Your Brain After A Breakup: The Neuroscience of Why You Can't Just Get Over It
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Release Date: 05/15/2025
5 Strategies to Prevent Burnout Before It's Too Late
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Are you exhausted from doing all the things, checking all the boxes, and still feeling like you're drowning? You're not broken. You've just been sold the wrong version of resilience. In this episode, I'm breaking down why "staying positive" and "bouncing back" is actually heightening your stress—and what to do instead. What you'll learn: The #1 thing stealing your energy (and how to set boundaries with your own brain) Why that word "should" is keeping you trapped in burnout The difference between being fear-driven vs. value-driven (and why it matters) How to make progress when you're...
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If You Ever Think “What’s Wrong With Me?” - Listen to This
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Ever catch yourself thinking, "Why am I like this?" Too much. Too quiet. Too emotional. Too in your head. What if the thing you criticize yourself for most… isn't a flaw at all? In this episode, I unpack a powerful reframe that challenges the way we try to "fix" ourselves. Because what if your so-called weakness is actually a strength that's just been turned up too high? If you've ever called yourself an overthinker, a people-pleaser, disorganized, shy, or "too much"—and felt stuck in shame because of it—this one will hit close to home. No fluffy self-love. No personality overhaul....
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Self-Loathing vs. Self-Love: What Actually Gets Results
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
For the high achievers who think they need to be harder on themselves. You're holding yourself accountable, chasing your goals, refusing to waste time. But somewhere along the way, self-discipline turned into self-loathing. And now you're wondering: if I stop being so hard on myself, will I just... stop trying? This episode breaks down why hating yourself into change is like taking a 36-hour flight with unnecessary layovers. You'll eventually get there, but you'll be exhausted, depleted, and resentful. There's a direct flight available. In this episode: Why shame triggers your nervous...
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Why "Just Stay Motivated" Is BS: The Science of Actually Achieving A Goal
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
You're three weeks into your goal. The excitement's worn off. You're questioning everything. Your brain is screaming at you to quit. And then someone tells you to "just stay motivated." Here's the truth: motivation doesn't last. It's not supposed to. And the reason you keep quitting your goals has nothing to do with willpower, laziness, or not wanting it badly enough. There are five predictable emotional stages every single person goes through when making real change—and most people quit at Stage 3 because no one told them it was coming. In this episode, you'll discover: Why that...
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My New Year Wish For You..
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
After such a heartbreaking, life-shattering year, I wanted to record this little message for you as we head into 2026. ❤️ Ready to Stop Forcing Happiness and Actually Start Healing? You can know all the "right" things to say to yourself, all the strategies, all the steps—but if you're still trying to push through grief, anxiety, or life's hardest moments alone, nothing truly shifts. That's where coaching comes in. I help women navigate the messy, non-linear process of healing—not by forcing happiness or bypassing pain, but by figuring out what YOU actually need (not what others...
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Why My Mum Wouldn't "Want Me to Be Happy" Right Now - Happiness vs. Healing
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
If you've lost someone, you've probably heard people say "they would just want you to be happy." Well-meaning? Absolutely. Helpful? Not always. In this episode, I'm sharing why that phrase hasn't been landing for me—and what I wish people would say instead. Because grief isn't about forcing happiness. It's about something much more important. Whether you're navigating loss or supporting someone who is, this one's for you. You don’t owe anyone happiness. But you do deserve healing. Take this episode slowly. Pause when you need to. Let it meet you wherever you are today. Ready to Stop...
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Losing Both Parents Before You're 30 - Real Talk About Grief with Tara Accardo
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
There's a loneliness that comes with loss that's hard to describe until you've felt it. That moment when you realize the person you'd normally call isn't there to answer anymore. Tara Accardo knows this pain intimately. In December 2019, she lost her mom to cancer. Six months later, her dad. Then, her beloved dog of 19 years. Each loss compounding the one before, leaving her asking: "What am I going to do?" But this conversation isn't about finding silver linings or moving on. It's about the messy, visceral reality of grief—and the unexpected strength that emerges when you're forced to...
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How to Actually Validate Yourself (When No One Else Does)
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Ever find yourself waiting for someone to notice how hard you're struggling? Waiting for your partner to ask if you're okay, your doctor to take you seriously, or someone—anyone—to validate that yes, what you're going through really IS that hard? Here's the truth: you can't control if someone else gives you that validation. But you can give it to yourself. And no, that's not the same as toxic positivity or forcing yourself to "look on the bright side." It's about giving yourself the same compassion you'd give a friend going through the exact same thing. In this episode, I'm sharing a...
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How to Respond to Feedback Without Spiralling (The Pistachio Nut Method)
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
Ever gotten feedback at work that just... stung? Like, you worked your ass off on a project, pulled off what felt like a miracle given the circumstances, only to be told you "weren't enthusiastic enough" or "should have felt more excited"? Yeah, that's the kind of feedback that can send you spiraling. In this episode, I'm breaking down why feedback hits us so damn hard in the first place, and more importantly, what to do about it. I'll share my pistachio nut framework for figuring out what feedback is actually worth keeping versus what's just... someone else's baggage you don't need to carry....
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How to Prevent a Panic Attack With Your Exhale (Not Your Mind)
Okay, Now What? - With Kate Gladdin
After the hardest year of my life, I discovered something I'd been taking for granted—the one thing that held me when everything else fell apart. This isn't your typical gratitude episode. Because when you're barely holding it together, "just be thankful" doesn't cut it. In this episode, you'll discover: Why one deep breath does nothing (and what actually works) The science behind why your exhales matter more than your inhales The 60-second tool that can stop you from spiraling before a difficult conversation What happens in your nervous system when you sigh (hint: it's not dramatic,...
info_outlineEver been through a breakup that didn’t just hurt emotionally—but physically?
Like your chest was caving in or your stomach was in knots? You're not crazy. In fact, there's actual science behind that soul crushing pain.
In this episode, we dive deep into what's actually happening in your brain and body when your heart gets broken—and why breakup grief might actually be harder to heal from than grief after death.
If you've ever felt like you were "crazy" for not being able to "just get over it," this episode is for you. We'll explore the fascinating neuroscience behind heartbreak and give you the validation (and hope) you need to keep moving forward.
What You'll Learn:
- Why your brain treats heartbreak like a literal drug withdrawal
- The science behind why breakups activate the same pain centers as physical injuries
- How the stress hormone cortisol wreaks havoc on your sleep, appetite, and immune system
- Why your brain gets stuck in rumination mode after a breakup
- The unique challenge of grieving someone who's still alive (and why it's harder than you think)
- How social media makes everything worse—and what to do about it
- The incredible power of neuroplasticity and how your brain can actually heal itself
- Practical strategies for working WITH your brain, not against it
If you're listening to this in the thick of heartbreak right now, please know: what you're feeling is valid, it's normal, and it WILL get better. Your brain is doing exactly what millions of years of evolution programmed it to do. Be patient with yourself. You're not broken—you're human. ❤️
And - you don't have to figure it all out alone.
If you're ready for real support (not fluff), I’m here to help you make sense of the pain, rebuild your confidence, and gently take your power back—one choice, one breath, one brave step at a time. Book a free 30-minute coaching consult with me here: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching