On Returning to Audio Format
Beyond Success
Hello Listeners - I’m taking the podcast back to its roots as an audio-only, more improvisational show after experimenting with tightly scripted video episodes on YouTube. The new (old) format gives me more freedom to think out loud, follow ideas where they go, and focus on depth and voice over visuals. Warmly, David Tian, Ph.D.
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#73: Why Certainty Is Undermining Your Judgment
Beyond Success
Most smart people reach for values when they’re under a lot of pressure or stress. It feels responsible. Grounded. Mature. But under pressure, values often do the opposite of what they’re meant to do. Instead of anchoring thinking, they shut it down. Instead of sharpening judgment, they end the inquiry. Certainty replaces contact with reality, and the relief that follows feels like clarity, even when it isn’t. This pattern didn’t come from nowhere. You learned early that sounding sure keeps you safe. Speed earns trust. Confidence gets rewarded. That lesson helped you win, but it also...
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#72: No, Everybody Doesn't Have Their Own Truth
Beyond Success
Relativism has a seductive force behind it. It offers you short-term relief for your problems - internally, relationally, and professionally. And the worst part is that it works. For a while anyway. But relativist thinking also comes with a brutal, long-term cost: It separates you from reality! This separation is subtle. Most don’t realize it until the consequences can’t be ignored - and that takes a while. And perhaps the hardest thing to wrap your head around is that it becomes more alluring the smarter you are. In fact, this loss of calibration with reality uses your...
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#71: The Tragedy of Achievement: How Success Undermines Judgment
Beyond Success
A tragedy occurs when you reach a certain level of achievement: The mind starts to reorder itself for destruction instead of growth. Worst part? This happens so subtly that it goes completely unnoticed… until it’s too late. As achievements accumulate, decision quality erodes. Feedback arrives later and later, so mistakes don’t get corrected. They get built into systems and culture. By the time the error becomes clear, reversing it is costly or impossible. That’s the bad news. The good news? There’s a simple (but not easy) solution to this… but you might not like it because it...
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#70: How Power Distorts What You Notice
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There’s a pattern that’s so ingrained in the human psyche that Ancient Daoism noticed it long before psychology had language for cognition. It’s a pattern that sneaks up on almost every high achiever who tastes enough success. And it subtly erodes your judgement and strangles your emotional intelligence without your realizing. Worst part? The more intelligent you are, the faster your mind crumbles your judgement. And while this pattern doesn’t usually cause immediate failure, it can lead to something far worse down the road. Here’s the good news: In today’s show,...
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#69: How Success Degrades Clarity & Judgment
Beyond Success
When you’re just starting out in your career, the feedback loop is crystal clear. There’s a cause and effect to your actions that lead to instantaneous rewards or consequences. But the more success you achieve, the more muddled this signal becomes. And the more distorted your signal, the more stressed and burnt out you become… while your confidence and self-esteem slowly evaporate. Here’s the worst part: A muddled signal is a sign from your internal environment that it needs a software update. But it’s sneaky - fear disguises itself as prudence and internal...
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#68: Why Success Works, and You Still Feel Disconnected
Beyond Success
All of us were fed a certain modern promise of success: Work hard, become competent, and success follows. And you know what? Despite its flaws, it mostly works. Effort compounds. Competence pays off. Success arrives. But then something strange happened. The questions that matter most don’t go away. They get louder. Not questions about strategy or leverage. Questions about connection. Meaning. Why all of this still feels… flat. Here’s the part no one warns achievers about: The modern promise of success was never meant to answer those questions. And the more success works, the more...
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#67: What To Do When Achievement Stops Feeling Fulfilling
Beyond Success
If you base your entire identity around achievement, as many high achievers do, the consequences can turn fatal - internally. While building an identity around achievement can work in the short-term, you must eventually face the reality: A big part of your drive to achieve is deeply rooted in fear. This fear creates an internal friction that steals joy and presence from your life and gives you anxiety and disconnection and shame instead. But what if you could experience life without the constant grip of fear? The good news is you can get rid of it. The solution sounds quite simple, but...
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#66: Why Goodness Is the Only Path to True Inner Power
Beyond Success
Most high achievers aren't limited by a lack of talent or lack of opportunity. They're limited by the tension they carry inside their own nervous systems. This low-grade tension drains your energy and leads to burn out, it flattens your relationships and leads to heartbreak, it blurs your decision-making and leads to humiliation. So, where does this tension even come from? Your conscience. Each time you betray your values, your nervous system takes note and interprets it as internal chaos, which unleashes a slew of biological disadvantages: Cortisol ramps up, sleep gets...
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#65: The Inner Game of Leadership: 7 Phases to Upgrade Your Internal OS
Beyond Success
Most people who listen to this show don’t think of themselves as “high achievers.” They think of themselves as people who should be further ahead by now. They’ve lived with low-grade panic for so long, they don’t notice it anymore. But that pressure isn’t proof that you’re failing. It’s a signal: your Internal Operating System is overdue for an upgrade. In today’s episode, I break down the 7 Phase Inner Leadership Blueprint. It shows you why your old patterns bleed into every part of your life… how your current operating system was formed long before you took on real...
info_outlineMost people say they support sexual freedom. But when a woman—or man—actually lives it… they turn on them. Judgment. Outrage. Moral panic.
So here’s the real question: “Can you be sexually free and morally good?” And if you can, why does it trigger so much shame in others?
In this episode, I trace the ancient roots of sexual repression—from the kings and empires that hoarded mating opportunities, to the purity codes that disguised control as virtue. We’ll explore how sexual shame became moralized, why it still lingers even in our “modern” world, and what it means to live with integrity instead of fear.
You’ll also learn how honesty, consent, and autonomy aren’t loopholes in morality—they’re the very definition of it. And how the outrage against sexual freedom says more about the critic’s inner shame than about virtue itself.
This isn’t a defense of indulgence. It’s a call to moral clarity. Because true integrity isn’t restraint for its own sake—it’s honesty, compassion, and respect for freedom.
Listen now!
Show highlights include:
- What traditional moral frameworks get wrong about restraint and self denial. (1:35)
- Deep-seated reason most people still consider sex a “taboo” topic. (2:43)
- What actually happens when you repress your sexual desire. (6:12)
- “Moral residue” that clings to even the most progressive minds, and how to rinse it away. (6:31)
- Surprising way “food porn” debunks the classic argument for sexual morality. (9:47)
- The tenacity of sexual shame: Why it persists in society generation after generation. (15:10)
- “Impulse prison” and how to set yourself free from the urges that would keep you handcuffed. (16:32)
- How moral clarity affects sexual freedom. (18:03)
- Surprising way some female empowerment advocates become profoundly sexist. (19:52)
- Moral argument for authenticity in sex. And how it applies to all your important relationships. (22:46)
- Sneaky way pride fuels moral outrage. (29:58)
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