ADAM LANE SMITH | How Men and Women Cause Each Other Pain
Order of Man
Why can’t women just understand men? Why can’t men just understand women? The short answer is, “we’re not supposed to.” If we were, we wouldn’t really have any need for each other, would we? My guest today, has made it his life’s work to get closer to helping men understand women and help us understand our own natural tendencies in relationships. Today, Adam and I talk about emotional starvation, the concept of CEO/COO between men and women, the ‘red flags’ that your marriage is struggling, what men and women do to cause each other pain, and how men can lead in their...
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Men and The Humanity of Hunting | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler passionately defends hunting, addressing misconceptions and highlighting its ecological and ethical benefits. He explores the historical role of hunting in human survival, its impact on conservation, and the reverence of consuming what you kill. Michler provides data-driven arguments to counter anti-hunting sentiments, emphasizing population management, habitat preservation, and sustainable practices. He also offers practical advice for aspiring hunters. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion that challenges assumptions and...
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The Paradox of Choice, When to Call it Quits, and Living the Intentional Life | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this AMA episode, Ryan and Kipp explore the tension between motivation and meaning in today’s self-help culture. They dive into headline topics like the Tim Kennedy stolen valor controversy, then tackle listener questions on marriage doubts, healing journeys, ex-partner conflicts, starting a podcast, and when to pivot in life. Expect honest, grounded advice around boundaries, intentional living, and balancing life’s demands without burnout. A must-listen for men navigating growth, fatherhood, and purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Tim Kennedy & the Stolen Valor Debate 08:29 - Should...
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ED LATIMORE | Hard Lessons Learned from the Sweet Science
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Boxing is known as the “Sweet Science,” but the name doesn’t quite do it justice. The amount of work, effort, blood, sweat, tears, and beatdowns is anything but sweet. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t so many powerful lessons to be learned from what my guest today, , calls the “Hurt Business.” Today, Ed and I talk about how and why people either buy into you (or not), why the next win or loss is just a setup for the next experience of your life, the power of consciously choosing to start over in life and after setbacks, why you’re only as good as your last win, and why...
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Be The Rock For Your Family | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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Ryan Michler, in this week's Friday Field Notes, delivers an inspiring episode on becoming a steadfast presence for family and community. He shares seven actionable strategies to navigate life's challenges while supporting others, emphasizing clear communication, firm boundaries, and emotional resilience. Michler urges men to embody trustworthiness and capability, ensuring they’re the reliable "rock" others depend on during tough times. Packed with practical advice and motivational insights, this episode empowers listeners to lead with strength and serve those they love. SHOW...
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Mastering Feedback, Boundaries, and Family Mentoring | ASK ME ANYTHING
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Join Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen in this engaging "Ask Me Anything" episode, diving into listener questions on career leaps, mentoring kids, handling feedback, and setting boundaries. From advice on applying for a higher job to being a positive role model for a niece and nephew, they share practical insights for personal growth. The episode also explores the evolution of the Iron Council and the value of its community, offering actionable tips for men striving to thrive. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Catching Up and Weekend Recap 03:59 - Applying for a Higher Job 08:05 - Being a Role Model...
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AARON HALE | Re-Sizing Your Ego
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We’re all tempted, at times, to allow our ego to get the better of us. Many of us feel like we’re on top of the world until the precise time we find ourselves on the bottom of it. My guest today, , found himself in just that scenario as an Explosive Ordnance Disposal tech on a routine assignment when he was blown up by an Improvised Explosive Device (IED) that caused him to lose sight and, later, his hearing. Today, we talk about the fear of being stuck, gratitude for our struggles and adversities, overcoming our greatest fears, how positivity and negativity are infectious, and how you...
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Confronting the Stress of Masculinity | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles the overwhelming stress men face in their roles as providers and protectors. He offers five practical strategies to manage stress effectively, emphasizing personal responsibility over societal expectations. Michler encourages men to identify stress triggers, eliminate distractions, prioritize health, break monotonous routines, and adjust life's tempo without losing direction. Through actionable advice and personal insights, he empowers listeners to reduce stress and enhance performance, ensuring they can serve their families and...
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Learning to Let Go, Never Offering Unsolicited Advice, and Getting Good at Saying, ‘I Don’t Know’’ | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this "Ask Me Anything" episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen dive into listener questions, exploring themes of faith, letting go, and pursuing purpose. They discuss building male camaraderie through action, overcoming overthinking, and embracing "I don't know" to find peace. From marathon training insights to serving others and knowing when to offer empathy versus tough love, this episode offers practical wisdom for men striving to live with intention. Join the Iron Council brotherhood at orderofman.com for more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Catching Up 05:29 - Strengthening...
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NICK O'KELLY | Confronting the Stigma of Men’s Mental Health
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We’re all well-aware of the stigma associated with men’s mental health. Men are often told overtly or covertly to be just be quiet, do your job, and get your work done. And, while there is certainly some validity to us getting the job done when people are relying on us, it’s also valid to consider the mental and emotional battles we often fight as men. Today, I am joined by retired Green Beret, Nick O’Kelly to talk about his time in service the mental and emotional anguish he faced, and what he’s done to overcome the challenges of anxiety, depression, and even suicidal ideation. We...
info_outlineVery few men think of relationships in the frame of the “sexual marketplace,” although the rules and principles of attraction and connection can very much be understood as an economic model, of sorts, of perceived value. And, the man who offers the most perceived value, is the man who gets the girl. Whether you’re married or single, understanding the intricacies and nuance of what makes a man attractive to a woman will help him get more of what he wants from her.
My guest today, psychologist Orion Taraban joins me to discuss these dynamics between men and women so we all get more of what we’re after in relationships. We cover the importance of knowing your value and knowing what is valuable to the opposite sex, why love has little or nothing to do with attraction, what is known as the “Madonna-Whore Complex,” the concepts of Captains and Passengers as it relates to dating and mating, the difference between talking and communicating, and how best to make yourself more attractive.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction to Captain and Passenger Roles
00:30 - Orion Taraban’s Background and Book Success
01:30 - The Role of YouTube in Building an Audience
03:24 - Orion’s Communication Style and Credentials
07:04 - The Captain and Passenger Metaphor
11:33 - Prerogatives of the Captain
12:23 - Liabilities of Female Captaincy
15:29 - Sexual Marketplace Dynamics
18:38 - Love and Relationships
20:15 - Male Sexuality and Objectification
26:16 - Attraction and the “Bad Boy” Myth
28:12 - The Two Women Concept
32:21 - Communication vs. Talking in Relationships
37:24 - Self-Knowledge and Attraction
41:14 - Double Standards in the Sexual Marketplace
47:20 - Body Count and Sexual Novelty
51:17 - The Coolidge Effect and Male Drive
56:13 - Monogamy and Historical Context
59:54 - Relationships as Economic Transactions
1:03:36 - Marriage as a Business Partnership
1:09:48 - What Women Want in Men
1:16:01 - Standing Out in the Sexual Marketplace
1:23:12 - Where to Connect with Orion