Letting Go of Control Doesn’t Make You Weak. It Makes You Powerful.
Morning Lives with Melissa Agnes
Release Date: 01/15/2026
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info_outlineControl can look like strength. But here is the hard truth we are working with this week: Control is a tool of fear.
In this episode, we go one level deeper with a question that so many leaders carry, even if they do not say it out loud:
"If I let go of my need to control, will I be weak? Will I be giving away my power?"
The answer is no. Releasing your grasp for control is not weakness. It is how you reclaim your power, because control is fear-based, and fear pulls you into survival. When you are leading from survival, you lose access to the steadiness, creativity, and clear thinking you actually need.
We also make a crucial distinction in this episode. Releasing your own fear-driven need to control is not the same as surrendering to someone else’s power-over behavior.
As always, we close with a grounding drop-in to help you get into coherence and return to the steadiness in your body, so you can move into your day aligned and clear.
This episode explores
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Why control comes from fear
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The question underneath control: what am I scared of?
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Why letting go of control is reclaiming power, not losing it
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The difference between self-leadership and “surrendering” to power-over dynamics
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A grounding drop-in to return to coherence and steadiness
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