Healing Starts with the Heart

Welcome to the Healing Starts with the Heart podcast! Get ready to embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery with your host, Sharon Brubaker. Sharon is a Grief Specialist and the proud owner of the Grief School, a unique place where individuals can learn the essential skills to navigate the grieving process. In this podcast, Sharon will guide you through the ups and downs of grief and offer valuable insights and techniques to help you heal. Whether you've experienced the loss of a loved one, a significant life change, or any form of emotional pain, Sharon's expertise and compassionate approach will support you every step of the way. With her extensive knowledge and experience, Sharon has dedicated her life to helping others find solace and growth amidst grief. Her profound understanding of the human heart and the healing power it holds will inspire you to embrace your emotions and embark on a transformative journey. Tune in to the Healing Starts with the Heart podcast and join Sharon Brubaker as she shares her wisdom, stories, and practical tools to help you navigate the challenging path of grief. Together, we will discover that healing truly starts with the heart.

The Lies We've Been Told About Grief 04/02/2025

The Lies We've Been Told About Grief The Lies We've Been Told About Grief Episode Description: In this eye-opening episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker confronts the damaging lies we've all been told about grief. From childhood, we are handed false beliefs like: • “Don’t feel bad” • “Be strong” • “Time will heal” • “You should get over it” Sharon dives deep into how these messages have distorted our understanding of grief and often cause us to suppress or deny the pain we’re carrying. She shares her own personal experience with the grief that no one warned her about, and how unlearning these toxic myths led her on a path of true healing. If you’ve ever felt like your grief didn’t fit into the tidy boxes society sets for it, this episode is a must-listen. Sharon invites you to release the shame and guilt tied to these lies, offering a new, empowering perspective on what it truly means to grieve and heal. Key Points Discussed: The Lies We’ve Been Taught About Grief Why pretending to be “strong” and “moving on” can actually hold us back from healing. How Grief Should Really Be Handled Understanding grief as a personal journey that requires space, time, and the willingness to feel deeply. The Cost of Suppressing Grief How ignoring your grief can lead to long-term emotional pain, and why it’s crucial to face it head-on. Grief as a Journey, Not a Destination Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and healing doesn’t mean you “get over it.” It means you learn to live with it. Journal Questions for Reflection: What lies about grief have you been told or have believed? How do you feel when others tell you to “move on” or “be strong”? What would it look like if you gave yourself permission to grieve openly and without judgment? Join the Journey: Grief doesn’t follow a simple, linear path, but Sharon is here to help you navigate it with compassion. Visit The Grief School for more resources, and join our Study Hall sessions every Tuesday and Thursday. You can also connect with Sharon during her live sessions on TikTok and Facebook. 👉 Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool TikTok: @thegriefschool Check our Programs: 💙 You’re not alone in this. Sharon is here to walk with you—because she is you. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/36065925

The Truth About Time and Why It Won’t Heal Your Grief 03/26/2025

The Truth About Time and Why It Won’t Heal Your Grief The Truth About Time and Why It Won’t Heal Your Grief Episode Description: In this powerful episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker challenges one of the most common myths about grief: that time alone will heal all wounds. With raw honesty and deep personal reflection, Sharon explores the ways time affects grief—not by erasing pain, but by revealing the spaces where healing is still needed. She shares her own journey of realizing just how long it has been since she last saw and spoke to her loved ones, and the surprising emotions that surfaced when she did the math. If you've ever wondered why your grief still feels fresh after months or even years, this episode will provide clarity, validation, and a new perspective on how to navigate healing with intention. Key Points Discussed: The Myth of Time as a Healer Why waiting for time to "fix" grief often leads to more frustration and heartache. What Time Actually Does Time reveals unresolved pain, surfaces hidden emotions, and shows us where healing still needs attention. The Power of Intentional Healing Healing doesn’t happen passively—it requires action, awareness, and willingness to face the grief head-on. Softening vs. Healing Time may soften the edges of grief, but true healing comes when we actively engage in our healing journey. Journal Questions for Reflection: What has time revealed to you about your grief? What emotions resurface for you again and again? How can you lean into your grief with intention instead of waiting for time to pass? Join the Journey: Healing takes time, but it also takes intention. If you're ready to move forward with purpose, explore resources at The Grief School, join our Study Hall sessions every Tuesday and Thursday, or follow Sharon’s live sessions on TikTok and Facebook. 👉 Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool TikTok: Check our Programs: 💙 You’re not alone in this. Sharon is here to walk with you—because she is you. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/35867805

The Truth About Processing Grief 03/18/2025

The Truth About Grief 03/04/2025

The Truth About Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker sheds light on the exhausting and relentless nature of grief. She challenges the common advice to “give it time” and explains why grief pain demands to be felt. Through personal stories and deep insights, Sharon provides listeners with practical steps to lean into their grief and begin processing it in a healthy way. Key Points Discussed: Why Grief Feels Exhausting Grief takes every bit of your energy, leaving you physically and emotionally drained. Staying busy and distracted may seem like a solution, but it doesn’t make the pain go away. The exhaustion of grief is real—it’s as if all your nerve endings are exposed, making even small tasks feel overwhelming. The Myth of “Time Heals All” Many are told to just “give it time,” but time alone does not heal grief. Pain has a purpose—it demands to be felt and processed before true healing can begin. Avoiding grief only causes it to show up unexpectedly, in ways we don’t anticipate. The Chatter of Grief Grief creates an ongoing mental dialogue, much like background noise that never stops. Unprocessed grief thoughts turn into overwhelming emotions that take over daily life. The only way to quiet the chatter is to acknowledge and process the emotions tied to it. Our Culture Teaches Us to Push Through Society conditions us to suppress grief, offering minimal time to grieve before returning to “normal.” We have been led to believe that grief has an expiration date, but real healing comes from actively tending to our pain. A Simple Practice for Processing Grief Instead of pushing grief away, pause and acknowledge its presence. Identify the emotion you’re feeling—sadness, loneliness, anger—and name it. Lean into the emotion rather than resisting it, allowing it to pass through you. This intentional awareness helps relieve the weight of grief over time. Journal Questions for Reflection: Have you been trying to stay busy to avoid your grief? How has that affected you? What are some ways your grief is showing up unexpectedly in your life? When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to sit with your emotions? How did it feel? What would it look like for you to practice awareness and acknowledgment of your grief today? Conclusion: Grief is not something to “get over”—it is something to tend to with care. Sharon encourages listeners to challenge societal norms, embrace their grief, and practice awareness. By learning to process grief instead of suppressing it, healing becomes possible. Resources and Support: Processing the Pain of Grief Program – Learn the step-by-step approach to healing. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/35656100

Breaking the Myth: Time Alone Won’t Heal Your Grief 02/25/2025

Breaking the Myth: Time Alone Won’t Heal Your Grief The Truth About Grief: Why Pain Demands to Be Felt Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker sheds light on the exhausting and relentless nature of grief. She challenges the common advice to “give it time” and explains why grief pain demands to be felt. Through personal stories and deep insights, Sharon provides listeners with practical steps to lean into their grief and begin processing it in a healthy way. Key Points Discussed: Why Grief Feels Exhausting Grief takes every bit of your energy, leaving you physically and emotionally drained. Staying busy and distracted may seem like a solution, but it doesn’t make the pain go away. The exhaustion of grief is real—it’s as if all your nerve endings are exposed, making even small tasks feel overwhelming. The Myth of “Time Heals All” Many are told to just “give it time,” but time alone does not heal grief. Pain has a purpose—it demands to be felt and processed before true healing can begin. Avoiding grief only causes it to show up unexpectedly, in ways we don’t anticipate. The Chatter of Grief Grief creates an ongoing mental dialogue, much like background noise that never stops. Unprocessed grief thoughts turn into overwhelming emotions that take over daily life. The only way to quiet the chatter is to acknowledge and process the emotions tied to it. Our Culture Teaches Us to Push Through Society conditions us to suppress grief, offering minimal time to grieve before returning to “normal.” We have been led to believe that grief has an expiration date, but real healing comes from actively tending to our pain. A Simple Practice for Processing Grief Instead of pushing grief away, pause and acknowledge its presence. Identify the emotion you’re feeling—sadness, loneliness, anger—and name it. Lean into the emotion rather than resisting it, allowing it to pass through you. This intentional awareness helps relieve the weight of grief over time. Journal Questions for Reflection: Have you been trying to stay busy to avoid your grief? How has that affected you? What are some ways your grief is showing up unexpectedly in your life? When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to sit with your emotions? How did it feel? What would it look like for you to practice awareness and acknowledgment of your grief today? Conclusion: Grief is not something to “get over”—it is something to tend to with care. Sharon encourages listeners to challenge societal norms, embrace their grief, and practice awareness. By learning to process grief instead of suppressing it, healing becomes possible. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall – Connect with others in a supportive environment: Tuesdays at 1 PM CST & Thursdays at 10 AM CST. Processing the Pain of Grief Program – Learn the step-by-step approach to healing. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Stay tuned for more conversations on grief, healing, and resilience. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/35420565

The Hidden Cost of Unprocessed Grief 02/18/2025

The Hidden Cost of Unprocessed Grief The Hidden Cost of Unprocessed Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker delves into the often-overlooked process of truly understanding and working through grief. She challenges the misconceptions around "moving on" and highlights the importance of acknowledging and processing pain as essential steps toward healing. Through personal experiences and expert insights, Sharon shares a powerful approach to grief that transforms pain into progress. Key Points Discussed: Why Grief Feels Endless Many people struggle with lingering grief for years because they were never taught how to process it properly. Healing doesn't mean forgetting—it means learning to carry grief in a healthy way. Ignoring pain only intensifies it, making healing feel impossible. Acknowledging the Pain as a First Step The first step to healing is recognizing and allowing yourself to feel the pain of grief. Suppressing grief leads to emotional wounds that can fester, much like an untreated physical injury. Saying "This hurts" and acknowledging grief’s presence is a powerful act of self-compassion. The Role of Processing Grief Healing requires intentional work—grief is not something you simply "get over." Before true emotional healing can begin, one must first learn how to grieve. Processing grief involves daily, small steps rather than a single breakthrough moment. Understanding the Two-Part Healing Approach Processing the Pain of Grief: Identifying and working through the pain step by step. The Courage to Grieve: Once pain has been processed, this stage allows for deeper grief work and transformation. Healing is not about erasing pain but about learning to tend to it properly. Journal Questions for Reflection: Have you been avoiding your grief, and if so, in what ways? How does unprocessed pain show up in your life? What small steps can you take today to begin acknowledging and tending to your grief? How can you reframe your grief as a process rather than something to "get over"? Conclusion: Grief is not an enemy—it is a signal that healing needs to take place. Sharon encourages listeners to take the first step by acknowledging their pain and starting the process of working through it. With the right tools and mindset, grief can become a pathway to resilience and growth rather than an overwhelming burden. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall – Connect with others in a supportive environment: Tuesdays at 1 PM CST & Thursdays at 10 AM CST. Processing the Pain of Grief Program – A step-by-step guide to tending to your grief. Website: healingstartswiththeheart.com Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Stay tuned for more conversations on healing, grief, and resilience. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/35411105

You’re Forever Changed But You Don’t Have to Be Forever Broken 02/11/2025

You’re Forever Changed But You Don’t Have to Be Forever Broken Honoring Your Loved One While Thriving in Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker explores the powerful connection between honoring a loved one’s memory and finding personal growth through grief. She challenges the common belief that grieving and thriving are opposites, showing how they can coexist. Through personal stories and practical guidance, Sharon helps listeners embrace healing while keeping their loved one’s legacy alive. Key Points Discussed: The Coexistence of Grief and Growth Grief doesn’t mean a life of endless suffering, and thriving doesn’t mean forgetting your person. Healing involves learning to carry grief while finding purpose and moments of joy. Honoring Their Memory Through Storytelling Sharing stories keeps your loved one’s presence alive in your heart and helps others who are grieving. Personal anecdotes, cherished memories, and creative expressions can become healing tools. How Loss Deepens Relationships Grief can shift the way we interact with others, often leading to deeper connections with family and friends. Simple gestures like saying “I love you” more often or creating new traditions in their honor can be powerful acts of remembrance. Finding Meaning in Grief Reflecting on how grief has changed your perspective, passions, or career can help channel pain into personal growth. Identifying lessons from your loss can shape the way you move forward while still honoring your person. Journal Questions for Reflection: What are the ways you currently honor your loved one’s memory? How has grief reshaped your relationships with others? What lessons have you learned from your journey through loss? How can sharing your person’s story bring healing to you and others? Conclusion: Grief is life-changing, but it doesn’t mean you have to be forever broken. Sharon encourages listeners to find ways to keep their loved one’s spirit alive while embracing growth and healing. By sharing their stories and allowing grief to be part of their journey, they can create a meaningful legacy of love and resilience. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall – Connect with others in a supportive environment: Tuesdays at 1 PM CST & Thursdays at 10 AM CST. Grief Assessment – Schedule a personalized session with Sharon. Website: Facebook Group: The Grief School Contact: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Stay tuned for more conversations on healing, grief, and resilience. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/35289005

Grief as a Full-Body Experience 02/04/2025

Grief as a Full-Body Experience Grief as a Full-Body Experience Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker uncovers the physical, emotional, and mental toll of grief. She explains how grief affects every part of the body, from emotions to physical health, and discusses ways to recognize and address these effects. Sharon shares her own experiences and offers tools to help listeners navigate the overwhelming, full-body impact of grief. Key Points Discussed: Grief Affects Every Part of You Grief is more than an emotional experience; it impacts the mind, body, heart, and soul. Physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach issues, muscle pain, and changes in appetite are common. Sharon urges listeners to seek medical attention for persistent symptoms while understanding their connection to grief. Six Areas Affected by Grief Feelings: Grief brings intense, unpredictable emotions such as sadness, anger, and confusion. These emotions can feel like waves or roller coasters, and avoiding them only prolongs the pain. Sharon shares how she suppressed her grief after her nephew’s death, showing how unprocessed emotions can surface later. Thoughts: Grief triggers overwhelming thoughts, often leading to beliefs like “No one understands me” or “I’ll never be happy again.” These repetitive thoughts influence emotions and behaviors, keeping grievers stuck. Recognizing and addressing grief-related thoughts is a vital step toward healing. Behaviors: Grief can cause out-of-character behaviors, such as overeating, drinking excessively, or neglecting self-care. Sharon emphasizes the importance of being gentle with yourself and allowing space for these behaviors while gradually working toward healthier habits. Beliefs: Grief can challenge religious, spiritual, and personal beliefs, leading to questions about justice, fairness, and the meaning of life. Some grievers find their faith strengthened, while others may feel disconnected or uncertain. Physical Health: The physical toll of grief includes headaches, joint pain, sleep disturbances, and more. Sharon advises seeking professional help for health concerns while also understanding that grief is a contributing factor. Purpose: Grief can shake your sense of purpose, leading to feelings of hopelessness or questioning life’s meaning. While these thoughts are unsettling, they are a natural part of the grieving process and a step toward redefining your purpose. Journal Questions for Reflection: What emotions have been the strongest for you during this grieving experience? What thoughts do you find yourself repeating since your loss? How has your grief affected your behaviors or habits? Have your beliefs about life, faith, or fairness changed? How? What physical symptoms have you noticed during your grief? How has grief made you question or redefine your purpose? Conclusion: Grief is a full-body experience that touches every part of who you are. By understanding how it affects your feelings, thoughts, behaviors, beliefs, health, and purpose, you can begin to create a plan for healing. Sharon reminds listeners that grief is a journey, and taking intentional steps can help them move forward with hope and resilience. Resources and Support: Grief Study Hall: A free program every Tuesday at 1 PM CST where you can share and learn with others navigating grief. Processing the Pain of Grief: A four-week intensive program to help you understand and begin moving through grief. Grief Healing Program: A 12-week course focused on working through your grief and building a path toward healing. Website: Facebook Group: Join our supportive community at . Contact Us: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights on navigating grief and embracing healing. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/34938400

Why Grief Makes You Feel Alone—Even in a Crowd 01/28/2025

Why Grief Makes You Feel Alone—Even in a Crowd Why Grief Makes You Feel Alone—Even in a Crowd Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker explores the profound emotional experiences of loneliness, solitude, and isolation in grief. Sharon dives into the distinctions between these feelings and provides guidance on how to manage them effectively. Through personal insights and practical tools, she helps listeners embrace the balance between connection and introspection as they navigate their grief journey. Key Points Discussed: The Difference Between Loneliness, Solitude, and Isolation Loneliness: An emotional state where you feel disconnected, even when surrounded by others. Being Alone: A physical state where you are by yourself, often by choice. Isolation: A deeper form of solitude that can arise when solitude persists and leads to disconnection from others. Why Grievers Retreat Into Solitude Many grievers isolate themselves because they need time to process their loss or because they feel unsupported by others. Hurtful comments, such as “Shouldn’t you be over this by now?” or “They wouldn’t want you to feel this way,” push grievers further into solitude. When Solitude Becomes Harmful Isolation Prolonged isolation can lead to feelings of being forgotten, worthlessness, and intensified grief. Sharon explains how well-meaning but misguided advice can exacerbate a griever’s sense of disconnection, making them reluctant to share their feelings. The Challenge of Reaching Out Grievers may struggle to ask for help or connection because they feel they’re burdening others. Sharon encourages listeners to try reconnecting with trusted friends or family members and not to shy away from expressing the need for companionship or support. Technology and Social Media’s Role in Loneliness Social media can amplify feelings of loneliness when posts about grief go unnoticed or when grievers feel like their pain is dismissed. Sharon notes how online spaces can sometimes foster negative comparisons or further isolation. The Healing Power of Connection Small steps, like asking for a hug or inviting someone over, can ease feelings of loneliness. Pets, such as dogs or cats, can provide comfort and companionship, though they are not replacements for human connection or the grief process. Journal Questions for Reflection: Do you feel more alone or lonely in your grief? What’s the difference for you? Have you found yourself isolating? If so, why do you think that is? What comments or actions from others have made you feel more disconnected? Who in your life could you reach out to for support or companionship? What activities or moments of solitude help you process your grief in a healthy way? Conclusion: Loneliness, solitude, and isolation are natural parts of grief, but they can become obstacles if left unaddressed. Sharon encourages listeners to identify their needs, seek connection, and balance introspection with support from others. Grief is a personal journey, but it doesn’t have to be walked alone. Resources and Support: Join Grief Study Hall: Share your grief with others in a supportive environment every Tuesday at 1 PM CST. Four-Week Intensive on Grief: Process your grief deeply in this focused program. Grief Assessment: Schedule a personalized session with Sharon to better understand and navigate your unique grief. Website: Facebook Group: Join our community at . Contact Us: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Join us next time as we continue to explore the emotional complexities of grief and healing. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/34938285

Why Does Grief Bring Back Old Pain? 01/21/2025

Why Does Grief Bring Back Old Pain? Why Does Grief Bring Back Old Pain? Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker delves into the concept of cumulative grief, explaining how past unresolved losses often resurface during new grieving experiences. Sharon shares personal stories, psychological insights, and actionable tools to help listeners understand and navigate the layered emotions of cumulative grief, making space for healing and growth. Key Points Discussed: What Is Cumulative Grief? Cumulative grief refers to the accumulation of past unresolved losses that resurface during new grief experiences. These memories might stem from losses like childhood experiences, pet deaths, or moments of neglect that were never acknowledged as grief at the time. Examples of Cumulative Grief: Childhood losses such as being bullied, losing a pet, or experiencing a death that wasn’t openly discussed. Life events like divorce or career setbacks that resurface when facing a new loss. Sharon shares how unresolved grief can intensify the pain of current losses, making it harder to process and heal. Why Cumulative Grief Happens: The brain and heart remember past grief experiences through sensory triggers like smells, songs, or locations. Unprocessed emotions are stored in the body, resurfacing during stressful events like a current loss. Comparing Old and New Losses: Sharon explains how it’s natural to compare current grief to past experiences. While some comparisons can be helpful (e.g., identifying coping skills that worked), others, like judging one loss as "worse," can hinder healing. Personal Stories of Cumulative Grief: Sharon shares examples from her work with clients, such as a woman grieving her father’s death who uncovered unresolved emotions from her divorce. She reflects on how her own childhood coping mechanisms influenced how she handled grief later in life. The Role of "What-If" Thinking: Sharon discusses counterfactual thinking—reflecting on how things could have been different. While it’s a natural response, focusing on "what-ifs" can distract from addressing current grief. The Silver Lining in Cumulative Grief: Past grief experiences can remind us of our resilience and coping skills. By reflecting on how we’ve overcome challenges before, we can find hope and strength in the present. Journal Questions for Reflection: What is one memory from a past loss that has resurfaced during your current grief? Have you compared your current grief to a previous experience? What have you learned? Are there any "what-if" thoughts you’ve been holding onto? How do they affect your grieving process? What coping strategies or support systems from past losses might help you now? Conclusion: Cumulative grief is a natural part of the grieving process, allowing past emotions to come to the surface for healing. Sharon encourages listeners to embrace these memories, use them as a source of strength, and reflect on their grief through journaling and support systems. Remember, every loss brings an opportunity for growth and deeper emotional understanding. Follow Us: Website: Facebook Group: Join our supportive community at . Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Tune in next time as we explore the transformative power of grief and healing. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/34938220

Hidden Grief: The Losses We Don’t Talk About 01/14/2025

Hidden Grief: The Losses We Don’t Talk About Hidden Grief: The Losses We Don’t Talk About In this episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into the topic of hidden grief—those personal, often unacknowledged grief experiences that go unnoticed by society. Sharon explains how hidden grief manifests in many forms beyond death and how societal norms often discourage people from recognizing and processing these losses. Through personal stories and practical advice, she helps listeners uncover and validate their hidden grief, paving the way for healing. Key Points Discussed: What Is Hidden Grief? Hidden grief refers to losses that don’t fit traditional definitions of grief, such as losing a job, relationship, or sense of identity. Sharon describes hidden grief as deeply personal and often invisible, making it harder for others to recognize or offer support. Examples of Hidden Grief: The loss of a dream job that you’ve worked toward for years. Breaking up with a significant other or going through a divorce. Losing self-worth after the death of a partner who was your emotional anchor. Enduring the foreclosure of a home or the loss of a pet, which society often trivializes. Why Hidden Grief Goes Unnoticed: Society typically ties grief to death, leaving other forms of loss invalidated. People experiencing hidden grief often feel ashamed or embarrassed to share their feelings. The Emotional Weight of Hidden Grief: Sharon discusses how unprocessed hidden grief can build up, leading to feelings of isolation and emotional exhaustion. Hidden grief often overlaps with other life challenges, complicating the healing process. Personal Story: Learning to Acknowledge Hidden Grief Sharon shares her experience of grieving for her nephew, Austin. She reflects on how she delayed acknowledging her grief out of respect for others, later realizing the importance of processing her emotions. The Importance of Recognizing Hidden Grief: Naming and validating these losses is a vital step toward healing. Sharon urges listeners to create a safe space to share their hidden grief and reject societal pressure to keep these experiences private. Journal Questions for Reflection: What is a hidden grief you’ve experienced recently? How did this hidden grief make you feel, and did anyone acknowledge your emotions? Have you avoided addressing this grief, and if so, why? What steps can you take to honor and process this hidden grief? Conclusion: Hidden grief can carry just as much emotional weight as grief tied to death. By naming these experiences and allowing yourself to feel the pain, you create space for healing and growth. Sharon reminds listeners that grief is a natural and valid response to all types of loss, not just those that society deems significant. Follow Us: Website: Facebook Group: Join our supportive community at . Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email Sharon at Thank you for listening! Join us next time as we uncover more ways to navigate the complexities of grief and healing. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/34938200

Lessons Learned Through Grieving As A Mother 12/19/2024

The First Step in Healing 12/12/2024

Shattered Trust: Finding Hope in Grief 12/05/2024

Shattered Trust: Finding Hope in Grief Episode Title: Shattered Trust: Finding Hope in Grief Episode Description: In this heartfelt episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker delves into the complex and little-discussed topic of grooming in the context of grief. Grievers are often in a state of heightened emotional vulnerability, which can make them susceptible to predatory behavior. Sharon sits down with guest Sherry Young, who bravely shares her personal experience of being groomed and scammed during her grieving process. Together, they explore the tactics used by groomers, the emotional toll it takes, and how to recognize and protect oneself from such situations. Key Points Discussed: What is Grooming? An explanation of grooming and its psychological impact on individuals, especially those who are grieving. Grooming vs. Scamming: The Link How grooming often serves as a precursor to financial or emotional exploitation. Personal Story: Sherry's Journey Sherry candidly shares her experience of being groomed and scammed after personal loss, shedding light on the subtle ways groomers build trust. Recognizing the Red Flags Key behaviors to watch for when forming new relationships during times of grief. The Role of Community and Support Why having a strong support system can help shield against vulnerability. Healing After Betrayal How to process the emotional scars of being groomed and reclaim your sense of trust and security. Journal Questions: Have you ever felt unusually drawn to someone who later let you down? What made them seem trustworthy at first? Reflect on a time you ignored a gut feeling about someone. What happened, and how did it shape your view of intuition? In what ways do you ensure your emotional safety when meeting new people, especially during vulnerable periods? What can you do to build a strong support system to rely on during times of emotional distress? How can you reclaim your narrative and strength after experiencing emotional manipulation? Conclusion: This episode emphasizes the importance of trusting your instincts, leaning on your support network, and recognizing your worth, even during grief. Healing from loss is challenging enough—understanding and avoiding manipulation is a critical step in safeguarding your emotional journey. Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: Thank you for tuning in! Join us next time as we continue uncovering insights and strategies to help you heal, one step at a time. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/32238902

How to Recognize and Heal Silent Grief 11/26/2024

How to Recognize and Heal Silent Grief Episode Title: How to Recognize and Heal Silent Grief Episode Description: In this episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into the often-overlooked world of silent losses. Grief isn’t always about losing a loved one; it can stem from many other life experiences that bring deep feelings of sadness and emptiness. Sharon sheds light on the impact of silent losses, like moving away from a childhood friend, losing a job, or experiencing a broken relationship. These losses, though less recognized, can attach themselves to major grief events, amplifying pain over time. Sharon shares why it’s essential to acknowledge and grieve these silent losses to find a path toward healing and resilience. Key Points Discussed: Silent Losses Explained Grief isn’t always tied to death. Sharon explains how silent losses, such as moving away, career setbacks, or relationship changes, can have a lasting emotional impact. Why Silent Grief is Overlooked Society often doesn’t recognize or support grief outside of death. Sharon discusses why these silent losses are rarely acknowledged and why we tend to brush them aside. The Impact of Unacknowledged Losses Silent losses can connect with new grief experiences, creating a heavier emotional burden. Sharon explains how unprocessed grief can resurface unexpectedly and affect current losses. Learning to Grieve Silent Losses Sharon shares ways to recognize and validate silent losses, emphasizing the importance of fully experiencing these emotions to heal. Finding Support and Moving Forward While grieving silent losses can feel isolating, finding support—even within oneself—can help. Sharon encourages listeners to talk openly about these losses and seek support when needed. Journal Questions: What recent loss have you experienced that isn’t related to death? Which silent losses from your past still affect you today? How might acknowledging silent losses change your approach to grieving? Are there emotions tied to silent losses that you’ve kept private? What small step could you take to honor a silent loss? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you explore silent grief’s impact on your life. Grieving these losses may be key to finding balance, peace, and true healing. Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: Thank you for tuning in. Join us next time for more insights on healing from grief, one step at a time. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/33790507

How Grief Affects Your Whole Body 11/19/2024

Honoring Motherhood After Loss: A Conversation with Cori 11/13/2024

Ways to Handle Cumulative Grief Gently 11/05/2024

Ways to Handle Cumulative Grief Gently Episode Title: Ways to Handle Cumulative Grief Gently Episode Description: In today’s episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker unpacks the concept of cumulative grief and why unresolved losses from the past can intensify the pain of new ones. Sharon shares insights drawn from her own journey and years of experience with grieving clients to shed light on the overwhelming effects of grief overload. From childhood losses to recent heartbreaks, she explains how cumulative grief layers upon itself, often leaving us feeling trapped in a cycle of sorrow. This episode guides listeners on embracing their grief fully, with actionable steps for managing the waves of unresolved pain and building resilience along the way. Key Points Discussed: The Nature of Cumulative Grief Grief doesn’t operate on a timeline; it builds up over time. Sharon explains how early grief experiences, even from childhood, can resurface with each new loss, creating an overwhelming accumulation of unresolved pain. Recognizing Grief Overload Grief can feel like waves crashing repeatedly with no breathing room. Sharon discusses how grief overload occurs when we face multiple losses in a short period or hold onto grief from years past, making it feel impossible to manage. Avoiding the “Grief Detective” Mindset Instead of processing grief, some people become “grief detectives,” focusing on finding answers or blaming others as a way of avoiding painful emotions. Sharon explains how this can prolong grief and offers tips for breaking this habit. Finding a “Grief Friend” or Support Group Even when it feels easier to carry grief alone, having a “grief friend” or joining a support group can provide comfort and understanding. Sharon encourages listeners to reach out to those who truly support their grief journey. Taking Action for Healing Healing doesn’t just happen with time; it requires active steps. Sharon highlights practical actions, from journaling to creative expression, that help make space for grief, allowing it to flow rather than accumulate. Journal Questions: What early losses have you experienced that still weigh heavy on your heart? How might avoidance or “grief detective” behaviors affect your grieving process? Who in your life can be a supportive “grief friend” as you navigate cumulative grief? Reflect on a time you felt joy despite experiencing loss. What did that teach you? What is one small step you can take to begin addressing any unresolved grief? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you approach grief with patience and self-compassion. Remember, grief is not meant to be carried alone. Each action step you take helps build a foundation of resilience, moving you closer to peace. Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: Thank you for joining us. Stay tuned for more episodes offering support, insight, and hope on your grief journey. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/33790382

5 Things You Should Never Do While Grieving 10/29/2024

5 Things You Should Never Do While Grieving Episode Title: 5 Things to Avoid While Grieving Episode Description: In today’s episode of Healing Starts with a Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker dives into five common pitfalls to steer clear of on your personal path through grief. Drawing from her own experiences and over a decade of work with grieving individuals, Sharon shares practical insights on what to avoid when navigating loss. From self-judgment to resisting emotions, she explains how letting yourself fully experience grief can lead to deeper healing and resilience. Each tip is designed to help you honor your grief journey with courage and compassion, while building a supportive foundation along the way. Key Points Discussed: Don’t Talk Yourself Out of Grieving Embrace your emotions, no matter how difficult they may feel. Sharon explains the importance of acknowledging every type of grief, whether it’s a silent loss or a life-altering heartbreak. Avoid Self-Bullying Grief isn’t a measure of strength or control. Sharon shares why it’s essential to treat yourself kindly and why self-compassion is key to healing. Don’t Lock Away the ‘Grief Monster’ Using the metaphor of a “grief monster,” Sharon explains how bottling up grief can intensify its hold. Facing the “monster” in manageable ways helps lessen its overwhelming presence. Don’t Disconnect from Your Support System Even when it feels tough to let others in, finding a supportive “grief friend” or community can provide the compassion and understanding needed for healing. Don’t Believe the Darkness Will Last Forever The journey through grief can feel unending, but Sharon offers reassurance that joy and light will return. Embracing small steps can help shift your perspective and illuminate the way forward. Journal Questions: How do you typically respond to grief? Do you find yourself talking yourself out of it or locking it away? What are some ways you can practice self-compassion during tough moments? Who in your life can be a “grief friend” and offer you support through this journey? Reflect on a time you’ve experienced unexpected joy. How did that impact your outlook? What is one small way you can start to embrace your grief and let it flow naturally? Conclusion: Reflect on these questions as you approach grief as a personal journey, free from societal expectations. Healing takes time, and with each step, you are moving closer to a life of resilience and peace. Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: [email protected] Thank you for joining us. Stay tuned for more discussions offering support, insight, and hope on your grief journey. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/33644327

Are You Truly Respecting Grief? 10/22/2024

Are You Truly Respecting Grief? Episode Title: Are You Truly Respecting Grief? Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive into the significance of respecting the grief of others. Grief is as unique as the individual experiencing it. Sharon Brubaker discusses how grief can vary based on personality, relationships, and individual circumstances. Understanding this can help us honor others’ grief without trying to fix or rush the process. Join us as we explore how respect, acknowledgment, and allowing space for grief can transform the healing journey for both the griever and their supporters. Key Points Discussed: Grief and Personality: Grief reflects your personality—whether open, reserved, or emotional, you will grieve in the way you show up in life. Just because someone is grieving doesn't mean their personality changes. Recognizing this can help others understand how to support them. Grief and Relationships: Your relationship with the deceased affects how you grieve. Whether they were a best friend, parent, or admired public figure, grief varies based on the depth of that bond. Family members often grieve differently, both in timing and expression. Respecting each individual’s grief journey is crucial to maintaining harmony. Respecting Grief: Respect is essential in supporting others. This means allowing space for grief, listening without offering solutions, and acknowledging the emotions involved. Society often fails to understand or support grief properly, but asking simple questions like "How's your grief today?" can make a significant difference. Journal Questions: How does your personality influence the way you grieve? How do the different relationships you’ve lost affect how you feel grief? How can you show respect for your own grief and the grief of those around you? What strategies can you use to support someone else’s unique grief process without trying to fix it? How can you create space for open conversations about grief with your family and friends? Conclusion: Use these questions to reflect on your grief and the grief of others. Respecting each person’s journey allows for healing in its own time and form. Whether you’re grieving or supporting a griever, creating a space of respect is crucial. Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Healing Starts with the Heart Instagram: healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions on how we can better navigate grief and healing together. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/33546012

Grief Glitters 10/15/2024

When Grief Is Unbearable 10/08/2024

When Grief Is Unbearable Podcast Description: Hello everyone, today we’re talking about those moments when grief feels unbearable. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone during these times. Grief can feel overwhelming, but there are ways to manage and cope with these intense emotions. When grief feels unbearable, reaching out for support is crucial. Whether it’s talking to a friend, family member, or grief counselor, sharing your feelings can provide relief. Additionally, practicing self-care can help you navigate through these difficult times. Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health is essential. Sometimes, doing simple things like taking a walk, journaling, or practicing mindfulness can make a big difference. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and to take the time you need to heal. Here are five journal questions to help you navigate those moments when grief feels unbearable: What specific situations or triggers make your grief feel unbearable? How do you typically react or cope when the intensity of grief feels overwhelming? Who can you reach out to for support during these times? What self-care practices can you implement to help manage these intense emotions? How can you remind yourself of your strength and resilience when grief feels too heavy? What activities or routines have helped you feel grounded and supported in the past? Reflect on these questions and remember, it’s okay to seek help and lean on others when grief feels too much to bear. Taking small steps towards self-care and reaching out for support can make a significant difference in your healing journey. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: Contact Us: Email: [email protected] Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/32238987

The Difference Between Loss and Grief 10/01/2024

Understanding the Meaning of Grief 09/29/2024

What Has Grief Taught Us 09/24/2024

Your Grief Song: The Healing Power of Music 09/17/2024

Rebuilding Life Beyond Loss with Joi Renique 09/10/2024

Rebuilding Life Beyond Loss with Joi Renique Episode Title: Rebuilding Life Beyond Loss with Joi Renique Episode Description: In today’s episode, we dive deep into the concept of "grief courage" — the remarkable inner strength it takes to face the pain of loss. Grieving is not about being fearless but about embracing the full weight of your emotions and allowing yourself to heal through them. Join us as we explore what it means to be courageous in grief and how this strength can lead to profound healing. Key Points Discussed: Understanding Grief Courage: True courage lies not in hiding pain, but in facing it head-on. Grief courage allows us to feel deeply while embracing the journey toward healing. The Misconception of Strength: Society often tells us to put on a brave face, but real strength comes from allowing ourselves to fully experience grief. Healing starts when we stop avoiding our emotions and start tending to them. Healing Through Connection: Grief courage also involves reaching out, leaning on others, and knowing it’s okay to ask for help. When we share our grief, we lighten the emotional load, fostering a sense of community and support. Journal Questions: What does being courageous in grief mean to you? How do you currently cope with grief? Do you allow yourself to feel it fully? Who can you lean on during your grief journey? In what ways can you practice grief courage by embracing your emotions today? Conclusion: Grieving takes immense courage, and acknowledging your emotions is the first step toward healing. Reflect on these questions as you embrace your own grief courage. Remember, you don’t have to walk this path alone. Share your thoughts and journey with us — together, we can find strength in our shared experiences. Follow Us: Website: Facebook: Instagram: @healatthegriefschool Contact Us: Email: Thank you for joining us for this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey. This structure captures the tone of your brand: empathetic, supportive, and empowering, focusing on actionable steps and deep emotional recovery. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/32988077

Grief Triggers: Understanding and Coping with Unexpected Moments 09/03/2024

Grief Triggers: Understanding and Coping with Unexpected Moments Episode Title: Grief Triggers: Understanding and Coping with Unexpected Moments Episode Description: In today's episode, we dive into the topic of grief triggers—those unexpected moments when a memory, a smell, a song, or even a place brings back the pain of loss. Grief triggers are a natural part of the grieving process and can be challenging to navigate. Join us as we explore how to understand and cope with these triggers, allowing ourselves to feel the emotions they bring up. Key Points Discussed: What Are Grief Triggers? Grief triggers are personal and can vary widely. They may include the scent of a loved one’s perfume or a significant song. These triggers remind us of the deep connections and love we continue to feel for those we’ve lost. Acknowledging Your Emotions: It’s important to acknowledge grief triggers and allow yourself to feel the emotions they bring up. Avoiding or suppressing these feelings can often intensify them. Coping Strategies: Create a plan for how to handle grief triggers when they arise. Strategies might include deep breathing exercises, reaching out to a supportive friend, or engaging in a comforting activity. Journal Questions: What are some of the most common triggers that bring back memories of your loved one? How do you typically feel when you encounter these triggers? What coping strategies have you found helpful in dealing with grief triggers? Can you identify any patterns or specific times when these triggers are more likely to occur? How can you create a plan to manage your emotions when a trigger catches you off guard? Conclusion: Take your time reflecting on these questions. Remember, your grief is valid, and so are your emotions. By understanding and acknowledging your grief triggers, you can better navigate the waves of emotion that come with them. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/healingstartswiththeheart Instagram: Contact Us: Email: [email protected] Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/32238912

Grief is Love with Nowhere to Go 08/27/2024

Your Grief Matters 08/25/2024

Your Grief Matters Your Grief Matters Episode Title: Your Grief Matters Episode Description: In today’s episode, we delve into the importance of finding a safe space to share your grief. Grief Study Hall, a free, supportive community for women, provides just that. We’ll explore why it’s crucial to express your grief openly and how doing so can be the first step on your healing journey. Through Sharon Brubaker’s personal story of loss, discover why having your grief acknowledged is essential, and how Study Hall can be the place where your healing truly begins. Key Points Discussed: The Need for a Safe Space: Grievers often feel their grief isn’t acknowledged or valued, making it hard to express their true feelings. Finding a community where you can openly share your grief, like Grief Study Hall, is vital for starting the healing process. The Power of Sharing Your Story: Sharing your story helps you process the pain and begin to heal. When someone listens to your grief, it validates your experience and emotions. Grief Study Hall provides a space where you can speak freely, surrounded by others who understand and share similar experiences. Grief as a Personal Journey: There are no stages or checklists in grief; everyone’s journey is unique. Grief Study Hall honors this individuality by allowing you to express your grief in your own way. Talking about your grief is the first step in moving from shock to healing. It’s a crucial part of your journey that can’t be skipped. Journal Questions: Have you been able to talk about your grief so far? Who have you shared your grief with, and what has been their response? What does a safe space look like for you when it comes to talking about your grief? Have you ever felt that you haven’t had a space to share your grief? If so, how has this affected you? How do you feel after you’ve talked about your grief and had someone truly listen to you? What are some of your fears about opening up in a grief group? How can being part of a community like Grief Study Hall help you on your healing journey? What steps can you take to create or find a safe space for you to talk about your grief? How can you support others in their grief within a community setting? How important do you think it is to support others in their grief journey? Conclusion: Use these questions to reflect on your grief journey and consider how joining Grief Study Hall might help you begin to heal. Remember, you’re not alone. In Grief Study Hall, you’ll find a community ready to listen, support, and walk alongside you as you navigate your grief. This space is free and open to all women looking for a place to share their grief and begin their healing journey. Follow Us: Website: https://www.healingstartswiththeheart.com/ Facebook: Instagram: Contact Us: Email: [email protected] Thank you for joining us in this episode. Stay tuned for more discussions and support on your grief journey. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/32723102

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