323: Is Your Phone Making You Anxious? Why You Feel Foggy, Fried, and Short-Fused

Let’s talk about something that affects literally all of us, but rarely gets named.

You declutter your home, try to simplify your life, create calmer spaces…
But then you reach for your phone and instantly feel anxious, scattered, or drained.
Why does that happen? And more importantly: what can we do about it?

In this eye-opening conversation, I’m joined by Jenny Wise Black, a licensed therapist, mom, and pioneer in the movement for digital wellness and media trauma recovery. Jenny shares how modern screen habits are rewiring our brains, eroding our ability to focus, and deeply impacting the way we connect to ourselves, our kids, and our peace.

We dive deep into what it means to have an anxious attachment to your phone, why downtime has become screen time, and how to reclaim the kind of joy and presence we had before we were tethered to a screen 24/7.

You’ll leave this episode with the clarity (and practical steps!) to start shifting your habits without guilt or overwhelm, even if you're a busy mom with zero desire to go off-grid.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What “media trauma” is and how it might be impacting your mental health without you realizing it
• How screen time affects your nervous system and your home life (yes, even that innocent Instagram scroll)
• The real reason we feel anxious without our phones and why it’s not a willpower problem
• Simple, science-backed steps to reduce phone-induced anxiety (without needing a digital detox retreat)
• Why going grayscale and setting screen boundaries may change your life more than any decluttering tip ever has
• How to model healthier tech habits for your kids without shame or perfection
• A powerful reframe for moms: you’re not failing, you're operating in a system that was never built to support you
• What “predatory media” is, how to spot it, and how to break the consumption cycle

Resources & Mentions:

Jenny’s Book: Vintage Therapy (https://www.amazon.com/Vintage-Therapy-Practical-Wisdom-Modern/dp/B0FPMR7FK9) – free digital version available on her Substack!
Visit Jenny’s site + get her screen detox tools: https://mediatox.substack.com/

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Try This Today:

Turn your phone screen to grayscale.
It takes 30 seconds. It lowers your stress.
And it may just change how you relate to your phone forever.

Remember:
You don’t have to do a full digital detox to reclaim your life.
Start small. Be intentional. And watch your capacity (and calm) grow.

Ready. Set. Simplify.