Fantasy Roleplay in Consensual Non-Monogamy Relationships
Release Date: 10/28/2025
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info_outlineIn this playful and eye-opening episode, John and Jackie dive into the world of fantasy roleplay — a powerful tool for connection, communication, and confidence within relationships. Whether you’re new to consensual non-monogamy or simply looking to spice up your intimacy, roleplay offers a safe, creative space to explore fantasies together.
From costumes and card games to themed nights at clubs like colette, John and Jackie reveal how fantasy roleplay can break routine, build trust, and help couples express their desires without judgment. They share real-life stories, tips for easing into roleplay, and how to use it as a gentle “test drive” for exploring new boundaries before trying them in real life.
With their signature warmth and honesty, they remind listeners that fantasy isn’t just about fun — it’s about freedom, growth, and shared discovery.
🔑 Key Insights:
Fantasy roleplay is a powerful tool for deepening intimacy and exploring desires together.
Adult stores and games make starting roleplay easier and more approachable.
Roleplay encourages open communication about fantasies and boundaries.
It can serve as a “rehearsal space” before real-life consensual non-monogamous experiences.
Emotional safety and mutual consent are essential throughout the process.
Shared novelty strengthens emotional bonds and sparks lasting closeness.
Themed nights at clubs like colette offer exciting opportunities for roleplay in a supportive environment.
⏱️ Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction to fantasy roleplay and its role in relationships
00:37 – Using fantasy roleplay to open communication and explore boundaries
01:35 – Shopping for toys, games, and costumes
03:14 – How a simple card game broke the ice for newcomers
04:04 – Theme nights at clubs as roleplay opportunities
04:33 – Personal roleplay experiences and playful tips
06:10 – Roleplay as a stepping stone to real-life experiences
07:42 – Encouraging community discussion and shared stories
08:07 – Closing thoughts and call to action
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