069 - Uncovering Inner Darkness: From the Struggle to Self-Belief
Message to Our Kids
Today Benjamin shares a heartfelt recounting of his personal journey through a difficult time which caused significant emotional strain. Faced with pressures in relationships, business failures, and deep-seated childhood trauma, he faces it all with genuine honesty and emotion. He emphasizes the constant struggle to save others when he himself was feeling helpless. The speaker's wife, an energy healer, helps him to confront his inner struggles, which uncovers a childhood pattern of repressed anger and feelings of self-loathing. The speaker also highlights his realization of the destructive...
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067 - The Problem with Judging Others
Message to Our Kids
Thanks for your patience—life's been a whirlwind. Let me dive into a recent personal journey: completing my third Spartan Ultra at Killington Mountain. It's been a wild ride, filled with challenges and lessons. Three years ago, my coach asked what fitness challenge inspired me, and I chose the Spartan Ultra. Little did I know, it would lead to a deep bond with my friend Franco, as we both supported our wives through breast cancer. This year's race was intense—cramps, early knee pain, and a fellow racer not playing by the rules. His behavior...
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066 - No Retreat, No Surrender
Message to Our Kids
After some time away, we're back with exciting updates. Amid shifts in our Scendancy journey, we've witnessed incredible client transformations. Our approach to sharing our message has evolved, as discussed in this podcast. A decade ago, Spartan races ignited my warrior spirit. They mirrored my personal growth journey, replacing quitting with resilience. Overcoming obstacles fueled my confidence, leading to personal development. Fitness became my anchor, battling demons like alcoholism, and reshaping my mindset. Then the Realization hit: I'm solely responsible for my life....
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065 - Blended Family - Interview with Steve and Kelly Leitch
Message to Our Kids
Join me on this insightful episode of "Message to My Kids the Podcast". In this special interview, I sit down with the remarkable couple, Steve and Kelly Leitch , who have navigated the complexities of blending families, maintaining strong connections, and nurturing their faith. Steve and Kelly, married for nine years, share their unique journey of bringing together a blended family with six children. Through the highs and challenges, they've cultivated a powerful connection that revolves around open conversations, understanding each other's love languages, and embracing...
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064 - Hello from Sin City
Message to Our Kids
Embarking on this podcast episode feels like a heart-to-heart conversation, where I hope my words resonate with you on a personal level. From the surprising vantage point of Sin City, I'm your Reverend pondering the deeper meaning of this vibrant desert oasis. It's as if every dazzling light and meticulously crafted attraction holds a secret message for us. Beneath the surface allure of wealth, intimacy, and excitement, there lies a common yearning – a search for fulfillment and purpose. Many of us feel trapped in the darkness, concealing our struggles behind masks of having it...
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063 - Self Confident Imposter
Message to Our Kids
I've been going through a rough patch lately, feeling under the weather and all. But enough about that – today, let's talk about something we've all faced: the feeling of not being good enough. I've been there – the moments when doubt creeps in and we compare ourselves to others. Sometimes we put on a confident facade, hiding our insecurities. Other times, we let those insecurities keep us isolated, shying away from connections. But here's the real deal: we don't have to stay in this cycle. I've been through it, and I've discovered that tapping into faith,...
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062 - Couples are Not Ready
Message to Our Kids
These past months, we've been diving into powerful concepts for couples – almost like a spiritual armor that enriches relationships. It's all about embodying roles: Men holding a shield of unconditional love, a sanctuary of unwavering support in storms of emotion. This shield empowers partners to share and connect, finding solace in the embrace of love's invincibility. On the other side, women wield a reflective sword, intuitively mirroring their partners' hearts with a strength cultivated through spiritual growth. Yet, this journey isn't always straightforward. ...
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061 - Faith in Light or Dark
Message to Our Kids
In today's episode, I wanted to share something personal. The recent podcast episodes have been shorter due to me soaking up the summer moments, just like you. Let's talk about faith. This morning, thoughts about faith occupied my mind. Faith is believing in the unseen, embracing the promise that something remarkable awaits us. It's standing strong in uncertainty. Imagine us chatting about the flip side of faith. If faith is trust, then doubt and darkness are its opposites. Here's the thing: faith is universal. It fuels our anticipation for the yet-to-come. It's the hope that...
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060 - My Daughter Lost in the Darkness
Message to Our Kids
"Mom handles the kids." "Mom handles their emotional outbursts" "Mom deals with them when they're being little sh!ts" "Go talk to your mother if you're upset." "Go sit in your room until you calm the f#$% down." "I can't handle you right now - leave me alone." "I can't stand how you're acting right now." "I don't deal with the kids - that's her job." "I'm going to lose my f@$%ing mind right now!" "You're so emotional - why are you so emotional all the time??" All of these things I've said at one point in my journey as a...
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059 - When Children Become Weaponized
Message to Our Kids
When will you cease using your children as tools of emotional warfare? It's incredible how many parents completely step over this. You know, life's full of twists and turns, and I've found some pretty eye-opening insights I want to share with you, and if you're unaware of these things, then take heed, especially if you sit inside a divided Kingdom at home right now. Hard to believe, but only a tiny fraction of people throughout history have escaped the rat race of conflict and struggle. It's a real mess, especially in relationships, and sadly, our kids bear the brunt of it. I...
info_outlineWhen I stop you and give you tidings of the future and say:
"Don't condemn your family tree."
You're probably not aware that is what you are doing...
and you're not just doing it to your immediate family, but your larger extended family—your brothers, sisters, their spouses, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents etc etc who make up your family tree.
This is something I see EVEN INSIDE MY OWN FAMILY TREE and it continues to bother me every single day.
I often don't understand why people have such a blatant disregard for the life experience of the people on the other side of the condemnation...and I am especially baffled by family members, in the same tree and forest of trees do it as well.
To the point where the family members each would show a stranger on the street more care and comfort than their own family line who they treat with contempt and condemnation.
Want to come face to face with this for real instead of theoretically or conceptually?
Go sit in a graveyard and pretend you're dead in 20 minutes and write a letter to the family member your battling with, and watch what comes up.
The thing is....
When I work with people and help them uncover their struggles, I see a pattern. Deep-rooted pain and unresolved issues from the past keep resurfacing, causing conflicts within relationships. Over time, these unresolved pains can cause division and continue to greatly increase the distance within our extended families.
The truth is, much like you didn't get a choice in the color of the sky, or where you were born...
Family is family, and in my life, there's no bond stronger than that.
Now, maybe you're listening, and you have family members you're not connecting with. Perhaps there's an ongoing conflict that you've been sweeping under the rug for years. Well, let me tell you, it's time to address it.
Because every day you delay facing those unresolved issues, you're allowing pain and darkness to seep into your own family tree.
Remember, tolerating darkness within your family means you're likely tolerating it elsewhere in your life too.
Our time on this Earth is limited, and we need to make the most of it.
Let's not leave behind a legacy of broken relationships and pain.
Instead, let's be the ones who bring light into our family, mend the fractures, and restore the love that should flow through our veins.
"It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start." - Mother Teresa
Blessings on your path,
Rev. Benjamin Norman
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