460. Why Realtors Ghost You, And What to Do About It (Part 1)
Release Date: 10/08/2025
Loan Officer Leadership
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So, you had a great meeting with a qualified agent… great conversation, good connection, and then… nothing. Silence. Crickets. In Part 2 of Why Realtors Ghost You, Steve Kyles and Frank Garay break down the second big mistake that causes great opportunities to fade: weak or inconsistent follow-up. You’ll learn: Why most “ghosting” isn’t personal, it’s just timing and consistency The data behind how long it really takes for agents to respond How to structure your 12-week follow-up plan (and what to say each week) The three things agents actually want from a lender… hint:...
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In this episode, Steve Kyles and Frank Garay dig into one of the biggest frustrations for loan officers: getting ghosted by realtors. But the real issue might not be what you think.
You'll learn:
- The #1 mistake that makes agents stop responding
- How to shift from product pitching to relational prospecting
- Why asking better questions builds trust (and gets more callbacks)
- The psychology behind why “ghosting” is often just a false story we tell ourselves
- Real-world examples of how persistence leads to big deals… even after weeks of silence
Stay top of mind, follow the plan, and stop letting feelings dictate your follow-up.
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