EP294: Where Did You Go? The Moment You Started Leaving Yourself Behind
Release Date: 07/01/2025
EP315: Your Holiday Bill of Rights
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The holidays often come with unspoken expectations to overgive, overexplain, and override our own needs. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a Holiday Bill of Rights: compassionate reminder of what we are allowed to honor during a season that can easily pull us back into old roles and patterns. Rather than focusing on “doing more self-care,” this episode centers on self-loyalty, emotional honesty, and boundaries that protect our nervous system, energy, and well-being. If the holidays tend to stir guilt, grief, or pressure to perform, this conversation offers language,...
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EP314: Holiday Self Care Begins with Telling Yourself the Truth
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In this episode, we’re continuing our holiday self-care series with one essential truth: real peace begins when we’re honest about what we can actually handle. The holidays tend to pull us back into old roles and emotional patterns, leaving us overwhelmed, overextended, and disconnected from ourselves before we even realize it. Today, we explore why this happens, how to recognize the subtle moments of self-abandonment, and what it looks like to care for yourself from a place of truth instead of pressure or performance. Three Takeaways 1. You’ll learn the surprising reason holiday...
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EP313 From the Vault EP191 Real Self-Care Means Following Through
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This week, we’re pulling a good one from the vault… Welcome to Episode 191 where we dig into how real self-care means following through on what we need to do to take care of ourselves. In this episode we dive deeper into the idea that TRUE self-care is when we make it real. When we follow through on both holding the line on our boundaries and taking responsibility for what we have promised ourselves we would take care of. Self-care involves following through with actions that nourish your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. We talked last week about some of...
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EP312: Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Staying Sane at Thanksgiving
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This week, we’re looking at how our families shaped the way we think about boundaries and why holiday gatherings like Thanksgiving tend to reactivate old roles and survival strategies. This episode explores how to show up differently this Thanksgiving — grounded, prepared, and centered — instead of slipping back into the versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown. You’ll learn how to notice old triggers before you walk in the door, create invisible boundaries that protect your energy, plan resets and exit strategies without guilt, and stay connected to the adult version of you...
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EP311 Boundaries and Reality: Letting Go of Fantasy Facing What’s True
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Boundaries aren’t just about saying no - they’re about finally seeing clearly. In this episode, I break down how boundary work forces us out of fantasy and into reality, and why this shift brings up grief, sadness, and confusion before it brings peace. We explore what detachment actually means (loving without carrying), why acceptance always asks us to grieve the illusions we’ve held onto, and how seeing the truth opens the path to emotional freedom, self-respect, and grounded decision-making. Three Things to Think About: 1. Why clarity feels uncomfortable before it feels freeing — and...
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EP310 Boundaries in Words: How Clear Communication Changes Everything
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When you start communicating with boundaries, the tone of every relationship begins to change — sometimes in ways that surprise you. In this episode, Mary Baker breaks down what it really means to speak from emotional honesty and detachment, and why this combination completely shifts the emotional climate at home, at work, and in your friendships. You’ll learn how calm, grounded communication builds trust and respect while reducing drama and confusion. But this kind of growth doesn’t always feel peaceful at first. Mary walks listeners through what happens when you stop rescuing,...
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EP309: The Paradigm Shift: Why Boundary Work Feels So Uncomfortable at First
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Boundary work sounds empowering — and it is — but no one tells you how strange it feels at first. When you begin honoring your limits, your nervous system doesn’t throw a party; it throws a fit. In this episode, we unpack why your body equates “familiar” with “safe,” even when familiar has meant people-pleasing, over-giving, or pretending you’re fine. You’ll learn why this discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong — it means you’re finally doing something different. We’ll also explore the family patterns that made boundaries feel like betrayal, and...
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EP308: When Fear Keeps You Frozen and What Helps You Thaw
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Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re unmotivated — it usually means you don’t feel safe enough to move. Fear, shame, and self-doubt can quietly trap us in loops of overthinking, avoidance, and perfectionism, especially when past experiences have taught our bodies that taking risks isn’t safe. In this episode, Mary explores why fear often feels stronger than logic, how trauma trains us to freeze, and what it actually takes to begin moving again. You’ll learn how to create safety before action, why supportive relationships are essential for unfreezing, and how micro-steps — not big...
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EP307 The Season of Brave Choosing Growth Over Comfort
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In this episode we talk about how Letting go of control, comfort, and old coping patterns isn’t easy. Change asks us to allow, to trust, and to let in — all things that can feel terrifying if we’ve spent years surviving by keeping walls up. In this episode, we talk about how to know when it’s time to loosen control, why “fine” isn’t the same as fulfilled, and what helps us feel safe enough to soften. Because true courage isn’t about forcing change — it’s about allowing growth to happen where safety and honesty meet. THREE TAKEAWAYS 1. Letting go isn’t giving up...
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EP306: Facing the Mirror: What We Don’t Want to Admit
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In this episode we’re talking about the truths we often avoid — the ones that feel too heavy, too risky, or too painful to face. These are the truths about ourselves, our relationships, and our lives that we push aside in the name of comfort, control, or keeping the peace. But avoiding them doesn’t make them disappear. It only keeps us stuck in the very patterns that drain us. Together, we’ll explore why these truths are so hard to look at, how they show up in everyday life, and what begins to shift when we stop running from them. If you’ve ever felt that quiet nudge that something...
info_outlineIn this episode, we take a deeper look at the slow, often unnoticed ways we begin to disconnect from ourselves—especially when survival, acceptance, or love seemed to depend on it. Whether it started in childhood or in a past relationship, the moment you began second-guessing your gut or hiding your truth was likely a moment of self-protection. But over time, those small choices can add up to a life that doesn’t quite feel like your own.
We’ll explore how shame, emotional detachment, and a need for approval can pull us away from our true voice—and what it means to gently start coming home to yourself. You’ll be invited to reflect on your own turning points, not with judgment, but with curiosity and compassion. Because the goal isn’t to blame yourself for how you’ve coped—it’s to recognize that you now have the power to choose something different.
Three Takeaways:
1. There are moments in your story that quietly shaped how you relate to yourself - and they’re worth revisiting with fresh eyes.
2. What feels like a personality trait might actually be a survival pattern you no longer need.
3. Reconnection doesn’t happen in a single breakthrough - it’s a series of tiny, loyal choices to stop leaving yourself behind.
Coming back
to yourself
isn’t dramatic.
It’s in the quiet
choice to stop
abandoning
yourself -
even in the
small moments.
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