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The Gap Between Who They See & Who You Are | For Mannerless Women

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Release Date: 06/25/2026

How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease show art How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease

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What happens when you stop trusting your own decisions, feelings and instincts?   This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how self-trust can slowly erode, through being constantly second-guessed, people-pleasing, gaslighting, overriding your own needs, breaking promises to yourself, or making a decision that went badly and deciding it means you can't trust yourself anymore.   But self-trust isn't about always getting it right.It's about knowing that even when you get something wrong, you trust yourself to listen, learn, adjust and meet yourself on the other side.   In...

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How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease show art How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease

Legally Clueless

What happens when you stop trusting your own decisions, feelings and instincts?   This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how self-trust can slowly erode, through being constantly second-guessed, people-pleasing, gaslighting, overriding your own needs, breaking promises to yourself, or making a decision that went badly and deciding it means you can't trust yourself anymore.   But self-trust isn't about always getting it right.It's about knowing that even when you get something wrong, you trust yourself to listen, learn, adjust and meet yourself on the other side.   In...

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What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 390 show art What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 390

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What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Ella’s Story Part 1   What does it take to find your place in an industry that constantly makes you feel like you have something to prove? In Part 1 of Ella’s story, she takes us from her childhood in Western Kenya, through moving between different sides of her family, bullying in school and the years she spent trying to figure out who she wanted to become. Eventually, that search leads her to aviation. Ella shares how she found her way into aeronautics, the scholarships she fought for, the unpaid internships, the pressure to prove herself and...

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The Lies Women Were Told About Aging (And Why So Many Of Us Believe Them) | Mid Week Tease show art The Lies Women Were Told About Aging (And Why So Many Of Us Believe Them) | Mid Week Tease

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There comes a point where many women stop fearing wrinkles and start fearing what they've been taught wrinkles mean.In this week's Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories women inherit about aging, from the belief that our worth has an expiry date to the pressure of ticking invisible life milestones before it's "too late."   Drawing on psychology, sociology and personal reflection, this episode explores why so many women experience birthdays with anxiety instead of celebration, and what becomes possible when we begin questioning the narratives we've been handed.   In this episode:...

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I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 389 show art I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 389

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I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? (Part 2)  What happens when you've done everything you were told would lead to success and life still doesn't go according to plan? In Part Two of Tanya Nyambura's story, the reality of adulthood collides with everything she believed growing up. After years of academic excellence, Tanya enters the job market expecting her hard work to finally pay off. Instead, she encounters rejection, unemployment, workplace politics, and the unsettling realization that school prepared her for exams but not necessarily for life. As she rebuilds her...

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More Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pursuing Love. Here's Why | Mid Week Tease show art More Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pursuing Love. Here's Why | Mid Week Tease

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More Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pursuing Love. Here's Why.   More women are choosing to step away from dating, delete the apps, embrace celibacy, or simply stop making romantic relationships the centre of their lives. But is this really about giving up on love? Or are we witnessing something much bigger? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the cultural and psychological shift behind why many women are decentering romance and redefining what a meaningful life looks like.   From the evolution of modern relationships to the growing importance of female friendships,...

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I Did Everything Right. So Why Isn't Life Working? (Part 1)   What if the biggest lie you were ever told was that good grades guarantee a good life? In this week's episode, Tanya Nyambura takes us back to her childhood, where academic performance wasn't just about school, it determined how you were seen, how you felt about yourself, and what you believed your future would become.   Growing up, Tanya internalized a message many Africans know all too well: study hard, excel in school, and everything else will fall into place. So she did exactly that.She worked tirelessly, became one of...

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Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself | Mid Week Tease show art Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself | Mid Week Tease

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Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself   Somewhere between meeting expectations, caring for everyone else, surviving heartbreak, building careers, and simply getting through life, many women find themselves asking a painful question: "Who am I now?"   In this week's episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango shares eight practical ways to reconnect with yourself, not by becoming someone new, but by remembering the woman you've always been. Drawing from psychology and everyday practices, this episode explores how identity is slowly rebuilt through curiosity, joy, solitude, and...

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I Was Bullied For Being Myself PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 387 show art I Was Bullied For Being Myself PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 387

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Trusting The Process (Part 3)   What do you do when everything you've worked so hard to build falls apart? In the final part of Johnny's story, his thriving career takes an unexpected turn. He closes his studio, battles depression, questions everything he's built, and finds himself back at square one. But just when it seems like the story is over, one unexpected moment changes the course of his life forever. This episode is a reminder that sometimes the chapter that feels like failure is actually preparing you for the life you're meant to live.   In this episode, we cover: Walking...

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Why Free Women Make People Uncomfortable | Jaxx Of All Trades on Redefining Womanhood What does it really mean to become a free woman?   This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with South African social, political and current affairs commentator Jaxx Of All Trades for a thought-provoking conversation on identity, confidence, beauty standards, freedom and choosing a life beyond society's expectations. Together, they unpack the pressure African women face to fit into narrow definitions of femininity, marriage and success, why turning 30 can feel surprisingly liberating, and the...

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What happens when the woman the world celebrates isn't the same woman you experience when you're alone?

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with DJ, broadcaster, creative entrepreneur, and healer Precious Nkadimeng (Spoken Priestess) for a powerful conversation about self-trust, spirituality, identity, and the journey back to yourself.

Together, they explore the tension between achievement and authenticity, the cost of self-doubt, ancestral guidance, spiritual awakening, and why choosing yourself is one of the most radical things a woman can do.

In This Episode
  • The gap between who the world sees and who you really are
  • Building an identity beyond your work
  • Self-doubt, confidence, and learning to trust yourself
  • Depression, healing, and confronting what's been hidden away
  • Spirituality beyond religion
  • Ancestors, dreams, and intuition
  • Precious' journey through traditional spiritual initiation
  • Why women need to stop asking for permission
  • The power of making choices that honour yourself
  • What it means to live authentically
Connect With Precious
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spokenpriestess
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@spokenpriestess_

Resources From Precious
"I'd say the book: 5AM Club has really inspired me a lot this past year. 
I'm currently reading the Body Keeps A Score and it's also enlightening, it's a book about how trauma is stored in our bodies"

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