Unraveling the Secrets of Confidence with Brian Kight

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In this powerful episode of the One Percent Better, I reunite with Brian Kight, a return guest from Episode 17 in October 2017, for a deep dive into the fascinating world of confidence. Our conversation explores the origins, myths, and practical strategies for cultivating unshakeable confidence in our lives.

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Key Takeaways According to BK: 
• Confidence is a belief, not a fact. It's about projecting into the future and envisioning positive outcomes.
• We are all "delusional" to some degree, as we constantly make assumptions and projections about the future that may or may not be grounded in reality.
• Courage is not the absence of fear, but the willingness to act in spite of it. Confidence and courage are two distinct yet interconnected qualities.
• Confidence is built on five core beliefs: knowing what to do, knowing how to do it, believing in our capability, expecting good results, and trusting that we'll be okay even if things don't go as planned.
• Doubt arises when we lack belief in one or more of these five areas. By pinpointing the source of our doubt, we can take targeted action to build confidence.
• Confidence is not about perfection or guaranteed success; it's about the quality of our effort and our willingness to embrace uncertainty.
• As educators and mentors, we can help students build confidence by influencing their self-beliefs and providing a supportive, empowering environment.

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Powerful Quotes: (share one of these on Social Media) 

"Confidence is a belief. It's always projecting into the future, and as long as we're projecting something into the future, the reality is we don't actually know." - Brian Kight

"Courage can only exist in the absence of confidence. If confidence is full, courage has no role, because courage's entire role is to fill the gap where we feel fear with something stronger than the fear." - Brian Kight

"Once we detach confidence and doubt from reality, and we stop asking it to be truth, and we start recognizing it for what it is – it's just a belief – we recognize that people are already believing in all kinds of things from a doubt perspective that are untrue, all kinds of things for a confidence perspective that are untrue, but those beliefs have consequences in the actions that they drive within us." - Brian Kight

Practical Applications:
• Audit your own confidence regularly. Identify areas where you feel doubt and use the five belief framework to pinpoint the source of that doubt.
• Embrace discomfort and take action in the face of fear. Confidence is built through courageous action, not just positive thinking.
• As a leader or mentor, help others identify and change limiting self-beliefs. Create an environment that nurtures confidence and encourages people to step outside their comfort zones.
• Remember that confidence is a choice, not a perfect reflection of reality. Choose to believe in yourself and your abilities, even in the face of uncertainty.

This thought-provoking conversation with Brian Kight challenges us to rethink our assumptions about confidence and offers a powerful framework for cultivating unshakeable self-belief in our lives and the lives of those we lead and mentor.

As always, thanks for listening to Episode 298!

--Joe 

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