875 | Sitting in the Chaos without Freaking Out
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In this episode, I share a personal moment when I found myself in a hectic period, balancing work commitments and supporting my husband through his recovery from an injury. This whirlwind of activity led me to a moment of exhaustion, prompting me to listen to my body and take a much-needed break. I shared this experience, highlighting the importance of embodiment work and how slowing down can help us process emotions and support our nervous systems. I received a challenging message that triggered a sense of contraction within me. I discussed how this contraction is often our subconscious mind...
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874 | The Day I Stopped Chasing and Started Leading
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on the common tendency to chase after goals—reaching a new income level, achieving a sold-out offer, or becoming the version of ourselves we aspire to be. I emphasize that instead of chasing these external validations, we should focus on becoming the person who embodies those goals. Chasing often stems from a place of lack, where we seek external validation to feel worthy. I share stories of individuals who achieved their goals only to find that they still felt unfulfilled, highlighting the importance of internal validation. Throughout the episode, I...
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873 | The Impact of CanFund and the Art of Giving Back with Jane Roos
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In this episode, I speak with Jane Roos, CAN Fund Founder, Artist, Speaker, and Gallery Owner. Jane's journey is nothing short of inspiring, as she shares her life story, which took a dramatic turn at a young age when she was involved in a tragic car accident that claimed the life of her best friend. This pivotal moment forced Jane to reevaluate her life and ultimately led her to discover her true purpose. Jane describes how she has always been an entrepreneur, influenced by her athletic and artistic family background. Despite the challenges she faced after the accident, including multiple...
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872 | When the War Inside You Ends
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In this episode, I discuss the internal conflict many of us experience, which I metaphorically call a "war" within ourselves. This internal struggle often arises when two parts of us desire different outcomes, leading to feelings of doubt, fear, and uncertainty. I explore how resisting these conflicting parts can perpetuate a cycle of self-sabotage and emotional turmoil. Drawing from a recent in-person Outspoken Intensive, I introduce the powerful tool of Parts Integration, a technique rooted in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). This method allows individuals to recognize and reconcile their...
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871 | When You Speak, You Heal
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In this episode, I am talking about how sharing our stories can lead to deep healing. I reflect on my own journey of speaking out about my experiences, particularly around the challenges of dealing with teen substance abuse and the misconceptions I held about healing. I emphasize that many of us often feel the need to have everything perfectly aligned before we share our truths, but this mindset can block our healing process. I share a pivotal moment from my past when I realized that speaking about my struggles not only helped me feel less alone but also opened doors to healing I never...
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870 | Your Limitations Are Meant to Be Challenged with Travis Robinson
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Today, I am speaking with Podcast Host, Travis Robinson. Travis’ life might seem defined by obstacles. Diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he’s faced relentless challenges—some expected, like mobility struggles, and others completely unforeseen, like losing his home and all of his photography gear in the Eaton fire. But rather than letting these hardships define him, Travis has built a life that proves limitations are meant to be challenged. Highlights: 00:01:00 - Travis's Diagnosis 00:02:30 - The Growing Concern of Parkinson's 00:04:30 - Facing the Diagnosis 00:06:30 - Starting the...
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869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet
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In this episode, I want to share the journey of writing a book. It's a dream for many, with 81% of people expressing a desire to write a book, yet fewer than 1% actually follow through and publish one. I want to challenge you to consider whether you want to be part of the 99% who never take that leap or join the less than 1% who do. Throughout the episode, I explore the common fears and beliefs that hold aspiring authors back. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, fearing that their stories aren't significant enough or that they might hurt others. I emphasize that these fears often stem...
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868 | Alignment and Peace May Feel Boring
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In this episode, I am sharing the concept of alignment and how it can sometimes feel boring or uncomfortable, especially if you're used to living in chaos. We are conditioned to gravitate towards what feels familiar, even if it’s not what we truly want. Our subconscious minds often choose chaos over peace because it’s what we know. I emphasize that if you find yourself repeatedly returning to unhealthy relationships or stressful situations, it’s likely because they feel normal to you. Imagine what it would feel like to train and reprogram your subconscious mind to become familiar with...
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867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin
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In this episode, Jim, host of the top-ranked Transform Your Life From The Inside Out podcast, is an internationally recognized expert in subconscious personal transformation who has coached global superstars for over 32 years, blending brain-based science, psychology, and ancient wisdom to help people evolve and live better lives. Jim’s podcast, Transform Your Life from the Inside Out, emphasizes that true transformation begins within. He explained the essence of the "Be, Do, Have" philosophy, which asserts that one must first embody the qualities they wish to achieve before taking...
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866 | The Most Freeing Lesson I’ve Ever Learned
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In this episode, I am sharing my take on the concept of "Let Them," inspired by Mel Robbins' teachings. I share my own journey and the lessons I've learned about control, choice, and the importance of allowing others to navigate their paths. I begin by reflecting on my experience attending a Mel Robbins event, where her powerful message resonated with me, despite my initial discomfort. I discuss how the idea of "Let Them" felt foreign to me as a parent who has faced the challenges of teen substance abuse. For me, the concept was not just about relinquishing control over trivial matters like...
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In this "Monday mindset'' episode, we are chatting about whether you are standing in your past stories. I have referred to the concept of standing IN vs standing ON our stories. When we are standing in our stories, we are stuck in the past, replaying scenarios that we can no longer control, fix or manage. Here’s a brief explanation of standing in vs standing on your story.
In today’s episode we discuss:
1) Standing IN your stories and the explanation I use is replaying the past over and over; searching for answers to fix something that is done; living in a space of blame, resistance, comparison or frustration; feeling like life is not fair; using your energy to wish, hope and pray for it to all change on it’s own; holding yourself back as a victim of your circumstances; and literally keeping yourself stuck in your stories.
2) Learning how to stand on your stories means the following: living at cause in your life; living in full radical ownership for the choices you make, the actions, decisions and responses you give to your circumstances; being committed to your growth and expansion and surrounding yourself with people who fill you up and support your visions; knowing that life has happened and you would not be the person you are today without the stories and circumstances you’ve lived. It also means being able to look at your lessons and know that your pain serves a much higher purpose and the solutions you learned can actually impact, serve and support others as well as knowing with certainty that life is happening for you and you are ready to step into the driver's seat to create your life.
3) When we are standing in our past we are keeping ourselves stuck in something we literally have no control over. Commit to moving forward, opening a door, and closing the one behind you or own the fact that you are making the choice to stay in this space of no change. Learning to stand on your story is when it all changes.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others