853 | When Doubt Takes Up More Space
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In this episode, I share some thoughts on doubt and how much space it takes up in our lives. Doubt can occupy a significant portion of our lives, often overshadowing our sense of certainty and self-confidence. This episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and regulating our emotions, particularly doubt, which can feel like a volcano ready to erupt. I share personal anecdotes about my journey, illustrating that even when it seems like others have it all together, they, too, grapple with similar feelings of uncertainty. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Weight of Doubt 00:03:00 - Doubt vs....
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852 | From Small Town Roots to Big Dreams with Virginia Ehrlich
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In this episode, I speak with Virginia Ehrlich. Virginia is the owner and founder of Acre75 Gathered, a Canadian subscription box dedicated to supporting small-town economies and the businesses that sustain them. Every item we feature in our seasonal boxes is made or designed in a small town in Canada with fewer than 30,000 residents. Virginia embodies the spirit of small towns, big dreams. As the founder and owner of Acre75 Gathered, a Canadian subscription box dedicated to supporting small town economies, she has partnered with over 150 small businesses since launching in...
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851 | When the World Cracks You Open
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In this episode, I am sharing the message of being "cracked open" by life's challenges and how these moments can lead to personal growth and clarity. I begin by sharing a powerful quote from Rebecca Campbell's book, "Light is the New Black," which emphasizes the importance of embracing the things that break us down, as they ultimately allow the light to shine through. This is a personal episode as I share the story of my husband, Brad, a Master’s Olympic lifter, who faced a serious injury during a competition. As he set national records, he suffered a painful elbow injury that required...
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850 | Why I Stopped Waiting to Feel Ready
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In this episode, I share my thoughts on the concept of readiness and how it is a lie. I challenge the notion that we must feel 100% ready before starting new ventures. Drawing from personal experiences, I emphasize that readiness often results from taking the leap, not a prerequisite. I encourage listeners to reflect on their own lives and consider times when they felt prepared entirely—chances are, those moments are few and far between. I also touch on the significance of identity work, urging listeners to envision the person they aspire to be and to act as if they are already that...
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849 | Detours That Paved the Way for Entrepreneurial Success with Rebecca Ogilvie
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In this episode, I connect with Rebecca Ogilvie. Rebecca is a Mother, entrepreneur, and advocate for women’s empowerment. She believes life keeps getting better and is passionate about helping women create a life they love. Her journey began with her transformation. After years of prioritizing others, she reconnected with herself through small, intentional rituals—starting with skincare. That experience shaped her mission: to help women see their strengths, celebrate themselves, and embrace self-care as an act of self-respect. Through her skincare brand, The Detour Co, Rebecca reminds...
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848 | Rewiring the Stories That Held Me Back - and How You Can Too
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In this episode, I highlight the importance of awareness in recognizing these limiting beliefs. I discuss how our subconscious can drive us back to familiar patterns, often leading to self-sabotage. I encourage listeners to confront these thoughts and reframe them, asking themselves whether they are valid. Doing so can interrupt the negative loops that keep us from reaching our full potential. Things can become easier, but they never truly become easy. As we grow, we often confront subconscious beliefs that can hinder our progress. I candidly share my experiences of feeling nervous and...
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847 | Become the Authority You Were Meant to Be
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In this episode, I explore how we can shift our mindset from feeling like an imposter to embracing our authority. I start by posing a thought-provoking question: How would you like to perceive imposter syndrome differently? I emphasize that authority doesn't have to be a triggering term; it can simply mean owning your life and your message. Throughout the episode, I discuss the common reasons behind imposter syndrome, such as caring deeply about our work and comparing ourselves to others who seem more experienced. I highlight the importance of recognizing that we often compare our beginning to...
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846 | Your Mind Can Be Your Friend with Charlotte Grimmel
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Today, I speak with Charlotte Grimmel. Charlotte is a psychologist (MSc) and holistic business coach who has helped thousands master the invisible patterns that hold them back. Through her coaching practice and platform @themindfriend (168k+ followers), she turns deep psychological insights into practical tools for overcoming self-sabotage, perfectionism, and paralyzing self-doubt. Known for her direct yet compassionate approach, she shows people how to transform their relationship with their minds instead of fighting themselves. By combining expertise in psychology with real-world experience,...
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845 | How Big Do You Allow Yourself to Dream?
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In this episode, I dive into how big you allow yourself to dream. Where do you see yourself in two to three years? Will you live your dream, or will you still be in the planning, thinking, or avoiding phases? Throughout the episode, I emphasize the role of our subconscious mind in shaping our beliefs and goals. Many people settle for comfortable and familiar aspirations, but I urge you to break free from that mindset. By examining your past achievements and recognizing how far you've come, you can begin to dream beyond what you think is possible. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Importance of...
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844 | The Hairdryer Cord - Strengthening Your Mindset for Success
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In this episode, I share some stats about the sheer volume of daily thoughts—between 60,000 and 80,000, with a staggering 80-90% being repetitive and predominantly negative. This repetition can create thick neural pathways in our brains, reinforcing doubts, fears and limiting beliefs. I use a vivid analogy comparing our thoughts to a hairdryer cord, illustrating how negative thoughts can become strong and durable while positive thoughts often remain fragile and underdeveloped. Throughout the episode, I encourage listeners to recognize the power of their language and internal dialogue. I...
info_outlineIn this episode, I am sharing a personal story a real-time shift, and how to navigate through the muck. It’s always important that we share our own story, sometimes we are walking through a ton of things that are outside of our control and we can only share our story. The old me would fight like hell through every single challenge that crossed my path, mostly on my own until I realized I was wasting a crap ton of energy and realized nothing was changing.
In today’s episode, we discuss:
1) Today I am sharing a personal story, and I wanted to share what it is really like in the moment navigating challenges. These are some of the tools that I use: I feel, I reach out and ask for help/support to shift my energy (not the fix-it friends, the holding space friends). Choosing to stay stuck in it is exhausting and changes nothing. I don’t rush this phase I do my best to move through it. It takes days, sometimes a week or longer to shift it, but the longer you stay stuck in the muck, the harder it is to move.
2) One key reminder that allows me to move forward and this goes back to when we were walking through the most difficult years of our lives. First, I would remind myself that I was in the position because I could handle it, I was the person to find a way out, and I always had the answers, I might not like the answers, but I knew what the answers were. The second reframe was the question “Did I make the best decision that I could at the time with the information that I had?” Tomorrow or the next day I might have different information but at that time I had this information.
3) The wolf that lives is the one you feed. If you feed the anger, resentment, lies, etc, there are no solutions there. None. Which means no change either. When you feed the fear, the negative emotions and vibrations they only grow.
4) The final question I ask myself is “How can I get bigger than the problem, and what if you do have the ability and skills to find your way out? Getting bigger than the problem is being open to possibilities, potential people to cross your paths, and new insight. Letting go of an old decision.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories.
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.