When You're Feeling Resentful And Unfulfilled In Your Relationship
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Release Date: 01/09/2025
How to Last The Miles in Long Distance Relationships
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Let’s be real—long distance isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s for the ones who are willing to cry on dog walks with sunglasses on. The ones who whisper we’ll figure it out even when every plan falls through. The ones who know love is worth the effort—but still wonder, how the heck do people actually make this work? So in this episode I dive into this topic that's close to my heart - the rollercoaster of long distance relationships. After navigating my own 2 year international long distance relationship with my now-husband Nate (including military life and visa challenges!), I'm...
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Your Brain After A Breakup: The Neuroscience of Why You Can't Just Get Over It
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Ever been through a breakup that didn’t just hurt emotionally—but physically? Like your chest was caving in or your stomach was in knots? You're not crazy. In fact, there's actual science behind that soul crushing pain. In this episode, we dive deep into what's actually happening in your brain and body when your heart gets broken—and why breakup grief might actually be harder to heal from than grief after death. If you've ever felt like you were "crazy" for not being able to "just get over it," this episode is for you. We'll explore the fascinating neuroscience behind heartbreak and give...
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Bust Your Buts: Bravery, Gumption & Going for It - With Sally Zimney
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
What if the thing holding you back isn’t fear—but the story you're telling yourself about it? This week on Okay, Now What?, I’m joined by the powerhouse that is Sally Zimney—award-winning speaker, bestselling author, and host of one of the top speaker podcasts in the world—for a real, raw, and laugh-out-loud honest conversation about what bravery really looks like. Spoiler: it’s not the absence of fear. It’s showing up with it. We unpack: Why “confidence” is overrated and what to build instead The power of gumption (and no, not the Aussie cleaning product kind—though...
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Busy Isn't Better: Breaking Free from Time Poverty - With Peggy Sullivan
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Let’s be honest: Most of us aren’t just busy - we’re burnt out, overbooked, and quietly wondering if this is just how life’s meant to be. If your schedule feels like a never-ending to-do list and your soul’s running on empty, this episode is for you. This week on Okay, Now What?, I’m joined by the incredible Peggy Sullivan — a leadership coach, TEDx speaker (her talk’s hit over 1 million views!), and author of Beyond Busyness. And let me tell you… this conversation is like a permission slip to finally stop glorifying the hustle and start living with intention....
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Moments That Matter: How to Live More Fully After Losing Someone You Love - With Kara Byron
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
What if the most heartbreaking chapter of your life also held the key to your greatest purpose? In this powerful and tender conversation, I sit down with Kara Byron - founder of Moments by Kara - to talk about the raw reality of being a full-time caregiver to her father in her early twenties, how she turned grief into a lifelong mission of creating meaningful moments, and the difference between moving on and moving forward after loss. We get real about the emotional toll of caretaking, the sacredness of grief, and how to hold joy and sorrow in the same hand. Whether you’ve lost someone,...
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The Conversation You Need to Interrupt EVERY Single Day!
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
From a young age, we're taught not to interrupt conversations. But I've realised there is definitely a conversation we need to interrupt EVERY SINGLE DAY. It's the one happening in our between our own ears. Because let's be honest - do you ever find yourself spiraling in self-doubt, thinking things like “I’m not good enough,” “I always mess things up,” or “I’m just not the type of person who can…”? Yeah, welcome to being human right?! So in this episode, I dive into a powerful mental interrupt tool—one simple question that can help you stop those runaway thought spirals...
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The Cure for People Pleasing? One Simple Word Swap
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things—yet still feel off? Tired? Resentful? Like you're living life for everyone but you? Yeah… me too. In this powerful episode, I pull back the curtain on one sneaky little word that’s silently controlling so many of our choices—and not in a good way. That word? Should. It seems harmless. Responsible even. "I should call her back." "I should go to that dinner." "I should be happier by now." But when you really pay attention, you’ll notice how heavy that word feels in your body. How tight your chest gets. How small your world...
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Stuck in self-pity or faking “I’m fine”? Listen to this.
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Ever find yourself spiraling in “why me?” energy—or slapping on a fake smile, insisting “I’m fine” when you’re anything but? Yeah. Been there. Both sides of that coin will wear you out. That’s why this episode? It’s a lifeline. Fresh off an emotional and empowering experience speaking at my first ever women’s leadership conference, I’m unpacking a topic that hits deep: the difference between self-pity, self-denial, and self-compassion—and why knowing how to navigate between them is one of the most important skills you’ll ever learn. In this episode, I share: ✨ The...
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Blind Faith and Outback Steakhouse: Finding Purpose in Life's Darkness - with Kevin Lowe
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
In this powerful episode, we're joined by Kevin Lowe, an inspirational speaker and podcast host who shares his remarkable journey of losing his sight at 17 and discovering an entirely new way to "see" the world. Through launching his own travel agency, creating a podcast during the pandemic, learning how to 'see' through sound and now inspiring others through speaking, Kevin exemplifies resilience in its purest form. His personal equation—"faith plus family equals a life worth living"—reminds us all to identify what gives our lives meaning, especially during our darkest moments. Kevin's...
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How To Stress Less What Other People Think of You (This Insight CHANGED My Life!)
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Whether we care to admit it or not, a lot of us waste A LOT of mental energy overthinking what other people think of us and include their opinions on our decision making criteria in life. And as I've learned the hard way, that's a one way ticket to a life that doesn't even really feel like yours. So why do so many of us fear being judged? And more importantly, how do we stop taking things so personally, even when we hear critical opinions about us?! That's exactly what we explore together in this episode and share with you the life changing example that my coach shared with me that FINALLY...
info_outlineAs a life coach, I am always diving into relationship conflicts people struggle with - that often begin with something like "He should just KNOW that I want quality time with him in the evenings" or "It really hurts when my husband doesn't think to arrange anything for my birthday". Many people feel frustrated or resentful in their marriage because their spouses aren't meeting their needs they way they expected they would. So they double down on trying to control or change them so they can try to feel better. Only problem is, marriage suddenly turns into a long list of obligations to try to make each other happy. It's not a fun time for anyone. I used to feel caught in that same struggle. Until I learned a life changing concept called "the manual" that I teach in this episode and why the best thing you can ever do for your relationship is to throw out your manual completely. Loving what is - that's what true happiness and freedom is.
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Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)
Kate Gladdin introduces the podcast episode and its theme of personal growth.
New Year Reflections (00:00:19)
Kate shares her excitement for the new year and discusses her holiday experiences.
Baking and Mindfulness (00:01:05)
Kate reflects on the joy of baking and being present during the holidays.
The Oven Malfunction (00:03:01)
A malfunctioning oven leads to a metaphor about expectations in relationships.
Manuals for Relationships (00:04:14)
Kate introduces the concept of having a "manual" for how we expect others to behave.
Frustrations in Relationships (00:05:02)
Kate encourages listeners to think about specific individuals causing frustration.
Personal Anecdote: Loss and Expectations (00:06:04)
Kate shares her experience with her sister's partner after her sister's passing.
Shifting Perspectives on Happiness (00:07:16)
Kate discusses how happiness in relationships is based on our own expectations.
Challenging Traditional Relationship Advice (00:08:30)
Kate critiques the notion that happiness depends on others meeting our needs.
The Problem with Manuals (00:09:42)
Kate explains how manuals can lead to frustration in relationships.
Expectations vs. Reality (00:10:47)
Kate emphasizes the disconnect between expectations and the reality of people's behavior.
The Burden of Control (00:12:34)
Kate discusses the emotional burden of relying on others for happiness.
The Illusion of Control (00:13:28)
Kate reflects on the futility of trying to control others’ actions.
The Impact of Manuals on Relationships (00:14:33)
Kate explains how manuals can create resentment and misunderstandings.
Releasing Control (00:16:32)
Kate encourages listeners to let go of the need to control others.
Taking Responsibility for Emotions (00:20:08)
Kate concludes by emphasizing personal responsibility for one's emotional well-being.
Boundaries and Control (00:21:19)
Discussion on the importance of boundaries and controlling one's own reactions in relationships.
Dropping Expectations (00:22:22)
Emphasizes that disappointment stems from our expectations, not others' actions.
Open Communication (00:23:38)
Encourages expressing needs without depending on others for emotional fulfillment.
The Power of Acceptance (00:24:42)
Realizing the importance of accepting people as they are, without imposing expectations.
Expectations vs. Reality (00:25:47)
Highlights how personal manuals create unrealistic expectations that lead to disappointment.
Letting Go of Manuals (00:26:39)
Discusses the exhaustion of expecting others to fulfill personal manuals for happiness.
Seeking Understanding (00:27:41)
Encourages compassion and understanding in relationships to avoid resentment.
Five Practical Steps (00:29:39)
Outlines steps to identify and let go of personal manuals in relationships.
Examining Thoughts (00:30:48)
Encourages self-reflection on why we want certain behaviors from partners.
Taking Responsibility (00:31:53)
Stresses that our feelings are controlled by our thoughts, not others' actions.
Open Perspective (00:32:52)
Advocates for discussing feelings openly and understanding each other's perspectives.
Letting Them Be (00:34:40)
Reminds listeners to allow partners to be themselves without emotional dependency.
Transforming Relationships (00:36:50)
Describes how dropping manuals can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Empowerment Through Choice (00:38:53)
Encourages taking responsibility for personal happiness and letting go of expectations.
Final Thoughts (00:40:06)
Invites listeners to practice letting go of one manual this week for personal growth.