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Navigating Through All-or-Nothing Thinking

Lifting the Lifters

Release Date: 08/22/2025

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Always, Never, Either or.

These are words that are often used when we get stuck in "All or Nothing" thinking.  Our brains love to know, to hae clarity and understanding, so it is very easy for quick decisions and judgements to be made. However, sometimes these quick judgments lead to all-or-nothing thinking that isn't correct and allows little room for middle ground or a grey area.

In today's podcast, we are going to talk about all-or-nothing thinking.  We are going to discuss some examples of some times I've seen this show up in myself, my coaching, and with family, and how to navigate through this!

First, instead of using the more rigid words like always and never, try using more flexible language.  

Second, catch yourself when you are using all-or-nothing or black and white talk.  This awareness is a HUGE first step!

Another tip, say BOTH! Rath than assume that things have to be either/or, they can be BOTH! We are all awesome and flawed!

Ask Questions! "Is this true?" Is always a great place to start!

And last, COMPASSION! Talk to yourself like a trusted friend, family member, or the Savior.

As you practice these tips even one time a day, this will give you so much leverage and awareness on your thought patterns and expand our all-or-nothing thinking into an approach with room for the middle ground!