7 Lessons from Watching Your Partner with Others
The Openlove101 Show
In this intimate and revealing episode of the Open Love 101 podcast, hosts John and Jackie Melfi discuss a pivotal milestone in consensual non-monogamy relationships: the moment of realizing you're comfortable seeing your partner with someone else. Jackie shares her surprising journey from traditional monogamy to embracing open relationships, including her unexpected reaction to first seeing John with another person through a video he shared early in their relationship. Jackie reveals how watching John with someone else wasn't the jealousy-inducing experience she expected but instead created...
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The Hard Parts of Swinging (And Why They’re Not Actually Bad)
The Openlove101 Show
In this candid episode, John and Jackie shift the conversation to something couples don’t always talk about openly: the challenges of swinging and open relationships. While many episodes highlight the benefits, this one explores the obstacles—and why those same challenges often become powerful opportunities for growth, connection, and self-awareness. John and Jackie dive into real-world issues couples face when exploring the lifestyle, starting with time management. Swinging can be exciting, but without intention, it can easily crowd out family time, work responsibilities, or...
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The Truth About Swinging: It's Not What You Think!
The Openlove101 Show
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi of OpenLove101 as they discuss how they've broken traditional boundaries in non-monogamous relationships! In this candid episode, they share their experiences being "out and proud" about their lifestyle, how openness creates unexpected connections, and why their approach to relationships with play partners differs from typical swinger dynamics. 🎙️ Episode Highlights: • 00:00 - Intro to the Open Love 101 podcast with John and Jackie Melfi • 00:40 - John and Jackie welcome viewers to their new studio setup • 01:25 - Introduction to the episode's...
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How to Handle Fear & Jealousy in Swinging Relationships
The Openlove101 Show
Fear and jealousy are natural—but how you handle them can make or break your relationship. In this heartfelt video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com explore the emotional challenges that can arise in the swinging lifestyle and how honest communication and vulnerability can turn those moments into opportunities for deeper trust and connection. Drawing from personal stories, they show how facing insecurities together strengthens their bond and helps build a supportive, judgment-free relationship. If you're navigating non-monogamy or simply looking to grow closer to your partner, this...
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How to Unlock Non-Sexual Benefits in Open Relationships
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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they explore the often overlooked non-sexual benefits of consensual non-monogamous relationships! After receiving feedback that a previous video focused too much on the sexual aspects, they dedicate this episode to discussing how open relationships have strengthened their bond beyond the bedroom. Discover how open communication, deep trust, and radical honesty have created a foundation for their 13-year relationship. John and Jackie share personal experiences about how their relationship model has allowed them to discuss topics that might be taboo in...
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Setting Boundaries in the Swinger Lifestyle
The Openlove101 Show
How do you set healthy boundaries in a swinger or open relationship? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share practical advice for navigating boundaries—especially for newcomers exploring the lifestyle. They discuss why observing before participating can be helpful, how boundaries should evolve over time, and the importance of not using them to control your partner. With a focus on open communication, mutual respect, and gradual exploration, this episode is a must-watch for anyone wanting to build trust and intimacy while keeping the experience fun and fulfilling. 💬...
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How to Balance Feelings and Fun in Non-monogamy
The Openlove101 Show
In this enlightening episode of the OpenLove101 podcast, hosts John and Jackie Melfi address a thought-provoking question from a viewer about managing emotions as an external play partner in an open relationship. With their 20+ years of combined experience in open relationships, they offer valuable insights on maintaining boundaries while acknowledging natural human emotions. The hosts discuss the challenges of a play partner who has been in a relationship for 1.5 years with strict rules about emotional involvement, and explore whether it's truly possible to maintain a purely physical...
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How Swinging Strengthened Our Trust & Emotional Connection
The Openlove101 Show
How Swinging Strengthened Our Trust & Emotional Connection | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Can swinging lead to more emotional intimacy? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share how their open relationship has created a deeper sense of honesty, trust, and personal growth. Unlike traditional monogamous relationships where conversations about outside attraction are often avoided, John and Jackie embrace openness—creating a safe space for vulnerability, acceptance, and unconditional love. They discuss how this emotional freedom has transformed their connection and...
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10 Myths About Swinging Debunked Pt. 2
The Openlove101 Show
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind Colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog OpenLove101.com, as they discuss common misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, John and Jackie tackle the judgmental statements and questions they hear repeatedly. In this episode, they address myths like "that is disgusting," explore jealousy in open relationships, discuss how they handle conversations with their children, and much more. Whether you're curious about alternative...
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Consent in the Swinger Lifestyle: Why It Always Matters
The Openlove101 Show
Being in the lifestyle doesn’t mean consent is automatic. In this important video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive deep into the vital role of consent within the swinging community—especially in environments like swinger clubs and parties. They address common misconceptions, share real experiences, and emphasize that clear communication, mutual respect, and the ability to say “no” at any time are essential. From using safe words to navigating alcohol responsibly, this conversation is a must-watch for anyone seeking to explore ethically and confidently. 🔑 Consent is an...
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In this fun, fast-paced, and informative episode, John and Jackie from Openlove101 dive into the ever-evolving language of the swinger and consensually non-monogamous lifestyle. Prompted by questions from Courtney, the conversation turns into an entertaining glossary of terms — from beginner basics like swinger and soft swap to more nuanced or kinky concepts such as cuckold, bull, and double penetration.
With their signature humor and openness, John and Jackie demystify this often-confusing vocabulary while sharing personal insights and real-world context. Along the way, they explain how language in the lifestyle isn’t rigid — it evolves as people, relationships, and communities grow. This episode is equal parts education and laughter, making it a perfect starting point for curious newcomers and a refresher for seasoned explorers.
Whether you’ve heard whispers about upside-down pineapples, wondered what “play” actually means, or just want to understand the shorthand used in clubs and online profiles, this episode offers clarity without judgment — and plenty of laughs along the way.
🔑 Key Insights:
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What “swinger” really means in consensual non-monogamy
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How “play” differs from traditional sexual expectations
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Why boundaries matter more than labels
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The cultural meaning of the upside-down pineapple
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Definitions of common lifestyle roles like unicorn, bull, and cuckold
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Differences between on-premise and off-premise clubs
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Why lifestyle terminology continues to evolve over time
⏱️ Episode Topics & Flow:
00:00 – Introduction and Courtney’s questions
01:10 – What it means to be a swinger
02:05 – The meaning of “play” and personal boundaries
03:20 – Upside-down pineapple symbolism
04:10 – Unicorns, bulls, and soft swap explained
05:45 – Cuckolding and kink terminology
07:15 – On-premise vs off-premise clubs
08:40 – How and why lifestyle language changes
10:00 – Final reflections and wrap-up
This episode highlights that understanding the language of the lifestyle is about more than definitions — it’s about communication, consent, and curiosity. John and Jackie remind listeners that labels are tools, not rules, and that learning the language can help people feel more confident, respectful, and connected when exploring consensual non-monogamy.
Visit openlove101.com to explore more resources, submit your questions, and stay connected with upcoming episodes focused on communication, intimacy, and navigating the lifestyle with confidence.
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