Order of Man
Failures, victories, wins, and losses. We're exploring, uncovering, and unpacking the most valuable life lessons learned from the most successful men on the planet. Conversations include Jocko, Chris Williamson, Ben Shapiro, Dave Ramsey, David Goggins, Tim Tebow, Shawn Ryan, Cam Hanes, Terry Crews, Matthew McConaughey, Adam Carolla, Robert Greene, Ryan Holiday, Mark Manson, and so many more. If you want to learn how to be a better man, we've got you covered.
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Dealing with Desperation, Developing an Eternal Perspective, & Fostering Vigilance | ASK ME ANYTHING
06/25/2025
Dealing with Desperation, Developing an Eternal Perspective, & Fostering Vigilance | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen dive into powerful listener-submitted questions around change, brotherhood, leadership, emotional vulnerability, and navigating fear in uncertain times. They explore how desperation and inspiration spark transformation, the traits that make up a strong inner circle, and the importance of vigilance in a chaotic world. Additionally, they explore spiritual perspectives, navigating major life transitions, and emotional expression as fathers. Real talk, real insight — this episode offers practical and heartfelt guidance for men striving to lead with strength and clarity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Opening Banter & Headlines 08:08 – Desperation vs. Inspiration: How Change Happens 15:42 – Building Your Inner Circle 32:22 – Dealing with Eternity and Purpose 41:10 – Managing Fear in Uncertain Times 49:15 – Leading Through Major Life Transitions 52:43 – Emotional Expression as Fathers 59:00 – Iron Council Invitation & Wrap-Up Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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CODY JEFFERSON | Build a Life That Calls to You
06/24/2025
CODY JEFFERSON | Build a Life That Calls to You
Too many men are wandering around aimlessly through life doing just enough in their existence to make it through one more day. That’s part of the reason I founded Order of Man and bring in incredible men like my guest today, . Cody is on a mission to help men find their purpose and live a life they’re called to live. Today, Cody and I talk about why so many men feel they’re always behind and never enough, the pressures a man faces daily and how to relieve them correctly, the source of joy and peace in a man’s life, how your body will tell you a lot about your attitude and efforts in life, why men should focus on who they are, not what they do, and so much more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Friendship 01:11 - Trusting God's Timing 02:59 - Learning from Challenges 05:41 - Being Known vs. Being Seen 07:07 - Overcoming Vices 09:24 - Impact of Self-Sabotage 11:24 - Fear of Success 13:35 - Transition from Ministry 14:38 - Practical Self-Care 19:35 - Lessons from Past Mistakes 23:18 - Health Crisis and Realization 27:04 - Divine Inspiration 30:24 - Importance of Wise Counsel 34:57 - Death and Resurrection 40:13 - Understanding Purpose 43:14 - Calling to Help Others 46:46 - Judging Actions vs. Souls 49:36 - Overcoming Ego 53:16 - Areas of Growth 57:21 - Building a Deeper Connection Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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6 Books Every Father Should Read | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
06/20/2025
6 Books Every Father Should Read | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Ryan Michler shares six essential books for fathers in this heartfelt episode of *Friday Field Notes*. Reflecting on fatherhood’s profound impact, he draws from personal experiences, including a near-death hunting trip with his son. Michler recommends reads like *The Boy Crisis* and *Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters* to help fathers navigate modern challenges, raise resilient sons, and nurture daughters’ self-worth. Emphasizing sovereignty and emotional regulation, he inspires men to lead with purpose,0making this episode a powerful guide for fathers committed to growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Fatherhood’s Importance 02:31 - Father’s Day Reflections 04:52 - Book 1: The Boy Crisis 06:09 - Book 2: Iron John 07:09 - Book 3: Wild at Heart 09:36 - Book 4: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters 11:02 - Book 5: Men’s Work 12:02 - Book 6: Sovereignty 14:31 - Closing Thoughts and Resources
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The 'Yes' Mentality, Becoming a Man of Honor, and When to Start a Business | ASK ME ANYTHING
06/18/2025
The 'Yes' Mentality, Becoming a Man of Honor, and When to Start a Business | ASK ME ANYTHING
Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle listener questions in this Friday Field Notes "Ask Me Anything" episode. They explore escaping life’s ruts, timing for starting a business, simplifying battle plans, staying disciplined, interviewing high-profile figures, and sharing advice confidently. Recorded early due to a hunting trip, their practical insights and relatable analogies inspire men to take action and live purposefully. Join the Iron Council at orderman.com/ironcouncil for more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Hunting Plans 09:38 - Escaping Life’s Ruts 18:00 - Timing for Starting a Business 24:21 - Simplifying Battle Plans 34:31 - Maintaining Discipline 45:31 - Framing a High-Profile Interview 51:10 - Sharing Advice Confidently 01:03:21 - Iron Council Enrollment and Wrap-Up
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ORION TARABAN | Winning in the Sexual Marketplace
06/17/2025
ORION TARABAN | Winning in the Sexual Marketplace
Very few men think of relationships in the frame of the “sexual marketplace,” although the rules and principles of attraction and connection can very much be understood as an economic model, of sorts, of perceived value. And, the man who offers the most perceived value, is the man who gets the girl. Whether you’re married or single, understanding the intricacies and nuance of what makes a man attractive to a woman will help him get more of what he wants from her. My guest today, psychologist joins me to discuss these dynamics between men and women so we all get more of what we’re after in relationships. We cover the importance of knowing your value and knowing what is valuable to the opposite sex, why love has little or nothing to do with attraction, what is known as the “Madonna-Whore Complex,” the concepts of Captains and Passengers as it relates to dating and mating, the difference between talking and communicating, and how best to make yourself more attractive. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Captain and Passenger Roles 00:30 - Orion Taraban’s Background and Book Success 01:30 - The Role of YouTube in Building an Audience 03:24 - Orion’s Communication Style and Credentials 07:04 - The Captain and Passenger Metaphor 11:33 - Prerogatives of the Captain 12:23 - Liabilities of Female Captaincy 15:29 - Sexual Marketplace Dynamics 18:38 - Love and Relationships 20:15 - Male Sexuality and Objectification 26:16 - Attraction and the “Bad Boy” Myth 28:12 - The Two Women Concept 32:21 - Communication vs. Talking in Relationships 37:24 - Self-Knowledge and Attraction 41:14 - Double Standards in the Sexual Marketplace 47:20 - Body Count and Sexual Novelty 51:17 - The Coolidge Effect and Male Drive 56:13 - Monogamy and Historical Context 59:54 - Relationships as Economic Transactions 1:03:36 - Marriage as a Business Partnership 1:09:48 - What Women Want in Men 1:16:01 - Standing Out in the Sexual Marketplace 1:23:12 - Where to Connect with Orion
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Break Free From Imposter Syndrome | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
06/13/2025
Break Free From Imposter Syndrome | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this powerful episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles imposter syndrome, urging men to reject feelings of inadequacy and embrace their divine purpose. He challenges the notion of being an imposter, labeling it as selfish and rooted in insecurity. Michler provides a candid, no-nonsense perspective, offering five actionable steps to reframe negative self-stories, unpack insecurities, and lean on others’ belief in oneself. With raw honesty, he inspires listeners to recognize their worth and take bold action to become the men they’re meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:30 - Introduction to Imposter Syndrome 02:56 - The Selfish Nature of Imposter Syndrome 04:42 - Acknowledging Strengths and Weaknesses 06:54 - Value is Subjective 08:56 - The Comparison Trap 11:07 - You’re Not an Imposter, You’re Learning 12:57 - Imposter Syndrome is Just a Story 14:58 - Unpacking Insecurities with the Five W’s 17:07 - Journaling to Confront Insecurities 19:11 - Rewriting Your Past Story 21:22 - Crafting a New Story 24:50 - Leaning on Others’ Belief in You 27:05 - Rejecting Imposter Syndrome 29:11 - Moral Imperative to Be Your Best 31:18 - Closing Thoughts and Iron Council Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Extreme Emotions, Running From Your Problems, and Fighting For Your Life | ASK ME ANYTHING
06/11/2025
Extreme Emotions, Running From Your Problems, and Fighting For Your Life | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this AMA episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorenson dive into key questions from listeners on navigating relationships, living with purpose, processing intense emotions, and making tough life decisions. They also explore personal family traditions, the importance of frameworks and accountability, and how to know when it's time to pivot. With honest, practical insights and stories from their own experiences, this episode is packed with value for any man seeking growth, clarity, and strength in all areas of life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro and catching up 01:38 – Navigating early relationship struggles 08:05 – Living life unabashedly 16:41 – Family summer traditions 20:17 – Processing strong emotions like anger and sadness 30:11 – Running away or moving toward opportunity 40:11 – What would you prioritize if your life was on the line? 45:06 – What to cut out to move forward 48:31 – Turning knowledge into action 54:24 – Preparing for the Forge event & final thoughts Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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ANDREW SHAW | Only You Are Holding Yourself Back
06/10/2025
ANDREW SHAW | Only You Are Holding Yourself Back
I believe that most men know they’re leaving room on the table for personal and professional growth and while their diagnosis may be correct, the prescription is wrong. Most men seem to believe that if only their circumstances were different (their boss, their wife, their financial prosperity, etc.), their lives would be better. But the reality is a new circumstances, without a change you yourself, will only produce more of the same. My guest today, , has made it his life’s work to help men break free from the patterns that are holding them back, many of them subconscious. Today, we talk about discipline, resilience, the importances of what he calls, “choice points,” the critical differences between taking fault and taking responsibility, and how many men have over-corrected against the attack on masculinity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 00:27 - Discussing Content and Masculinity 02:34 - Cultural Views on Masculinity 06:15 - Overទ - Reactions and Overcorrections 08:17 - Common Issues Men Face 15:17 - Masculine Traits and Relationships 23:24 - Starting with Self-Alignment 28:14 - Embracing Discomfort for Growth 35:42 - Physical and Emotional Integration 46:40 - Connecting with Andrew Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Your Integrity Gap is Destroying You | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
06/06/2025
Your Integrity Gap is Destroying You | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Ryan Michler delves into the concept of the "integrity gap" — the disparity between what men know they should do and what they actually do. He explores how this gap hinders personal growth, results, and relationships, urging listeners to bridge it through actionable steps. Michler provides six introspective questions to help men align their actions with their aspirations, fostering purpose and impact. Tune in to discover how to close the integrity gap and become the man you’re meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introducing the Integrity Gap 02:23 - Risks of the Integrity Gap 08:17 - Impact on Your People 10:41 - Who Are You Ideally? 14:56 - Who Are You Currently? 18:22 - What Needs to Happen Daily? 20:14 - What Information Do You Need? 22:38 - What Systems Do You Need? 24:50 - What Do You Need to Do Right Now? 26:34 - Adapting to Life’s Challenges Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Regain Momentum, Be a Manly Man, and Overcome Your Heart at War | ASK ME ANYTHING
06/04/2025
Regain Momentum, Be a Manly Man, and Overcome Your Heart at War | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle questions around forgiveness, grief, confidence, and masculine responsibility. They explore how to regain momentum after major life setbacks, navigate strained relationships with parents, and balance humility with confidence. The hosts also discuss toxic masculinity, fatherhood, and the importance of modeling strength and integrity. This episode is a call to rise above a “heart at war” and live as a man of purpose—even in the face of fear, trauma, and adversity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Opening & News Headlines 03:50 – Forgiving Parents Without Reconnecting 17:18 – Confidence and Humility in One Hand 24:35 – Facing Mortality & Leading Your Family 35:42 – Regaining Momentum After Loss 40:59 – Prioritizing Fitness vs. Financial Goals 48:37 – Why Most Men Stay Stuck 59:05 – Toxic Masculinity, Feminism & Prevention Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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ALEX GRENDI | Sex: How to Be Better at It and Get More of What You Want
06/03/2025
ALEX GRENDI | Sex: How to Be Better at It and Get More of What You Want
From the time we were little boys and young men, the topic of sex has always seemed to conjure up thoughts of embarrassment and shame. It’s unfortunate (to say the least) considering that most men equate sex with the woman in their lives an integral part of the relationship and connection. My guest today, , has made it his life’s work to explore men’s relationships with sex and how we can not only get more of it but make it more meaningful for ourselves and the women in our lives. We talk about porn’s impact on sexual relationships, how to overcome childhood shame around the conversation of sex, how to solicit and ask for feedback in your performance in the bedroom (including how to ask for what you want), why nice guys never get what they want from intimacy, and the psychological and physiological issues men deal with when with their lady. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:25 - Misconceptions About Men and Sex 00:56 - Shame and Societal Expectations 02:05 - Defining "Good" at Sex 03:22 - Impact of Pornography 04:32 - Healthy Perspective on Sex 06:01 - Creating Safety in the Bedroom 07:44 - Balancing Quickies and Intimacy 09:18 - Pornography and Performance Issues 10:54 - Navigating Religious Shame 12:02 - Talking to Kids About Sex 14:57 - Overcoming Shame and Insecurity 18:19 - Steps to Address Performance Anxiety 22:51 - Managing Stress for Better Intimacy 25:05 - Exploring Non-Genital Pleasure 29:24 - Importance of Foreplay 32:18 - Honoring Your Own Needs 36:14 - Mastering Edging Techniques 41:30 - Removing Ejaculation as the Goal 44:42 - Communicating Desires Effectively 50:28 - Leadership in Intimacy 53:06 - Reframing Sexual Intentions 55:42 - Connecting with Alex Grendi Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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What We Do Echoes in Eternity | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
05/30/2025
What We Do Echoes in Eternity | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the powerful concept inspired by Gladiator and Marcus Aurelius: “What we do echoes in eternity.” Michler emphasizes the importance of adopting a long-term perspective in life to avoid emotional impulsivity, short-term gains, and scarcity mindsets. He shares three key mindsets for maintaining focus on lasting goals and three practical strategies—pausing before acting, applying the “five-five-five rule,” and prioritizing long-term results—to achieve meaningful outcomes. Michler’s insights inspire listeners to make decisions that resonate beyond the present, fostering a legacy of impact and growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:18 - Introduction 02:42 - Why Long-Term Perspective Matters 07:21 - Avoiding Short-Term Thinking Traps 09:38 - Strategy 1: Stop Before You Act 11:56 - Managing Emotional Responses 13:57 - Strategy 2: The Five-Five-Five Rule 16:04 - Strategy 3: Focus on Long-Term Results 18:06 - Building Lasting Relationships 20:27 - Recap and Call to Action Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Casting Vision, Revisiting the Past, and Accepting Responsibility | ASK ME ANYTHING
05/28/2025
Casting Vision, Revisiting the Past, and Accepting Responsibility | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this week’s Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler—joined midway by Kipp Sorensen—tackles questions from listeners about discipline, balance, relationships, and personal growth. They share insights on training consistency in summer, defining identity, healing after breakups, and leading a family with intensity and joy. Whether you're navigating divorce, redefining your vision, or trying to stay focused in a distracted world, this episode delivers powerful mindset shifts and practical takeaways to help you become the man you're meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro & Memorial Day Reflection 02:49 – Staying Consistent with Training in Summer 05:02 – Balancing Drive and Family Presence 09:46 – Responsibility vs. Enabling in Family 14:28 – Dating After Divorce 22:20 – Discovering Identity and Vision 32:48 – Lessons from Darkest Moments 42:49 – Financial Readiness for Marriage 46:13 – Moving On After a Breakup 50:20 – Closing Remarks & Call to Action Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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CRAIG BALLANTYNE | The Dark Side of Discipline
05/27/2025
CRAIG BALLANTYNE | The Dark Side of Discipline
Every single man listening to this is familiar with discipline and has applied it (to varying degrees) in his life. We generally think of discipline as an overall good thing (and, I think it is) but it can often lead to bouts of frustration and unnecessary suffering if utilized incorrectly. My guest today, Craig Ballantyne, makes the case that discipline, although, a powerful force for productivity comes with strings attached, and isn’t the end-all, save-all it’s often made out to be. Today, we talk about what true discipline is not, why chasing the wrong target is so common and what to do about it, what I call the “self-help hangover” and how to avoid it, why you should know the distinction between standards and expectations, and how to avoid what Craig calls, “The Doom Loop” in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Defining Discipline 00:42 - Level 10 Effort and Level 10 Problems 01:48 - Identifying Your Level 10 Problem 04:21 - The Importance of Focus and Self-Reflection 06:32 - Calibration and Goal Setting 07:54 - Facing Difficult Conversations 10:44 - The Hero’s Journey and Overcoming Fears 13:13 - Personal Growth Through Challenges 15:49 - Suffering vs. Sacrifice 18:54 - Reframing Sacrifice for Joy 21:21 - Choices and Personal Responsibility 23:44 - Inspiring Stories of Resilience 25:35 - Motivation and Maximizing Potential 27:54 - Breaking the Doom Loop 30:27 - Effortless Discipline Systems 33:46 - The Power of Systems Over Willpower 37:09 - Accountability as a Life Hack 40:31 - Raising Standards for Success 43:55 - Standards vs. Expectations 46:12 - Controlling Thoughts, Words, and Deeds 48:27 - Identity and Core Values 50:35 - Creating a Vision for Your Future 52:45 - Where to Connect and Learn More Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Do Not Grow Bitter | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
05/23/2025
Do Not Grow Bitter | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares four strategies to avoid bitterness amid life's challenges. He urges men to take responsibility for their circumstances, emphasizing decision-making, reframing adversity, learning from experiences, and applying lessons for growth. Michler highlights the dangers of victimhood and encourages gratitude and proactive change to transform struggles into opportunities. With personal anecdotes and practical advice, he inspires listeners to rise above frustration and embrace their potential. Visit orderofman.com/battle-ready for tools to implement these principles and become the man you're meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:10 - Introduction: The Trap of Bitterness 02:30 - Strategy 1: Make a Decision 04:55 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves 07:24 - Strategy 2: Reframe Your Circumstances 09:47 - Gratitude as a Tool for Growth 11:30 - Strategy 3: Learn from Experiences 13:50 - Strategy 4: Apply the Lessons 15:47 - Embracing Discomfort and Responsibility 17:54 - Tools for Improvement: The Battle Planner 20:05 - Closing: Take Action, Rise Above Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Self-Help Hangover, Jumpstarting Motivation, and The Crisis of Meaning | ASK ME ANYTHING
05/21/2025
Self-Help Hangover, Jumpstarting Motivation, and The Crisis of Meaning | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this "Ask Me Anything" episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle listener questions on toxic leadership, writing books, jumpstarting motivation, the meaning crisis, and connecting with stepkids. They explore overcoming self-help burnout, emphasizing the power of fun to recharge motivation, and discuss finding purpose in a pleasure-driven culture. With practical advice and personal insights, they inspire listeners to take action, build influence, and live meaningfully. Join the conversation at orderofman.com and themensforge.com. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Weekend Recap 02:55 - Dealing with Toxic Leadership 19:06 - Writing Books: Plans and Challenges 23:53 - Jumpstarting Motivation 34:44 - The Meaning Crisis: Causes and Solutions 43:23 - Overcoming Self-Help Burnout 54:41 - Building Influence with Stepkids 01:02:15 - Community Updates and Resources Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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GARRETT UNCLEBACH | Why Men Require Purpose
05/20/2025
GARRETT UNCLEBACH | Why Men Require Purpose
Purpose is a factor of life that every man knows will improve his quality of life. Unfortunately, we seem to be in an era when purpose is increasingly abysmal in the lives of too many men. Men in all walks and stages of life are floundering around aimlessly, wondering why they’re anxious, depressed, and alone. My guest today, , former Navy SEAL, is a man who is intimately familiar with why and how purpose drives men to step up, take charge of their lives, and succeed. We unpack why a man must look beyond himself, how surrendering in certain circumstances could lead you to an incredible place you’ve never considered, the power of equanimity and how to cultivate it, why being faithful when you have nothing leads to a life of prosperity and abundance, and how to judge what you should be doing and who you should be doing it with. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:35 - Ryan’s Recent Event in St. Louis 01:00 - Garrett’s Men’s Group and Camping Trip 02:40 - Developing Leaders and Train the Trainer 05:00 - Rewarding Leadership Moments 06:27 - Hunting Memories and Mentorship 07:16 - Family and Fatherhood 09:29 - Shared Hunting Experiences in Africa 11:25 - The Impossible Life and Control 12:32 - Mentoring Navy SEAL Tadpoles 14:46 - Finding Peace Beyond Outcomes 16:39 - Balancing Heart and Consequences 19:10 - Joseph’s Dream and Purpose 22:35 - Discovering Purpose Through Heart and Hand 25:09 - God’s Plan and Personal Growth 26:51 - The Question Every Man Asks 29:31 - The Power of Perspective and Beliefs 32:43 - Faith, Works, and Serving Others 35:57 - Transformation Over Behavioral Change 39:13 - Balancing Service and Personal Fulfillment 42:09- Living and Dying for Purpose 45:01 - Equanimity and Staying Under the Weight 47:35 - Taking Responsibility for Choices 49:32 - The Mindset of Inevitability 52:30 - Resilience vs. Delusion 56:33 - Learning from Scars and Pain 58:09 - Chip on the Shoulder Mentality 01:01:28 - Purpose Over Temporary Identity 01:03:13 - Mission vs. Vision 01:05:22 - Connecting with Garrett and Closing Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Options Equal Freedom | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
05/16/2025
Options Equal Freedom | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores how creating options leads to true freedom. Expanding on the concept of "discipline equals freedom," Ryan argues that personal responsibility, open-mindedness, and sovereignty are key to unlocking a life of choice. He shares four actionable strategies to cultivate options, emphasizing self-improvement, avoiding rigid thinking, aligning relationships, and prioritizing liberty. Ryan inspires listeners to take control of their lives and pursue their desired path. Join the Iron Council at for more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Options and Freedom 02:35 - Fix Yourself First 04:59 - Never Pedestalize Anything 09:43 - Coinciding vs. Conflicting Interests 14:05 - Sovereignty as the Path to Liberty 17:45 - Reclaiming Your Sovereignty 20:00 - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Respect Earned vs. Respect Given, Getting Over Failure, & Choosing Your Influence | ASK ME ANYTHING
05/14/2025
Respect Earned vs. Respect Given, Getting Over Failure, & Choosing Your Influence | ASK ME ANYTHING
Join Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen for an engaging Ask Me Anything episode, tackling listener questions on sobriety, respect, body image, entrepreneurship, and relationships. From navigating a teen’s insecurities to balancing co-parenting conflicts, they share practical advice and personal insights. With humor and heart, they explore overcoming the comparison trap and building a fulfilling life. Sign up for the Men’s Forge at themensforge.com and join the Iron Council at orderofman.com/ironcouncil. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Episode Intro and Roomba Mishap 00:01:50 - Sobriety and Overcoming Past Mistakes 00:07:52 - Respect: Earned vs. Given 00:13:24 - Supporting a Teen’s Body Image Struggles 00:22:25 - Bedros Kulian Event and Personal Growth 00:24:17 - Escaping the Comparison Trap 00:32:55 - Men’s Forge Event Plans 00:35:54 - Starting a Business: Key Tips 00:44:24 - Co-Parenting and Team Commitments 00:49:00 - Fitness Goals and Gym Humor 00:51:51 - Letting Go of Relationships 00:57:53 - Call to Action and Closing Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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KIPP SORENSEN | The Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Leadership
05/13/2025
KIPP SORENSEN | The Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Leadership
Leadership is a word that has become completely bastardized in modern culture. Everywhere you turn, someone is hyping you up on why you need to become a better leader, the benefits of leading versus following, and how exactly you should do it. But what if I told you, it’s not the tactics that make you a leader but the mindsets that spell the difference. My good friend, brother, and leadership coach, , joins me today to talk about what it really means to lead in a world where every man thinks they’re leading well. We address the two types of destructive leaders, the “BAR” acronym (behavior, actions, results) and which to focus on, how 83% of people in the workforce view their position in the company (and what you can do about it), why a “compensation” package is about more than just money, and the do’s and don’t’s of effective leadership. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Business Talk 01:48 - Exploring Leadership Challenges 04:30 - How Authority Changes People 06:18 - Persecutors vs. Rescuers in Leadership 10:26 - Stanford Prison Experiment Insights 13:07 - Balancing Motivation and Honesty 17:19 - Becoming a Leader-Coach 21:41 - The Mindset of Great Leadership 23:21 - Applying Leadership at Home 29:49 - Defining the Leader-Coach Role 36:31 - Balancing Accountability and Empathy 41:29 - Focusing on Results, Not Behaviors 49:54 - Ownership and Choice in Leadership 56:00 - Handling Limited Resources 01:02:09 - Leading Family vs. Employees 01:09:20 - Closing and Kipp’s Contact Info Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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5 Signs You’re a People-Pleaser | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
05/09/2025
5 Signs You’re a People-Pleaser | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this poignant episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler delves into the pitfalls of people-pleasing, drawing from personal reflection. He identifies five critical signs—saying yes when you mean no, avoiding conflict, feeling responsible for others’ emotions, tying self-worth to praise, and feeling burned out or resentful. Michler shares candid insights, referencing No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover and Let Them by Mel Robbins, offering practical anecdotes to break the cycle. Through raw honesty, he encourages listeners to set boundaries and prioritize self-care to become their authentic selves. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:19 - Introduction to People-Pleasing 04:53 - Recommended Resources 07:21 - Sign 1: Saying Yes When You Should Say No 09:49 - Sign 2: Avoiding Conflict at All Costs 13:25 - Sign 3: Feeling Responsible for Others’ Feelings 18:53 - Sign 4: Struggling with Self-Worth Without Praise 28:04 - Sign 5: Feeling Burned Out, Resentful, and Unseen 34:50 - Actionable Steps and Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Find Your Values, Validate Yourself, and Why You Hate Yourself | ASK ME ANYTHING
05/07/2025
Find Your Values, Validate Yourself, and Why You Hate Yourself | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this "Ask Me Anything" episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen dive into a St. Louis event recap, sharing its triumphs and challenges. They tackle listener questions on sibling conflicts, leaving work stress behind, the pressures of leadership, marriage cycles, discovering personal values, and managing credit scores. With candid insights, Ryan and Kipp explore self-validation, intentionality, and aligning actions with values, offering practical advice for men striving to live purposefully. Join them for an inspiring discussion on growth and resilience. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00.088 - Event Recap: St. Louis Experience 06:40.662 - Handling Sibling Conflicts 13:54.412 - Leaving Work Stress at Home 24:18.870 - The Weight of Leadership 41:44.558 - Marriage Cycles: Fact or Fiction? 51:40.632 - Discovering Your Personal Values 57:09.762 - Credit Scores and Financial Responsibility 01:02:15.275 - Call to Action: Divorce Not Death Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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GEOFF HOPF | Hard Times Create Strong Men
05/06/2025
GEOFF HOPF | Hard Times Create Strong Men
We’ve all heard the quote, “Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create hard times.” Today, I have the author of that quote, Geoff Hopf on the podcast to talk about what he meant when we penned that phrase. Today, we talk about moral weakness and lacking skillsets, why masculinity does not need to be redefined, why accepting reality is such a crucial part of men’s growth, why all men want to be part of something great, the 4 pillars of survival, and overcoming illogical belief systems. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction 01:24 – Geoff’s background and law enforcement experience 06:35 – Transitioning to writing and becoming an author 11:18 – Daily writing habits and productivity 15:47 – Finding purpose through creative work 20:26 – Violence, masculinity, and raising boys 26:55 – Personal responsibility and fatherhood 33:10 – Social media, distraction, and mental clarity 39:42 – Freedom of speech and cancel culture 44:51 – Lessons from fatherhood and legacy 50:15 – Final thoughts and where to find Geoff’s work Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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When You Mess Up, Learn | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
05/02/2025
When You Mess Up, Learn | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler delivers a powerful message on embracing failure as a catalyst for growth. Drawing from personal experiences, he outlines six actionable strategies to learn from setbacks, including avoiding complacency, focusing on controllables, and forgiving oneself. Michler emphasizes resilience and personal responsibility, urging listeners to let go of past mistakes and build a better future. His candid, motivational approach inspires men to confront challenges head-on and transform adversity into opportunity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction: The Inevitability of Failure 02:53 - Six Strategies to Learn from Failure 05:13 - Complacency Kills 07:33 - Externalities Are Rarely the Problem 11:47 - Build New, Let Go of the Old 15:16 - Do Not Grow Bitter or Label 19:27 - Forgive Yourself 27:04 - Focus on the Controllables 28:52 - Closing: Transform Challenges into Growth Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Optics Vs Execution, The Brain’s Argument with Itself, & How to Learn From Divorce | ASK ME ANYTHING
04/30/2025
Optics Vs Execution, The Brain’s Argument with Itself, & How to Learn From Divorce | ASK ME ANYTHING
In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorenson tackle tough, real-world questions from men facing divorce, personal setbacks, and disconnection at home. They dive into how optics impact execution, how to master emotional resilience through stress, and why ego can sabotage your growth. From powerful mindset shifts to tactical advice for navigating separation and fatherhood, this episode is packed with hard truths and uplifting insights. Whether you’re healing, leading, or rebuilding—this one hits home. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Technical Troubles and Weekend Recap 05:45 – Viewer Questions Begin 06:02 – What to Do When Divorce Hits 10:07 – Reconnecting Without Shared Interests 15:09 – Rebuilding After a Breakup 21:45 – Divorce Logistics and Legal Readiness 27:59 – How to Apologize to Your Kids 32:23 – Blessings Hidden in Disappointment 44:58 – Would You Want Your Son to Live Your Life? 52:07 – Hierarchical Decision-Making 52:34 – Optics vs. Execution Debate 59:00 – The Brain’s Argument With Itself 01:02:24 – Optics as a Sign of Respect 01:04:50 – Final Thoughts and Hope Through Hard Times Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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HAL ELROD | Unwavering Faith + Extraordinary Effort is Unstoppable
04/29/2025
HAL ELROD | Unwavering Faith + Extraordinary Effort is Unstoppable
It can be challenging to be faithful towards your goals and objectives in the seemingly endless supply of trials and adversity. Whether you’re dealing with a crippling financial situation, devastating divorce, or something like my guest today, , dealt with, a life-threatening cancer diagnosis. In spite of all that, and more, you have responsibilities to take care of and duties to fulfill. So, how do you do it? Today, Hal and I talk about being realistic in your pursuits by balancing the line between probable and possible, what is a true miracle and how to create more of them in your life, the powerful connection between mind and body (and, how to use it), and using affirmations in a way that works. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 — Reconnecting After Nearly a Decade 00:45 — Hal’s Cancer Diagnosis and Immediate Challenges 03:35 — Fear of Death vs. Fear for Family 06:14 — The Miracle Equation: Unwavering Faith and Extraordinary Effort 08:17 — Preparing for Death While Fighting to Live 13:08 — The Role of Affirmations in Healing 14:20 — Beating Cancer: Mindset vs. Reality 18:35 — The Mind-Body Connection and Healing Miracles 21:28 — Dr. Bernie Siegel’s Insights on Cancer Survival 23:20 — Choosing Hope Over Despair 24:51 — Fear of Failure and Others' Opinions 27:11 — Defining and Creating "Miracles" 30:09 — Faith Without Works Is Dead 31:25 — The Origin of the Miracle Equation 36:44 — The Sales Miracle: A $20,000 Breakthrough 39:42 — When Other People Influence Your Outcomes 41:29 — Overcoming Major Setbacks with the "Until" Mindset 44:53 — Adjusting Goals Without Losing Faith 45:51 — Michael Jordan and Unwavering Faith in Action 48:13 — Is It Faith or Delusion? 51:08 — What's Next After The Miracle Morning? 55:09 — Hal’s Next Project: Mastering Action and Inner Peace 57:38 — Where to Find Hal Elrod’s Work Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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Mindset of Masculine Money Management | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
04/25/2025
Mindset of Masculine Money Management | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Ryan Michler shares seven essential mindsets for effective money management in this episode of Friday Field Notes. Aimed at men striving to protect, provide, and preside, Michler emphasizes money as a tool and metric of value, urging listeners to overcome emotional pitfalls and societal misconceptions. He outlines a strategic approach—fortify, neutralize, attack—and stresses the importance of professional support. With practical wisdom, Michler empowers men to master their finances and fulfill their potential. Tune in to rethink money and elevate your financial game. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:37 - Money as a Metric of Value 02:57 - The Duty to Earn 07:45 - Money as a Tool 10:09 - Eliminating Emotions 15:00 - No Room for Amateurs 19:45 - Fortify, Neutralize, Attack 27:03 - Knowing Your Role Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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The Pleasure of Pursuit, Why Young Men Are Moving to the Right, and the Power and Peril of Solitude | ASK ME ANYTHING
04/23/2025
The Pleasure of Pursuit, Why Young Men Are Moving to the Right, and the Power and Peril of Solitude | ASK ME ANYTHING
Join Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen in this week's Ask Me Anything, exploring the pursuit of pleasure versus the pleasure of pursuit, the cultural shift of young men toward the right, and the power of solitude. They tackle listener questions on imposter syndrome, fatherhood, divorce, dating, financial decisions, and personal growth. With humor and insight, they debunk overhyped headlines, like the "astronaut" space crew, and share actionable advice for living purposefully. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Opening Banter and Headlines 01:25 - The Pleasure of Pursuit 06:30 - Space Crew Rant 13:06 - Imposter Syndrome in Job Interviews 20:42 - Lessons from Kids 24:06 - Patience as a Father 28:40 - Why Women Leave Relationships 37:43 - Dating After Divorce 44:36 - Making Financial Decisions 48:08 - Lessons from Hard Times 53:59 - Young Men Moving Right Politically 59:26 - Call to Action Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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DAVID MEESSEN | The Work of Building Attraction
04/22/2025
DAVID MEESSEN | The Work of Building Attraction
It’s no secret that most men want to find love in life and someone they can partner with throughout life. But the reality is that far-fewer men are doing the work required than ever before. And, for those who are actively looking for love, many of them are floundering when it comes to approaching women and building interest that could potentially lead to a long-term relationship. is a man who has made it his life’s work to help men understand why they struggle and why society, at large, seems to be continually stacking the deck against the type of relationships the men listening to this podcast are looking for. Today we talk about why men seem to be so intimidated in approaching women, the skills (and, they are learnable skills) you can develop to have a more successful dating life, why “Progressive Desensitization” is such a valuable option in love and in life, the alarming statistics around romantic relationships and young men’s increasing aversion to them, and how radical honestly (not overly-agreeableness) is what creates attraction. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Opening & Dating Stats Alarming for Men 01:34 – The Harsh Reality of Dating Apps 03:09 – How Dating Apps Work Against Most Men 04:27 – Learning to Play the Dating Game 05:26 – Sacrificing Values for Connection 06:37 – Approach Anxiety and Desensitization 08:51 – Start Small: Building Momentum Through Socializing 10:01 – Rejection is Often Kind – and Necessary 11:23 – Don’t Pedestalize Her – Have Options 12:46 – We Live in a Friendly or Hostile Universe 14:16 – Oversharing as a Powerful Connection Tool 15:21 – Men Struggle to Share Their Strengths 16:29 – Assume the Burden of the Conversation 17:51 – Bitterness Towards Women & Scarcity Mindset 19:58 – Reality is Better Than Fear-Based Fantasies 22:13 – You Crave the Experience, Not the Person 23:31 – Compatibility vs. Chemistry 25:16 – Communication is a Learnable Skill 26:29 – Influence vs. Manipulation 30:54 – Authenticity in Style & Presence 32:34 – Confidence is Just as Authentic as Humility 33:10 – Radical Honesty and Sharing Values Early 35:42 – Relationships Built on Aligned Values 37:27 – Disagreement is Attractive 39:33 – Common Mistakes in Online & Real-Life Dating 41:39 – Learn Humor to Boost Social Skills 43:03 – Don’t Skip the Ask – Get the Contact 44:59 – Women Get Approached Less Than You Think 46:11 – How to Approach in the Gym the Right Way 47:52 – Meeting Quality Men Matters Too 49:03 – Why Intelligent Men Struggle with Connection 52:15 – Expression Freedom & Compatibility 53:22 – Choose to See the Best in Each Other 54:26 – Final Thoughts & Where to Find David Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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The Peril of Self-Betrayal | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
04/18/2025
The Peril of Self-Betrayal | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the concept of self-betrayal, defining it as failing to act on known responsibilities or instincts. He discusses its consequences, including anxiety, poor relationships, and unfulfilled potential, and identifies emotional signs like frustration and impatience. Ryan provides actionable steps to overcome self-betrayal, such as listing neglected tasks, taking immediate action, and journaling emotions. Encouraging listeners to align actions with their values, he offers resources at orderofman.com. Tune in to learn how to bridge the integrity gap and live a more fulfilled life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Self-Betrayal 02:55 - Sources of Intuition and Emotion 05:19 - Consequences of Self-Betrayal 07:44 - Recognizing Self-Betrayal Symptoms 12:30 - External vs. Internal Factors 19:25 - Actionable Steps to Overcome Self-Betrayal 26:05 - Journaling and Reflecting 28:30 - Additional Resources and Closing Battle Planners: Order Ryan's new book, . For more information on the . Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course,
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