options, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and disconnected. In this episode, I speak with Dr. Justin Garcia, Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute, evolutionary biologist, sex researcher, and author of the upcoming book The Intimate Animal. We talk about what our biology can (and can’t) tell us about love and desire, how technology is reshaping intimacy, and why breakups can hit so hard. We also get personal — sharing stories about grief, recovery, non-monogamy, and navigating...
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Compassionate and Effective Schizophrenia Care with Dr. Tracy Hicks
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this episode, I’m honored to welcome Dr. Tracy Hicks, a dual-certified family and mental health nurse practitioner with over two decades of clinical experience—and a deeply personal connection to serious mental illness. Dr. Hicks is both the daughter of a parent and the mother of a child with schizophrenia spectrum disorders. Her perspective blends professional expertise with lived experience in a way that is both deeply compassionate and refreshingly practical. We talk about what schizophrenia really is (and isn’t), the impact of stigma on individuals and families, and the importance...
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I Am Determined.
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this episode, I share the absolute honest truth about my life at the moment. I also talk about my focus for this year, the phrases I can't get out of my head, and the things I'm grateful for from the last year. Let's do this. Got a question for the show? Email or head over the . Watch the video at Follow me on Instagram at and Facebook at More writings and additional podcast content over at
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A New Approach to OCD: Internal Family Systems w/ Melissa Mose
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this deeply informative episode, I’m joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Melissa Mose, LMFT, who brings 30 years of clinical experience to the table and a unique approach to treating OCD by integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) with traditional methods like Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). Melissa shares how a personal experience—her daughter’s sudden-onset OCD—propelled her into the world of OCD treatment and changed the direction of her career. We talk through how OCD manifests, why traditional ERP can be both life-changing and difficult for people,...
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Celeb Chef Chris Valdes on Mental Health in Kitchens
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this heartfelt and candid episode, I'm joined by Chef Chris Valdes—TV personality, cookbook author, and lifelong culinary artist—to talk about his powerful personal journey through the culinary world and the mental health struggles he’s faced along the way. From growing up in a Cuban restaurant in Miami to rising to national TV fame, Chris has seen both the bright lights and the dark corners of the kitchen. He shares stories of family, grief, hustle, and healing—including why he took a year off from everything to rediscover himself. Whether you're in food service, struggling with...
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Dr. Andrea Martinez Talks Gangs, Loss, Depression, and Learning Discernment.
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Friends, welcome back to the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. This is my first interview back after a bit of a journey. I thought there was no better way to kick off this next phase of the podcast than by introducing you to a friend and brilliant human that I met in the interim. Dr. Amy Andrea Martinez is a professor of sociology with a focus on Chicano gang culture, incarceration, and abolition. She is a total badass, and she gets vulnerable about her experiences in this conversation. We discuss how her younger brother's arrest, the development of her identity as a Xicana woman, her experiences...
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The Podcast is Coming Back.
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Episode Summary: In this deeply personal solo episode, Dr. Duff returns to the mic after a hiatus to share what’s been going on behind the scenes with The Hardcore Self Help Podcast. He opens up about an almost-acquisition of the show by a larger mental health organization—a deal that initially looked promising but ultimately fell through. With transparency and vulnerability, Dr. Duff reflects on the emotional and professional impact of that experience, explains why the podcast paused, and announces the exciting new direction it’s headed in. What You'll Hear In This Episode: Why the...
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437: Multicultural Identity, Somatic Healing, and Embodied Code Switching w/ Marcia Bonato Warren
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this insightful interview, I’m joined by Marcia Bonato Warren, a trauma-informed body therapist, somatic counselor, interculturalist, and author. Marcia brings over 30 years of experience working with cross-cultural mental health, and she shares a powerful lens on how identity, culture, and trauma intersect in the body. Together, we explore the concept of embodied code switching, how our bodies carry cultural and ancestral imprints, and how healing often involves not just the mind, but movement, sensation, and deep awareness of the self. Marcia discusses her personal journey as a...
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436: Facing Horrific Family Trauma & Finding Joy After Divorce
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this episode, Dr. Duff takes on two powerful listener questions in a raw and compassionate Q&A format. The first question comes from a survivor of extensive childhood abuse, religious trauma, and complex family dynamics, who is wrestling with the decision of whether or not to publish a deeply personal memoir. Dr. Duff dives into the emotional, psychological, and ethical layers of this situation, offering validation, insight, and a heartfelt reminder that healing and storytelling can be acts of empowerment. The second question comes from a newly single parent facing feelings of...
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435: Moving Past infidelity & Coping with Sudden Medication Changes
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
In this episode, I address two deeply personal listener questions that highlight the complex nature of anxiety and emotional healing in relationships. The first question comes from a listener who has struggled with anxiety for most of their life, recently facing severe limitations due to Generalized Anxiety Disorder and medication changes. We talk about the genetic components of anxiety, the risks of benzodiazepines in older adults, and the importance of advocating for the right care—even if that means seeking new providers or considering higher levels of treatment. The second question dives...
info_outlineIn this inspiring episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jordan Grumet, a hospice director, author, and podcast host, to explore how we can transform our lives by embracing the concept of “little p purpose.” Dr. Grumet shares insights from his latest book, The Purpose Code, which offers actionable strategies to uncover and build a meaningful life, regardless of your circumstances.
Our conversation dives deep into the difference between “big P Purpose” (society’s lofty, often unattainable ideals) and “little p purpose” (daily actions that bring joy and meaning). Dr. Grumet shares his personal journey—from losing his father at a young age to becoming a physician driven by unresolved trauma, to ultimately finding fulfillment by pursuing his passions for writing, speaking, and connecting with others.
Key takeaways from our discussion include practical ways to recognize your purpose anchors, how to turn regrets into motivations, and why pursuing joy in small, intentional ways can lead to profound impact and lasting legacy. We also explore how Dr. Grumet’s work in hospice has shaped his understanding of what truly matters in life, highlighting lessons from those at the end of their journeys.
This episode is packed with wisdom for anyone feeling stuck, searching for meaning, or simply looking to live with more intentionality and joy.
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Chapters:
- 00:15 — Introduction: Meet Dr. Jordan Grumet
- 02:00 — Finding Purpose After Loss: Dr. Grumet’s Early Life
- 06:15 — Purpose Anchors: Joyful Work vs. Goal-Oriented Burnout
- 10:45 — Lessons from the Hospice Life Review
- 16:30 — Regrets of the Dying: Turning Regret into Action
- 20:00 — Building Purpose When You Feel Stuck
- 24:15 — Tools and Levers: Joy of Addition and Art of Subtraction
- 30:00 — The Difference Between Meaning and Purpose
- 37:00 — How Small Joys Create Big Impact and Legacy
- 44:15 — Practical Steps to Start Building a Purposeful Life
- 50:30 — Final Takeaways: Finding Your Purpose Anchors
About the Podcast
I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. Each episode dives deep into mental health, personal development, and strategies for living authentically and fulfilling your potential.
Guest Links
- Dr. Grumet’s Website: https://jordangrumet.com
- The Purpose Code: https://jordangrumet.com/books
- Podcast: https://www.earnandinvest.com/episodes
Connect With Me:
- Website: https://duffthepsych.com
- Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych
- YouTube: https://youtube.com/duffthepsych
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