45: Removing the Link Between Diagnosis and Behavior
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Diagnoses are a frame of reference for looking at behavior, and therefore often limit us to understanding one another and ourselves. When it comes to gun control, the focus on mental health by both sides is accurate, but not for the reason either thinks. If we want to effect change, then we need to step away from limiting stories about our behavior, and into how we expand a person’s flexibility in the face of interpersonal difficulty.
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44: Navigating Social Change: An Interview with Jeff Fullington
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Discussed nature of mental health work, autism, seeing people as wholes rather than parts, and learning to experience life through different understandings of social influence.
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43: Interview with Juan Lee
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Juan Lee is an author and teacher on the powerful principle of love. Raised within the Christian church, Juan has turned to teachings about love over the years to find strength, understanding, and hope.
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42 - 3 Things to Know Before Entering Therapy
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Interview with Bryan Nixon, a therapist at and founder of Mindful Counseling GR in Grand Rapids, MI. Things to consider:
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41 - How We Can Deepen Intimacy and Why It's Important
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Here we look at intimacy and its connection to authenticity. We can learn to express different parts of ourselves in different situations and through different relationships, by building the space for honestly reflecting on whether the person you're showing up as is the person you want to explore becoming.
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40 - Healthy Communication: 4 Steps to a Strong Relationship
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Exploring the work of John and Julie Gottman on the "4 Horsemen" of relationship communication errors and working through steps to build healthy connections for personal and relationship growth. We work through four steps beginning with identifying what you Value and finishing with applying grace often.
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39 - 3 Ways to Define Love and Why They Matter
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We all know love when we feel it, yet often it's the emotion most connected to confusion and heartache.
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38: How to Win: Life is Not a Battle Between Good and Evil
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Exploration of the third untruth in Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt in their book "The Coddling of the American Mind." That untruth, "Life is a battle between good people and evil people" will be explained and an alternative truth given, of "Life is a lived experience through many perspectives." We can encourage dialogue.
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37: Question Your Feelings, but Don't Dismiss Them
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Looking at the "untruth" of "Always trust your feelings" from the book "The Coddling of the American Mind" by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt. In response, I offer one that provides a path of resiliency. Difference between "affect" and "feelings" and how the theory of allostasis can help better explore our emotional lives.
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36: Consequences are Inevitable, Learn From Them
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As noted by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt in their book "The Coddling of the American Mind," there is an untruth of "what doesn't kill you makes you weaker." We can embrace a deeper appreciation for how our brain/body system works to prepare us for an uncertain future. Ultimately we can learn to accept and build a capacity for seeing errors and mistakes and consequences as spaces for growth.
info_outlineFurther exploration of Sharon Martin’s article looking at: How Codependents Can Stop Enabling and Controlling. Focusing on the habits that enable the behavior of others and learning how enabling is often about the stories we tell ourselves to avoid the uncertainty of deeper questions and keep us from exploring our lives. We are so much more than what we often let ourselves believe.