Why Waiting to Feel Better Is Keeping You Stuck | Part 3
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Episode Description "What if feeling better isn't what comes first?" In Part 3 of this five-part Grieve That Sh!t series, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about something so many grievers find themselves doing: Waiting to feel better before they start living again. When I feel better, I'll go out. When I feel better, I'll travel. When I feel better, I'll clean out the room. When I feel better, I'll make plans. When I feel better, I'll start taking care of myself again. It makes sense. When you're already hurting, why would you willingly do something that...
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Grief Is Making More Decisions Than You Think | Part 2
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Episode Description “How much of your life is grief deciding right now?” In Part 2 of this Grieve That Sh!t series, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, takes the conversation one step further and asks a question most grievers have probably never considered: Is grief making your decisions for you? Because grief doesn’t always look like crying. Sometimes grief looks like staying home. Saying no to invitations. Avoiding the restaurant you used to love together. Refusing to travel because your travel partner is gone. Keeping the house exactly the same. Staying...
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Your Person Died, But That Is Not All You Are Grieving | Part 1
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Episode Description "Your person died, but that is not all you are grieving." In Part 1 of this five-part Grieve That Sh!t series, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about the grief underneath the grief. Because when your person died, you didn't only lose them. You lost the life that existed because they were in it. Maybe you lost the future you thought you would have together. Your routines. Your sense of safety. Your role as a wife, husband, mother, father, daughter, or son. The person who knew your history without needing an explanation. And maybe you...
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The Caregiver No One Sees with Joanna Part 1
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Episode Description “Sometimes caregiving means loving someone through changes neither of you were prepared for.” In Part 1 of The Caregiver No One Sees on Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Joanna—a wife, mom of two young children, former teacher, and primary caregiver for her mother, who is living with Alzheimer’s. And this conversation gets real fast. Because caregiving is not just appointments, medications, paperwork, meals, and making sure everyone is safe. It is watching someone you love change. It is becoming...
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The Caregiver No One Sees with Joanna Part 2
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Episode Description “You don’t have to wait until someone dies to start grieving.” In Part 2 of The Caregiver No One Sees on Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, continues her conversation with Joanna about a kind of grief that so many caregivers experience but rarely know how to name: grieving someone who is still here. Because for caregivers, grief often begins long before death. It can begin with a diagnosis. With the first forgotten conversation. With a personality change. With realizing the mother you knew is changing right in front of...
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The Hidden Grief of Downsizing with Felicia
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Episode Description “Sometimes the hardest goodbye isn't to a person. It's to the life you built.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with senior transition specialist Felicia Tausig for an eye-opening conversation about one of the most overlooked forms of grief: leaving the home you've built a lifetime of memories in. When we think about grief, we often think about death. But grief also shows up when life changes. When it's time to downsize. When a diagnosis changes the future. When a spouse is no longer there....
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The Truth About Healing After Child Loss with Becky
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Episode Description “Healing doesn't mean you stop loving them. It means love becomes louder than the pain.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Becky for a deeply honest conversation about losing her 23-year-old son, Ashton, and the complicated layers of grief that followed. Together, they explore not only the heartbreak of child loss, but also the hidden losses that often go unseen and unspoken. Becky shares what life looked like before grief, the overwhelming regret and "what ifs" that consumed her after...
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The Truth About Losing a Child with Joanna
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Episode Description “You don't have to have all the answers to begin healing.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with therapist and grieving mother Joanna Martinez Dunn for an honest conversation about losing a child, navigating unimaginable grief, and finding hope after life's deepest heartbreak. After experiencing profound loss within her family in a matter of weeks, Joanna found herself facing overwhelming grief, unanswered questions, survivor's guilt, and the difficult journey of learning how to move...
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The Biggest Mistake Grievers Make
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Episode Description “You don't need more time. You need a plan.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, challenges one of the biggest lies grieving people have been told: "Just give it time." Time doesn't heal grief. It simply creates space. What you do with that space is what changes everything. Sharon explains why so many grievers stay stuck for years—not because they're broken, but because no one ever taught them how to grieve. We learn how to survive loss, but not how to process it. In this episode, Sharon shares the...
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What Grief Really Feels Like After Multiple Losses with Suzanne
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Episode Description “Grief changes your life. Healing changes the way you live it.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Suzanne to share a deeply personal conversation about devastating loss, healing, and what happens when you finally begin doing the work grief has been asking of you. Suzanne has experienced the deaths of her parents, siblings, nephew, niece, partner, and many other significant losses throughout her life. Like so many grievers, she believed time would somehow make the pain easier. Instead,...
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“Your child doesn’t need the pain removed. They need you to help them move through it.”
In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down one of the biggest mistakes parents make when their child is grieving.
After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t something you can protect someone from. Especially not your child.
Because your kids already feel everything.
They feel your silence.
They feel your sadness.
They feel what’s not being said.
They just don’t have the words for it.
In this episode, Sharon walks through what actually happens when parents try to shield their children from grief, why that instinct makes sense, and how it unintentionally creates confusion, fear, and isolation.
She also explains what children really need, how to talk to them about loss, and why your own grief work is the most powerful tool you have to help them.
This conversation is not about being a perfect parent.
It’s about telling the truth.
Because your child is not learning from what you say.
They’re learning from what you show.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Why children feel everything, even when they can’t express it
What happens when you try to protect them from grief
Why avoiding the truth creates confusion instead of comfort
How children process grief differently from adults
Why your own grief work matters more than what you say
How to talk to your child about death in a way they can understand
Questions to Sit With After Listening
Take your time with these.
What am I trying to protect my child from?
Am I avoiding their grief… or my own?
What emotions from my child are hardest for me to sit with?
What did I learn about grief growing up… and how is that showing up now?
Homework for You
Write this at the top of a page:
“What am I trying to protect my child from?”
Then answer honestly.
Not the version that sounds like you’re doing it right.
The real one.
Because clarity is what builds trust.
And trust is what makes grief safer.
Resources + Next Steps
If this episode hit you, it’s because something in you is ready to stop avoiding and start understanding grief, for you and your child.
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
👉 Join the masterclass: https://griefdiscovery.com
Because your child doesn’t need perfection.
They need you.