Ownit! Powercast

The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It’s about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver’s seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what’s been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you’re serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you!

EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin 06/24/2025

EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin In this episode, I sit down with Derek Lakin, a mindfulness teacher and Awareness Guide whose journey from deep depression to emotional resilience is nothing short of powerful. Derek opens up about the moment he nearly ended his life, and how a last-minute suggestion from his therapist led him to try ketamine therapy. But what truly transformed his life wasn’t just the treatment—it was the years of mindfulness practice that allowed him to receive its lessons, integrate emotional tools, and slowly rebuild a sense of self-worth, presence, and purpose. We explore what it really means to meet yourself where you are, especially when anxiety, shame, or disconnection make that feel nearly impossible. Derek shares how practical mindfulness practices helped him stay grounded, begin to trust life again, and ultimately teach others to do the same. If you’ve ever struggled to just “be” with your emotions, or you’re looking for tools that go deeper than surface-level advice, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a way forward. Three Key Takeaways 1. The most powerful shifts often start with one uncomfortable moment of stillness. 2. Healing isn’t about striving—it’s about learning to listen differently to what’s already inside you. 3. There are tools that can help you feel grounded, even when life feels completely untethered. The moment we stop trying to escape discomfort is the moment we start accessing real power. To contact Derek: If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/37128750

EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund 06/17/2025

EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn’t have to mean reliving old pain, and how she helps people move forward with clarity and purpose. This one’s for anyone who feels like they’ve been spinning their wheels and wants to understand what’s really in the way. Three Takeaways: 1. You don’t always have to talk something to death to heal it. 2. Feeling stuck is often a sign that something deeper wants attention. 3. The right support can help you move through what’s hard—without carrying it forever. Getting unstuck isn’t about trying harder - It’s about finding what’s really in the way. -Christine Roslund To contact Christine: If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/37033440

EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run 06/10/2025

EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies 06/03/2025

EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies Today, we kick off the month’s theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it’s not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they’re keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life. You’ll learn how disconnection often hides behind busyness, anxiety, or over-responsibility, and how the journey back to yourself starts with small, intentional moments of presence. We also talk about how this month, we will be talking about practices like EMDR and mindfulness can support this healing process by helping us gently return to our bodies, emotions, and inner truth—without shame or overwhelm. Three Takeaways 1. Disconnection is a survival response—not a personal failure. Many of us learned to tune out from our emotions and bodies because it didn’t feel safe to stay connected. 2. Busyness, people-pleasing, and overthinking are often symptoms of deeper emotional avoidance. These patterns are how we manage discomfort—but they keep us from our truth. 3. The path back to yourself starts with presence. A single breath, a named feeling, or a brief moment of stillness can begin to rebuild trust with your inner world. When stillness feels unsafe, we don’t slow down – we stay busy, reactive, or numb. Not because we want to – but because it feels safer than what we’d have to feel. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36828515

EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You 05/27/2025

EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. Emotional honesty isn’t something we magically access. It’s something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can’t build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines. We’ll talk about the difference between environments where your truth is welcomed, and the ones where it’s quietly shut down. You’ll learn what to look for when testing emotional safety, how to practice small moments of truth-telling without overwhelm, and why the healthiest people in your life don’t just put up with your emotions—they make space for them. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of performing and ready to start showing up more fully and honestly. Three Takeaways 1. You can’t be emotionally honest in relationships where you’re always bracing for impact. 2. Emotional safety isn’t about being coddled - it’s about knowing your truth won’t cost you connection. 3. Practicing honesty in safe relationships rewires your nervous system and helps you reclaim your voice. That’s what safe belonging does. When honesty feels like a risk, what you’re in isn’t connection— it’s survival mode. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36723235

EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make 05/13/2025

EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make We’re often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that’s not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We’re more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we’re exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change. We’ll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we’re more likely to take risks when we feel emotionally secure, and what happens when that belonging is missing or conditional. You’ll also hear how to tell the difference between false belonging (where you shrink to fit in) and true belonging (where you expand to be yourself). If you’ve ever wondered why change feels impossible in certain relationships - or why you suddenly feel more capable in others - this episode is for you. Three Takeaways 1. The body needs to feel safe before the brain can take a risk. Belonging calms fear and unlocks courage. 2. You can’t be brave in environments where you’re trying to survive. Safety isn’t optional, it’s foundational. 3. True belonging allows you to make choices that reflect who you are, not just who others expect you to be. That’s what safe belonging does. It doesn’t just hold you-it helps you come back to yourself and move forward as the version of you who finally feels free to grow. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36543720

EP287 Why Courage Doesn’t Work Without Connection 05/06/2025

EP287 Why Courage Doesn’t Work Without Connection So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we’re supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this episode, we look at what really fuels courage, and how our early experiences with connection—or the lack of it—shape whether we can move forward when life gets hard. We’ll explore how some of the ways you “get in your own way” might actually be protective patterns rooted in past disconnection. And we’ll talk about why courage is so much easier to access when we feel truly supported, seen, and safe. You don’t have to hustle harder to find your courage. You might just need the right kind of connection. ________________________________________ 🔑 Three Takeaways: 1. Courage requires co-regulation. You’re wired to feel safer when you're connected to others—and this helps you face fear. 2. Early relational wounds create protective behaviors. What looks like self-sabotage might actually be an old survival strategy. 3. Belonging fuels belief. When we feel truly supported and seen, we’re more likely to believe in ourselves and take the next brave step. Feeling truly connected doesn’t just comfort us, it literally rewires us to be braver. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36448760

EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life 04/29/2025

EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life In this episode, we’re exploring the invisible ways boundary issues show up in our everyday routines - especially in how we manage time, energy, and expectations. Most of us think of boundaries as things we set with other people, but what about the quiet, internal boundaries we often ignore? Like the ones that involve being realistic about what we can actually get done, or giving ourselves time to rest, think, and reset? You’ll hear a fresh take on how things like over-planning, skipping buffer time, and pushing through exhaustion aren’t just bad habits - they’re symptoms of boundary blind spots. We’ll dig into what’s really going on when you feel behind, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself—and how small mindset shifts around time and planning can make a big difference in how you feel and function. Three Takeaways 1. Boundaries aren’t just for relationships, they also show up in how you treat your time, your schedule, and your capacity. 2. There’s often a gap between what we expect of ourselves and what’s actually humanly possible - and ignoring that gap creates daily stress. Confidence and calm don’t come from doing more, they come from creating space for what matters most. Overloading yourself isn’t strength – it’s self-abandonment. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36358570

EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For 04/15/2025

EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For In this episode, I sit down with confidence coach Sue Reid for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to have self-confidence. We talk about the moments in life that can shake our belief in ourselves, how old patterns keep us playing small, and why building confidence is often less about doing more—and more about how we see and value ourselves. Sue shares thoughtful insight on how to recognize if you might be struggling with confidence, and what it actually takes to begin shifting that. From emotional resilience to the power of community, we explore what it means to grow confidence from the inside out—and why even small steps can change everything. Three Takeaways: Confidence isn’t just about what you can do, it’s about how you see yourself. The way we treat ourselves quietly shapes everything, especially our ability to grow. Who you spend time with matters more than you think when it comes to personal change. Self-confidence isn’t about what you can do – it’s about how you see yourself and what you believe you’re worth. Confidence Matters by Sue Reid. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36142650

EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It’s Spinning 04/08/2025

EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It’s Spinning When life feels overwhelming, whether due to personal stress or world events, it can be incredibly hard to stay grounded and connected to yourself. In this episode, we’re normalizing just how real that struggle is. We explore what’s actually happening in the brain and body during chaotic times and why staying centered isn't about perfection - it’s about small, compassionate returns to yourself. We’ll also look at how healthy boundaries, detachment, values, and even grief play a role in helping you feel more rooted in your own life. If you’ve been feeling off-track or disconnected, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a few small, gentle ways to begin again. Three Takeaways: Why your nervous system may be driving the chaos more than you realize The real reason peace feels uncomfortable after living in survival mode How to reclaim your sense of self—five seconds at a time You’re not failing – you’re in the middle of something hard. And your nervous system is doing its best to protect you If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/36053780

EP283 You’re Not Broken—You’re in a Loop 04/01/2025

EP283 You’re Not Broken—You’re in a Loop We all have patterns we wish we could break—procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism—but what if the real reason we stay stuck isn’t what we think? In this episode, we’re exploring the quiet, powerful force behind so many of these cycles: shame. Not the kind that shouts, but the kind that whispers just enough to keep us second-guessing ourselves, over-functioning for others, or avoiding things we care about. This conversation is about shining light on the loops that keep us stuck and offering a more compassionate lens to understand them. Instead of pushing through with more pressure or self-blame, what if the key was curiosity, awareness, and a new way of relating to yourself in those hard moments? If you’ve ever wondered why you keep doing the thing you said you’d stop, this one’s for you. Three Key Takeaways Some of our most frustrating habits are actually protective responses we’ve learned to survive discomfort. Lasting change doesn’t come from pressure—it comes from self-awareness and a shift in how we talk to ourselves. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re learning to recognize what’s really going on beneath the surface. Shame doesn’t motivate - it paralyzes. It keeps you stuck in the very patterns you want to break. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35953025

EP282: Feeling Like You’re Too Much or Not Enough? That’s Shame Talking 03/25/2025

EP282: Feeling Like You’re Too Much or Not Enough? That’s Shame Talking There are patterns we carry that don’t always make sense at first—like why we feel guilty for saying no, why success makes us uncomfortable, or why we shrink ourselves in moments when we should feel proud. In this episode, we’re exploring one of the most overlooked but powerful forces behind those reactions. It’s something that shows up quietly, influences how we speak, what we believe we deserve, and how much space we allow ourselves to take up. We’ll talk about where this internal pattern comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and most importantly, how to recognize it when it’s happening. This episode is about awareness, self-compassion, and learning how to let go of what no longer needs to protect us. If you've ever wondered why certain moments trigger deep discomfort, this is the conversation for you. Three Key Takeaways 1️. Some of our strongest emotional reactions today are rooted in protective patterns from the past. 2️. The way we talk to ourselves is often shaped by old beliefs we didn't choose—but we can change that. 3️. The first step to freedom is recognizing what we’re feeling and asking: Is this true, or is this familiar? You’re not broken— you’ve just learned to feel shame in moments where you were once made to feel unsafe. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35854725

EP281: When Growth Creates Distance: Navigating Relationships as You Evolve 03/11/2025

EP281: When Growth Creates Distance: Navigating Relationships as You Evolve Growth isn’t just about changing yourself—it’s about changing the way you engage with the world around you. And as you evolve, it’s natural to find that some relationships no longer align with where you’re headed. This isn’t a sign that something is wrong; it’s proof that you’re making real progress. While it can be difficult to navigate the tension, grief, or even resistance from others, staying true to your growth is the most important commitment you can make to yourself. In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the hardest but least talked-about side effects of personal growth: outgrowing relationships. We’ll explore why this happens, how to navigate the discomfort, and what to do when you realize that some people in your life may not be able to grow with you. Three Key Takeaways: 1️. Personal growth naturally shifts how you relate to others, and not everyone will grow with you. 2️. The tension you feel in certain relationships isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong—it’s a sign that you’re evolving. 3️. You don’t have to force change in others or explain your growth—staying true to yourself is enough. Growth doesn’t just change you— it changes what you allow, what you tolerate, and what you need from the people around you. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35621510

EP280: Are You Waiting for Change That’s Never Coming? 03/04/2025

EP280: Are You Waiting for Change That’s Never Coming? Have you ever found yourself holding onto the hope that someone will change—believing in their potential more than the reality right in front of you? It’s easy to get caught up in what could be, especially when we care deeply. But at what point does patience and grace turn into self-denial? In this episode, we’re diving into the subtle but powerful ways we convince ourselves to wait for growth that may never come, why this pattern is so hard to break, and what it really takes to see people as they are—not just as we wish they would be. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of hope, frustration, and disappointment, this conversation will help you take a step back and reassess. We’ll explore the deeper reasons behind this pattern, how to recognize when it’s keeping you stuck, and the shift in perspective that can bring clarity, peace, and healthier relationships. Three Key Takeaways: 1. The difference between seeing potential and accepting reality. 2. How to recognize when your belief in someone’s growth is keeping you stuck. 3. The first steps to shifting your focus back to what’s true today. There’s a difference between supporting someone through growth and sacrificing ourselves to keep believing in them. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35521840

EP279: Who Owns What? How Boundaries Create Real Trust and Emotional Safety 02/25/2025

EP279: Who Owns What? How Boundaries Create Real Trust and Emotional Safety What really makes a relationship feel safe? Many of us believe that deep connection means merging emotions, fixing each other’s problems, or intuitively knowing what the other person needs. But what if the very things we think create closeness are actually keeping us stuck in unhealthy dynamics? In this episode, we explore how to recognize what belongs to you in a relationship—your emotions, thoughts, choices, behaviors, and beliefs—and why understanding this is the foundation for trust, emotional safety, and true intimacy. We’ll also dive into how blurred boundaries often get mistaken for love and why setting clear, healthy boundaries doesn’t push people away—it actually makes relationships stronger. Whether you struggle with taking on too much emotional responsibility or feel frustrated when others try to control your choices, this conversation will help you see relationships through a new lens. Real connection doesn’t come from losing yourself—it comes from knowing where you stand. Three Key Takeaways for Listeners: 1️. Real love isn’t about absorbing each other’s feelings—it’s about respecting each other’s autonomy while staying connected. 2. The strongest relationships aren’t ones without boundaries—they’re ones where both people feel safe being fully themselves. 3. You can’t trust someone who won’t let you be responsible for your own emotions, choices, and beliefs—and vice versa. People don’t change because we demand it. They change because they decide to. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35417785

EP278 Is It Love or Denial? How We Trick Ourselves into Ignoring the Truth 02/18/2025

EP278 Is It Love or Denial? How We Trick Ourselves into Ignoring the Truth Have you ever found yourself making excuses for someone’s behavior, downplaying red flags, or convincing yourself that things aren’t that bad? SO many of us do it—because facing the full truth about a relationship can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or partner, acknowledging reality often means we might have to set boundaries, make hard choices, or grieve what we wished the relationship could be. Instead, we protect ourselves through denial, rationalization, and hope that things will somehow change on their own. In this episode, we’ll explore why we avoid seeing the truth in relationships and how our nervous system works to keep us in our comfort zone, even when that comfort is costing us. We’ll break down the subtle ways we resist reality, how this keeps us stuck, and why small moments of honesty—no matter how uncomfortable—are the key to real clarity, peace, and self-trust. If you've ever struggled to see a relationship for what it truly is, this episode is for you. Three Key Takeaways: 1. Why we resist the truth – The real reason our brain works to protect us from facing reality in relationships, and how to recognize when it’s happening. 2. The subtle ways we avoid seeing what’s right in front of us – From justifying bad behavior to clinging to hope, we’ll break down the common patterns that keep us from accepting reality. 3. How to start seeing clearly—without fear or overwhelm – Practical steps to gently shift from avoidance to awareness so you can make choices that truly honor your well-being. . The hardest truths to see are the ones that would require us to change. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35323440

EP277 Wait…Am I the Problem? The Boundary Issues We Don’t See in Ourselves 02/11/2025

EP277 Wait…Am I the Problem? The Boundary Issues We Don’t See in Ourselves Many of us think of boundaries as something we set with other people, but what about the boundaries we fail to set with ourselves? In this episode, we’re uncovering the often-missed ways we mismanage our time, over-accommodate, and fall into patterns of fawning—where people-pleasing overrides our own needs. These habits can look like overcommitting, struggling to say no, avoiding conflict, or constantly putting others' comfort ahead of our own well-being. And while they might seem harmless on the surface, they slowly chip away at our confidence, energy, and self-trust. If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries, caught yourself over-explaining decisions, or found it hard to stop people-pleasing, this conversation is for you. We’re diving into the subtle ways we cross our own boundaries, why fawning keeps us stuck in these patterns, and how to start shifting toward healthier, more balanced relationships—without guilt or fear. Three Key Takeaways 1 You might be crossing your own boundaries without realizing it. Some of the biggest ways we sabotage our time, energy, and relationships aren’t the obvious ones—but the ones we justify as ‘being nice’ or ‘helpful.’ 2 Fawning isn’t just about people-pleasing—it’s a survival strategy. If you’ve ever felt anxious when saying no or setting a limit, there’s a deeper reason why. Recognizing this can help you start changing the pattern. 3 Breaking free from these habits doesn’t mean being harsh or selfish. There’s a way to honor your needs and set boundaries without guilt, over-explaining, or fearing conflict—and it might look different than you expect. When you constantly prioritize avoiding conflict, you end up creating an internal one instead. You weren’t born afraid to say no. Somewhere along the way, you learned that pleasing others was safer than honoring yourself. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35216270

EP276 Boundaries or Control? The Subtle Ways We Get It Wrong in Conversations 02/04/2025

EP276 Boundaries or Control? The Subtle Ways We Get It Wrong in Conversations Being good at boundaries in communication isn’t just about protecting yourself—it’s about respecting the space between you and others. We all like to think we communicate with healthy boundaries, but are we really as good at it as we believe? Often, the biggest challenges in communication aren’t the obvious boundary violations but the subtle ones—the ways we respond, the space we give (or don’t give), and how much we allow others to fully own their emotions and choices. In this episode, we’ll explore how to take an honest look at our communication habits and recognize the small shifts that can make a big difference. If you’ve ever felt frustrated when someone didn’t take your advice, struggled to hold back from fixing, or found yourself pulled into someone else’s emotional world, this conversation is for you. We’ll break down what it truly means to have strong communication boundaries, where we might be unknowingly crossing the line, and how to show up in a way that fosters deeper, healthier connections. Three Takeaways: Why some of the most overlooked habits in communication may be impacting your relationships more than you realize. The key mindset shift that can help you stay present in conversations without overstepping or taking on too much. How to recognize when your response is strengthening a connection—or subtly breaking a boundary. Fixing, convincing, and controlling aren’t connection. Listening, acknowledging, and allowing are. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35128275

EP275 The Power of Decisions: Trusting Yourself and Living Your Why 01/28/2025

EP275 The Power of Decisions: Trusting Yourself and Living Your Why Making decisions is one of the most powerful tools we have for shaping our lives, but it can also be one of the most intimidating. This episode explores how decision-making strengthens self-trust by engaging the brain’s natural reward systems and rewiring it for resilience. You’ll learn how even small choices help clarify what you think, believe, feel, and need, ultimately building confidence and a stronger connection to your inner voice. We also discuss how early shame and trauma can complicate the decision-making process, leading to self-doubt and avoidance. By reconnecting with your "why"—your core values and passions—and reframing mistakes as opportunities for growth, you can break free from these patterns. This episode is packed with actionable steps and insights to help you make decisions that align with your true self and move toward the life you want. Three Key Takeaways Discover how small, proactive decisions can rewire your brain to trust yourself more deeply over time. Learn why connecting with your "why" makes decision-making less overwhelming and more fulfilling. Explore practical strategies to reframe mistakes and keep moving forward with self-compassion. Choosing action over avoidance builds new neural pathways for confidence. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/35021610

EP274 What We Allow Shapes Who We Become: Boundaries, Self Trust and Confidence 01/20/2025

EP274 What We Allow Shapes Who We Become: Boundaries, Self Trust and Confidence This episode explores the powerful connection between what we allow in our lives and our level of self-trust and confidence. Often, we don’t realize how tolerating disrespect, poor communication, or neglecting our own needs undermines our sense of worth and leaves us feeling ungrounded. The discussion highlights how both external boundaries—such as speaking up and setting limits—and internal boundaries, like practicing self-discipline and saying no to distractions, are essential for cultivating a calm and confident mindset. We also dive into how failing to set these boundaries keeps us stuck in a low-level but constant state of fight, flight, or freeze, making it harder to feel in control. By taking small steps to identify what we’re tolerating and practicing new patterns of behavior, we can rebuild self-trust, strengthen our confidence, and move from survival mode to thriving in a more grounded and intentional way. Three Takeaways 1. What we tolerate—whether from others or ourselves—has a profound impact on our confidence and emotional well-being. 2. Internal boundaries, such as self-discipline, are just as important as external boundaries for feeling calm and in control. 3. Small, consistent changes in what we allow can have a ripple effect, helping us shift from survival mode to living with more confidence and peace. Boundaries aren’t about control— they’re about protecting your peace and reinforcing your worth. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/34921430

EP273 Little Moments Big Impact: Reconnecting with Your Authentic Self 01/13/2025

EP273 Little Moments Big Impact: Reconnecting with Your Authentic Self Ever feel like you’re losing touch with what you truly think, feel, and need? In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your authentic self, even in the chaos of daily life. We’ll talk about the small, intentional moments that can bring you back to center—like noticing your feelings, identifying what truly matters, and practicing gratitude. By slowing down and tuning in, you can start to break free from patterns of disconnection and rediscover what makes you you. We’ll also dive into why it’s so easy to lose this connection in the first place, especially if you grew up in environments where your feelings weren’t validated or learned to focus on others to survive. You’ll learn how those survival skills can linger into adulthood, keeping you task-focused and outwardly driven, but disconnected from your inner truth. Most importantly, this episode will show you practical ways to start shifting that narrative, one small, powerful moment at a time. 3 Key Takeaways 1. Small acts of awareness, like naming your feelings or pausing to reflect, can create profound changes in how you connect with yourself over time. 2. Practicing gratitude not only shifts your perspective during tough times but also rewires your brain to focus on positivity and possibility. 3. Understanding how childhood patterns of disconnecting from your emotions show up in adulthood can help you reclaim your authentic self and start honoring your needs. Every small moment of awareness is a step toward showing up for yourself and building trust in who you are. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/34830480

EP272 When Life Knocks You Down: How Setbacks Shape Self- Confidence 01/07/2025

EP272 When Life Knocks You Down: How Setbacks Shape Self- Confidence In this episode, we’ll explore why these moments hit so hard and the impact they can have on our confidence and self-worth. Whether it’s the sting of rejection or the echo of old insecurities, these experiences often shape our inner dialogue, influencing how we show up in the world. But setbacks don’t have to define us. Together, we’ll unpack how to shift the narrative, rebuild self-confidence, and find strength in adversity. Through actionable insights and relatable stories, this episode offers guidance for those ready to take their first steps toward reclaiming their sense of worth and moving forward with resilience. Key Takeaways Why setbacks feel so personal: Understand the deeper reasons why rejection or loss affects our self-image and how it connects to unresolved insecurities. The power of inner dialogue: Learn how to identify and challenge the critical thoughts that arise after a setback to avoid distorted self-beliefs. Small steps to rebuild confidence: Discover practical ways to move forward, reconnect with your worth, and grow stronger through challenges. When life knocks you down, acknowledging the pain isn’t giving up—it’s how you stand back up stronger. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/34749065

EP271 What Happens When You Finally Believe You’re Worthy 12/10/2024

EP271 What Happens When You Finally Believe You’re Worthy Have you ever wondered how your life might change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, success, and respect? In this episode, we explore the transformative power of embracing your self-worth. We’ll discuss how feelings of not deserving shape your relationships, career, and even your ability to prioritize your own well-being. This episode paints a vivid picture of what life can look like when you break free from these limiting beliefs. By examining the impact of self-worth on everyday decisions, this episode offers hope and inspiration for anyone who feels stuck in patterns of self-doubt. You’ll hear examples of how shifts in mindset can open the door to healthier relationships, greater opportunities, and personal empowerment. If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, this conversation is your invitation to imagine something better. Three Key Takeaways: 1. Signs of Self-Doubt: Learn subtle ways feelings of unworthiness show up in your daily life, from avoiding opportunities to overcompensating in relationships. 2. The Ripple Effect of Self-Worth: Understand how valuing yourself impacts everything—from the people you attract to the choices you make for your future. 3. Steps Toward Change: Discover the first steps to shifting your mindset and unlocking a more fulfilling, empowered life. The first step to breaking free is believing you deserve more. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/34360120

EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments a 3 Step Process 11/12/2024

EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments a 3 Step Process EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments: A 3 Step Process to Break the Habit In this episode, we dive into how to recognize and manage “people-pleasing moments” so you can start living more authentically and confidently. Through a simple, three-step process, we’ll explore how to identify people-pleasing behaviors, uncover the fears behind them, and practice healthier responses. We’ll also discuss the importance of support systems, like coaching or a group, to help you break free from these patterns and sustain your progress. Key Takeaways: 1. Identify People-Pleasing Behaviors: Recognizing your own people-pleasing actions—like avoiding disagreement or overcommitting—is the first step. These behaviors often stem from a desire to avoid conflict or rejection. 2. Understand the Fear Driving People-Pleasing: Often, people-pleasing is driven by underlying fears, such as a fear of conflict, rejection, or judgment. Acknowledging these fears helps you understand why you might struggle to assert yourself. 3. Practice Alternative Responses and Seek Support: To overcome people-pleasing habits, practice simple, kind responses that honor your boundaries. Consider seeking coaching or joining a group for accountability, encouragement, and feedback on this journey. People-pleasing hides in plain sight— pay attention to when you’re saying yes just to avoid discomfort, not because you truly want to. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/33869077

EP269 The Quiet Chaos: How Unhealthy People Fuel Anxiety 10/08/2024

EP269 The Quiet Chaos: How Unhealthy People Fuel Anxiety In this episode, we’re tackling a form of anxiety that many of us experience but often don’t recognize: invisible anxiety. It’s that subtle, lingering feeling of stress that you can’t quite explain, but it’s always there. We’ll discuss how this form of anxiety might be connected to subtle behaviors from the people around you, behaviors that can quietly undermine your peace without you even realizing it. Through thoughtful exploration, we’ll look at how this anxiety shows up, especially during big transitions or important moments in life. You’ll learn why it’s so important to listen to this inner tension and how identifying these subtle cues can lead to clearer decision-making and healthier boundaries. Key Takeaways: 1. Invisible anxiety can be a signal that subtle boundary-crossing behaviors are at play. 2. This anxiety can have a ripple effect, impacting your ability to make clear decisions and stay grounded. 3. Tuning into these subtle stressors can help you regain control, set boundaries, and restore peace of mind. Invisible anxiety can make you feel crazy on the inside, but it’s a sign that the behaviors around you aren’t as innocent as they seem. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/33348302

EP268 Letting Go of Guilt: Embracing Detachment for Your Own Well-Being 09/03/2024

EP268 Letting Go of Guilt: Embracing Detachment for Your Own Well-Being In this episode, we explore the complex emotion of guilt and how it can interfere with our ability to maintain healthy boundaries and practice self-care. We dive into the crucial difference between earned and unearned guilt—understanding when guilt is a natural response to our actions and when it is misplaced, often stemming from external pressures or unrealistic expectations. We also discuss practical strategies for distinguishing between what we can control—our own reactions, decisions, and behaviors—and what we cannot control, such as the actions and decisions of others. Through real-life examples, we illustrate the importance of setting clear boundaries and embracing healthy detachment, allowing us to focus on self-responsibility and personal growth. Three Key Takeaways: 1. Understand the Difference Between Earned and Unearned Guilt: Learn to recognize when guilt is a result of your actions and when it’s misplaced or coming from external pressures, and how to address each appropriately. 2. Identify Boundaries and Responsibilities: Understand the importance of distinguishing between what choices are yours to make and what belongs to others, helping to prevent taking on unnecessary guilt and fostering healthier relationships. 3. Embrace Detachment for Growth and Well-Being: Practice letting go of control over others’ choices, focusing instead on self-responsibility and self-care, which supports both personal growth and healthier, more balanced relationships. Real self-care means creating boundaries that preserve our peace, rather than exhausting ourselves to solve others' problems. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/32871797

EP267 Facing the Fear: Letting Go of Outcomes When the Stakes are High 08/27/2024

EP267 Facing the Fear: Letting Go of Outcomes When the Stakes are High In this episode, we explore the complexities of detachment, especially when it involves letting go of outcomes that feel crucial to our sense of security and well-being. Letting go can feel incredibly challenging, particularly for those with a history of trauma, as it often triggers a deep-seated fear of losing control. We also delve into the concept of the bargaining stage of grief, where we negotiate mentally and emotionally to escape the discomfort of uncertainty. This bargaining mindset can be a major barrier to healthy detachment, as it prevents us from accepting reality and moving forward. Three Key Takeaways: 1. Detachment is Challenging, Especially for Those with Trauma Histories: Fear of losing control is a natural response, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. 2. The Bargaining Stage of Grief Can Hinder Detachment: When we fear letting go, we often engage in emotional bargaining, trying to negotiate our way out of uncertainty. 3. Letting Go Means Accepting What We Cannot Control: Healthy detachment involves recognizing the limits of our control and focusing our energy on what we can influence—our own emotions and choices. Detachment doesn’t mean we don’t care. It means we’re wise enough to recognize what we cannot change. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/32754612

EP266 Trust Matters How to Find People You Can Really Count On 08/20/2024

EP266 Trust Matters How to Find People You Can Really Count On In this episode, we explore the crucial role that trust plays in forming and maintaining meaningful relationships. Trust is the bedrock of any healthy connection, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect necessary for a relationship to thrive. We discuss how to identify trustworthy individuals by looking for key signs such as honesty, reliability, and consistency between words and actions. We discuss how to recognize subtle red flags that may indicate a person is not trustworthy, as well as the importance of self-awareness in breaking the cycle of choosing untrustworthy partners or friends. By understanding the underlying reasons for these patterns and learning to trust our intuition, we can make more conscious decisions about the people we allow into our lives, ultimately fostering relationships that are built on a solid foundation of trust and mutual respect. 3 Takeaways: 1. Trust is the foundation of all healthy relationships, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect needed for meaningful connections to flourish. 2. Consistency between words and actions, along with honesty and reliability, are key indicators of a trustworthy person. 3. Recognizing and addressing underlying factors can cause us to place our trust in people who cannot be trustworthy. Trustworthy people don’t make excuses; they make things right. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/32647932

EP265 When Trust is Twisted: The Long-Term Impact of Manipulative Relationships 08/13/2024

EP265 When Trust is Twisted: The Long-Term Impact of Manipulative Relationships In this episode, we delve into the insidious nature of manipulation and its profound impact on self-perception and self-worth. Manipulation, particularly in close relationships, often goes unnoticed as it subtly undermines confidence, distorts reality, and erodes a person’s sense of identity over time. We explore how tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and subtle undermining can make individuals doubt their own experiences, leading them to question their value and place within the relationship. As these manipulative behaviors become patterns, the victim’s self-esteem gradually diminishes, trapping them in a cycle of dependency and emotional confusion. You will gain insights into how to recognize these patterns of manipulation and the long-term effects they can have on mental health and personal growth. By understanding the deep-seated impact of manipulation, you can take the first steps towards healing and fostering healthier, more authentic relationships. 3 Key Takeaways: Recognizing Patterns: Manipulation often manifests as a pattern of subtle behaviors that erode self-confidence and self-worth over time. Identifying these patterns is crucial to breaking free from their grip. The Impact on Perception: Manipulative tactics like gaslighting and blame-shifting can cause individuals to doubt their own reality and experiences, leading to confusion, dependency, and a loss of self-identity. Reclaiming Self-Worth: Understanding the long-term effects of manipulation is the first step in rebuilding confidence and self-worth. By setting boundaries and seeking support, individuals can begin to reclaim their identity and foster healthier relationships. Manipulation is a slow poison that erodes your self-worth and distorts your reality, leaving you questioning your own mind, feelings, and boundaries. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/32563772

EP264 Self Sabotage to Self-Respect: The Boundaries We Set with Ourselves 07/30/2024

EP264 Self Sabotage to Self-Respect: The Boundaries We Set with Ourselves In this episode, we explore the crucial role boundaries play in maintaining emotional well-being and reducing stress. We delve into common scenarios where boundaries might be lacking, such as overcommitting to tasks, neglecting self-care, and engaging in people-pleasing behaviors. By identifying these boundary issues, we can better understand the sources of our frustration, resentment, and anxiety. Through practical advice and real-life examples, this episode provides you with strategies to recognize and address missing boundaries, both in your personal and professional life. Key Takeaways 1. Identify the Signs of Missing Boundaries: Recognize when feelings of stress, resentment, or anxiety indicate that boundaries are being overstepped or ignored, either by yourself or others. 2. Set and Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Learn to assertively communicate your boundaries to others and practice self-discipline to respect your own limits, ensuring you prioritize self-care and personal well-being. 3. Understand the Role of Self-Boundaries: Realize that setting boundaries isn't just about managing others' behavior but also involves regulating your own actions and reactions to maintain a healthy balance in life. Self-sabotage is the invisible force that separates you from the life you envision. If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week. Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on , or so you don’t miss a thing! /episode/index/show/ownitpowercast/id/32342197

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