608 | What It's Really Like In The Moment

In this episode, I am sharing a personal story a real-time shift, and how to navigate through the muck. It’s always important that we share our own story, sometimes we are walking through a ton of things that are outside of our control and we can only share our story.  The old me would fight like hell through every single challenge that crossed my path, mostly on my own until I realized I was wasting a crap ton of energy and realized nothing was changing.

In today’s episode, we discuss:

1)  Today I am sharing a personal story, and I wanted to share what it is really like in the moment navigating challenges.  These are some of the tools that I use:  I feel, I reach out and ask for help/support to shift my energy (not the fix-it friends, the holding space friends).  Choosing to stay stuck in it is exhausting and changes nothing.  I don’t rush this phase I do my best to move through it.  It takes days, sometimes a week or longer to shift it, but the longer you stay stuck in the muck, the harder it is to move.

2)  One key reminder that allows me to move forward and this goes back to when we were walking through the most difficult years of our lives.  First, I would remind myself that I was in the position because I could handle it, I was the person to find a way out, and I always had the answers, I might not like the answers, but I knew what the answers were.   The second reframe was the question “Did I make the best decision that I could at the time with the information that I had?” Tomorrow or the next day I might have different information but at that time I had this information. 

3) The wolf that lives is the one you feed.  If you feed the anger, resentment, lies, etc, there are no solutions there.  None.  Which means no change either.  When you feed the fear, the negative emotions and vibrations they only grow. 

4) The final question I ask myself is “How can I get bigger than the problem, and what if you do have the ability and skills to find your way out?  Getting bigger than the problem is being open to possibilities, potential people to cross your paths, and new insight. Letting go of an old decision. 

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories. 

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.