Message to Our Kids
Every single day we are engaged in an eternal struggle between light and dark. Every single day the majority of human beings are giving their life over to the forces of darkness, the shadow, the devil, or whatever you would personally call the forces of division. These forces are actively trying to divide us on the inside, effectively sidelining us from the life we are called to, keeping us playing small and out of the game of sharing light and healing with those in need. Message to My Kids the Podcast is a podcast celebrating life in today's modern world, while getting back to the balance between light and dark that God wants us to keep. Join Benjamin and Laura Norman on an epic journey through light and dark, masculine and feminine, creating relationships with our significant others driven by connection and passion, showing up for our children as empowered parents who meet them where they are and give them loving support and guidance, and deepening our walk in faith. Listeners are encouraged to write into the show by emailing [email protected] for a deeper dive on what we do and how we walk into the darkness your family is facing along side you, and show you how to bring the light, restoring balance to yourself, your relationship and your family. "Don't fight the darkness alone. Fight together."
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069 - Uncovering Inner Darkness: From the Struggle to Self-Belief
02/07/2024
069 - Uncovering Inner Darkness: From the Struggle to Self-Belief
Today Benjamin shares a heartfelt recounting of his personal journey through a difficult time which caused significant emotional strain. Faced with pressures in relationships, business failures, and deep-seated childhood trauma, he faces it all with genuine honesty and emotion. He emphasizes the constant struggle to save others when he himself was feeling helpless. The speaker's wife, an energy healer, helps him to confront his inner struggles, which uncovers a childhood pattern of repressed anger and feelings of self-loathing. The speaker also highlights his realization of the destructive pattern of trying to save others due to his own feelings of brokenness. By accepting his feelings and experiences, he notes the power of absolute acceptance and self-belief, and the importance of shared journeys in overcoming inner demons. He concludes by reiterating his mission to help others, not by saving them, but by walking side-by-side with them, providing unconditional love and acceptance. 00:06 Introduction 00:06 The Struggles of a Day 00:33 The Calling and the Pressure 01:58 The Impact on Personal Relationships 02:33 The Power of Faith and Hope 03:17 The Turning Point 05:41 The Realization and Uncovering of Darkness 06:39 The Childhood Memories and Emotional Struggles 10:33 The Impact of Emotions on Relationships 11:24 The Revelation and Acceptance 13:31 The Power of Connection and Support 18:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts "Don't Fight the Darkness Alone. Fight Together."
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067 - The Problem with Judging Others
10/06/2023
067 - The Problem with Judging Others
Thanks for your patience—life's been a whirlwind. Let me dive into a recent personal journey: completing my third Spartan Ultra at Killington Mountain. It's been a wild ride, filled with challenges and lessons. Three years ago, my coach asked what fitness challenge inspired me, and I chose the Spartan Ultra. Little did I know, it would lead to a deep bond with my friend Franco, as we both supported our wives through breast cancer. This year's race was intense—cramps, early knee pain, and a fellow racer not playing by the rules. His behavior triggered me, but I realized it was a mirror reflecting areas where I lacked honor in my own life. A powerful lesson in self-awareness. The race continued with strategy changes, a unique downhill running technique, and finally catching up to Franco to finish together. It marked the end of my obstacle course racing journey. I'm retiring to focus on spiritual mountains and guiding others through challenges. The takeaway? Every trigger is an opportunity for self-discovery. Look within and ask, "What is this person showing me about myself?" "It is a sin to judge anyone by his post" - Saint Augustine _REV.
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066 - No Retreat, No Surrender
09/01/2023
066 - No Retreat, No Surrender
After some time away, we're back with exciting updates. Amid shifts in our Scendancy journey, we've witnessed incredible client transformations. Our approach to sharing our message has evolved, as discussed in this podcast. A decade ago, Spartan races ignited my warrior spirit. They mirrored my personal growth journey, replacing quitting with resilience. Overcoming obstacles fueled my confidence, leading to personal development. Fitness became my anchor, battling demons like alcoholism, and reshaping my mindset. Then the Realization hit: I'm solely responsible for my life. Blame vanished, empowering me to shape reality. Takeaway: Embrace your inner warrior, shape your destiny, and expect revelations on your growth journey. Ever felt stuck despite efforts? Anger won't break the cycle. Rise above negativity, choose action over blame. Free will is power; blaming robs it. Embrace yourself, move forward, and change your relationship with life. In relationships, I've seen cycles of struggle. Blaming hampers change. We control our lives more than we think. Shifted my coaching approach to impactful workshops, offering rapid transformation. Also supporting cancer-fighting couples with free seminars. Take charge of your life. No retreat. No surrender. This is your Spartan law. “” - Saint Augustine _REV.
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065 - Blended Family - Interview with Steve and Kelly Leitch
08/16/2023
065 - Blended Family - Interview with Steve and Kelly Leitch
Join me on this insightful episode of "Message to My Kids the Podcast". In this special interview, I sit down with the remarkable couple, Steve and Kelly Leitch , who have navigated the complexities of blending families, maintaining strong connections, and nurturing their faith. Steve and Kelly, married for nine years, share their unique journey of bringing together a blended family with six children. Through the highs and challenges, they've cultivated a powerful connection that revolves around open conversations, understanding each other's love languages, and embracing their imperfections. Discover the heartwarming traditions that Steve and Kelly have incorporated into their family life, from regular family meals to engaging in meaningful activities that foster deep connections. They delve into their strategies for addressing conflicts, stepping out of comfort zones, and embracing vulnerability in order to strengthen their relationship. In this episode, you'll also hear about Steve's personal journey in endurance swimming and how it mirrors his approach to life and relationships. Kelly shares her perspective on their life together and how they support each other's growth. Tune in to gain valuable insights into building lasting connections, facing challenges with faith, and prioritizing growth in your relationships. Whether you're part of a blended family or simply seeking inspiration for your own journey, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom and experiences to apply to your own life. Stay connected, embrace imperfections, and remember that life's journey is a path of awakening. “There is no love without hope, no hope without love, and neither love nor hope without faith.” — Saint Augustine _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman
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064 - Hello from Sin City
08/10/2023
064 - Hello from Sin City
Embarking on this podcast episode feels like a heart-to-heart conversation, where I hope my words resonate with you on a personal level. From the surprising vantage point of Sin City, I'm your Reverend pondering the deeper meaning of this vibrant desert oasis. It's as if every dazzling light and meticulously crafted attraction holds a secret message for us. Beneath the surface allure of wealth, intimacy, and excitement, there lies a common yearning – a search for fulfillment and purpose. Many of us feel trapped in the darkness, concealing our struggles behind masks of having it all together. But here's the revelation: that darkness isn't our core. There's a light within us, a spark that craves something more meaningful. This journey to embrace our true selves demands courage. It's about silencing the noise, tuning into the whispers of our inner voice, and taking that bold leap of faith. Nature holds the key – go, sit, listen. I'm no preacher; I'm a fellow traveler sharing insights from the heart. Embrace that first step, and you're on your way to discovering the life you dream of, the connection you crave, and the fulfillment you deserve. “He who has God has everything; he who has everything but God has nothing.” — Saint Augustine _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman
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063 - Self Confident Imposter
08/04/2023
063 - Self Confident Imposter
I've been going through a rough patch lately, feeling under the weather and all. But enough about that – today, let's talk about something we've all faced: the feeling of not being good enough. I've been there – the moments when doubt creeps in and we compare ourselves to others. Sometimes we put on a confident facade, hiding our insecurities. Other times, we let those insecurities keep us isolated, shying away from connections. But here's the real deal: we don't have to stay in this cycle. I've been through it, and I've discovered that tapping into faith, spirituality, or a deeper purpose can transform everything. It's about shedding the masks, embracing authenticity, and finding confidence from within. Sure, it's not an instant fix, and it takes stepping out of your comfort zones. But the journey is worth it. Whether you decide to reach out or not, remember you're not alone in this struggle. You have the power to change the narrative and live authentically. Stay connected, and let's journey together. _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman
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062 - Couples are Not Ready
08/03/2023
062 - Couples are Not Ready
These past months, we've been diving into powerful concepts for couples – almost like a spiritual armor that enriches relationships. It's all about embodying roles: Men holding a shield of unconditional love, a sanctuary of unwavering support in storms of emotion. This shield empowers partners to share and connect, finding solace in the embrace of love's invincibility. On the other side, women wield a reflective sword, intuitively mirroring their partners' hearts with a strength cultivated through spiritual growth. Yet, this journey isn't always straightforward. Sometimes, we're not quite ready to grasp these roles. But here's the thing: there's a path towards growth and connection. If you're intrigued by these ideas and ready to explore, reach out – our podcast is just the beginning of an exciting conversation. Let's dive into this journey together, discovering the transformative power of embodying love and reflection. Thanks for joining me – can't wait to connect! "The measure of love is to love without measuring." - Saint Augustine _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman
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061 - Faith in Light or Dark
08/02/2023
061 - Faith in Light or Dark
In today's episode, I wanted to share something personal. The recent podcast episodes have been shorter due to me soaking up the summer moments, just like you. Let's talk about faith. This morning, thoughts about faith occupied my mind. Faith is believing in the unseen, embracing the promise that something remarkable awaits us. It's standing strong in uncertainty. Imagine us chatting about the flip side of faith. If faith is trust, then doubt and darkness are its opposites. Here's the thing: faith is universal. It fuels our anticipation for the yet-to-come. It's the hope that lights up when we dream. But where we direct our faith matters. Choosing light means growth and unity, while unknowingly feeding negativity sows doubt. Think about it: Where's your faith going? It's an active force, not just an idea. Your choice shapes your journey. As you go about your day, ask: Where does my faith belong? To dreams, love, and growth? Or to fear, scarcity, and negativity? "God does not expect us to submit our faith to him without reason, but the very limits of our reason make faith a necessity." - Saint Augustine. _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman
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060 - My Daughter Lost in the Darkness
07/25/2023
060 - My Daughter Lost in the Darkness
"Mom handles the kids." "Mom handles their emotional outbursts" "Mom deals with them when they're being little sh!ts" "Go talk to your mother if you're upset." "Go sit in your room until you calm the f#$% down." "I can't handle you right now - leave me alone." "I can't stand how you're acting right now." "I don't deal with the kids - that's her job." "I'm going to lose my f@$%ing mind right now!" "You're so emotional - why are you so emotional all the time??" All of these things I've said at one point in my journey as a father. This is not an exhaustive list. This is not a badge of honor either, night after night of feeling guilty that I'm not creating the relationship I want with my children. With my sons, or my daughters. And while it might feel good to throw a pity party for yourself in your own head, continuing the way it's always been done, just because, is a path for consistent failure. You might ignore this post - shrug it off - say "you're a good dad" - say "you're good enough" - say "I don't need someone to tell me how to be a good dad" - say <insert some bullshit ego stroking line to make yourself feel better> - I know you will, I've done it too. PRIDE - holds you back from facing the dark secret you harbor in your thoughts late at night… The TRUTH. “I’ve failed as a father.” “I’m a fucking terrible Dad.” “I hate seeing the pain in her eyes when I scream at her and I know I shouldn’t be.” “I’ve created this monster, she sits in her room and doesn’t ever come out.” “This is NOT WHAT I WANT.” “I’m the BIGGEST F@#$ING FRAUD on the planet.” “I put on this show like I’m a great dad, because inside I know I’m not.” I’ve said all these things to myself in my own mind also on my journey as a father. Hell, even when I still continue to f@#% it all up I find myself saying it to myself. But the TRUTH listed above about the things we say to ourselves alone, is not the TRUTH. It is the LIE the DARKNESS wants us to believe. Because as LONG AS WE BELIEVE we’re not a good father… (listen to the episode for the rest) _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman
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059 - When Children Become Weaponized
07/21/2023
059 - When Children Become Weaponized
When will you cease using your children as tools of emotional warfare? It's incredible how many parents completely step over this. You know, life's full of twists and turns, and I've found some pretty eye-opening insights I want to share with you, and if you're unaware of these things, then take heed, especially if you sit inside a divided Kingdom at home right now. Hard to believe, but only a tiny fraction of people throughout history have escaped the rat race of conflict and struggle. It's a real mess, especially in relationships, and sadly, our kids bear the brunt of it. I say, let's break this cycle. Why do you continue to choose strife? Do you really want to condemn your family to the path your war is setting them on? Well...this may be tough to read if you're the weaponizer, and if it triggers you then it's striking a chord somewhere, and hopefully, it cuts through the darkness, somewhere deep down inside of you is a kernal of love, choosing to weaponize your kids is choosing to breathe life into war over peace. Want to hear more, then listen to today's episode, click the link in my bio to be directed to listen on your audio platform of choice. And for the love of God and his Kingdom...peace be with you today. _Rev. “God’s love is unconditional. Be sure that yours is too!” — Saint Augustine 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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058 - Lumpectomy - Our Cancer Journey
07/20/2023
058 - Lumpectomy - Our Cancer Journey
👋 In today's episode, I am joined by the love of my life, Laura. 💕🔥 Tonight, we want to continue sharing our journey through cancer. It all started when Laura received the diagnosis of stage 1A, grade 2, invasive ductal carcinoma. While it was a shock, we felt a glimmer of hope as the cancer seemed encapsulated, sparing her from chemo or radiation. 🥺✨ Given her family's history, we decided on a double mastectomy for added precaution. Navigating the pandemic's challenges, 😷 we faced delays, but Dr. Chung, our amazing surgeon, suggested a partial mastectomy instead. In December 2020, Laura underwent a lumpectomy, and two additional lymph nodes were tested. It was a nerve-wracking time, 😬 but we stuck together through it all. Next episode, we'll continue sharing our cancer journey with you. Thank you for being here with us. 🙏❤️ “Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.” — Saint Augustine May light always guide your path, _Rev 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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057 - Triger Warning - Beware of Takers
07/19/2023
057 - Triger Warning - Beware of Takers
👋 In today's episode, I want to talk about something that's been bothering me. We all come across individuals who only seem interested in taking from us without giving anything in return. It's frustrating and can leave us feeling drained.🤦♂️ Perhaps you've experienced this because you sought approval and love that was lacking in your childhood.🧒 But here's the truth: these takers won't provide what you're looking for. It's time to establish healthy boundaries and distance yourself from them. Remember, they too need healing just like us. ❤️🔥 If you find yourself in relationships where you're constantly giving your all without receiving the same in return, it's time to take a step back and reevaluate. Putting in effort and receiving nothing can be disheartening. 🥺💔 Take responsibility for your giving and establish appropriate boundaries. Don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of. Lastly, I want to emphasize the importance of healing.𓆩♡𓆪 ✨ Past experiences shape our beliefs and influence our actions. If you've experienced a lack of love and acceptance, 💗 it's crucial to address those deep-rooted issues. Seek healing and embark on a journey of self-discovery. Through this process, you'll gain a new perspective on the takers in your life. They aren't inherently bad, but lost souls in need of healing, just like you. Approach these situations with empathy and understanding. 🔥 Remember, you have the power to protect yourself, set boundaries, and seek healing. Stay strong and walk in the light. ⚡ “God bestows more consideration on the purity of the intention with which our actions are performed than on the actions themselves.” — Saint Augustine May light always guide your path, _Rev 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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056 - Storm Fall - Our Cancer Journey
07/18/2023
056 - Storm Fall - Our Cancer Journey
👋 In today's episode, we delve into our journey through cancer as a couple. 💑❤️ Brace yourselves because last time, we left off right before the earth-shattering diagnosis. 📄 Picture this: Laura, behind the wheel, driving to work on a seemingly ordinary Wednesday in December. 🚘 Suddenly, her phone rings,📞 and it's the cancer center calling. With a heart full of trepidation, she answers, and what she hears sends shockwaves through her entire being—breast cancer. At that moment, her world flips upside down, and emotions surge like a tidal wave.🌊 She calls her mom in a daze and rushes home 🏠 to face the grim reality. Meanwhile, I receive a call from Laura at work. 📞 The devastation in her voice is palpable; she can't bear to be there any longer. 😨 It's a pivotal moment, where the weight of the diagnosis collides with the challenges we're already facing. I just embarked on my entrepreneurial journey and had received crushing news of client cancellations. It felt like a one-two punch, threatening to knock us down. ✨ But here's the thing—we refused to be defeated. 🔥 From the very instant we received that life-altering news, an unyielding determination took hold of us. We made a pact, a silent vow to navigate this treacherous path together and emerge triumphant. No thoughts of surrender, only a relentless pursuit of hope. 🙏🕊️ ☑️ Looking back, we recognize the immense value of support during such trying times. It became crystal clear that we wanted to be that support system for other couples 💑 grappling with cancer. Thus, our mission was born—to create a sanctuary where both partners can find solace, strength, and unwavering support. We aim to forge a community where husbands 🤵 can rise as pillars of power, ⚡ empowering their wives 👰 to conquer the darkest moments. “God is more anxious to bestow his blessings on us than we are to receive them.” — Saint Augustine May light always guide your path, _Rev 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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055 - Teach Your Kids to Fail
07/17/2023
055 - Teach Your Kids to Fail
👋 In today's episode, I want to talk to you about parenting. 👨👩👧👦 Lately, I've noticed a couple of things about parenting that I wanted to share with you. Yesterday, while walking on the beach, 🌊🌴 I saw a dad talking harshly to his young son. 👨👦 It was heartbreaking to see the emptiness in the boy's eyes.😔 I wanted to intervene, but it didn't seem like it would make a positive impact. Instead, I realized that some people are disconnected and lost, repeating negative patterns from their own upbringing. I hope that father can find a better path for his son's sake. Another incident happened tonight when we decided to go roller skating.⛸️ We had a lovely moment skating together. ❤️🔥 We also faced a parenting challenge when our youngest got discouraged. Instead of pushing him, I empathized and encouraged him, sharing my own stories of failure. ⚡ Eventually, he found the courage to try again and succeeded. 👏💥 It taught me the importance of sharing our failures and showing that mistakes are part of life. ✅ Remember, as parents, it's important to talk openly about our mistakes and failures. 🙏 Letting our kids know that it's okay to make mistakes helps them grow and learn. 🌱📚💯 “Blessed is he who devotes his life to great and noble ends, and who forms his well-considered plans with deliberate wisdom.” — Saint Augustine May light always guide your path, _Rev 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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054 - The Dark Rider of Conquest
07/14/2023
054 - The Dark Rider of Conquest
🔥👋 On today's episode, I want to talk about the Dark Rider of Conquest,🏇 a negative force that can enter our relationships. It's like inviting darkness into our kingdom.🏰 The Dark Rider uses criticism as his weapon. So, ask yourself: ╺ Do you attack your partner's character? ╺ Do you judge or label them? ╺ Do you use blaming, shaming, or contemptuous words? ╺ Do you make sweeping generalizations about their behavior? If you find yourself doing any of these things, it's essential to pause ⏸️ and regain your center. Take a walk 🚶 or find a peaceful space to prevent further harm.🕊️ And if you're on the receiving end, don't engage in the negativity. Refuse to give it power. ⚡ Stand in the light of love and understanding. ❤️💡 Remember, the Dark Rider only has power if we participate in the conflict. ⚡ By choosing peace, we can bring positive change to our relationships. 💑 So, stay centered and approach your connections with love and honor.❤️🔥 🙏 Wishing you a weekend filled with love and peace in your kingdom. 🏰❤️ “Love God and do whatever you please: for the soul trained in love to God will do nothing to offend the One who is Beloved.” — Saint Augustine Speaking Light Over Your Kingdom, _Rev. 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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053 - Brother - You are the Shield
07/13/2023
053 - Brother - You are the Shield
👋 In today's episode, I share a recent experience that made me realize something important. Tonight, my daughter 👧 lost her glasses 👓 at camp🏕️ , so I drove two hours to deliver her contact lenses. As a dad, it's my responsibility to be there for my kids, no matter what. 🔥❤️ Now, let's talk about conflicts with our wives. Blaming and withdrawing won't solve anything. We need to see beyond the arguments and understand their emotions. Our role as men is to protect and defend their hearts, even in anger. 🛡️🔥 Let's be soldiers of light in our kingdoms.🏰 Our love should be unwavering and unconditional. Approach conflicts with love and understanding, holding the shield of God's love.🛡️ Don't let darkness divide your family. 👨👩👧👦✨ 🔥 Shelter your wife from guilt and assure her of your love. 🏡❤️ It's not an easy journey, but it's necessary for the relationship we desire. Protect and defend your loved ones with love and understanding. 💫 🔥 Listen to your inner voice. Embrace the shield of God's love. Be the defenders of your kingdoms. 🏰⚔️ "God's love is unconditional. Be sure that yours is too!" - Saint Augustine Speaking Light Over Your Kingdom, _Rev. 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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052 - The Coming Storm - Our Cancer Journey
07/12/2023
052 - The Coming Storm - Our Cancer Journey
🔥👋 Today, joined by my wife, Laura, we want to share a story that deeply impacted our lives during the COVID pandemic. 🔥 As we slowly emerged from lockdown, our kids faced a new school routine, alternating between in-person and homeschooling. 🧒📚 The cramped space in our small house 🏠 added to the chaos, revealing flaws in our parenting methods.👪 It was a challenging time for everyone, but amidst the uncertainty, a significant event occurred that would test our strength as a family. During this period, Laura discovered a lump in her breast. The fear and worry were overwhelming, especially considering our family history with breast cancer. We embarked on a season of waiting, seeking medical advice, and scheduling tests. The waiting period was filled with anxiety, and we did our best to shield 🛡️ our children from our concerns until we had concrete answers. It was a time of introspection and reflection, where we realized the importance of opening up and supporting each other through difficult times. 💑✨🔥 In tomorrow's episode, we will delve deeper into this journey, exploring the emotions and challenges we faced as a family. "Set aside time and allow certain hours to the welfare of your soul." - Saint Augustine Speaking Light Over Your Kingdom, _Rev. 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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051 - Before the Storm - Our Cancer Journey
07/11/2023
051 - Before the Storm - Our Cancer Journey
👋Today, Laura and I want to share a deeply personal journey—the battle my family and I faced with breast cancer. 👪⚔️ Over the next few episodes, I'll take you through the ups and downs, the fears, and how this experience shaped us. It's been a challenging yet incredible journey that brought us closer together. 👫 Every twist and turn, both good and bad, paved the way for where we are today. It's amazing how a few years can feel like an eternity when faced with a life-altering event.♾️ This journey changed us in ways that are hard to grasp unless you've been through it. During this time, I often referred to it as "God's Forge," as if we were being molded into who we were meant to be. 🔨 ⚔️ We gained a new perspective on life and purpose. I believe there's a rite of passage for everyone, and we want to reach out to other couples fighting cancer. We understand the unique challenges you face and how it impacts your relationship. I remember feeling grateful for the support we received from family and friends.👪❤️ But deep down, I longed for someone who truly understood. Connecting with others in similar situations brought immense comfort. Not everyone has a foundation of self-development, but that doesn't mean they can't find their way through. We all need support and understanding. 🔥Join us as we journey back to the beginning, unraveling the tale of the rise of the Queen.👑 It's a story of resilience, love, and the power of spiritual bonds.❤️ Through sharing our experiences, we hope to bring comfort, guidance, and a sense of camaraderie to all those walking a similar path. 🤝Thanks for tuning in today. Remember, you have incredible gifts within you. 🎁 Embrace them boldly. Stay tuned for the next part of our story. "When regard for truth has been broken down or even slightly weakened, all things will remain doubtful." - Saint Augustine. Speaking Light Over Your Kingdom, _Rev. 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏
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050 - Motherhood Blinded by Darkness
07/10/2023
050 - Motherhood Blinded by Darkness
🎧🔥❤️ Can you feel it? That lingering curiosity... the burning desire to delve deep into the unknown. There is a journey awaiting us, a journey that is both intimate and cosmic. In this episode of "Message to My Kids," we traverse an unfathomable realm – the mysterious kingdom within us. Ever wondered about the fortresses we build around our hearts?🏰❤️ The protection we think we need from the world outside. But what if I told you that the real adventure lies not outside, but within the castle walls of your own heart? As we take a leap back to the early days of Christianity, we will discover that our spiritual insights have often been cloaked by human interpretations, like soldiers holding swords, ready to defend.⚔️ But the question we need to ask ourselves is - what exactly are we defending? 🔥Join me on this exploration as we dare to lower the drawbridge, to venture into the stronghold of our own hearts. Let's kindle the flaming heart within, illuminating our path towards spiritual awakening. Tune in, and let's redefine what it truly means to live with faith.🔥💫 Speaking Light Over Your Kingdom, _Rev. 🔥Ready to embark on an unprecedented journey of self-discovery and spiritual enlightenment? Accept "God's Challenge" and commit to an immersive 90-day experience that will transform your relationship with the divine.💫🙏 ⚔️🔥 NOW is the decisive moment, dear Seeker. Your route to illumination awaits urgently at your fingertips, click this link, complete the form and you'll receive instructions via email on next steps, the challenge IS FREE for a very short period (we've gotta test some things out right?!) https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 🏰🚀🙏 #spirituality #journeywithin #faith #podcast
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049 - You are Called
07/08/2023
049 - You are Called
In July of 2021, I found myself in a tough spot, feeling the weight of my challenges. Training for a Spartan race, I realized my stress levels were overwhelming. It was a wake-up call to confront the darkness within and make a change. So I embarked on a transformative journey, which I now call "God's challenge." I let go of escapes and embraced new habits. Now, we're launching this challenge with 18 people, offering a 90-day journey to deepen connections to ourselves and God—for free. The kingdom of heaven is within reach, but so is the kingdom of darkness. Join us to confront your challenges and discover the light within. It won't be easy, but the rewards are immeasurable. This is your chance to step into something extraordinary. Listen to the voice urging you to take this chance, and silence the voice of doubt. We'll fight the darkness within and heal the pain of the past. This is your call, your opportunity to join us on this life-changing experience. Click the link, follow your heart's call, and sign up for God's challenge. We believe in you and can't wait to see you on the other side. "O Holy Spirit, descend plentifully into my heart. Enlighten the dark corners of this neglected dwelling and scatter there Thy cheerful beams." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: . To sign up for God's Challenge, click this link
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048 - Master These Two Traits or Face Being Mediocre
06/28/2023
048 - Master These Two Traits or Face Being Mediocre
I want to share something that has had a profound impact on my life over the past five years. It's all about persistence and perseverance—the two essential ingredients for reaching your goals. You see, most people tend to give up when things get tough. If you truly want to create the life you desire, you have to put in the work. That means facing your inner demons, diving into the darkness, and accepting that it won't be an easy journey. Being a high performer, someone with discipline and structure, isn't for everyone. Most people choose to take the easy way out and settle for mediocrity. They'd rather spend their days on the couch watching football than pursue a life that ignites their passion and fulfills their dreams for their family. So, my friend, it's decision time. Will you settle for mediocrity or rise up and pursue your dreams? The choice is yours, and only you can make it. If you're ready to embark on this journey, reach out to me. Let's have a conversation and figure out the steps you need to take every day to overcome the pain and obstacles that are holding you back. Remember, you have the power to create the life you desire. " God provides the wind, but man must raise the sails." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so
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047 - Trapped in the Prison of your Soul
06/27/2023
047 - Trapped in the Prison of your Soul
Today, I want to share a personal story that revolves around a topic close to my heart: the pain of our past. It's about those lingering emotions and traumas we've buried deep inside, the ones we haven't fully faced or processed. When faced with challenging situations like heartbreak or traumatic events, our instinct is often to endure and push through. We seek support from our loved ones, coaches, counselors, or therapists. Yet, if we haven't truly released the pain and emotions tied to those experiences, they can hold us back from reaching our fullest potential. They become barriers preventing us from moving forward on our journey of growth and development. However, once we're in that darkness together, speaking more darkness won't serve us. It's time to illuminate our surroundings, to distinguish between light and dark, and to find our footing amidst the pain. Side by side, we work towards banishing the darkness, clearing the path for transformation. It's astonishing how quickly our lives change once we address the root of our pain and release the emotional weight we've carried. So here's the deal, my dear listeners. If you feel stuck in your relationships, be it with your spouse or with yourself, if you're yearning to reach the next level in life, now is the time to reach out to me. Together, we'll enter the arena and fight the darkness as a team. I'll equip you with the necessary tools, systems, processes, and mindset to transform your life completely. When you step into the ring with me, I am by your side, wholeheartedly invested in your progress. Whether it's strengthening your connection with your spouse, improving your parenting skills, or discovering your life's purpose, I'm here to guide you spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally. "Father, I am seeking: I am hesitant and uncertain, but will you, O God, watch over each step of mine and guide me." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so
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046 - Tell the Darkness to Go F@#$ Itself
06/23/2023
046 - Tell the Darkness to Go F@#$ Itself
Today, I want to share a message of hope and courage with you. No matter what daunting task or new venture we undertake, whether it's starting a business, pursuing dreams, or rebuilding relationships, we face challenges. But amidst the difficulties, we celebrate every small victory. Undeniably, the road ahead is challenging and far from easy. Starting something new is never a simple task, and many people give up before taking the first step. Therefore, I want you to honor yourself just for having the courage to begin. Taking that initial step is often the hardest part. But once you do, everything feels fresh, interesting, and exciting. With each step, your momentum grows. Walking turns into jogging, jogging into running, and running into sprinting. Eventually, you find yourself participating in an obstacle course race, fueled by your determination. Stay committed to your vision, never give up, and never compromise your dreams. Always follow your heart. Celebrate every small victory along the way. And if you stumble, remember to pick yourself back up. When you reach your destination, take a moment to kneel and thank God for guiding and carrying you through the tough times. Thank yourself for never quitting on your soul and for fighting against the darkness that attempts to keep you small. Today, darkness has no place within you or your future. Refuse to succumb to doubt, insecurity, and fear. Embrace the light and tell the shadows to step aside. "God loves each of us as if there were only one of us." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so
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045 - Limiting Belief Overrides Fail You
06/21/2023
045 - Limiting Belief Overrides Fail You
Today, we want to address a trap that the $10 billion self-development industry has set for those on the path of self-improvement. It's time to bypass the cycle of self-limiting beliefs and embrace true transformation. In your quest for personal growth, you've probably encountered countless coaches, consultants, and trainers who promise to help you unearth and overcome your limiting beliefs. And while these resources can be valuable, we've noticed a crucial missing element in many of them that can save you valuable time on your journey. Throughout our own experiences spanning over a decade, we've learned that identifying limiting beliefs is only the first step. Merely convincing ourselves that we are "good enough" or "worthy" is not enough to break free from these beliefs and achieve lasting change. Here's the issue: even after investing in programs and implementing so-called belief overrides, we often find ourselves repeatedly triggered by the same old limiting beliefs. It's frustrating and disheartening. Shouldn't we have moved past these beliefs if we've done the work and know they're not true? The truth is, we've discovered a vital piece of the puzzle that is often overlooked: healing the underlying pain associated with these triggers. By delving into the root cause of our triggers, we can address and heal the wounds from our past. These wounds serve as the breeding ground for limiting beliefs, and until they are healed, the cycle will persist. Don't fall into the trap of stopping at identifying your limiting beliefs without addressing the pain that fuels them. By healing that pain, you'll experience true transformation. When you reach a point of deep healing, there's no need to rely on belief overrides because you'll simply know your inherent truth at your core. As the Oracle said in The Matrix, "You'll know it balls to bone." When you reach this level of self-awareness and healing, you won't need to seek acceptance externally because you'll understand that you are already accepted. Acceptance is your birthright, and you'll feel it in every fiber of your being. If you find yourself trapped in a cycle of oscillating between limiting self-beliefs and temporary overrides, don't worry. We're here to help you break free from this pattern once and for all. Reach out to us, message us, and let's connect. Together, we'll guide you towards lasting transformation that will shape the rest of your life. "If we live good lives, the times are also good as we are such the times." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so
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044 - Cancer - Stillness Within The Chaos
06/20/2023
044 - Cancer - Stillness Within The Chaos
On today's episode Laura and I share a morning ritual we do together that helps us sustain our connection to each other. As You know, one of the keys to finding balance in life is discovering those moments of stillness amidst the chaos. What I truly appreciate about the work we've done in our relationship is how Laura always holds up a mirror for me to see myself, even when I'm deeply immersed in my own experience. We're embarking on a new path together, following the calling that God has placed on our lives. It involves a lot of hard work and navigating through overwhelming feelings. Laura and I have developed a morning ritual that has become an essential part of our lives. Sometimes, it even extends into the evening, depending on how the day unfolds. This simple ritual, which only takes a minute, makes a tremendous difference. We encourage you to allocate one minute a day for this practice because everyone has at least that much time. So, my dear listeners, let's take the time to nurture our connections and find those moments of stillness amid the chaos. Together, we can create lives filled with light, love, and deep connection. Keep fighting for what you believe in, and remember that you are never alone on this journey. "Wicked men obey from fear; good men from love." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here:
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043 - Don't condemn your family tree
06/18/2023
043 - Don't condemn your family tree
When I stop you and give you tidings of the future and say: "Don't condemn your family tree." You're probably not aware that is what you are doing... and you're not just doing it to your immediate family, but your larger extended family—your brothers, sisters, their spouses, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents etc etc who make up your family tree. This is something I see EVEN INSIDE MY OWN FAMILY TREE and it continues to bother me every single day. I often don't understand why people have such a blatant disregard for the life experience of the people on the other side of the condemnation...and I am especially baffled by family members, in the same tree and forest of trees do it as well. To the point where the family members each would show a stranger on the street more care and comfort than their own family line who they treat with contempt and condemnation. Want to come face to face with this for real instead of theoretically or conceptually? Go sit in a graveyard and pretend you're dead in 20 minutes and write a letter to the family member your battling with, and watch what comes up. The thing is.... When I work with people and help them uncover their struggles, I see a pattern. Deep-rooted pain and unresolved issues from the past keep resurfacing, causing conflicts within relationships. Over time, these unresolved pains can cause division and continue to greatly increase the distance within our extended families. The truth is, much like you didn't get a choice in the color of the sky, or where you were born... Family is family, and in my life, there's no bond stronger than that. Now, maybe you're listening, and you have family members you're not connecting with. Perhaps there's an ongoing conflict that you've been sweeping under the rug for years. Well, let me tell you, it's time to address it. Because every day you delay facing those unresolved issues, you're allowing pain and darkness to seep into your own family tree. Remember, tolerating darkness within your family means you're likely tolerating it elsewhere in your life too. Our time on this Earth is limited, and we need to make the most of it. Let's not leave behind a legacy of broken relationships and pain. Instead, let's be the ones who bring light into our family, mend the fractures, and restore the love that should flow through our veins. "It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start." - Mother Teresa Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here:
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042 - This Trap Will Cripple You
06/16/2023
042 - This Trap Will Cripple You
Today, I want to talk to you about discernment. A few weeks ago, I touched upon this topic in one of our previous episodes, emphasizing the importance of spiritual guidance to distinguish truth from falsehood. Today, I'll take you on a journey, connecting the dots and offering you a breakthrough perspective on life. Let's talk about the power of emotional connection, which often happens through music. We all have those songs that deeply resonate with us, regardless of the genre. They touch our souls with their heartfelt lyrics and profound meaning. It's through these songs that we create connections based on shared emotions. However, we must be cautious when it comes to song lyrics. While they may seem to understand us, they can also trap us in darkness if we lack discernment. If we're in pain and believe we shouldn't take responsibility for our partner's actions, these lyrics might resonate, leading us to blame them entirely. But unfiltered exposure to such lyrics can shape our responses in unintended ways. An immature person lacking self-awareness might adopt a mindset that absolves them of blame and pushes their partner away. This mindset only deepens the divide in their relationship. It's crucial to exercise discernment and not let lyrics dictate our responses. "Music, that's the science or the sense of proper modulation, is likewise given by God's generosity to mortals having rational souls in order to lead them to higher things." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here:
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041 - Laura's Cancer
06/15/2023
041 - Laura's Cancer
Wow, it's been seven years since I met my beautiful wife, Laura and she will be joining me again today. I want to share with you a personal journey of self-awareness and growth that I've been on with my beautiful wife, Laura. It all began with a realization that I had been chasing money, thinking it would bring me happiness and meaning. But I reached a point where I knew there had to be more to life than that. And I made a decision. I said, "I'm done. I'm done chasing money just for the sake of it. It feels empty and meaningless. I want to spend the next 42 years of my life doing what God has called us to do." Laura's battle with breast cancer further reinforced this new direction in our lives. It made us realize the importance of supporting couples and individuals who are facing similar challenges. Going through our own journey again, reliving those difficult moments, was emotionally challenging for both of us. But it also reminded us of the strength and resilience that Laura displayed during that time. It was a wake-up call for me to be more attentive and supportive. We have decided to document our journey and provide guidance to those who need it. Our focus will be on working with couples and individuals going through cancer, offering them hope and healing. We've experienced firsthand the darkness and loneliness that comes with this battle, not just for the patients but also for their families. That's why finding support is crucial. "Bad times, hard times, this is what people keep saying; but let us live well, and times shall be good. We are the times: Such as we are, such are the times." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here:
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040 - You've Been Lulled To Sleep
06/14/2023
040 - You've Been Lulled To Sleep
The game we're playing is all about finding that equilibrium between light and dark. I've witnessed it happen to both men and women. We often talk about this eternal dance between the two, like the yin and yang symbol. It represents the constant ebb and flow, the dance we engage in daily with reality. This dance defines our human experience. We navigate through life, relationships, and ourselves, constantly shifting between light and dark. In today's world, being spiritual or expressing our beliefs can be challenging. There's a fear of being judged, labeled, or deemed crazy. People dismiss it as something made up, just figments of our imagination. And that fear has only contributed to our collective slumber. It's astonishing to realize how deeply humanity has been sedated over thousands of years. But here's the truth—I've come to understand that the journey from darkness to light is where transformation happens. It's in the darkness that our pain surfaces, wounds from the past that need healing. By facing and healing that pain, we create space for light to enter. And as we emerge from that dark forest, we step into the light feeling freer, more connected, and deeply in love. "The entire life of a good Christian is in fact an exercise of Holy desire. You do not yet see what you long for, but the very act of desiring prepares you, so that when he comes, you may see and be utterly satisfied." - Saint Augustine Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here:
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039 - The Queen's Toilet
06/13/2023
039 - The Queen's Toilet
I'm joined today by the love of my life, Laura. We've received so much amazing feedback from our previous episode together. It seems like you guys really resonated with our conversation. It's incredible how God is guiding us through this journey. Today, we want to dive into a topic that's prevalent in relationships: the interplay of light and darkness. We've been discussing this theme in recent episodes because it's such an important aspect of our work with couples. When darkness creeps into a relationship, it affects everything, from communication to parenting. In particular, we want to address a situation where a wife retreats from her husband. It's crucial for men to understand that this is not the time to become defensive. It might seem counterintuitive, but let's explore it further. In summary, retreating may give a false sense of protection, but it only exacerbates the issues and prevents us from experiencing true freedom and authentic connections. Remember, it's not about blame but about recognizing the patterns and working together to create a united, fulfilling relationship. "Trials and tribulations offer us a chance to make reparation for our past, faults, and sins. On such occasions, the Lord comes to us like a physician to heal the wounds left by our sins. Tribulation is divine medicine." - Saint Augustine of Hippo Blessings on your path, Rev. Benjamin Norman Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here:
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