282: Financial Planning For Blended Families ~ Mikel Van Cleve
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Release Date: 10/25/2024
310: Disrespect in Stepfamilies
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Welcome back to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s show, Lori and David dive into a challenge faced by many blended families: What happens when one partner feels that their stepchild is being disrespectful, and the biological parent doesn’t step in? Kicking things off with a listener's heartfelt question, Lori and David unpack the complexities of stepkids shouting or insulting their stepparent and stepsibling, as well as the tension that arises when boundaries and respect are on the line. Throughout the episode, they discuss practical strategies for handling disrespect...
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309: Blending With Autism
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with "Bookworm Stepmom," for a heartfelt and engaging conversation about navigating the highs and lows of blended family life. Stepmom opens up about her journey from single and childless to stepmom of two girls and mom to two more young children, one of whom is autistic. They dig into the realities of co-parenting with an ex, maintaining balance in a blended household, and how stepmom’s personal experiences as a stepchild shape her compassionate approach to stepmotherhood. From honest discussions about the challenges of...
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308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this heartfelt and relatable episode, hosts David and Lori dive into the annual struggle of graduation ticket allocations. With only a handful of coveted seats for high school and college ceremonies, blended and extended families are often left negotiating who gets a spot in the audience—and who doesn’t. Through personal stories and a bit of humor, David and Lori explore the emotional minefield that limited tickets can create for parents, step-parents, grandparents, and, most importantly, the graduates themselves. They emphasize the importance of...
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307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
In this enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, we explore the fascinating world of stepfamilies in American history with our special guest, Lisa Wilson, the esteemed author of "A History of Stepfamilies in Early America." Lisa shares her journey of uncovering the untold stories and patterns of stepfamilies, reflecting on her personal experiences as a member of such a family. Delving into historical dynamics, Lisa discusses how the perception and roles within stepfamilies have evolved over centuries, from the challenges of integrating into what was once an emotionally-focused family...
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306: Easter In Stepfamilies
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Welcome to this episode of the NK Podcast, where hosts Lori and David dive into the intricacies of celebrating Easter within stepfamilies. The holiday season can be a delightful time, but it also brings unique challenges when navigating custody schedules and traditions in blended families. In this episode, Lori and David share personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to manage these situations, offering creative solutions for celebrating Easter, even if it's not on the traditional date. They'll also discuss the importance of setting and respecting court-ordered holiday arrangements and...
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305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, hosts Lori and David welcome the insightful Karen McNenny, also known as the Good Divorce Coach. Karen joins us to challenge the traditional narrative of divorce as a conflict-ridden process. She introduces the concept of a 'good divorce,' presenting it as a tool, rather than a weapon, to transform family dynamics positively. Karen shares her personal journey and the genesis of her coaching business, emphasizing the importance of reshaping the divorce experience to focus on protecting future relationships,...
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304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the often misunderstood concept of "nacho parenting." They start by addressing a common question: Does nachoing mean ignoring your stepkids? Lori shares her own journey of using nacho parenting to navigate difficult dynamics with her stepchildren, emphasizing that it's more about choosing not to engage rather than ignoring. Lori and David explain how this approach helped improve their family interactions. With anecdotes and guidance, Lori and David provide a deeper understanding of how nacho parenting can lead to...
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303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Hey, Nacho Parents! In this episode, we dive into the whirlwind story of a step couple who faced some major challenges blending their families. They've got a history that goes way back, but things got complicated when their relationship rekindled as an affair. Now, they're dealing with the fallout, especially with one of the kids knowing about the affair. The catch? This kid has no idea that her mom actually cheated first, causing a whole lot of tension and misunderstandings. Join us as we break down how this couple is managing to mend relationships, navigate the truths and misconceptions, and...
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302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids podcast! In this episode, titled "Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms/Stepfamilies," hosts David and Lori dive into the complex dynamics of navigating Mother's Day as a stepparent. With Mother's Day just around the corner, they tackle the often-sensitive issue of unmet expectations and the potential for hurt feelings. Lori and David offer practical advice for stepparents on setting boundaries and communicating desires with their partners, the importance of self-care, and how to embrace Stepmother's Day. The hosts also explore the pitfalls of comparison...
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301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori Sims welcomes Mae, a stepmom navigating the challenging dynamics of her blended family. Mae lives with her partner, their two-year-old child, and her partner's kids—a 13-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. Mae shares the trials she's faced stepping into a maternal role, dealing with stepchildren full-time due to their mother's sporadic involvement. Tune in as she candidly discusses the struggle of balancing her partner’s expectations, managing her stepson's anger issues, and finding harmony through the Nacho Kids method. Whether you're a new...
info_outlineWelcome to Episode 282 of NK Podcast! In this insightful episode, hosts David and Lori are joined by returning guest Mikel Van Cleve, a certified financial planner with a focus on blended family dynamics. Mikel was previously on episode 273 where he discussed his blended family experience. Today, we delve deep into the intricacies of estate planning, financial transparency, and the unique challenges faced by blended families.
Mikel shares his expert advice on finding qualified estate attorneys and financial planners who truly understand the complexities involved.
We'll explore topics such as the importance of having clear estate documents, preventing unintentional disinheritance, the emotional sensitivities in blended families, and practical tips for managing joint and separate finances. Mikel also touches on his ongoing research into financial infidelity and wealth transfer within blended families, offering listeners credible resources for further guidance.
Lastly, join Lori and David as they announce their upcoming visit to Scottsdale, Arizona, and invite listeners to connect with them. With humor and valuable insights, this episode aims to equip you with the knowledge to navigate the financial and emotional terrain of blended families. Don't miss out!
In this episode, we discuss:
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Importance of using a financial planner with blended family experience
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Discussions to have with your partner sooner rather than later
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What’s fair/equal
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Communication is key
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Updating estate documents
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
“Helped Me Understand My Role as a Stepfather”
"Being a stepfather is tough, especially when you're trying to figure out where you fit in. Nacho Kids Academy helped me understand my role and gave me the tools to communicate better with my wife and her kids. It’s been a huge help in reducing the stress in our family and strengthening my relationship with my wife."
— David K., Stepfather of 2