Legally Clueless
Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality Adelle Onyango! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790
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Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 358
12/28/2025
Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 358
In episode 358 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares Part 2 of her story, a powerful journey of leaving an unsafe marriage, rebuilding life as a single mother, navigating fear and displacement, and eventually experiencing deep love and devastating loss. Picking up from childhood trauma and survival patterns explored in Part 1, this episode focuses on healing, agency, community support, and what it means to choose life after years of endurance. In this episode, we explore: Leaving an unsafe marriage with children Rebuilding life from scratch during COVID Community support and dignity-centered help Navigating co-parenting and safety fears Finding love after trauma Grief, loss, and continuing to live fully Victoria’s story is a reminder that healing is not about perfection, it’s about persistence, courage, and choosing yourself again and again. Listen to Part 2 now. Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube:
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This Year Asked A Lot Of You: A Gentle Closing Before The New Year | Mid Week Tease
12/24/2025
This Year Asked A Lot Of You: A Gentle Closing Before The New Year | Mid Week Tease
As the year comes to a close, there’s often pressure to reflect, reframe, and rush into hope. This final episode of Mid Week Tease offers something different: a pause. In this episode, Adelle invites you into a soft, honest moment of witnessing, not to extract lessons or tidy the year up neatly, but to honor what the year truly held. This is a conversation for anyone who feels emotionally tired, quietly proud of surviving, or unsure how to carry this year forward. In this episode, we explore: When the year didn’t turn out the way you expected and why that doesn’t mean it failed The invisible things you survived without recognition Relationships you outgrew or quietly grieved Releasing versions of yourself that could no longer keep up Fatigue that comes from carrying too much, not from laziness The episode closes with a gentle reflective ritual no homework, no fixing, just presence: Three things you’re laying down One thing you’re proud of surviving One truth you’re carrying forward This is not a wrap-up. It’s a deep exhale. Listen when you need permission to pause before moving on. Join the Legally Clueless Africa Community If you’d like to stay connected, share your story, or explore more conversations like this, here’s where to find us: ✉️ Newsletter: 📸 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 📝 Share Your Story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 357
12/21/2025
Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 357
In Episode 357 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares part one of her powerful life story, growing up away from her mother, navigating multiple homes and boarding schools, and learning independence at a very young age. From her childhood in Nyeri, Karatina, and Garissa to her school years and early adulthood, Victoria reflects on how emotional absence, instability, and silence shaped her sense of belonging and connection. In this episode, we explore: • Growing up separated from primary caregivers • Childhood loneliness and emotional neglect • Boarding school experiences at a young age • How early instability shapes adult survival patterns • The quiet ways trauma takes root Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube
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From Suitcase to Store: Zia on Building a Fashion Brand, Trusting Instinct & Doing It Afraid | For Mannerless Women
12/18/2025
From Suitcase to Store: Zia on Building a Fashion Brand, Trusting Instinct & Doing It Afraid | For Mannerless Women
What does it really take to build a sustainable fashion brand in Kenya, without overnight success, investor hype, or a perfect plan? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Zia Nyamari, fashion entrepreneur and founder & creative director of Zia Africa, for an honest conversation about building a business from the ground up, fear, faith, intuition and all. Zia takes us back to her very first business idea at 10 years old (selling popcorn on the street), through years of importing clothes in suitcases, quitting employment, navigating family pressure, and eventually opening a flagship store at Village Market. She shares the behind-the-scenes realities of growth, the fear of dead stock, imposter syndrome, and why consistency matters more than speed. This episode is especially for women who are: Thinking about starting a business Growing slowly and wondering if they’re “behind” Learning to trust their intuition alongside logic Navigating fear, faith, and self-belief In this episode, we talk about: Starting a business with what you have Why growth is rarely overnight The fear of dead stock and financial risk Quitting employment to bet on yourself Consistency as a business strategy Trusting intuition and feminine leadership Sustainability and slow fashion Affirmations, faith, and doing things afraid ZIA’s reminder is simple but powerful: “Believe in your idea so much it has no choice but to materialize.” 🔗 Connect with Zia Africa @nandigirl_ on instagram @zianyamari on TikTok @ziafrica on both IG & TikTok website: www.ziaafrica.com. Physical location: Village Market, New Wing, 1st floor. 🔗 More from Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 If this episode resonates, share it with a mannerless (or almost mannerless) woman in your life and don’t forget to follow or subscribe so you never miss a new episode.
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When Your Light Makes People Uncomfortable: How to Stop Dimming Yourself in Relationships | Mid Week Tease
12/17/2025
When Your Light Makes People Uncomfortable: How to Stop Dimming Yourself in Relationships | Mid Week Tease
What happens when your growth starts to shift your relationships? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango explores the quiet, often painful realization that not everyone in your life knows how to sit with your light. This episode unpacks how dimming yourself can show up subtly, why some relationships struggle when you expand, and how to let go without bitterness, blame, or drama. It’s a reminder that you don’t need to make yourself smaller to belong and that release can be an act of self-respect. In this episode, we explore: Why personal growth can make some people uncomfortable The subtle ways we dim our joy, confidence, and presence How to recognize relationships that require self-erasure Letting go without villainizing people you outgrow Grieving relationships that can’t meet you where you are Choosing yourself without guilt 🔗 Stay Connected with Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 356
12/14/2025
My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 356
In this final episode of Gachambi’s three-part story on Legally Clueless, we sit with the quiet, life-altering chapters that come after survival, grief, sobriety, faith, and the ongoing work of becoming. After being admitted to the bar in November 2023, Gachambi reflects on navigating unemployment, rebuilding her legal career at her own pace, and confronting the reality that being without work is often a systemic failure, not a personal one Gachambi 3. But the heart of this episode lies in the personal. She speaks openly about grief, losing her father, realising years later what “life without dad” truly means, and learning that grief does not have a timeline. Instead of trying to heal “correctly,” she chooses to honour her father by living fully and truthfully Gachambi 3. Gachambi also shares her sobriety journey, quitting alcohol in 2022 after years of heavy drinking, alcohol-induced health issues, and emotional numbing. She reflects on the clarity, discipline, and emotional presence sobriety brought into her life, and why choosing to be sober became one of the most life-affirming decisions she’s ever made. This episode is a powerful reminder that: Grief doesn’t end, it changes shape Sobriety is about choosing presence, not punishment You’re allowed to reinvent yourself at your own pace Your best version is still ahead of you Faith, community, and self-honesty can carry you through seasons that feel unbearable If you are grieving a loved one, rebuilding your life, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or learning how to live again after loss, this story will meet you gently. Plug into the Legally Clueless Africa ecosystem Newsletter: Submit your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Instagram: TikTok: YouTube (For Mannerless Women):
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The Truth About Vaginas: Dr. Sule Breaks Down Myths, Safety & Intimate Wellness | For Mannerless Women
12/11/2025
The Truth About Vaginas: Dr. Sule Breaks Down Myths, Safety & Intimate Wellness | For Mannerless Women
In this fearless and deeply educational episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Dr. Kristina Sule, one of only two cosmetic gynecologists in Kenya, for a groundbreaking conversation on vaginal health, vulva education, harmful practices, and what intimate wellness truly means for women at every age. Together, they unpack topics we were never taught, including: The difference between the vulva and the vagina How millions of nerves make the clitoris one of the most sensitive organs in the body Why the vagina is a self-cleansing organ What’s actually “normal” when it comes to vulva appearance Harmful Practices & Dangerous Myths Dr. Sule breaks down the real risks behind: Vaginal steaming “Vajacials” Yoni pearls, oils, sweets & inserts DIY lightening creams … and how some contain substances potent enough to cause vaginal cancer. Safe Alternatives & The Science of Cosmetic Gynecology We explore medically sound options for: Tightness Lubrication Dryness after childbirth or menopause Aesthetic concerns Intimate wellness across life stages (including her clients in their 80s!) What Intimate Wellness Really Means “It’s when your intimate life is pain-free, comfortable, confident, and enjoyable — not mechanical.” This episode empowers women to: Understand their anatomy Seek help safely Let go of shame Exercise agency over their bodies Know what to look for when choosing a licensed provider You deserve the absolute best reproductive and intimate health. 🔗 Legally Clueless Africa Links Newsletter: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Submit your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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You Don’t Need a New You in January: A Kinder Way to Start the Year | Mid Week Tease
12/09/2025
You Don’t Need a New You in January: A Kinder Way to Start the Year | Mid Week Tease
As the year comes to a close, the pressure to reinvent ourselves starts to rise. “New year, new me” culture tells us we must transform, overhaul our habits, set 20 resolutions, and show up in January as a completely new woman. But what if you don’t have to? In this Mid Week Tease episode, Adelle Onyango offers a soothing, truth-filled conversation about stepping into the new year gently, without burnout, shame, or the pressure to rebuild yourself from scratch. We explore: Why January reinvention culture creates unnecessary pressure How the self-improvement industry profits from women feeling “not enough” What gentler, more realistic growth models look like Why healing and change don’t follow calendar timelines How to honour the version of you that carried you through this year Soft, sustainable shifts you can embrace instead of drastic reinventions This episode is for anyone feeling exhausted, uncertain, reflective, or overwhelmed by “new year expectations.” You deserve a beginning that feels kind, not punishing. Listen to more from the Legally Clueless Africa network: Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 354
12/07/2025
My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 354
In this episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares Part 2 of Gachambi’s powerful and deeply honest story, a testimony of resilience through toxic workplaces, repeated exam failures, sexual harassment in the legal world, and the long, winding road toward becoming an advocate of the High Court of Kenya. After passing only four out of nine bar exams, Gachambi faced disappointment, self-doubt, and the pressure to keep going when giving up felt easier. She takes us through the emotional weight of resitting exams over two years, the inner dialogue of remembering “the smart girl she once was,” and the moment she finally passed her final papers in 2023. But her academic journey was only part of the story. In this episode she also opens up about: • Surviving toxic legal workplaces that drained her mentally and physically • Sexual harassment from seniors in the profession — and the silence surrounding it • Being fired just weeks before her admission to the bar • Navigating unemployment, anxiety, and the pressure to “have it all figured out” • Rediscovering her purpose through humanitarian law and volunteering • The role faith plays in her rebuilding This episode is a raw reflection on what it means to survive workplaces that weren’t built to protect you, how failure can become a teacher, and how purpose sometimes reveals itself in the ashes of what fell apart. If you’re in a season of career confusion, burnout, or feeling unseen in your workplace, this story will hold you gently. Plug into the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter signup: Story submission: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Instagram: TikTok: YouTube (For Mannerless Women):
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Why Friendships End: Kui Mwai on Boundaries, Loneliness & the Truth About Adult Connections | For Mannerless Women
12/04/2025
Why Friendships End: Kui Mwai on Boundaries, Loneliness & the Truth About Adult Connections | For Mannerless Women
Journalist and writer Kui Mwai joins Adelle for an unfiltered, deeply relatable conversation on adult friendships: why they end, how they evolve, and what it means to outgrow people you still love. In this episode, they unpack: ✨ Why Kui revisited four former friendships for her viral Vogue article ✨ What really happens during friendship fallouts, guilt, anxiety, disappointment ✨ Why adult friendship feels so different from school-era connection ✨ The loneliness and emotional risk of solitude ✨ Navigating boundaries in a culture that isn’t always taught them ✨ The pain of friendships that “fizzle” with no explanation ✨ How to rebuild connection without losing yourself ✨ Why friendship seasons are normal and nothing is wrong with you Kui also opens up about her writing journey, her upcoming novel, and what solitude taught her about inner strength. If you’ve ever questioned your friendships or felt guilty for choosing yourself, this episode will feel like a warm exhale. LINKS Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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When Joy Feels Out of Reach: Navigating Burnout, Numbness & Seasonal Pressure | Mid Week Tease
12/03/2025
When Joy Feels Out of Reach: Navigating Burnout, Numbness & Seasonal Pressure | Mid Week Tease
This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle opens up a gentle, grounding conversation for anyone who feels emotionally out of sync with a season that demands joy. If you're navigating burnout, numbness, sadness, or simply feel “flat” during the holidays, this episode offers validation, psychology-backed insights, and practical tools to help you honour your emotional truth. We explore why joy sometimes feels far away, from allostatic load and emotional blunting to comparison culture and end-year fatigue and how to give yourself permission to feel exactly how you feel. Adelle also shares personal reflections and science-supported exercises to help you reconnect with yourself in soft, realistic ways. Whether you're overwhelmed, exhausted, or just not in a festive mood, this episode reminds you that you’re not broken, not behind, and not alone. Your humanity is welcome here. In This Episode You’ll Learn: Why some people feel numb, low, or disconnected during the festive season How burnout and emotional overload affect your ability to feel joy The psychological roots of emotional flattening: allostatic load, emotional blunting & seasonal depression How societal pressure creates “performative joy” Personal reflections from Adelle on seasons when joy felt out of reach Science-backed practices to support you through this season: Name It To Tame It (neuroscience-backed emotion labeling) Micro-Joy Scan (positive psychology) A 30-second nervous system reset A CBT-inspired reframing for lowering unrealistic expectations A “permission slip” exercise to soothe internal shame Why joy eventually returns and how to create room for it gently Perfect For You If You’re Experiencing: End-of-year burnout Emotional numbness Seasonal depression Comparison-triggered shame Pressure to be joyful Low energy, anxiety, or overwhelm A desire for honest, soothing companionship Explore More from Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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When Joy Feels Out of Reach: Navigating Burnout, Numbness & Seasonal Pressure | Mid Week Tease
12/03/2025
When Joy Feels Out of Reach: Navigating Burnout, Numbness & Seasonal Pressure | Mid Week Tease
This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle opens up a gentle, grounding conversation for anyone who feels emotionally out of sync with a season that demands joy. If you're navigating burnout, numbness, sadness, or simply feel “flat” during the holidays, this episode offers validation, psychology-backed insights, and practical tools to help you honour your emotional truth. We explore why joy sometimes feels far away, from allostatic load and emotional blunting to comparison culture and end-year fatigue and how to give yourself permission to feel exactly how you feel. Adelle also shares personal reflections and science-supported exercises to help you reconnect with yourself in soft, realistic ways. Whether you're overwhelmed, exhausted, or just not in a festive mood, this episode reminds you that you’re not broken, not behind, and not alone. Your humanity is welcome here. In This Episode You’ll Learn: Why some people feel numb, low, or disconnected during the festive season How burnout and emotional overload affect your ability to feel joy The psychological roots of emotional flattening: allostatic load, emotional blunting & seasonal depression How societal pressure creates “performative joy” Personal reflections from Adelle on seasons when joy felt out of reach Science-backed practices to support you through this season: Name It To Tame It (neuroscience-backed emotion labeling) Micro-Joy Scan (positive psychology) A 30-second nervous system reset A CBT-inspired reframing for lowering unrealistic expectations A “permission slip” exercise to soothe internal shame Why joy eventually returns and how to create room for it gently Perfect For You If You’re Experiencing: End-of-year burnout Emotional numbness Seasonal depression Comparison-triggered shame Pressure to be joyful Low energy, anxiety, or overwhelm A desire for honest, soothing companionship Explore More from Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming | Legally Clueless Ep 354
12/01/2025
My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming | Legally Clueless Ep 354
In this week’s episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares Part 1 of Gachambi’s powerful story a deeply human journey through childhood displacement, bullying, grief, academic pressure, and the long road back to herself. Born and raised in Kasarani, Gachambi grew up a brilliant child… until post-election violence disrupted her life and forced a school change that altered everything. She opens up about being bullied in high school, navigating independence for the first time, discovering club culture in university, losing her father while in first year, and silently battling depression she didn’t have the language for. Through community, friendship, faith, and sheer resilience, she kept going even when she wasn’t sure she could. In Part 1, you’ll hear: Growing up between stability and sudden upheaval How bullying shaped her fear of physical harm The pressures of being a “smart girl” and eldest daughter Drinking, club life, and the escape it offered The unexpected loss of her father and her emotional shutdown How unprocessed grief followed her into adulthood The role of community in rebuilding her academic life The complicated balance of identity, expectations, and survival This story is an honest look at the messy, nonlinear path of becoming and the quiet battles many people carry. Listen, reflect, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone. Plug Into The Legally Clueless Africa Ecosystem WATCH: For Mannerless Women, raw conversations with African women rewriting the rules of womanhood. YouTube: LISTEN: The Midweek Tease grounding weekly reflections with Adelle. JOIN US: Sign up for our newsletter & submit your story: Newsletter signup: Story submission: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 FOLLOW: Instagram: TikTok:
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When You Feel Like You Didn’t Do Enough This Year | Mid Week Tease
11/25/2025
When You Feel Like You Didn’t Do Enough This Year | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle opens up a grounding, compassionate conversation for anyone ending the year with that heavy feeling of “I didn’t do enough.” If you’re wrestling with shame, comparison, or pressure to have a picture-perfect end-of-year story, this episode is your reminder that growth isn’t linear, timelines aren’t universal, and your quiet seasons matter too. Adelle explores: • Why end-year pressure amplifies shame and self-criticism • How unrealistic expectations shape our sense of “not enough” • The truth about nonlinear growth and “foundation years” • Gentle reframes that help you recognise the progress you actually made • A simple self-recognition practice to close the year with kindness • How to release comparison culture and return to your own pace It’s a soft landing spot in a season that can feel overwhelming and a needed reminder that your story doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s to be valid. LINKS Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Story submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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Preeclampsia, Pressure & Becoming PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 353
11/23/2025
Preeclampsia, Pressure & Becoming PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 353
Episode 353 continues the powerful journey of Ciru Karimi, whose pregnancy story took a terrifying turn after a sudden preeclampsia diagnosis at 26 weeks. In Part 2, she shares what happened after her emergency delivery, from the shock of seeing her premature son for the first time, to the emotional weight of the NICU, and the long path toward healing. In this episode, Ciru opens up about: • Delivering at 29 weeks after severe preeclampsia • The fear and numbness that followed her baby’s birth • Daily NICU visits, kangaroo care, and milk expression • The mental load of caring for a 1.2kg premature baby • Postpartum depression and the moment she realised she needed therapy • Navigating societal pressure to “have another child” • Her husband’s hidden emotional burden during the crisis • The long recovery, the second pregnancy, and finding the right doctor • Why preeclampsia awareness is urgently needed for African women • The need for more support systems for preemies and their parents This is a story about survival, motherhood, trauma, mental health, and the resilience it takes to keep going when society keeps demanding more. If you’ve experienced preeclampsia, premature birth, NICU life, postpartum depression, or pressure around motherhood, you are not alone. Ciru’s story holds space for so many women who’ve endured these journeys in silence. Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter → Instagram → TikTok → YouTube → Submit your story → forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 #LegallyCluelessAfrica #PreeclampsiaStories #PrematureBirth #NICUJourney #AfricanMothers #PostpartumDepression #PregnancyComplications #MentalHealthAwareness #AdelleOnyango
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Why You’re Not “Just Angry”: The Hidden Emotion Underneath | Mid Week Tease
11/19/2025
Why You’re Not “Just Angry”: The Hidden Emotion Underneath | Mid Week Tease
This week on the Midweek Tease, Adelle unpacks one of the most misunderstood emotional patterns: how fear often disguises itself as anger. Rooted in psychology and the lived experiences of African women, this episode explores why we react the way we do, what’s happening in the brain and nervous system, and how to understand the emotions hiding beneath anger. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why anger is often a secondary emotion How fear, shame, overwhelm, and hurt drive our reactions The “Fight Response” and what it means for your mental health How childhood, culture, trauma, and pressure shape our emotional patterns The four faces of anger and how they show up in relationships Simple psychology-backed tools to regulate anger with compassion How to identify what you really need in heated moments It’s a soft, grounding episode for anyone who has snapped, shut down, withdrawn, or felt overwhelmed and later wondered, “Where did that come from?” If this resonates, share it with another woman who needs permission to feel without shame. Connect With Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 #MidweekTease #LegallyCluelessAfrica #EmotionalWellness #AfricanWomen #AngerManagement #FearResponse #HealingJourney #MentalHealthAwareness
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Preeclampsia, Pressure & Becoming PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 352
11/16/2025
Preeclampsia, Pressure & Becoming PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 352
Episode 352 of the Legally Clueless Podcast features Part 1 of Ciru Karimi’s powerful story a deeply honest journey through childhood, societal expectations, studying abroad, navigating adulthood in Nairobi, and the frightening moment her first pregnancy takes an unexpected turn. In this episode, Ciru opens up about: • Growing up between Donholm and Westlands, and the identity shifts that came with it • Culture shocks in primary, high school, and university • The transition from campus to job-hunting in Kenya • Societal pressure on African women around marriage and children • How anxiety first showed up in her life • Her complicated pregnancy and preeclampsia diagnosis at 28 weeks • The emotional, physical, and mental toll of a high-risk pregnancy • Emergency delivery and the fear of navigating premature birth This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in African women’s stories, preeclampsia experiences, pregnancy challenges, motherhood in Kenya, and the unseen emotional labour so many women carry. Next week, Part 2 continues Ciru’s journey as she shares what happened after her emergency delivery, life with a premature baby, and the resilience she didn’t know she had. Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Sign up for our newsletter → IG → TikTok → YouTube → Submit your story → forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 #LegallyClueless #LegallyCluelessAfrica #AfricanPodcasts #PreeclampsiaStories #PregnancyJourneyKenya #WomenHealing #MotherhoodStoriesAfrica
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Redefining Ambition: From Hustle to Harmony | Mid Week Tease
11/11/2025
Redefining Ambition: From Hustle to Harmony | Mid Week Tease
As the year winds down, many of us are running on fumes, juggling deadlines, expectations, and the pressure to “finish strong.” But what if success didn’t have to come with exhaustion? What if ambition could feel soft, steady, and nourishing? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores how to redefine ambition, moving away from hustle culture and into harmony. It’s a reflective conversation about ambition that honors wellness, rest, and purpose without guilt. In this episode, Adelle shares: - The myth of hustle culture and how it silently shapes our self-worth - How burnout has become an identity — and why that’s dangerous - What ambition looks like when you center peace instead of performance - Practical ways to build dreams that don’t drain you As we reach the end of the year, this is your reminder that you don’t need to prove your worth through exhaustion. You can still be ambitious and rested. Driven and grounded. Focused and free. Join the conversation: How are you redefining ambition for yourself this season? What does success feel like when peace becomes part of it? LINKS: ✨ Newsletter signup: 📱 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 📝 Story submission form:
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Healing, Purpose & Her Grandmother’s Spirit | Legally Clueless Ep 351
11/09/2025
Healing, Purpose & Her Grandmother’s Spirit | Legally Clueless Ep 351
In this episode, we meet Nile Dawta, a reggae singer, songwriter, producer, and gender activist from Shauri Moyo. Her story is a moving journey through identity, purpose, and spiritual awakening. She shares how growing up next to Kamukunji Grounds shaped her activism, how she walked away from a stable job to follow her music, and how heartbreak, loss, and ancestral connection led her back to herself. This story beautifully reminds us that healing and creativity often flow from the same source: the ancestors who walk with us. Connect with Legally Clueless Africa: 🌍 📩 Sign up for our newsletter: 📱 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 🗣️ Share your story:
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Healing, Purpose & Her Grandmother’s Spirit | Legally Clueless Ep 351
11/09/2025
Healing, Purpose & Her Grandmother’s Spirit | Legally Clueless Ep 351
In this episode, we meet Nile Dawta, a reggae singer, songwriter, producer, and gender activist from Shauri Moyo. Her story is a moving journey through identity, purpose, and spiritual awakening. She shares how growing up next to Kamukunji Grounds shaped her activism, how she walked away from a stable job to follow her music, and how heartbreak, loss, and ancestral connection led her back to herself. This story beautifully reminds us that healing and creativity often flow from the same source: the ancestors who walk with us. Connect with Legally Clueless Africa: 🌍 📩 Sign up for our newsletter: 📱 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 🗣️ Share your story:
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When You Feel Behind in Life (You’re Not Late, You’re Right on Time) | Mid Week Tease
11/05/2025
When You Feel Behind in Life (You’re Not Late, You’re Right on Time) | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet but familiar feeling, that sense that everyone else is moving faster than you. You know it, the comparison, the “shoulds,” the sinking thought that maybe you’ve missed your moment. In this episode, Adelle explores timeline anxiety, how it shows up, why we experience it, and how to soften it with truth and self-compassion. In this episode, she shares: Why “life timelines” are myths we inherit, not truths we must follow How comparison culture disconnects us from our own rhythm Why growth isn’t linear, it loops, pauses, and redirects How to redefine success on your terms This is your reminder that healing, purpose, and success are not races they’re rhythms. And you can’t be behind on a path that’s uniquely yours. LINKS: ✨ Newsletter signup: 📱 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 📝 Story submission form:
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Becoming Ann: Shame, Silence & Self-Acceptance | Legally Clueless Ep 350
11/03/2025
Becoming Ann: Shame, Silence & Self-Acceptance | Legally Clueless Ep 350
In this episode, Ann shares a deeply personal journey that began in the hallways of all-girls schools in Kenya, where curiosity, identity, and faith collided. She speaks openly about being labelled and isolated for exploring her identity, how her family and community reacted, and the painful but powerful road that led her back to self-acceptance and healing. This story is a reminder of how silence and misunderstanding can wound but also how courage, honesty, and grace can rebuild us. Listen now to hear Ann’s journey of becoming through shame, silence, and ultimately, self-acceptance. 🔗 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story:
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Becoming Unapologetic: Apondi On Money, Boundaries & Living Free | For Mannerless Women
10/30/2025
Becoming Unapologetic: Apondi On Money, Boundaries & Living Free | For Mannerless Women
In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Apondi a life coach and relationship minister for a raw, intergenerational conversation on womanhood, freedom, and authenticity. Apondi opens up about the importance of financial independence as a form of agency, the never-ending work of setting and protecting boundaries, and how authenticity can irritate toxic people who prefer conformity. She also challenges how we socialize both girls and boys unpacking how neglecting the boy child harms everyone and reminds us that growth never ends. This is an episode about reclaiming power, choosing dignity, and living unashamedly as your fullest self. Listen, reflect, and share with every woman learning to live on her own terms. 🔗 Join our community: Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com Instagram: TikTok: @legallycluelessafrica YouTube: Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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When Healing Feels Lonely (and How to Move Through It) | The Mid Week Tease
10/29/2025
When Healing Feels Lonely (and How to Move Through It) | The Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the part of healing we rarely talk about, the loneliness that comes with growth. When you start choosing yourself, setting boundaries, and evolving, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost your people. But often, that loneliness is a sign that you’re shedding what no longer aligns with your peace. In this episode, Adelle explores: 💭 The quiet grief of outgrowing people 🌱 The in-between season between who you were and who you’re becoming ❤️ Why choosing yourself can feel like abandonment 🌻 How to find new forms of belonging that match your healed self If your healing feels isolating right now, this episode will remind you that solitude isn’t punishment, it’s preparation. LINKS: ✨ Newsletter signup: 📱 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 📝 Story submission form:
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When Healing Feels Lonely (and How to Move Through It) | The Mid Week Tease
10/29/2025
When Healing Feels Lonely (and How to Move Through It) | The Mid Week Tease
This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the part of healing we rarely talk about, the loneliness that comes with growth. When you start choosing yourself, setting boundaries, and evolving, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost your people. But often, that loneliness is a sign that you’re shedding what no longer aligns with your peace. In this episode, Adelle explores: 💭 The quiet grief of outgrowing people 🌱 The in-between season between who you were and who you’re becoming ❤️ Why choosing yourself can feel like abandonment 🌻 How to find new forms of belonging that match your healed self If your healing feels isolating right now, this episode will remind you that solitude isn’t punishment, it’s preparation. LINKS: ✨ Newsletter signup: 📱 Instagram: 🎵 TikTok: ▶️ YouTube: 📝 Story submission form:
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Trusting Her Intuition: When Zayn Needed Surgery PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 349
10/26/2025
Trusting Her Intuition: When Zayn Needed Surgery PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 349
In part two of Steve's story, we journey through one of the most vulnerable seasons of his life, navigating his newborn son Zayn’s medical crisis, multiple surgeries, and the weight of financial strain. Steve opens up about the reality of asking for help, what fatherhood has taught him about presence, and how that season reshaped his view on love, faith, and masculinity. This is a story about courage in vulnerability, partnership in pain, and the quiet strength it takes to keep going. In this episode, you’ll hear: The emotional and financial weight of a child’s medical emergency. What it means to ask for help and let go of ego. Fatherhood, faith, and learning to be fully present. Deep gratitude for community and love that sustains through crisis. The transformation that happens when hardship forces reflection. Share your story: Have a powerful story to tell? Submit it here: Stay connected: Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Story submission form:
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Unlearning the Shame Around Menopause | For Mannerless Women
10/24/2025
Unlearning the Shame Around Menopause | For Mannerless Women
This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Veronica, founder of The Ova Circle and a certified menopause workplace coach, to unpack what it really means to thrive through menopause. Veronica opens up about her personal journey, from confusing symptoms and dismissive doctors to discovering perimenopause, finding her voice, and building a thriving community for women going through the same. She breaks down the gaps in healthcare, the power of holistic approaches, and why it’s time for workplaces to become menopause-friendly. Together, Adelle and Veronica explore: The difference between menopause and perimenopause. How shame and silence isolate women in this phase. Building a toolkit that actually supports you, from lifestyle changes to medical options. Why African women’s menopause stories must be centered in our data and media. Refusing to disappear, aging loudly, proudly, and mannerlessly. If you’ve ever felt unseen or unprepared for this phase of womanhood, this episode will leave you informed, validated, and inspired. 🔗 Connect with The Ova Circle & Veronica: Veronica Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veromamaverushka OVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.ova.circle OVA Website: https://theovacircle.com OVA Whatsapp Community: https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029Vb0GAS96RGJA5U6qLr1b - OVA LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-ova-circle/ OVA Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YSmenYKtxbQPe85ahDViC?si=8P5OtlmfST6F5Od_wzIc8w OVA YouTube: https://youtube.com/@TheOvaCircle?si=YMTHuQKMSLQ1Z8g8 Menopause Guidelines: Australian Menopause Society Guidelines (referenced in the episode): https://www.menopause.org.au/health-info 🌐 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story:
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Grace In The Luteal Phase | Mid Week Tease
10/22/2025
Grace In The Luteal Phase | Mid Week Tease
This week on The Midweek Tease, Adelle opens up about a phase most women move through quietly: the luteal phase. That stretch of time before your period when energy dips, sensitivity heightens, and the world feels a little heavier. She unpacks what’s happening in your body, the pressure society puts on women to perform consistently, and how we can meet ourselves with grace instead of guilt. You’ll learn: 🌙 What the luteal phase really is and how it affects your emotions 💛 Why “doing less” is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom 🕯️ How to adjust your rhythm, rest intentionally, and respond kindly to your body 🎟️ Wellness Talk Alert: Join our next Legally Clueless Africa Wellness Talk on October 25th with Susan Wanjiku, founder of The Legacy Hub and SHE-E-O. Topic: Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers. We’ll explore: 💡 Building sustainable income streams 💬 Setting money boundaries ⚖️ Cultivating emotional wellness around money 🎟️ Tickets available: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/68e77e4e1f5d0c1f082da173 🔗 LINKS: Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Story submission form:
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Trusting Her Intuition: When Zayn Needed Surgery | Legally Clueless Ep 348
10/20/2025
Trusting Her Intuition: When Zayn Needed Surgery | Legally Clueless Ep 348
In part one of Steve Ataru’s story, we journey through Nairobi childhoods, the pressure of “golden opportunities,” and the courage it takes to start over. The moment that anchors this episode is raw and unforgettable: Steve’s newborn, Zayn, suddenly needs surgery and his wife’s intuition is the compass that saves precious time. This is a story about choosing alignment over approval, and learning to trust the wisdom right beside you. In this episode, you’ll hear: Growing up across Eastlands, Juja, and Lang’ata, and how environments shape resilience. Leaving a partial scholarship in Russia to return home and begin again. Surviving the in-between: hustling, odd jobs, and rebuilding identity through creativity. Dating, intention, and choosing partnership on purpose. A mother’s intuition: the Sunday morning crisis that led to Zayn’s surgery, and how it changed Steve’s outlook on partnership and parenting. Upcoming Wellness Talk: Saturday October 25 We’re hosting a special session with Susan Wanjiku (The Legacy Hub, SHE-E-O): Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers. What we’ll unpack: Building financial systems that support calm (not chaos) Mindset shifts to repair your money relationship Practical tools for irregular income, paying yourself, and planning rest Tickets & details: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=69637 Stay connected: Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Story submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8
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Trusting Your Body: The Truth About Birth, Pain & Power | For Mannerless Women
10/16/2025
Trusting Your Body: The Truth About Birth, Pain & Power | For Mannerless Women
In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Wambui Wanjau, a home-birthing midwife and birth doula, to unpack the truths about pregnancy and birthing that too many women are never told. From being shouted at in delivery rooms to the calm of candlelit births, Wambui shares her journey across Kenya, Finland, and Australia, and what she’s learned about how women can reclaim power in one of life’s most sacred experiences. This episode dives deep into: Why so many women feel unseen and unheard during childbirth How to listen to and trust your body during pregnancy The real importance of calcium, vitamin D, and nutrition How partners can truly support new mothers The emotional realities of postpartum life What it really means to have a doula and create a birth plan that centers you This is an honest, soulful conversation about pregnancy, pain, power, and the beauty of trusting your body. Listen now and share it with the women in your life who need to be reminded that birth is not something to fear, it’s something to reclaim. 🔗 Legally Clueless Africa Links Newsletter signup: Instagram: TikTok: YouTube: Share your story:
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