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432: What is High-Functioning Codependency? Terri Cole

The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

Release Date: 02/28/2025

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In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with the incredible psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, to discuss high-functioning codependency, boundaries, and how we can break free from people-pleasing tendencies. Terri shares her own journey from working in the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist and how her personal struggles with boundaries led her to specialize in this area. We dive deep into the traits of high-functioning codependency, where it comes from, and actionable steps you can take to create healthier relationships and reclaim your inner peace.

What We Cover in This Episode:

  • Terri’s journey from talent agent to psychotherapist

  • Recognizing high-functioning codependency in yourself

  • How childhood and societal expectations shape codependency

  • The role of self-awareness and therapy in breaking codependency patterns

  • Practical tools for overcoming codependent tendencies

  • The importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no

  • How to conduct a resentment inventory and why it’s helpful

  • Addressing difficult family dynamics around social and political issues

  • How Terri’s book, Too Much, can help you break free from codependency

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Terri Cole and her background
01:00 – How Terri transitioned from talent agent to psychotherapist
16:00 – Recognizing high-functioning codependency
25:00 – Childhood & societal influences on codependency
30:00 – The importance of self-awareness and therapy
39:00 – Practical tools for overcoming codependency
42:00 – Navigating difficult family dynamics
49:00 – Setting boundaries and learning to say no
52:00 – Conducting a resentment inventory
58:00 – How Too Much can help you break free

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