EP282: Feeling Like You’re Too Much or Not Enough? That’s Shame Talking
Release Date: 03/25/2025
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info_outlineThere are patterns we carry that don’t always make sense at first—like why we feel guilty for saying no, why success makes us uncomfortable, or why we shrink ourselves in moments when we should feel proud. In this episode, we’re exploring one of the most overlooked but powerful forces behind those reactions. It’s something that shows up quietly, influences how we speak, what we believe we deserve, and how much space we allow ourselves to take up.
We’ll talk about where this internal pattern comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and most importantly, how to recognize it when it’s happening. This episode is about awareness, self-compassion, and learning how to let go of what no longer needs to protect us. If you've ever wondered why certain moments trigger deep discomfort, this is the conversation for you.
Three Key Takeaways
1️. Some of our strongest emotional reactions today are rooted in protective patterns from the past.
2️. The way we talk to ourselves is often shaped by old beliefs we didn't choose—but we can change that.
3️. The first step to freedom is recognizing what we’re feeling and asking: Is this true, or is this familiar?
You’re not broken—
you’ve just learned
to feel shame in moments
where you were once
made to feel unsafe.
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