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Staying Alcohol-Free on the "Patio" This Summer

To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women

Release Date: 06/18/2025

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Episode 323

Welcome back to the To 50 and Beyond Podcast! I've missed being here with you. Coming your way are brand new episodes for the summer, starting with today's episode, which is all about staying alcohol-free on the "patio" this summer. 

Your "patio" is any challenge, including a literal patio, that you are concerned may come between you and your alcohol-free lifestyle. 

What you’ll hear:

  • I'll help you identify what your specific summer triggers are instead of feeling overwhelmed by "not drinking all summer.”

  • The reason why trying to live the same summer as when you were drinking can leave you feeling let down. I share my own experience with patios, summer wines, and how I had to change things up.

  • Practical ways to transform your challenging spaces—whether that means skipping your Aunt Sally's barbecue or making your patio an alcohol-free friendly zone with new plants and glassware. I'll share how I went from avoiding my couch to creating new rituals, and how you can decide what works for you (and change your mind anytime).

We get one summer of 2025 - let's make it the one you want, not the one you've lived in the past. 

I'm with you! 

Thank you for listening! 

 

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TAF was established in 2023, and we are growing stronger together! If you feel like you've been missing out on alcohol-free girlfriends and coaching, join us today! 

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Check out these episodes next:

Listen When You Feel Left Out Because You Don't Drink

Outgrowing Yourself in Midlife

The Bright Side of Going Alcohol-Free in Midlife

 

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