What to say when you don't know what to say
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
Release Date: 08/18/2026
Your Teen Actually Talks to you. Now What Do You Say?
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
You finally got your teenager talking. Now what do you SAY? How do you listen without immediately fixing? Hold a boundary without shutting them down? Give your opinion without making them regret telling you? Talk about phones without another power struggle? Respond to a lie in a way that encourages MORE honesty next time? Getting your teenager to talk isn’t the whole goal. You want them to KEEP talking. In this episode, I’m sharing why some of the best teenage conversations happen BEFORE there’s a problem and how thinking through the tough topics ahead of time can help you respond...
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Your Teen Doesn’t Need You to Fix It
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
When your teenager is hurting, Fix-It Mom can show up FAST. They’re left out by friends. Their confidence takes a hit. Someone says something cruel. And because you love them, you immediately want to reassure, advise, solve, or make the hurt disappear. But sometimes your teenager doesn’t need you to fix it. They need to know you can handle sitting with them while it hurts. In this episode, I’m talking about how to stay curious instead of jumping straight to solutions, what to say when your teenager shares something painful, and why some of the most important conversations happen BEFORE...
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Teen lying? Listen up! Why Is My Teen Lying to Me?
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
If you listened and ready to be one of my email besties, iykyk, . Lying keeps coming up in my conversations with moms of teenagers, and I know how quickly it can make you question trust, your relationship, and what to do next. I’ve been working on something specifically to help with this, and it’s coming soon. 👀 My email Besties will be the first to hear about it (and get first access), so if you’re not on the list yet, sign up ! You’re going to want this one.
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You Care SO Much. So Why Doesn’t Your Teen Feel It?
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
You care about your teenager so much. So when they say, “You don’t care about me,” your first thought might be: Are you kidding me? Everything I do is because I care! But sometimes there’s a disconnect between how much you care and how your care is being experienced by your teenager. The questions. The reminders. The advice. The checking in. The trying to fix it. It all comes from love, but to your teenager, it can sometimes feel like pressure. In this short episode, I’m sharing one simple shift you can make when you know something is wrong but your teenager doesn’t want to talk....
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Your Teen Won't Talk to You? You Might Be Solving the Wrong Problem
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
What's something you really want to be able to talk to your teenager about? Phones? Dating? Friends? Lying? School? I hear some version of this question from moms all the time: "How do I talk to my teenager about this?" But there's a question that comes BEFORE that one: Does your teenager want to talk to you in the first place? In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between knowing WHAT you want to talk about and having the skills to create the kind of conversation where your teenager actually keeps talking. Because this isn't necessarily an effort problem. It may be a skill...
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What If You’re Trying TOO Hard to Help Your Teenager?
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
You love your teenager. So when they come to you with a problem, of course you want to help. But what if all that helping is actually making it harder for your teenager to talk to you, and harder for them to build confidence in themselves? In this episode, I’m challenging the belief that being a good mom means giving your teenager the answers they need. Because your teenager doesn’t just need good answers from you. They need opportunities to discover that they can find answers themselves. We’ll talk about why immediately reassuring your teenager isn’t always confidence-building, what...
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The Relationship You’re Building with your Teen Before They Leave Home
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
One day, your teenager gets to decide how much of their life you’re part of. That can feel terrifying, especially when they’re already pulling away, talking less, or becoming more independent. But staying close to your teenager isn’t about holding on tighter. In this episode, I’m sharing what raising four teenagers has taught me about letting go without losing the relationship, why independence doesn’t mean they need you less, and what we can do now to build the kind of relationship they’ll want to carry into adulthood. We’ll talk about the difference between being involved and...
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What to say when you don't know what to say
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
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Is Guilt Quietly Parenting Your Teenager?
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
Most moms don't realize how many of their parenting decisions are driven by guilt. "I yelled yesterday, so I should let this go." "I've been working too much, so I need to make it up to them." "They're upset... maybe I should back off." It feels loving. It feels responsible. But what if guilt is actually keeping you stuck? In today's episode, we're unpacking why guilt isn't a parenting strategy, and why the healthiest moms aren't the ones who never feel guilty, but the ones who know what to do after guilt shows up. You'll learn why guilt is like a dashboard warning light, what it's really...
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Why Trying Harder Isn't Working (And What To Do Instead)
TRUSTED by your Teenager with Kristen Duke
You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Prayed. Researched. Promised yourself you'd stay calmer next time. And yet somehow, you and your teenager keep ending up back in the same fight. In this episode, I'm sharing why more effort isn't the answer, and what actually is. Using a story from a mom I recently worked with and an analogy that's stuck with me for years, we're breaking down the one belief that keeps so many moms stuck in the same cycle with their teens. If you're tired of trying harder and wondering why it still feels so hard, this episode is for you. In this episode: Why...
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