You Aren’t Defined by the Dust and Rust | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In today’s Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares a powerful message built around a simple but meaningful reminder: your dust, your rust, and your scars do NOT define you - they tell your story. After finding an old, rusted metal grid and working to restore it, Ryan reflects on how men often feel discarded, overlooked, or worn down by life. Through this analogy, he unpacks five key truths about identity, hardship, and resilience. If you’ve ever felt beat up by life, sidelined by circumstances, or dismissed by others, this episode will remind you of your worth and your purpose. In This...
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Commander’s Intent, Self-Awareness, and Re-Writing Your Script | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp dive deep into goal setting, New Year’s resolutions, discipline, personal systems, and the internal dialogue that derails many men. They discuss practical strategies for building momentum, tracking progress, leading communities, and staying accountable even when motivation fades. Listeners ask about goal-setting frameworks, balancing long-term and short-term ambitions, and how to prioritize key areas of life. Ryan and Kipp also explore integrity, honesty, and the real influence every man carries - whether he acknowledges it or not. SHOW...
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PAYAM PAKMANESH | The Rules of Male Conversation
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For something that we do every single day, and something that has the power to change every aspect of our life, we sure don’t focus on, train, or develop it. And, that thing is conversation. Nothing great ever happened in your life without, first, a conversation – no promotions, no jobs, no clients, no dates, nothing. My guest today, (known as “The Convo Guy”) is here to explain why and, more importantly, how we can build and develop our ability to communicate more effectively. We cover the proper principles of communication, Adlerian Psychology and how it helps you focus on what you...
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Your Apathy is Your Undoing | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler challenges men to stop drifting through life and confront the apathy holding them back. He breaks down the five core actions that help men regain direction, eliminate complacency, and move with purpose. Ryan speaks candidly about distraction, burnout, and his own past patterns of escape, giving listeners a direct path to clarity and discipline. This episode offers a clear call for men to reclaim their focus, cut the noise, and commit to what actually matters. A powerful, practical reminder for anyone who feels stuck or overwhelmed. SHOW...
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How to Turn Your Wife On, Why Your Wife is Your Sparring Partner, and How to Help Her in Her Feminine Role | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this episode, Ryan and Kipp dive deep into what it means to be a man in modern relationships — how to lead with strength, clarity, and purpose without falling into the “nice guy” trap. They break down how to build trust, create safety and structure for your partner, and why healthy conflict is essential for growth. You’ll hear powerful insights on what truly turns your wife on (it’s not what you think), why your marriage needs to feel like a sparring match instead of a competition, and how to help your wife flourish in her feminine role by being consistent, decisive, and...
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CRAIG BALLANTYNE | When Discipline Becomes Too Fragile
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You’re listening to a men’s self-help podcast so it’s safe to assume that you’re interested in becoming more disciplined, structured, and productive. But there is a side of discipline that many of the self-help gurus won’t talk to you about – when discipline becomes a liability more than an asset. My guest today, , joins me to talk about what that even means, what it looks like, and what to do about it. We also cover why it’s so important that you plan your days out months in advance, how to keep yourself from distractions but building in flexibility to your day, how much a man...
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The 5 Rules Every Man Must Follow | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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Most men think the X Factor - that magnetic presence of strong, capable men - is something you’re born with. It’s not. It’s built through five rules that any man can follow. In this Friday Field Note, Ryan Michler breaks down the simple, actionable formula that will make you more influential, bold, and courageous - and help you create the life and relationships you want. The 5 Rules Every Man Must Follow: Be Strong - build the trifecta: physical, mental, and emotional strength Be Emotionally Stable - create safety and calm for your family and team Be Kind - true kindness comes from...
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Overcoming Limits, Building Vision, and Fighting Through Pain | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Kipp and Shawn tackle listener questions from the Iron Council, diving deep into the practices of visualization, breaking mental limits, embracing mentorship, and persevering through pain. The conversation turns raw as the hosts address loneliness, depression, and how men can build stronger connections through openness and authenticity. This episode reminds us that growth requires action, awareness, and brotherhood. Join Kipp and Shawn as they offer practical and heartfelt wisdom to help men live more purposefully and powerfully every day. SHOW...
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NICK THOMPSON | Breaking Bad Legacy
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Whether we acknowledge it or not, there are certain behaviors and mindsets that are etched into our psyche by our fathers. And, if we cannot be aware of what they are, we lose any hope of having power over them and charting new paths for ourselves and our children. Today, I’m joined by , CEO of The Atlantic, to talk about the legacy his father left and how he is trying to break the string of mindsets that hindered, not helped. We talk about how do adapt when plans don’t work, the power of the meritocracy, how to overcome the victimhood mentality, creating powerful and healthy outlets, and...
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A Guide to Male Friendship | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In this week’s Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the importance of building meaningful male friendships and creating your own “band of brothers.” Drawing from personal experiences, including his annual hunting trip in Minnesota, Ryan breaks down five key principles for cultivating brotherhood - working toward a shared goal, finding common activities, embracing challenge, engaging in banter, and showing up consistently. He reminds men that strong friendships don’t just happen - they’re built through shared effort, loyalty, and reliability. Listeners will walk away with...
info_outlineFor something that we do every single day, and something that has the power to change every aspect of our life, we sure don’t focus on, train, or develop it. And, that thing is conversation. Nothing great ever happened in your life without, first, a conversation – no promotions, no jobs, no clients, no dates, nothing.
My guest today, Payam Pakmanesh (known as “The Convo Guy”) is here to explain why and, more importantly, how we can build and develop our ability to communicate more effectively. We cover the proper principles of communication, Adlerian Psychology and how it helps you focus on what you can control, the “Zoom Flow” model for deeper connection, how to make yourself more approachable, and becoming aware of how others perceive you.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Conversation as a Life-Changing Tool
01:06 - Why Men Struggle With Communication
02:33 - Nature vs. Nurture in Your Voice
03:18 - How Environment Shapes Language & Identity
04:19 - Film Yourself: The First Breakthrough Exercise
05:30 - Pausing, Filler Words & Leadership Presence
06:55 - Listening Critically to Yourself
07:48 - Buying Time vs. Fear of Silence
09:18 - Authenticity vs. Performance
11:03 - Why Humans Detect Inauthenticity
12:20 - Reading Engagement & Disengagement Cues
13:51 - The Power of Real Listening
15:10 - Faces, Interpretation & Owning Your Identity
16:28 - Getting Out of Your Own Head
17:55 - Fear of Judgement & Perfectionism
18:34 - Social Masks & Status Games
20:32 - Adlerian Psychology & Letting Go of Others' Opinions
21:43 - Book Structure & Thoughts on “Courage to Be Disliked”
22:06 - Biggest Communication Mistakes Men Make
24:25 - Auditing Your Stories & Mental Frameworks
25:19 - Choose Stories that Serve You
27:45 - Tracking Thoughts & Fact-Checking Beliefs
30:18 - Inner Peace as the ROI of Self-Development
31:22 - Misreading Signals from Others
33:44 - Why Hard Conversations Must Be Live
34:50 - Growth Through Discomfort
35:17 - Why Men Avoid Difficult Conversations
37:06 - Nice Guys, Suppressed Emotions & Blowups
38:10 - Joker Example: From Nice to Extreme
40:12 - Standards vs. Expectations
41:14 - Make the Implicit Explicit
42:26 - Experimenting Like a Scientist
43:31 - Everyone Is Human-Even High Status People
44:04 - Scripts vs. Flow in Communication
47:32 - Headphones, Avoidance & Missed Opportunities
48:27 - Disagreement Statements That Build Trust
50:37 - Context Creates Empathy
52:19 - Why Courage Earns Respect
54:01 - The Value of Small Talk
55:48 - The Elevator Test
57:06 - Why Communication Creates Opportunities
58:29 - Movie Character Communication Breakdown
59:55 - How to Work With Payam
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