EP208 – Are You Self-Sabotaging? with Teresa Heath-Wareing & Ian Luckett

 Teresa Heath-Wareing introduces us to a crucial understanding of how self-sabotage works, explaining that many of us fall into patterns that keep us comfortable but ultimately hinder our growth. Self-sabotaging behaviours often stem from a place of fear—whether it's fear of failure, fear of judgment, or even fear of success. When we’re stepping into new or uncomfortable situations, our brain can see these as potential threats, activating a “protection mode” that drives us back to our comfort zones. Teresa highlights that self-sabotage isn’t about laziness or lack of ambition; rather, it’s our mind trying to keep us safe. Yet, as she reminds us, that “safe” place can end up stalling our growth and keeping us from the breakthroughs we’re capable of achieving. 

One of Teresa’s key insights is the importance of consistency and authenticity in breaking self-sabotaging habits. She speaks to the value of building a visible, authentic presence online—not just for marketing but as a powerful way to establish trust and connection with clients and prospects. Teresa believes that when MSP owners are authentic and consistent in their online presence, they build a network of trust that lays the groundwork for stronger, long-lasting business relationships. This trust allows clients and prospects to get to know you before they’ve even spoken with you, something that is increasingly important as research shows that most of the buying decision is made before a client even contacts you. 

During our conversation, we touched on how self-sabotaging can be particularly sneaky for MSPs, who often prioritise solving technical issues over working on the strategic growth of their business. Teresa explains that this can lead to avoidance of challenging, but necessary, steps like sales and marketing, often because these tasks push us outside our comfort zone. She shares a critical tip: look for patterns. Self-sabotage can manifest as procrastination, indecision, or distractions, and recognising these patterns is the first step to breaking free from them. Teresa recommends slowing down and questioning why we might be resisting certain tasks or decisions. Are we avoiding an uncomfortable feeling or fear of failure? By reflecting on this, we can start identifying the root of our self-sabotage. 

Teresa also emphasises the need for incremental changes—what she calls “1% shifts”—to overcome self-sabotaging tendencies. Rather than attempting drastic transformations, Teresa suggests that small, manageable changes can build confidence and create sustainable progress over time. This incremental approach helps build integrity with ourselves, proving that you can follow through on your commitments. These “1% shifts” allow you to step outside your comfort zone slowly, creating new neural pathways that make it easier to tackle bigger challenges in the future. For example, if an MSP owner is hesitant to start marketing themselves online, they could start by making one small post per week. Over time, these small efforts add up, gradually building confidence and consistency. 

One of the standout lessons from Teresa is the importance of understanding the ego’s role in self-sabotage. Ego can prevent us from asking for help, acknowledging when we’re stuck, or admitting that we don’t have all the answers. Teresa shares that many business owners may avoid seeking help or taking advice because their ego convinces them that they have everything under control, even when they could benefit from guidance. She encourages MSP owners to step away from this mindset, embrace vulnerability, and take advantage of the collaborative and supportive nature of the MSP community, which thrives on shared knowledge and experiences. 

The practical framework that Teresa Heath-Wareing shares in this episode provides MSP owners with tools to identify and address self-sabotaging behaviours. From recognising patterns to making 1% shifts, Teresa’s approach is about building self-awareness, resilience, and consistency. She encourages listeners to approach self-sabotage with empathy, reminding us that our brains are simply trying to protect us. With greater awareness, MSP owners can harness their potential by setting aside self-limiting beliefs and making intentional choices that lead to growth. 

Whether you’re trying to improve your marketing consistency, make strategic decisions, or take your business to the next level, Teresa’s insights on self-sabotaging behaviours offer a clear, actionable path. This episode is packed with Teresa Heath-Wareing’s expert advice on the psychology behind self-sabotage, and it will resonate with anyone looking to break through their mental barriers to achieve greater success.  

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Check out the Teresa’s podcast HERE, or her website HERE. 

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Until next time, look after yourself and I’ll catch up with you soon!