Grieve That Sh!t

Grieve That Shit isn’t here to comfort you with clichés or tidy slogans about “better places.” This podcast digs straight into the wreckage of loss—the nights you can’t breathe, the mornings you can’t move, and the ache that takes over your whole body. Hosted by grief specialist Sharon Brubaker, it’s an unfiltered look at what grief actually does to you and how to face it head-on. Sharon brings her own story, real conversations, and practical tools that cut through the noise. If you’re done with people minimizing your pain and you want the truth about grief, this is it. Grieve That Shit is where the rawness lives—and where real healing begins.

The Hidden Grief of Downsizing with Felicia 07/31/2026

The Hidden Grief of Downsizing with Felicia Episode Description “Sometimes the hardest goodbye isn't to a person. It's to the life you built.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with senior transition specialist Felicia Tausig for an eye-opening conversation about one of the most overlooked forms of grief: leaving the home you've built a lifetime of memories in. When we think about grief, we often think about death. But grief also shows up when life changes. When it's time to downsize. When a diagnosis changes the future. When a spouse is no longer there. When the family home no longer fits the next season of life. Together, Sharon and Felicia explore the emotional side of downsizing, why seniors often struggle to let go of possessions, and how every room, photograph, and keepsake tells a story worth honoring. They also discuss how adult children can better support their parents through these transitions, why patience matters, and how memories don't live inside our belongings. They live inside us. This episode is a powerful reminder that letting go of a house doesn't mean letting go of a life. Because home isn't just a place. It's the love, memories, and relationships you carry with you. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why downsizing can be a profound grieving experience The emotional attachment seniors have to their homes and belongings How adult children can support parents through major life transitions Why every keepsake tells a story Practical ways to honor memories without keeping every possession How grief shows up during retirement, aging, and changing seasons of life Why patience and compassion matter during transitions How creating new routines helps ease the emotional adjustment Questions to Sit With After Listening What memories am I holding onto through my possessions? How can I honor my past while embracing my next chapter? Am I giving myself or my loved one permission to grieve this transition? What does "home" truly mean to me? Homework for You Choose one meaningful item in your home. Take a photo of it. Write down the story behind it and why it matters to you. Then ask yourself: "Is it the object I'm holding onto... or the memory?" Because memories don't disappear when things do. They continue to live in the stories we tell and the people we share them with. About Our Guest Felicia Tausig is a Senior Housing & Planning Specialist and Realtor® with eXp Realty who specializes in helping seniors and their families navigate the emotional and practical side of downsizing, relocating, and planning for the next season of life. She understands that moving isn't just about selling a house, it's about honoring a lifetime of memories while creating space for what's next. If you or someone you love is beginning this journey, Felicia is a wonderful resource and would love to help. Connect with Felicia: 📞 Cell: (661) 510-5186 📧 Email: 🌐 Website: Looking for more helpful tips and resources for seniors and their families? 👉 Subscribe to Felicia's newsletter: Resources + Next Steps 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because every life transition deserves to be honored. And every ending can become the beginning of a new chapter. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/42284725

The Truth About Healing After Child Loss with Becky 07/24/2026

The Truth About Healing After Child Loss with Becky Episode Description “Healing doesn't mean you stop loving them. It means love becomes louder than the pain.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Becky for a deeply honest conversation about losing her 23-year-old son, Ashton, and the complicated layers of grief that followed. Together, they explore not only the heartbreak of child loss, but also the hidden losses that often go unseen and unspoken. Becky shares what life looked like before grief, the overwhelming regret and "what ifs" that consumed her after her son's death, and how she believed she would spend the rest of her life trapped in unbearable pain. Through her journey, she discovered that grief doesn't have to define the rest of your story. Together, Sharon and Becky discuss the importance of grieving every loss, the healing that comes from processing grief instead of avoiding it, and how combining grief work with therapy gave Becky the tools to begin living again. They also explore parenting through grief, the role of community, survivor's guilt, regrets, and why healing doesn't erase love—it allows love to shine through once more. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief may change you forever. But it doesn't have to leave you stuck forever. Because healing doesn't ask you to let go of the person you love. It teaches you how to carry them with you as you continue to live. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why grief often includes hidden losses we don't recognize at first How regret and "what if" thinking can keep us feeling stuck The unique challenges of grieving a child Why grief work and therapy can complement one another The difference between surviving grief and truly healing How unprocessed grief affects every part of your life Why support groups, therapy, and grief education each serve different purposes How healing allows joyful memories to return without diminishing love Why investing in your healing benefits everyone around you Questions to Sit With After Listening What regrets have I been carrying that need compassion instead of punishment? Am I surviving my grief, or am I actively working through it? What hidden losses have I never given myself permission to grieve? What would healing make possible in my relationships and daily life? Homework for You Take a few quiet moments today and write down one regret you've been carrying. Then ask yourself: "What would I say to someone I love if they carried this same regret?" Offer yourself that same compassion. Healing begins when we stop punishing ourselves for being human. Because love was never meant to be measured by pain. It's meant to be carried forward. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join Processing the Pain of Grief 👉 Join Forever Changed 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because healing doesn't mean leaving your loved one behind. It means learning to carry their love with you, every step of the way. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/42202760

The Truth About Losing a Child with Joanna 07/17/2026

The Truth About Losing a Child with Joanna Episode Description “You don't have to have all the answers to begin healing.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with therapist and grieving mother Joanna Martinez Dunn for an honest conversation about losing a child, navigating unimaginable grief, and finding hope after life's deepest heartbreak. After experiencing profound loss within her family in a matter of weeks, Joanna found herself facing overwhelming grief, unanswered questions, survivor's guilt, and the difficult journey of learning how to move forward one day at a time. Together, Sharon and Joanna explore the unique challenges of grieving a child, the relentless search for answers, the emotional and physical impact of grief, and why healing begins when we stop trying to explain what cannot always be understood. They also discuss parenting through grief, the role of faith and community, the importance of asking for help, and how honoring the people we love allows us to carry them forward with us. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing doesn't require having every answer. It simply asks you to keep showing up. Because healing doesn't happen by forgetting. It happens by learning how to carry love forward. What You'll Learn in This Episode The unique challenges of grieving the loss of a child Why survivor's guilt can feel so overwhelming How grief affects the mind, body, and nervous system The difference between surviving and truly healing Why unanswered questions don't have to stop your healing How faith and community can provide support through grief Why asking for help is one of the bravest things you can do The importance of speaking your loved one's name and honoring their memory How healing can eventually lead to purpose and hope Questions to Sit With After Listening What questions have I been carrying that may never have an answer? Am I allowing myself to experience my grief, or am I trying to outrun it? Who can I reach out to when my grief feels too heavy to carry alone? How can I honor the person I love while continuing to move forward? Homework for You Take a few quiet moments today and write down the name of the person you're grieving. Then write: One memory that makes you smile. One lesson they taught you. One way you can carry their love forward this week. Because love doesn't end when someone's life does. It continues in the way we choose to remember, honor, and live. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join Processing the Pain of Grief 👉 Join Forever Changed 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com If you or someone you know is in immediate emotional distress or thinking about self-harm, please contact your local emergency services or a crisis support service in your area. You don't have to face it alone. Because even in the deepest grief... There is still hope. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/42202570

The Biggest Mistake Grievers Make 07/10/2026

The Biggest Mistake Grievers Make Episode Description “You don't need more time. You need a plan.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, challenges one of the biggest lies grieving people have been told: "Just give it time." Time doesn't heal grief. It simply creates space. What you do with that space is what changes everything. Sharon explains why so many grievers stay stuck for years—not because they're broken, but because no one ever taught them how to grieve. We learn how to survive loss, but not how to process it. In this episode, Sharon shares the difference between surviving and healing, why grief needs structure instead of avoidance, and how unprocessed pain continues to affect your relationships, your body, your emotions, and your daily life. She also walks through the three phases of grief healing, the purpose behind The Grief School, and why grief isn't something you're meant to carry alone. Because grief changes your life. But it doesn't have to define the rest of it. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why time alone doesn't heal grief The difference between surviving and processing grief Why so many grievers feel stuck for years How grief affects the mind, body, and nervous system Why avoiding grief keeps the pain alive The three phases of grief healing What it means to move through grief with intention Why healing begins with structure, not just support Questions to Sit With After Listening Am I surviving my grief or actively healing it? What have I been waiting for time to fix? What parts of my grief have I been avoiding? What would change if I had a clear plan for my healing? Homework for You Take out a journal and answer this question: "What is my current plan for healing?" If your answer is simply "I'm waiting for time," ask yourself: "What if time isn't the plan?" Write down one action you can take this week to begin processing your grief instead of simply surviving it. Because healing begins with one intentional step. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join Processing the Pain of Grief 👉 Join Forever Changed 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because grief doesn't ask you to stay stuck. It asks you to begin. And you don't have to do it alone. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/42202695

What Grief Really Feels Like After Multiple Losses with Suzanne 07/03/2026

What Grief Really Feels Like After Multiple Losses with Suzanne Episode Description “Grief changes your life. Healing changes the way you live it.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Suzanne to share a deeply personal conversation about devastating loss, healing, and what happens when you finally begin doing the work grief has been asking of you. Suzanne has experienced the deaths of her parents, siblings, nephew, niece, partner, and many other significant losses throughout her life. Like so many grievers, she believed time would somehow make the pain easier. Instead, she found herself surviving behind walls she didn't even realize she had built. Everything changed when she began processing her grief one relationship at a time. Together, Sharon and Suzanne talk about brain fog, the overwhelming weight of loss, the pressure society places on grieving people, and why grief is never something you simply "get over." They also explore the unique pain of losing a parent, the loneliness that comes when your family is gone, and how grief work transformed not only Suzanne's healing, but also inspired her to become a Certified Grief Specialist so she could help others find hope. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief changes you. But healing changes you, too. Because grief may become part of your story. It does not have to become your identity. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why time alone doesn't heal grief What brain fog and grief overwhelm really feel like The hidden weight of carrying multiple losses Why unprocessed grief builds over time The unique grief of losing parents, siblings, and a life partner How grief work changes the way you experience future losses Why community is essential during healing The difference between surviving grief and living again How grief can inspire purpose and service to others Why healing is possible, no matter how long you've been grieving Questions to Sit With After Listening What parts of my grief have I been carrying alone? Have I mistaken surviving for healing? What walls have I built to protect myself? What would it look like to take one small step toward healing today? Homework for You Take a piece of paper and write down every significant loss you've experienced, not just the deaths. As you look at the list, ask yourself: "Which of these losses have I truly allowed myself to grieve?" You don't have to heal everything today. You only have to be willing to begin. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join Courage Club 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because grief changes your life. Healing changes what comes next. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/42202610

It's Okay to Be a Griever with Monette 06/26/2026

It's Okay to Be a Griever with Monette “It's okay to be a griever.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Monette Hopkins, a graduate of Forever Changed and Processing the Pain of Grief, to share an honest conversation about what healing can look like after unimaginable loss. Monette has experienced the deaths of her husband, three children, and several other loved ones. When she first met Sharon, the weight of her grief was so overwhelming that she could barely speak in complete sentences. Today, she shares how grief work helped her find hope, peace, laughter, and the courage to keep living. Together, Sharon and Monette talk about the power of brain dumps, why healing takes time, the importance of boundaries, and how telling the truth about your grief can change everything. This episode is a beautiful reminder that healing doesn't mean forgetting the people you love. It means learning how to carry their love without carrying the unbearable weight of unprocessed grief. Because no matter how deep your pain feels... There is still hope. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why it's okay to be a griever How brain dumps help process overwhelming emotions Why grief healing looks different for everyone The importance of honesty during the healing process How boundaries support emotional healing Why laughter can exist alongside grief How community helps us heal What happens when you finally begin processing years of unresolved pain Questions to Sit With After Listening What have I been carrying that I've never put into words? Am I giving myself permission to grieve honestly? Who has been walking alongside me in my grief? What would it look like to tell the truth about my pain? Homework for You Take a journal and spend ten minutes doing a brain dump. Write whatever comes to mind without editing, judging, or organizing your thoughts. Then ask yourself: "What is my heart trying to tell me that my mind has been avoiding?" Because sometimes healing begins the moment we stop holding everything inside. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join Courage Club 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because your grief deserves to be heard. And you never have to walk through it alone. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41828075

The Truth About Self-Worth and Grief with Dawna Daigneault 06/19/2026

The Truth About Self-Worth and Grief with Dawna Daigneault Episode Description “What if the problem was never that you weren't enough?” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with licensed professional counselor, trauma specialist, speaker, and co-author Dawna Daigneault for a powerful conversation about self-worth, grief, and the stories we carry about ourselves. Because grief doesn't just break your heart. Sometimes it breaks the way you see yourself. After a significant loss, many grievers find themselves asking questions they never expected: Who am I now? Why do I feel invisible? Why do I feel abandoned? Why do I suddenly feel like I'm not enough? Dawna introduces the concept of birthright self-worth—the idea that your worth was never something you had to earn. It was yours from the moment you arrived in this world. Together, Sharon and Dawna explore how family systems, childhood experiences, trauma, grief, shame, and relationships shape the way we view ourselves. They discuss why so many people spend their lives chasing worth through achievement, productivity, appearance, or success, while never realizing the worth they were searching for was already there. This episode is a deep and healing conversation about what happens when grief uncovers old wounds, why loss often triggers questions about identity and value, and how learning to reconnect with your worth can change everything. Because sometimes grief isn't just about missing the person. Sometimes it's about rediscovering yourself. What You'll Learn in This Episode What "birthright self-worth" actually means Why worth is different from self-esteem and confidence How grief can trigger questions about identity and value The connection between childhood experiences and self-worth Why achievement, success, and productivity often become substitutes for worth How shame impacts the way we see ourselves The relationship between trauma and self-worth Why comparison keeps people stuck The difference between authentic worth and ego How healing begins when you reconnect with your value Questions to Sit With After Listening When did I first begin questioning my worth? What experiences taught me that I had to earn love, acceptance, or belonging? Do I tie my worth to achievement, productivity, appearance, or relationships? What parts of myself have I been trying to prove? What would change if I truly believed I was worthy simply because I exist? Homework for You Take a piece of paper and answer this question: "What makes me believe I am enough?" Then answer a second question: "Who taught me that I wasn't?" Write without judgment. Write without editing. Just tell the truth. Because sometimes healing begins when we stop trying to earn our worth and start remembering we already have it. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com 👉 Learn more about Dawna Daigneault and her work on self-worth Because grief may shake your world. But it does not get to decide your value. You were worthy before the loss. You are worthy during the grief. And you will still be worthy on the other side of it. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41704320

The Grief Lies We Keep Believing 06/12/2026

The Grief Lies We Keep Believing Episode Description “Time doesn't heal grief. It just passes.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, takes on some of the biggest grief myths we've all heard—and tells the truth about why they're keeping grievers stuck. "Just give it time." "Grief comes in waves." "You're never supposed to let go of the pain." "Grief is a roller coaster." We hear these phrases all the time. They're repeated at funerals, shared by friends, posted online, and passed from one griever to another. But are they actually helping? Or are they keeping people trapped in survival mode? In this powerful episode, Sharon breaks down the hidden messages behind common grief advice and explains why healing requires more than simply waiting for time to pass. She explores why so many grievers believe holding onto pain is the same as holding onto their person, why grief keeps showing up in waves, and what it really means to process loss instead of avoiding it. This episode is a reminder that grief is not something time fixes. It's something we learn to move through. Because healing doesn't happen by accident. It happens when we stop waiting and start doing the work. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why "just give it time" is some of the most misunderstood grief advice What time actually does—and doesn't do—for grief Why looking better is not the same as healing The truth about holding onto pain after loss Why many grievers fear letting go of their suffering What it means when grief comes in waves The difference between surviving grief and processing grief Why grief feels like a roller coaster—and how to step off How unprocessed grief continues to resurface Why healing requires action, not just time Questions to Sit With After Listening What am I waiting for time to fix? Am I healing my grief or simply learning how to hide it? What pain am I afraid to let go of? What emotions keep showing up over and over again? What would change if I stopped waiting and started processing? Homework for You Take out a piece of paper and answer this question: "What am I hoping time will do for me?" Write down every answer that comes up. Then ask yourself: "What if time isn't the thing that's supposed to heal this?" Because healing doesn't happen because enough days pass. Healing happens when you become willing to face the pain that's asking for your attention. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join Processing the Pain of Grief 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because time is not coming to save you. But that doesn't mean you're stuck. It means the power to heal has been inside you all along. And there is a way forward. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41621860

The Grief You Didn't Know You Were Carrying with Elizabeth Part 1 06/05/2026

The Grief You Didn't Know You Were Carrying with Elizabeth Part 1 Episode Description “What if the thing you've been carrying for years is actually grief?” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with grief graduate and friend Elizabeth Keene to talk about a truth that changes everything: Not all grief comes from death. Sometimes grief comes from childhood wounds. Broken relationships. Disappointments. Rejection. Life experiences that never got processed. And years later, you're still carrying them around without realizing it. Elizabeth shares how she stumbled into Sharon's TikTok live completely by accident, asking a simple question about whether a romantic breakup could be considered grief. That question led her into grief work that uncovered more than twenty years of unresolved pain she didn't even know she was carrying. Together, Sharon and Elizabeth discuss the surprising ways grief shows up in everyday life, why so many people stay stuck in old pain, and what happens when you finally stop trying to "get over it" and learn how to process it instead. Elizabeth also shares the moment she experienced a physical release after doing grief work for the first time, how understanding the difference between thoughts and emotions changed everything, and why healing is possible even when you've spent decades believing it isn't. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief is bigger than death. And sometimes the healing you're searching for begins when you finally call it what it is. Grief. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why grief is about far more than death How unresolved life experiences continue affecting us for decades The 47+ different losses that can create grief Why people stay stuck even when they desperately want to move forward The difference between thoughts, stories, and emotions How grief work creates emotional and physical healing Why "just get over it" never works What happens when you finally process old pain How grief affects relationships, identity, and daily life Why healing doesn't erase your past—it changes your relationship with it Questions to Sit With After Listening What experiences from my past still carry emotional weight today? What pain have I been calling something else instead of grief? Have I been trying to think my way out of emotions? What losses have I never fully acknowledged? What would be possible if I finally put down the emotional weight I've been carrying? Homework for You Take out a notebook and create a timeline of your life. Start with your earliest memories and write down every event, relationship, disappointment, heartbreak, transition, or loss that affected you emotionally. Don't judge it. Don't minimize it. Just write it down. Then ask yourself: "What part of this might actually be grief?" Because healing often starts when we stop dismissing our experiences and start telling the truth about them. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because grief is not just about who died. It's about every experience that left a mark on your heart. And healing begins when you finally stop carrying it alone. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41550480

The Grief You Didn't Know You Were Carrying with Elizabeth Part 2 06/05/2026

The Grief You Didn't Know You Were Carrying with Elizabeth Part 2 Episode Description “Healing didn't just change her life. It changed her purpose.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker sits down again with Elizabeth Keene for Part 2 of their powerful conversation about grief, healing, and what happens when you finally stop surviving and start living. After doing her own grief work, Elizabeth experienced something she never expected. She didn't just heal. She found her calling. What started as a random TikTok scroll turned into a journey that transformed how she sees herself, other people, and the entire world. Now, after working through decades of unresolved grief, Elizabeth is becoming a certified grief specialist to help others navigate the pain she knows so well. Together, Sharon and Elizabeth dive into the reality that every person you meet is carrying a broken heart somewhere. They discuss why grief is not a life sentence, how emotional pain accumulates over time, and why so many people remain stuck in survival mode for years—or even decades. Elizabeth shares the moment she realized her own pain could become a pathway to helping others heal, the surprising connection between grief and trauma, and why doing grief work gave her something no amount of therapy, self-help, or distraction ever could: Peace. This episode is also a powerful conversation about purpose. Because sometimes the thing that breaks your heart becomes the very thing that teaches you how to help someone else heal theirs. And sometimes your greatest pain becomes your greatest gift. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why everyone is a griever The difference between carrying pain and processing it How grief accumulates throughout a lifetime Why grief is often connected to trauma and survival responses What happens when you stop avoiding emotional pain Why healing doesn't erase your story How grief work creates more peace, joy, and emotional freedom The role grief plays in purpose and personal growth Why people stay stuck in grief for decades How healing changes the way you show up for others Questions to Sit With After Listening What pain have I been carrying longer than I realize? Am I surviving my life or fully living it? What losses have shaped the person I am today? What would my life look like if I stopped carrying the emotional weight? Could my healing help someone else someday? Homework for You Write down this question: “What pain am I still carrying that no longer belongs in my backpack?” Then make a list. Don't judge it. Don't rank it. Don't minimize it. Just tell the truth. Because every unresolved hurt takes up space. And healing begins when you're willing to look at what you've been carrying. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because grief is not the end of your story. It's often the beginning of the chapter where you finally learn how to live again. And when you heal your own heart, you become a safer place for someone else's. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41550575

The Grief Lesson Nobody Taught Us 05/29/2026

The Grief Lesson Nobody Taught Us Episode Description “Your kids are already grieving. The question is whether they know how.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, tackles one of the hardest parts of loss for parents: helping children grieve while you're grieving too. Because most parents believe their job is to protect their children from pain. But grief doesn't work that way. Children feel everything. They feel the tension. They feel the sadness. They feel the fear. They notice the silence. They notice the tears you hide. And when we avoid talking about grief, soften the truth, or pretend we're okay, they don't feel protected. They feel confused. In this powerful episode, Sharon explains why children do not need perfect answers. They need honest ones. They need to see what grief looks like. They need to learn that pain is something you move through, not something you avoid. Sharon shares why so many parents rush to fix, distract, or protect their children from grief, and how that often comes from their own fear of facing the pain. She also shares a deeply personal story about losing her favorite aunt at sixteen years old and how being left to figure grief out alone shaped her understanding of loss. This episode is a reminder that your children are watching. Not your words. Your grief. Because whether we realize it or not, we are teaching our children how to grieve every single day. And if we don't teach them? They'll end up where most of us did. Trying to figure it out alone. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why children experience grief differently than adults The truth about trying to protect kids from pain Why silence creates confusion during grief How children learn grief by watching the adults around them The difference between protecting your child and interrupting their grief Why honesty builds trust during loss Common mistakes parents make when talking about death How your own grief work helps your children heal Why children need presence more than perfect answers Questions to Sit With After Listening What emotions does my child's grief bring up in me? Am I protecting my child from pain... or protecting myself from watching it? What messages did I learn about grief growing up? How am I modeling grief for my children right now? What would change if I stopped pretending I was okay? Homework for You Take a piece of paper and write this question at the top: “What did I learn about grief growing up?” Then answer honestly. What did the adults around you teach you? Did they talk about grief? Did they hide it? Did they cry? Did they tell the truth? Because before we can teach our children how to grieve... We have to understand what we learned about grief ourselves. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because your child does not need a perfect parent. They need a grieving parent willing to tell the truth. And sometimes the greatest gift we can give our children is showing them that pain is not something to fear. It's something we learn to move through. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41464410

Why Grief Feels So Out of Control 05/22/2026

Why Grief Feels So Out of Control Episode Description “What you thought grief was… it isn’t.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down the real definition of grief and why so many grievers feel overwhelmed, exhausted, numb, angry, and emotionally out of control after loss. Because nobody taught us what grief actually is. We were taught how to survive it. Stay strong. Stay busy. Push it down. Keep going. Humans really decided emotional pain should be ignored until it starts leaking out sideways into every relationship. Strange little system. But grief is not just sadness. It is emotional, mental, physical, and deeply connected to the body. It affects your brain, nervous system, thoughts, emotions, and reactions. In this episode, Sharon talks about the brain fog, exhaustion, chest tightness, numbness, anger out of nowhere, and the feeling that your whole life split in half after loss. She also explains why grief itself is not the problem. The problem is resisting it, avoiding it, distracting yourself from it, and pretending it is not there. Because unprocessed grief does not disappear. It waits. It builds. And eventually it starts showing up in every part of your life. This episode is also a powerful teaching on what it actually means to process grief. Not just talking about it, but learning how to lean into the pain long enough for your body to move through it. Because your body already knows how to grieve. It was designed to. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why grief is more than sadness What a full-body grief experience looks like Why grief causes brain fog, exhaustion, and numbness The difference between surviving grief and processing grief Why avoiding grief keeps people stuck What it actually means to process grief How unprocessed grief starts showing up in daily life Questions to Sit With After Listening What was I taught grief should look like? What emotions have I been trying to avoid? Am I processing my grief… or surviving it? Where is grief showing up in my body right now? Homework for You Write this question at the top of a page: “What was I taught to do with grief?” Then answer honestly. Because most people were never taught how to process grief. They were taught how to hide it. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com Because healing starts when you stop resisting the pain and finally understand what grief is actually doing inside of you. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41399045

Why You Feel Exhausted, Numb, and Out of Control 05/15/2026

Why You Feel Exhausted, Numb, and Out of Control Episode Description “What you thought grief was… it isn’t.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down the real definition of grief and why so many grievers feel overwhelmed, exhausted, numb, angry, and emotionally out of control after loss. Because nobody taught us what grief actually is. We were taught how to survive it. Stay strong. Stay busy. Push it down. Keep going. Humans really decided emotional pain should be ignored until it starts leaking out sideways into every relationship. Strange little system. But grief is not just sadness. It is emotional, mental, physical, and deeply connected to the body. It affects your brain, nervous system, thoughts, emotions, and reactions. In this episode, Sharon talks about the brain fog, exhaustion, chest tightness, numbness, anger out of nowhere, and the feeling that your whole life split in half after loss. She also explains why grief itself is not the problem. The problem is resisting it, avoiding it, distracting yourself from it, and pretending it is not there. Because unprocessed grief does not disappear. It waits. It builds. And eventually it starts showing up in every part of your life. This episode is also a powerful teaching on what it actually means to process grief. Not just talking about it, but learning how to lean into the pain long enough for your body to move through it. Because your body already knows how to grieve. It was designed to. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why grief is more than sadness What a full-body grief experience looks like Why grief causes brain fog, exhaustion, and numbness The difference between surviving grief and processing grief Why avoiding grief keeps people stuck What it actually means to process grief How unprocessed grief starts showing up in daily life Questions to Sit With After Listening What was I taught grief should look like? What emotions have I been trying to avoid? Am I processing my grief… or surviving it? Where is grief showing up in my body right now? Homework for You Write this question at the top of a page: “What was I taught to do with grief?” Then answer honestly. Because most people were never taught how to process grief. They were taught how to hide it. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: Because healing starts when you stop resisting the pain and finally understand what grief is actually doing inside of you. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41309500

The Truth About Why Grief Feels So Heavy 05/08/2026

The Truth About Why Grief Feels So Heavy Episode Description “Your life isn’t broken. Your heart is.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down why so many grievers stay stuck in pain for years… even while trying everything they can to survive it. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon realized the problem wasn’t that grievers were weak. The problem was that nobody taught us how to grieve. So we stay busy. We avoid the pain. We push it down. And we keep trying to “get over” something our body is still trying to process. In this episode, Sharon explains the real work of grief. Not just talking about it. Not pretending you’re okay. But understanding what grief actually is, why your body reacts the way it does, and what it means to truly process pain instead of carrying it forever. She also talks about “completion”, the unfinished conversations, emotions, and words that stay trapped inside the body after loss. The things you still need to say. The anger. The guilt. The love. The goodbye you never got. Because undelivered emotions do not disappear. This conversation is not about “moving on.” It’s about finally understanding what grief is trying to do inside you… so you can stop fighting yourself. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why grief feels like a full-body experience The difference between surviving grief and processing it Why staying busy keeps grief stuck What “completion” actually means in grief How unfinished emotions stay trapped in the body Why avoiding grief makes it louder over time How to separate love from pain Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What have I still not said? What emotions have I been trying to avoid? Am I processing my grief… or just surviving it? What pain am I still carrying that was never expressed? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What is still left unsaid?” Then let yourself answer honestly. Not the polite version. Not the strong version. The real one. Because grief doesn’t stay stuck because you loved too much. It stays stuck when everything inside you goes unspoken. Resources + Next Steps If this episode hit you, it’s because something inside you is ready to stop surviving and start understanding your grief. You don’t have to carry this alone. 👉 Join The Story Room 👉 Listen to more episodes on Grieve That Sh!t 👉 Learn more at: Because healing starts when you stop running from the pain and finally learn how to move through it. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41217135

No One Taught You How to Grieve And Why That’s a Problem 05/01/2026

No One Taught You How to Grieve And Why That’s a Problem Episode Description “You’re not broken. You’re trying to heal something you don’t even understand.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down the real reason so many people feel stuck in their grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t just about loss. It’s about what happens when you’re left trying to survive something no one ever taught you how to process. No one gave you the language. No one gave you the instructions. And now you’re trying to figure it out while you’re in it. In this episode, Sharon walks through why grief feels so overwhelming, how misinformation and avoidance keep it stuck, and why staying busy, pushing it down, or trying to “get over it” only makes it louder over time. She also explains how grief actually works in your body and mind, why the pain keeps coming back, and what it really takes to move through it. This conversation is not about doing grief perfectly. It’s about understanding it. Because when you understand your grief, you stop fighting yourself. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why you feel stuck in your grief How lack of understanding keeps grief from moving Why staying busy and avoiding emotions makes it worse How grief shows up in your body, thoughts, and identity The difference between surviving and actually healing Why grief keeps coming back stronger when it’s not processed Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. Do I actually understand what grief is… or am I guessing? Am I trying to survive this… or actually heal it? What have I been doing to avoid feeling my grief? Where am I fighting against something I don’t understand? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What do I not understand about my grief?” Then answer honestly. Not what you’ve heard. Not what sounds right. The truth. Because you cannot move something you don’t understand. Resources + Next Steps If this episode hit you, it’s because something in you is ready to stop guessing and start understanding your grief. You don’t have to stay stuck here. 👉 Learn more: Because healing doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you finally understand what you’re going through. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41116715

Stop Trying to Protect Your Child from Grief 04/24/2026

Stop Trying to Protect Your Child from Grief Episode Description “Your child doesn’t need the pain removed. They need you to help them move through it.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down one of the biggest mistakes parents make when their child is grieving. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t something you can protect someone from. Especially not your child. Because your kids already feel everything. They feel your silence. They feel your sadness. They feel what’s not being said. They just don’t have the words for it. In this episode, Sharon walks through what actually happens when parents try to shield their children from grief, why that instinct makes sense, and how it unintentionally creates confusion, fear, and isolation. She also explains what children really need, how to talk to them about loss, and why your own grief work is the most powerful tool you have to help them. This conversation is not about being a perfect parent. It’s about telling the truth. Because your child is not learning from what you say. They’re learning from what you show. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why children feel everything, even when they can’t express it What happens when you try to protect them from grief Why avoiding the truth creates confusion instead of comfort How children process grief differently from adults Why your own grief work matters more than what you say How to talk to your child about death in a way they can understand Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What am I trying to protect my child from? Am I avoiding their grief… or my own? What emotions from my child are hardest for me to sit with? What did I learn about grief growing up… and how is that showing up now? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What am I trying to protect my child from?” Then answer honestly. Not the version that sounds like you’re doing it right. The real one. Because clarity is what builds trust. And trust is what makes grief safer. Resources + Next Steps If this episode hit you, it’s because something in you is ready to stop avoiding and start understanding grief, for you and your child. You don’t have to figure this out alone. 👉 Join the masterclass: Because your child doesn’t need perfection. They need you. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/41003655

The First Year of Grief Is Where Most People Get It Wrong 04/17/2026

The First Year of Grief Is Where Most People Get It Wrong Episode Description “Grief is already painful. But the way you’re trying to survive it might be making it harder.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down what most people unknowingly do in the first year of grief that increases their suffering. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about loss. It is about what happens when you’re left trying to survive something no one ever taught you how to process. The first year is the most confusing. The most painful. And the year you get the worst advice. Stay strong. Keep busy. Don’t think about it. But these strategies do not heal grief. They delay it. In this episode, Sharon walks through four common patterns that make grief heavier: avoiding your emotions, pretending you’re okay, comparing your timeline to others, and staying busy to escape the pain. She explains why these responses make sense, why your brain uses them to protect you, and why they end up keeping grief stuck and louder over time. This conversation is not about doing grief perfectly. It is about becoming aware of what is actually happening. Because you are not doing it wrong. You were just never taught how to do it at all. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why the first year of grief feels the hardest How avoiding emotions actually increases suffering Why pretending you’re okay creates isolation The danger of comparing your grief to others How staying busy keeps grief from being processed Why your reactions make sense (even if they’re not helping) Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What emotions have I been avoiding since the loss? Where am I pretending I’m okay when I’m not? Have I been comparing my grief to someone else’s timeline? When do I actually allow myself to sit with my grief? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What have I been doing to avoid my grief?” Then answer honestly. Not the strong answer. Not the version that sounds like you’re handling it well. The real one. Because awareness is where healing begins. Resources + Next Steps If this episode hit you, it’s because something in you is ready to stop avoiding and start understanding your grief. You don’t have to figure this out alone. 👉 Get the book: 👉 Join The Story Room Because healing doesn’t happen when you run from grief It happens when you finally face it. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40649280

Why Your Brain Won’t Stop Replaying the Day They Died 04/10/2026

Why Your Brain Won’t Stop Replaying the Day They Died Episode Description “Your brain is not trying to hurt you. It’s trying to understand what just changed your entire life.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down why your mind keeps replaying the moment your person died. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just emotional. It is a full body and brain experience that records life-altering moments with intense detail. The phone call. The hospital room. The last words. These moments stay vivid not because something is wrong with you, but because your brain is trying to make sense of what happened. In this episode, Sharon explains how trauma and memory work together, why your brain keeps returning to the same moment, and how shock and disbelief keep the story from fully settling. She also breaks down the connection between thoughts and emotions, why painful memories keep triggering emotional waves, and how speaking your story out loud helps the brain begin organizing the experience. This conversation is not about stopping the replay instantly. It is about understanding why it is happening. Because when you understand your grief, you stop being afraid of your own mind. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why your brain replays the moment your person died How trauma impacts memory and emotional intensity Why grief feels like a full body experience The connection between thoughts and emotional pain Why shock and disbelief keep the memory looping How talking about your story helps your brain process it Why you are not broken for thinking about it Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What moment does my mind keep going back to? What part of that story still feels unfinished or unclear? Have I been afraid of my thoughts instead of understanding them? Where can I safely begin to talk about this out loud? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “This is the moment my life changed.” Then describe it. What you saw. What you heard. What you felt. Not to relive it. But to begin organizing it. Because what your brain keeps replaying is what it is still trying to understand. Resources + Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, it is because your mind is trying to process something that has never been fully spoken. You don’t have to do that alone. 👉 Join The Story Room: Because healing begins when your story finally has a place to land. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40649170

The Stories Grievers Never Get to Tell 04/03/2026

The Stories Grievers Never Get to Tell Episode Description “The part of your grief that hurts the most is often the part you never say out loud.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about the stories grievers carry but rarely share. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about missing someone. It is also about the moments that changed everything—the phone call, the hospital room, the last words, the unanswered questions. These are the parts most people don’t talk about. Not because they don’t want to. But because they don’t feel safe to. In this episode, Sharon explains why grievers stop sharing their stories, how silence builds over time, and what happens when those memories have nowhere to go. She breaks down how the brain replays painful moments, why these memories stay stuck, and why speaking them out loud is one of the most important parts of processing grief. She also introduces The Story Room, a space created for grievers to share the full truth of their experience—without judgment, interruption, or being corrected. This conversation is not about making grief smaller. It is about giving it a place to be heard. Because healing does not begin when the pain goes away. It begins when the story is finally spoken. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why grievers are afraid to share certain parts of their story What happens when grief stories are kept inside Why painful memories replay over and over again How silence increases isolation and emotional weight Why telling your grief story helps the brain process it The importance of being witnessed in your grief How The Story Room creates a safe space for real grief Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. What parts of my grief have I never said out loud? Am I holding back my story to protect other people’s comfort? What memories keep replaying in my mind? Where do I feel like I have no place to share this? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “This is the part of my grief I’ve never said out loud.” Then write it. Not the edited version. Not the acceptable version. The real one. Because what stays unspoken stays heavy. Resources + Next Steps If this episode spoke to you, it is because there is a part of your story that needs to be heard. You do not have to carry it alone. 👉 Join The Story Room: Because your healing begins when your story is finally witnessed. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40649090

Why You Still Feel Lost in Your Grief (And What No One Shows You) 03/27/2026

Why You Still Feel Lost in Your Grief (And What No One Shows You) Episode Description “Grief doesn’t feel confusing because you’re broken. It feels confusing because no one ever showed you how to understand it.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down one of the biggest gaps in grief support: no one actually helps you understand your grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full body experience that affects your sleep, your thoughts, your memory, your identity, and your daily life. And yet, most people are never given the space to look at it. Instead, they are given comfort. They are given timelines. They are told to keep going. But what they are not given is understanding. In this episode, Sharon introduces the purpose behind the Grief Assessment—a structured conversation designed to help you finally look at your grief honestly and begin to make sense of what you are experiencing. She explains why grief feels so overwhelming, why your mind keeps replaying moments, and why talking through your story is one of the most important parts of processing it. This conversation is not about fixing you. It is about helping you understand what is happening inside of you. Because healing does not begin with answers. It begins with understanding. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why most grievers never get a real understanding of their grief How grief affects your body, mind, and daily functioning Why your brain keeps replaying painful moments The role of telling your grief story in healing What the Grief Assessment actually is and how it works How patterns like avoidance, guilt, and isolation show up Why confusion decreases when you begin to understand your grief Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. Have I ever truly been asked about my grief? What parts of my story have I not fully spoken out loud? Where is my grief showing up in my body and daily life? What patterns am I noticing in how I handle my grief? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “How is my grief actually showing up in my life?” Then answer honestly. Not the short version. Not the version you tell others. The real one. Because understanding your grief is the first step to moving it. Resources + Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, it is because something in you is ready to understand your grief on a deeper level. You don’t need to keep guessing. You don’t need to figure this out alone. 👉 Take the Grief Assessment: Because your healing starts when your grief finally makes sense. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40648300

The Truth About Narcissists No One Tells You with Aisha 03/20/2026

The Truth About Narcissists No One Tells You with Aisha Episode Description “You’re not stuck because you still love them. You’re stuck because of the attachment.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with a narc recovery coach and author of Toxic Charm to break down one of the most confusing and painful relationship dynamics people experience. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about death. It shows up anywhere attachment is broken. And when narcissistic patterns are involved, that attachment becomes even more intense, unstable, and hard to walk away from. Together, they unpack what narcissism actually looks like in real life, why it feels like love one moment and disappears the next, and why so many people stay stuck trying to figure the other person out instead of coming back to themselves. They explore how these relationships create emotional highs and lows, how patterns repeat, and why clarity—not more guessing—is what begins to shift everything. This conversation is not about labeling people. It is about understanding patterns. Because sometimes the hardest truth is this: You can love someone… and still be stuck in something that is hurting you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode What narcissism actually is in plain language Why these relationships feel intense, addictive, and confusing The difference between selfish behavior and narcissistic patterns Why you do not need a diagnosis to begin your healing How attachment and grief keep you tied to the relationship Why “just leave” is not as simple as it sounds How to start rebuilding self-trust after losing yourself Why patterns matter more than labels Questions to Sit With After Listening Take your time with these. Am I holding on to who they are… or who I hoped they could be? What patterns have I been ignoring or explaining away? Have I been trying to understand them more than I understand myself? What would it look like to choose clarity over confusion? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What patterns did I experience that I kept trying to explain away?” Then answer honestly. Not the version that protects them. Not the version that minimizes what happened. The real one. Because you cannot break a cycle you are still trying to justify. Resources + Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, it is because something in you is ready for clarity. You do not need to keep guessing. You do not need to keep decoding. You do not need to keep losing yourself trying to make it make sense. 👉 Find more resources and support at: /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40561040

What Is Your Grief Story 03/13/2026

What Is Your Grief Story Episode Description “Grief does not get louder because you are weak. It gets louder because it has nowhere to land.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about something most grievers never receive after loss: a true witness to their grief story. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is the mind and body trying to process something life changing that the world around you quickly moves on from. While everyone else returns to their normal life, the griever often finds themselves living in what Sharon calls the alternate universe of grief. And when there is no safe place to speak the story out loud, the grief does not disappear. It loops. It replays. It grows louder inside the nervous system. In this episode, Sharon explains why the brain keeps replaying painful memories after loss, how unspoken grief stays trapped in the body, and why having a witness is one of the most powerful parts of healing. She also introduces The Story Room, a space created for women to share their grief story out loud in a room of people who understand, listen without judgment, and hold space for the truth of what loss actually feels like. This conversation is not about fixing grief. It is about finally giving it a place to land. Because grief does not need to be corrected. It needs to be witnessed. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why every griever has a grief story that needs to be told What happens when grief has no witness Why the brain keeps replaying painful memories after loss How silence can keep grief stuck in the nervous system Why speaking your grief story out loud can begin to shift the pain What makes the Story Room different from typical grief support spaces How witnessing someone else’s grief can help you process your own Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. Let them sit with you. When did my grief story actually begin? Have I had a place where my grief could be spoken without correction or comparison? What parts of my story have I been editing or keeping quiet? What is my grief still trying to say? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “This is the part of my grief story I have never said out loud.” Then start writing. Not the version you tell people. Not the shortened version. Not the strong version. The real one. Because sometimes the first step in healing grief is simply letting the story be heard. Resources + Next Steps If this episode spoke to you, the place Sharon created for this work is called The Story Room. It is a guided grief space where women can share their story, be witnessed, and begin processing grief in a room that understands. The Story Room meets the every Thursday. 👉 Learn more and join here: /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40442010

Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns with Sean 03/06/2026

Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns with Sean Episode Description “Unprocessed grief does not disappear. It shows up in the way you attach, the way you fear, and the way you love.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Sean Walker, a faith-based relationship coach who helps men and women understand attachment patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and stop repeating the same painful relationship cycles. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is what happens when love has nowhere to land. And that same injury can show up after death, divorce, breakup, abandonment, or the loss of a connection that was never safely formed. Together, Sharon and Sean unpack the powerful overlap between grief and attachment. They explore how early relationships shape the way we love, why people cling or shut down, how labels can help but also keep people stuck, and what it really means to heal at the soul level instead of just trying to fix the relationship. This conversation is not about dating tricks. It is about internal rewiring. Because sometimes the real heartbreak is not just who left. It is the pattern that keeps getting repeated. What You’ll Learn in This Episode How grief and attachment are deeply connected Why breakup pain is often more than “just a breakup” What anxious and avoidant attachment can look like in real life Why people over-identify with labels instead of doing the healing work How unprocessed grief can keep showing up in dating and relationships Why you can still love someone and know the relationship is not right for you What it means to build security that lasts beyond marriage or romantic love Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to answer these quickly. Am I grieving a person, a relationship, or a version of safety I never had? What patterns do I keep repeating in love? Have I been using labels to understand myself — or to avoid feeling? Do I want love from a place of wholeness, or do I need it to prove I’m okay? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What am I really grieving in love?” Then answer honestly. Not the polished answer. Not the spiritual answer. Not the one that makes you sound healed. The real one. Because you cannot heal what you keep misnaming. Resources + Next Steps Find Sean Walker on social media at Coach Sean Walker Explore his resources, including Feel to Heal and Beat the Breakup 👉 Find everything at /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40345805

Welcome To The Grief School 02/27/2026

Welcome To The Grief School Episode Description “Grief deserves care. It does not deserve to be shoved in a corner.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, pulls back the curtain and finally answers the question: What actually is The Grief School? After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned the hard way that grief is not something you “get over.” It cracks your heart open. It shifts your identity. It leaves you standing in the aftermath asking, What the hell am I supposed to do now? The Grief School was built for that moment. This episode walks you through every layer of the community — from the free Facebook spaces to the Story Room, Courage Club, Processing the Pain of Grief, Forever Changed, Honor Society, and beyond. Sharon explains how each space is designed to help women stop performing, start telling the truth, and finally process what actually happened to their hearts. This is not about moving on. It is about healing a broken heart in community. Because grief is heavy enough. Carrying it alone makes it heavier. What You’ll Learn in This Episode What The Grief School actually is — and who it’s for The difference between the free community spaces and the private university How the Story Room creates a safe place to speak the truth What happens inside Processing the Pain of Grief What Forever Changed really means — and why integration matters Why grief healing requires structure, community, and courage Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. What has happened in my life that cracked my heart open? Have I been trying to carry this alone? Where do I need to be witnessed instead of fixed? Am I ready to learn the truth about my grief? Homework for You Ask yourself: “Where is the safest place for me to begin?” Maybe it’s listening. Maybe it’s joining the free Facebook group. Maybe it’s coming to the Story Room. Just take one step. Healing doesn’t start with perfection. It starts with showing up. Resources + Next Steps Join the private Facebook group: The Grief School Sign up for the Story Room or Grief 101 using the links below 👉 Find everything at clickhereforhope.com /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40287970

Grief, Addiction, and the Power of One Moment with Emily 02/13/2026

Grief, Addiction, and the Power of One Moment with Emily Episode Description “Healing happens in moments. And sometimes one moment changes everything.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Emily, founder of Moment Cares — a full-service recovery and mental health support organization helping individuals and families navigate substance use, trauma, and emotional crisis. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It lives in the body. It hides in addiction. It shows up as anxiety, avoidance, overworking, numbing, and survival mode. And in this powerful conversation, Sharon and Emily connect the dots between grief, trauma, addiction, and the nervous system. With 18 years of personal sobriety and 15 years of professional experience, Emily shares how her own recovery journey revealed something deeper: alcohol and drugs are often not the root problem — they are the symptom. Underneath is unprocessed pain. Unfelt grief. A nervous system stuck in fear. Together, they explore the head–heart connection, why so many people live disconnected from their bodies, and how learning to sit with emotion — even for one minute — can begin to change everything. This episode is not just about addiction. It is about grief, trauma, community, and connection. Because healing does not happen in isolation. It happens when someone says, “Me too.” What You’ll Learn in This Episode How addiction and numbing behaviors are often responses to unprocessed grief Why sitting with emotion feels terrifying — and why it actually sets you free The difference between intellectualizing pain and feeling it in the body How trauma disconnects us from our own nervous system Why community is one of the most powerful tools in recovery How mental health, grief, and substance use are deeply connected Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to answer these all at once. What have I been using to avoid feeling? Is my struggle really about the surface behavior — or something deeper? Where did I learn that my emotions were not safe? Who is safe enough for me to begin telling the truth? Homework for You The next time you feel overwhelmed, pause. Ask yourself: “What am I feeling in my body right now?” Not what you’re thinking. Not the story. Just the feeling. Sit with it for one minute. Watch what happens. That minute might be your moment. Resources + Next Steps Learn more about Emily and Moment Cares at momentcares.com 👉 Find grief support and resources at /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40106030

10 Choices Every Griever Faces 02/06/2026

10 Choices Every Griever Faces Episode Description “You may not get to choose what you feel. But you do get to choose what you practice.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down something most grievers have never been told: You have choices in your grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief feels automatic. The memories. The body reactions. The waves that hit before you’re even fully awake. It can feel like something is happening to you — and you are stuck. But what if you are not stuck? This episode walks through 10 real choices every griever faces — not fluffy mindset shifts, but nervous-system level decisions that shape whether you stay in survival mode or begin moving toward healing. From avoidance vs. engagement, to isolation vs. regulated support, to surviving vs. living again — Sharon challenges the belief that time alone heals and invites you into active participation in your own healing. This episode is not about forcing feelings. It is about practicing safety. Because grief healing is not passive. It is something you participate in. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why you cannot always choose your emotions — but you can choose your response The difference between avoidance and true engagement How isolation keeps the nervous system in threat mode Why intellectualizing grief is not the same as processing it What it actually means to retrain your nervous system How survival mode becomes a habit — and how to slowly shift out of it Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. Where am I avoiding instead of engaging? Am I waiting for time to fix this — or am I participating in healing? Who feels safe enough to witness my grief without trying to fix it? What am I practicing daily — survival or safety? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What am I practicing in my grief?” Then list your honest answers. No shame. No judgment. Just awareness. Then circle one choice you are ready to practice differently this week. Healing does not happen by accident. It happens by repetition. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Find everything at /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40098740

What Is Your Grief Costing You? 01/30/2026

What Is Your Grief Costing You? Episode Description “Your grief is not a burden. Your silence is.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, asks a hard but necessary question: What is your grief costing you? After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief does not just take the person you love. It takes your energy. Your focus. Your sense of self. And when you start hiding it, it takes even more. Many grievers believe staying quiet makes them strong. They believe pretending to be “okay” protects the people around them. But silence does not protect you. It isolates you. It disconnects you. It keeps you stuck in survival mode. This episode explores the hidden cost of emotional suppression and why grief needs a place to land. This episode is not about falling apart. It is about telling the truth. Because healing does not happen in hiding. It happens when your pain is seen. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why hiding your grief drains your energy and disconnects you from support How silence keeps you stuck in survival mode The difference between protecting others and abandoning yourself Why grief needs space, air, and honesty to begin healing Simple, practical ways to start telling the truth about your pain Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to rush these. What has my grief been costing me emotionally? Where have I been pretending instead of telling the truth? Who feels safe enough to hear even a small piece of my pain? What is one thing I need to say out loud this week? Homework for You At the top of a page, write: “What my silence is costing me.” Be honest. No performing. No minimizing. Just tell the truth. Then circle one small step you can take this week to let your grief have a place to land. That is where the shift begins. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Find everything at /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/40098660

The Grief Men Are Never Taught to Talk About with Coach Martize 01/23/2026

The Grief Men Are Never Taught to Talk About with Coach Martize Episode Description “Grief does not disappear when you ignore it. It just gets heavier when you carry it alone.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, opens an honest conversation about men, grief, and emotional pain. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full-body experience that affects thoughts, emotions, and the nervous system. And while grief impacts everyone, many men are taught early that strength means silence. This episode challenges the belief that “big boys don’t cry” and explores what really happens when men are never given space to feel, talk, or be witnessed in their grief. Sharon is joined by Coach Martize of The Frazier Group, who brings his personal story and professional experience into the conversation. Together, they unpack how emotional suppression is learned, why avoidance is not weakness but survival, and how outdated beliefs keep people stuck long after the loss. This episode is not about fixing grief. It is about creating space for it. Because pain does not need to be handled. It needs to be held. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why emotional pain is often avoided, not because of weakness, but because of conditioning How men are taught to survive instead of feel The difference between strength and emotional suppression Where beliefs about toughness and vulnerability come from Why grief needs space, not silence Questions to Sit With After Listening You do not need to answer these quickly. Where did I learn that showing emotion was unsafe? What feelings have I been pushing down instead of listening to? How has “being strong” shaped the way I grieve? Where do I need space instead of advice? Homework for You Write this at the top of a page: “What I was taught about emotions.” Now finish the sentence honestly. No fixing. No explaining. Just notice what comes up. That awareness matters. Resources + Next Steps 👉 Find everything at clickhereforhope.com /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/39852210

How to Grieve a Mother Who Was Your Best Friend with Nikki Part 2 01/16/2026

How to Grieve a Mother Who Was Your Best Friend with Nikki Part 2 “She was more than her ending. And healing didn’t mean letting her go. It meant letting the pain stop running the show.” In Part 2 of this deeply personal episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, continues the raw conversation with Nikki about grieving a mother who was also her best friend. This episode moves beyond the loss and into what happens after the world keeps spinning and you’re still stuck. Nikki shares what it was really like to resist grief work, to believe that suffering was the only way to honor her mom, and to carry guilt she didn’t even realize she was holding. Together, Sharon and Nikki unpack one of the most painful grief lies of all: “If I heal, it means I didn’t love them enough.” You’ll hear how healing finally began when Nikki stopped protecting the pain and allowed herself to tell the truth about what she lost, what she carried, and what she deserved next. This episode is about releasing unhealthy grief, honoring the full life of your person, and learning how to live again without betraying the love that came before. What You’ll Hear in This Episode Why many grievers believe suffering equals loyalty How guilt hides inside grief and keeps you stuck What it means to be “more than their ending” Why healing doesn’t erase love, memories, or connection How letting the pain soften creates space to celebrate your person again Questions to Sit With After Listening You don’t have to answer these perfectly. Just honestly. Where have I believed that my pain is protecting my person? What part of my grief feels unhealthy, even if I don’t want to admit it yet? Am I afraid that healing means leaving them behind? If my person could speak to me right now, what would they want for my life? What would it look like to grieve and live at the same time? Gentle Homework Write this sentence at the top of a page: “They were more than their ending.” Now finish it without rushing. Let memories come. Let truth come. Let the love show up. You’re not erasing them. You’re letting their whole life matter again. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/39681340

How to Grieve a Mother Who Was Your Best Friend with Nikki Part 1 01/09/2026

How to Grieve a Mother Who Was Your Best Friend with Nikki Part 1 “You were never meant to grieve quietly. Your emotions didn’t show up to hurt you. They showed up to help you process what just happened.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Nikki to talk about a kind of loss that cuts straight to the core. The loss of a mother who was also a best friend. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t one-dimensional. There are layers. And one of the most overlooked layers is the grief that comes from losing the person who knew you, guided you, and helped you make sense of life. In this conversation, Nikki shares the story of her mom Cheryl. Not just who she was, but how deeply intertwined she was in every part of her life. From daily texts and phone calls to faith, caregiving, unanswered prayers, and the shock of having no time to prepare. This episode explores what happens when grief collides with faith, when anger at God feels unavoidable, and when the foundation you were raised on both supports you and breaks your heart at the same time. We talk about the reality of caregiving, the trauma of watching someone you love decline, and the quiet ways people stay connected after loss. Keeping a phone on. Sending messages that will never be answered. Letting grandchildren leave voicemails. Choosing connection instead of rules. This is an honest, raw conversation about layered grief, unfinished moments, and learning how to live in a world where your anchor is gone. You’re not doing grief wrong. You’re responding to something that mattered deeply. Let’s grieve that shit together. What You’ll Hear in This Episode • Why losing a mother who was also a best friend creates a second layer of grief • How caregiving changes the grief experience before death even happens • What it’s like to have no time to process before everything changes • How faith can both comfort and anger you after loss • Why staying connected in your own way is not wrong • The difference between healing and erasing the relationship Reflection Questions Take your time with these. There’s no rush. Who was your person to you beyond the title they held in your life? What part of your grief do you feel most people don’t understand? Where has faith supported you, and where has it felt complicated or painful? What unfinished moments or conversations still live in your body? What connection are you holding onto that brings you comfort, even if others wouldn’t understand it? If you stopped judging your grief, what would you allow yourself to feel? Gentle Homework Write this sentence at the top of a page: “What hurts the most about losing them is…” Let yourself finish it without fixing, explaining, or softening the answer. That honesty is part of your healing. Resources + Next Steps 🎥 Watch Sharon’s grief teachings and video overviews 🎧 Explore deep-dive podcast episodes like this one 📘 Access study guides, journal prompts, and grief education 🧠 Continue your work inside The Grief School 👉 Everything lives at clickhereforhope.com You don’t have to rush this. You don’t have to be okay. You just have to be honest. /episode/index/show/healingstartswiththeheart/id/39681245

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