636 | If You Want To Change Your Life, Change Your Story with Dave Albin
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In this episode, we speak with CEO, Founder, and Master Instructor, Dave Albin. Dave was born in 1954 at Queen of Angles Hospital in Hollywood, California to a single mother. He was adopted by his Aunt and uncle on his mother’s side at the age of 5. His adoptive parents told Dave they were not his parents at 11 years old. Later that year both his adoptive parents started drinking. This is where Dave’s life took a hard turn. Dave tried alcohol at the age of 12. By the time he was 14, he was experimenting with hard drugs. Grossly addicted to drugs and alcohol he joined AA some 20 years...
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635 | NLP in My Business Now vs Then
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In this episode, I am sharing the tools of NLP, subconscious reprogramming, and how these tools have changed how I operate in my life and business over the last 3 years. I don’t even recognize myself, and I smile when I see those old versions show up again. Now this is not a slam myself moment, because that is not productive at all. I wanted to share how these tools have made a huge difference in my life and business and maybe you will see yourself in my story. In today’s episode, we discuss: 1) NLP, neurolinguistic programming, came into my life around 10 years ago, although I had...
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634 | Where Do You Allow Yourself to Live?
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In this episode, I am sharing the tools of NLP, subconscious reprogramming, and understanding how your subconscious mind works. It literally doesn’t understand time, at the subconscious level, the mind remembers everything and it can travel time. Our subconscious mind is constantly trying to protect us, keep us safe, and prevent us from feeling pain. So you might hear that you have to stay present with your thoughts, yet sometimes that doesn’t feel possible. Here’s a permission slip to see your thoughts differently, give yourself some grace and know that your mind is trying...
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633 | Finding A Way Out Of Trafficking with Amanda Blackwood
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In this episode, we are speaking with Author, Artist, Speaker, and Survivor, Amanda Blackwood. Amanda is an accomplished artist and author, public speaker, podcast host, trauma recovery mentor, and a survivor of human trafficking. Amanda has spoken on a multitude of stages, international summits, and radio programs, and has published over a dozen books. She launched two podcasts - one that focuses on interviewing other authors of trauma, and the other that discusses the long-term consequences of trauma and how to fight back for a better life. A portion of every book sale goes to help fight...
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632 | Celebrating The 6-Year Anniversary Of When She Stopped Asking Why
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In this episode, I am celebrating and sharing that it has been 6 years since my 6x Bestselling Book release When She Stopped Asking Why. I am a completely different person since that book release and I am so grateful for this experience. I wanted to share some lessons that still ring true for me, some new lessons, the power of asking different questions, and how the dots always connect even when we don’t think they ever will make sense. In today’s episode, we discuss: 1) A number of lessons, takeaways, gratitudes, and a quick reading of an excerpt of When She Stopped Asking...
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631 What If Your Thoughts Were Clouds And Not Plants
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In this episode, I am leaning into the tools of NLP, subconscious reprogramming, and understanding the power of your thoughts, what if you thought of thoughts as clouds instead of plants? Clouds move, they come in and go, they never stay and they don’t anchor in place. Plants take up space, they grow roots, get stronger, take water, and nourishment, and gain life, and will eventually take over if you don’t take care of them. In today’s episode, we discuss: 1) Let’s back it up and look at what a belief is. A belief is simply a thought that you continue to...
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630 | There's Life And Hope After The Cult with Scott Homan
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In this episode, we speak with Director-Producer-Filmmaker-Podcaster-Writer-Cinematographer, Scott Homan. Scott was raised in the fiercely DIY "Northwoods" of Wisconsin deep in the wild of the Great Lakes region. His music community created Oh The Crib! records in a house in the forest as teenagers, where they recorded two albums while being influenced by a cult. He ran camera and sound for a local news station and then went to university for photography and digital media. Today he runs Banana Island Films, which was born in Hanoi, Vietnam during his five years there. He directed a...
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629 | Can You Trust The Reasons?
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In this episode, I want to ask you a question, can you trust the things/reasons that you cannot see? How fast can you move forward when things don’t make sense, when you put the goals out there and things are not unfolding in the way you had planned, the way you anticipated or desired? How do you show up when it looks like it isn’t working out? In today’s episode, we discuss: 1) Building inner trust, intuition, and a knowing that there’s a reason why some things are not working out for you, that there is always a reason, and that the universe is not on your timeline...
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628 What If It's Not Self-Sabotage?
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In this episode, I am leaning into the tools of NLP, subconscious reprogramming, and understanding how powerful our thoughts, emotions, and words are, and how this one-word shift can help you to see yourself differently. Let’s shift the words of self-sabotage to self-protection or self-preservation. Your body is hardwired to crave familiarity, even if it is the discomfort that you say you don’t want. In today’s episode, we discuss: 1) Self-sabotage is a way to protect you from discomfort, from things that might feel scary, or have the fear of failure. What if instead, we...
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627 | From The Floor To The Door with Michelle Shekhinah
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Today we are speaking with the Author, Mentor, Coach, Survivor, and Thrivor, Michelle Shekhinah. Michelle was married for many years and was a stay-at-home Mom for 2 children. In 2015, Michelle realized that her husband was addicted to drugs. At this time, she experienced financial, emotional, and sexual abuse from him, which turned into his sex trafficking. Michelle spent many nights crying on the floor, until one night she saved her life and ran for the door. Since then, she has been healing herself, with therapy and other techniques. She has become a strong Mom for her children, in...
info_outlineIn this episode, I am sharing a personal story a real-time shift, and how to navigate through the muck. It’s always important that we share our own story, sometimes we are walking through a ton of things that are outside of our control and we can only share our story. The old me would fight like hell through every single challenge that crossed my path, mostly on my own until I realized I was wasting a crap ton of energy and realized nothing was changing.
In today’s episode, we discuss:
1) Today I am sharing a personal story, and I wanted to share what it is really like in the moment navigating challenges. These are some of the tools that I use: I feel, I reach out and ask for help/support to shift my energy (not the fix-it friends, the holding space friends). Choosing to stay stuck in it is exhausting and changes nothing. I don’t rush this phase I do my best to move through it. It takes days, sometimes a week or longer to shift it, but the longer you stay stuck in the muck, the harder it is to move.
2) One key reminder that allows me to move forward and this goes back to when we were walking through the most difficult years of our lives. First, I would remind myself that I was in the position because I could handle it, I was the person to find a way out, and I always had the answers, I might not like the answers, but I knew what the answers were. The second reframe was the question “Did I make the best decision that I could at the time with the information that I had?” Tomorrow or the next day I might have different information but at that time I had this information.
3) The wolf that lives is the one you feed. If you feed the anger, resentment, lies, etc, there are no solutions there. None. Which means no change either. When you feed the fear, the negative emotions and vibrations they only grow.
4) The final question I ask myself is “How can I get bigger than the problem, and what if you do have the ability and skills to find your way out? Getting bigger than the problem is being open to possibilities, potential people to cross your paths, and new insight. Letting go of an old decision.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories.
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.