907 | When Your Confidence Makes Others Shrink
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In this episode, I share thoughts on how our confidence can sometimes trigger the insecurities of those around us, leading them to shrink back instead of celebrating our growth. This dynamic is rooted in our individual beliefs and past experiences, which shape how we perceive the world. If our confidence makes someone else shrink, they were never truly cheering for us in the first place. Bless and release and thank them for the role they have played in your life. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - The Fear of Judgment 00:01:05 - Personal Story: The Book Incident 00:03:35 - Embracing Imperfection 00:05:14...
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906 | Reprogramming Your Mind: How to Write Your Book with Ease
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In this episode, I speak into the often-overlooked connection between subconscious writing blocks and the process of writing a book. I open up about my own vulnerabilities and the misconceptions that many aspiring writers face when they struggle to put pen to paper. I start by addressing a common sentiment among writers: the confusion about how subconscious rewiring relates to the writing process. Many people have invested in strategy programs, only to find themselves stuck and questioning their abilities. I explain that our subconscious mind is a powerful force, controlling 95% of our...
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905 | Pray It Doesn't Work with Jeremy Delk
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In this episode, we are speaking with Entrepreneur, Investor, Author, and Public Speaker, Jeremy Delk. Jeremy’s story is all about taking ownership of his failures, his wild successes, and every lesson in between. From jumping into entrepreneurship as a teenager to walking away from a half-billion-dollar exit, Jeremy has never shied away from bold decisions. He embodies the idea of creating your own path, embracing failure, and taking unbound action to live life on your terms. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction and Early Entrepreneurial Pursuits 00:02:30 - Lessons from Early Failures...
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904 | Can You Allow Others to Hold Your Vision With You?
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In this episode, I am sharing the process of embracing big visions and the fears that often accompany them. I start by sharing a personal anecdote from 2016 when I first received the idea to write my solo book. The initial excitement was quickly overshadowed by fear and skepticism from those around me, which led me to caution against sharing my ideas too freely. I reflect on my experience with launching my NLP coaching certification, Outspoken, where I had to build everything from scratch without any proof of concept. A mentor pointed out the difference between that experience and my current...
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903 | A Quick Way to Shift Your Thinking to See What is Possible
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In this episode, I address a common question: how do we shift our thinking? I emphasize that while the concept may be simple, the execution is often challenging. I share my personal experience of being in a crisis and how it forced me to reevaluate my choices and control over my life. I encourage listeners to consider how they want to show up in their lives, especially as we approach the end of the year. I discuss the importance of setting realistic goals and focusing on what we want rather than what we don’t want. Many people struggle to articulate their desires, often fixating on their...
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902 | Your Past Gives You the Lessons to Change Your Future with Valerie J. Walsh
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In this episode, I am speaking with Best-Selling Author, Inspirational Speaker, Mental Health Advocate, Valerie J. Walsh. Valerie is a best-selling author, inspirational speaker, and transformational leader known for turning pain into purpose. After losing her mother to suicide, surviving cancer twice, and overcoming addiction, Valerie made the bold decision not just to heal—but to serve. Her story is one of deep resilience, raw honesty, and a powerful commitment to helping others rise from their own darkest moments. Through her books Shattered to the Core and COREAGEOUS, she delivers...
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901 | At Any Stage, At Any Age, You Always Have a Choice
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In this episode, I want to reflect on the core message that has been a guiding principle throughout my life and this podcast: you always have a choice. No matter your age or stage in life, you possess the power to make choices that shape your reality. I understand that it can often feel like circumstances are beyond our control, but I assure you that we can always choose how we respond to those circumstances. At 55 years old and navigating the complexities of the sandwich generation, caring for aging parents while managing a business that feels ever-evolving, I find myself constantly reminded...
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900 | From Scrappy Beginnings to #900
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In this special episode of the "Own Your Choices, Own Your Life" podcast, we celebrate a monumental milestone: episode 900! This is a special episode where Marsha is being interviewed by Sue Ruhe, her podcast manager, ninja extraordinaire and close friend. Marsha shares her thoughts on the significance of reaching 900 episodes, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and the unique space the podcast has provided her to navigate both business and personal challenges. We discuss the power of vulnerability in her solo episodes, where she imparts valuable lessons from her own...
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899 | Why Strategy Isn’t Enough to Share Your Story
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In this episode, we are on the brink of a significant milestone—episode 900! As I prepare to share more of my journey in the upcoming episode, I want to dive deep into a topic that I believe is crucial for anyone looking to make an impact, whether through writing, coaching, speaking, or any other form of expression. Today, I discuss the importance of sharing your story and how it connects to building genuine relationships with others. Many people underestimate the power of their narrative, thinking that strategy alone will lead to success. Strategy is only 5% of the equation; the remaining...
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898 | How to Write Your Book from the Optimal State
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In this episode, I discuss the everyday struggles many authors face, such as fear of judgment from family and friends, and the realization that we cannot control how others perceive our words. Our internal representation of the world shapes our responses, and I share personal anecdotes to illustrate how our states can influence our reactions to others. Instead of focusing on the strategy first, it is essential to get into the right state of mind, energy, and nervous system regulation before writing. Our subconscious mind, which governs 95% of our actions, responds to feelings of safety rather...
info_outlineIn this episode, I want to share some thoughts on what happens when we try to skip over parts of our healing, our feelings and how we subconsciously cannot push through these pieces no matter how hard we try. This is in alignment with one of the processes we use in the NLP Breakthrough Day Experience, where we use TIME Techniques to release emotions that we are holding onto in the order of anger, sadness, fear, hurt, shame/guilt. It brought up the conversation that we spend most of our lives holding onto or trying to skip past our emotions.
In this episode, we discuss:
1) When you skip over, push past or hide your true feelings, you subconsciously are telling yourself that they don’t matter. If your thoughts don’t matter then subconsciously you are telling yourself that you don’t matter. That will never change them.
2) Interrupt the loop, call yourself out, use a saying or a mantra, and then ask yourself what you are here to feel. Then FEEL it, no matter how messy it is.
3) Recognize that your emotions are simply data. They don’t mean anything unless you make them mean something. They are giving you information and you can decide what to do with them and how you respond.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.