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Why Letting Go Feels So Hard (And the “Stuff Story” That Explains It)
Have you ever looked around your home and thought, “Why is this still such a struggle for me?” You know what you want — more calm, more space, less mental weight — but every time you try to declutter, something in you freezes.
Most women assume they just need a better system… or more willpower… or a free weekend to finally tackle it all. But what if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t about the stuff at all?
In this episode, I read a powerful chapter from my new book that helps you uncover your Stuff Story — the invisible script that’s been shaping what you buy, what you keep, and why certain items feel impossible to let go of. I walk you through how your upbringing, emotional attachments, and cultural pressure quietly influence your home (and your choices) more than you realize.
This matters so much right now because so many of us are trying to “reset” in January — new goals, fresh starts, a lighter year. But if you don’t understand the story underneath your clutter, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns, even with the best decluttering strategy in the world.
This chapter is meant to feel like someone finally turned the lights on. More clarity. More compassion. And a new kind of freedom that doesn’t start with a trash bag — it starts with understanding.
KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:
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Your clutter didn’t come from nowhere
Your “Stuff Story” was written over time by family patterns, personal experiences, and cultural messaging — and it silently shapes what feels hard to release. -
Your brain is protecting you, not sabotaging you
If you freeze or avoid decluttering, it’s often because your nervous system prefers what’s familiar (even if it’s clutter). Awareness is the first step to change. -
Some things are really placeholders for identity
Aspirational clutter, sentimental items, and “just in case” backups often represent who you were, who you hoped to be, or what you’ve been afraid to lose. -
“More” has been marketed as safety and success
We’ve been taught that full equals good — and that empty equals lack. But space can be the beginning of peace, not proof you’re missing something. -
You can rewrite the script one belief at a time
Letting go isn’t wasteful or irresponsible when it aligns with your life now. Repeating new truths creates new mental pathways — and makes future decisions easier.
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