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Wondering if Your Drinking Isn't "Bad Enough" to Quit?

To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women

Release Date: 05/22/2024

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Episode 291

Today, I’m answering the question: What if my drinking isn’t “bad enough” to quit? 

I’ve heard this question from midlife women for years and asked myself this question for two years.

f you are on the verge of going alcohol-free but aren’t 100% certain that your drinking is at a place where you “need” to remove alcohol completely, this is the episode for you.

Even though my drinking was considered “bad enough” to quit on paper and in my heart, it didn’t mean that I stopped. For two years, I tried to justify and compare my drinking to others whose drinking was worse than mine.

The purpose of this episode is to share some good news - you don’t have to measure your drinking by “bad” to go alcohol-free.

I've got you, friend! 

 

During this episode, you’ll hear:

  • My story and reasons why I was trying to moderate my drinking and make alcohol “work”

  • What I envisioned of someone who had to quit drinking, and why I resisted being a sober woman

  • Why the consequences of my drinking and others doesn’t make it easier to quit drinking

  • The good news! Why you don’t have to measure your choice to quit drinking by labels or by comparing yourself to others

  • How Gray Area drinking plays a role in our choice to stop drinking on our own accord

  • The questions you can ask yourself if you are wondering if your drinking isn’t “bad enough” to quit

 

Ask yourself these questions to learn more about where you are with your drinking and where you want to be:

  1. Why are you wondering if your drinking isn’t bad enough to quit? Is it to validate quitting or continuing to drink?

  2. If my drinking is not bad enough, how bad does it have to get? When is enough enough? 

  3. What is holding you back from going alcohol-free?

  4. What if you allow yourself to create an alcohol-free lifestyle not because your drinking is bad but because YOU want better and different than what alcohol gives you? 

Don’t compare how you feel about alcohol and your drinking to anyone else - including me. Stay in your lane because that is where you will figure it out. 👊🏻

 

Mentioned in this episode:

The Hardest Part of Getting Sober

Email me with a question you would like me to answer. 

 

How I can help you:

The Daily Sobriety Toolkit

Join Team Alcohol-Free

Plan A Private Coaching

 

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There is another option besides drinking in midlife.

If you liked this episode and want to take a few minutes to support the podcast, I want to encourage you to leave a positive rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

So many women out there don’t know there is an “alcohol-free” option and are struggling with their drinking.

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