801 | How to Make Confident Choices in Relationships with Mike Fink
Own Your Choices Own Your Life
Release Date: 01/09/2025
Own Your Choices Own Your Life
In this episode, Marsha recounts a powerful story known as "The Acres of Diamonds," from Matt Cook's book, Beyond Wanting, which illustrates how individuals frequently overlook the treasures that lie within their own lives while searching desperately for fulfillment elsewhere. The tale follows a farmer in 1800s Africa who, driven by the desire to provide for his family, sells his farm in pursuit of diamonds. After years of fruitless searching and ultimately losing everything, he tragically takes his own life. Ironically, the new owner of the farmer's land discovers that it sits atop one of the...
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In this episode, Marsha speaks to the distinction between operating under pressure and embracing a state of internal power. Marsha introduces the concept of the "ceiling" and "floor" in relation to personal beliefs and aspirations. The ceiling represents the highest thoughts one allows themselves to entertain, while the floor symbolizes the deepest beliefs that anchor an individual. She explains that our lives are constructed within the space between these two points, shaped by subconscious programming rather than mere strategy. Marsha discusses the importance of recognizing and...
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In this episode, I am speaking with Meredith Oke. Meredith is the Co-Founder of the Quantum Biology Collective, a Podcast Host, and a Speaker, and she is passionate about bridging the gap between cutting-edge science and everyday well-being. After facing her own health challenges, Meredith discovered the emerging field of quantum biology—the science of how light, water, and circadian rhythms influence human health at the cellular level. Through her work, she helps people move beyond surface-level health fixes and instead address the “light side” of health—how our environment,...
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In this episode, Marsha invites listeners into a deeply personal exploration of the power of thoughts and self-talk. She begins by posing a thought-provoking question: if one were to vocalize their inner thoughts, what would others hear? Would it be a stream of empowering affirmations or a verbal dump of self-doubt and criticism? Marsha emphasizes that our internal dialogue is a powerful broadcast that shapes our reality, and she encourages listeners to reflect on the nature of their own thoughts. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - The Power of Your Thoughts 00:02:00 - Facing Challenges 00:04:30 - The...
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In this episode, Marsha discusses the difference between conscious and subconscious values and highlights the frustration that arises when one's conscious goals clash with subconscious beliefs. Throughout the episode, Marsha explains that while conscious values represent only 5% of our mindset, the remaining 95% is governed by the subconscious. She illustrates how this disconnect can manifest in daily life, where individuals may claim to value freedom or health but find themselves trapped in patterns that contradict those values. Marsha emphasizes that true alignment can only be achieved when...
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Live from Langdon Hall, Marsha Vanwynsberghe and her Heartwired CEO co-founder, Meghan Weir, reflect on their first-ever Heartwired CEO live event — a transformational experience blending embodiment, leadership, and intuition. They share behind-the-scenes lessons, what it means to lead from the heart instead of the hustle, and how slowing down to integrate can create lasting impact. They also announce what’s next for the Heartwired CEO Mastermind 2026, a deep 12-month container for nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, and authentic business growth. Highlights: [01:05] The...
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In this episode, I challenge the notion that healing must be a heavy, burdensome experience. Instead, I advocate for a lighter approach, where we can learn to feel our emotions without being overwhelmed by them. Throughout the episode, I discuss the concept of nervous system regulation and how it plays a crucial role in our healing journey. I explain that healing does not necessitate a complete pause in our lives; rather, it involves training our minds to respond differently to triggers and challenges. By embracing emotions and learning to navigate them, we can create a sense of safety and...
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In this episode, Marsha dives into the distinction between inspiration and activation, sharing her personal insights and experiences that have shaped her understanding of these concepts. She begins by expressing her mixed feelings about being labelled "inspiring," revealing that while she appreciates the sentiment, it often feels superficial unless it leads to tangible change in others' lives. She explains how activation reaches beyond the conscious mind, tapping into one's identity and beliefs, ultimately leading to a shift in perspective and behaviour. Marsha passionately advocates for the...
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In this episode, I am speaking with Neuroscience Expert | Inventor of BrainTap® | Brain Fitness Pioneer, Dr Patrick K. Porter. Dr. Porter has spent his life asking a radical question: What if we could train the brain like a muscle and transform lives without pills, struggle, or guesswork? Introduced to the power of mind training by his father at an early age, Dr. Porter’s lifelong passion has been exploring how visualization, brainwave science, and neuroplasticity can unlock human potential. As a pioneer in brainwave entertainment since the 1980s, Dr. Porter saw possibilities where...
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In this episode, Marsha reframes the narrative around resilience, challenging the notion that it is merely a badge of honour or a sign of strength. Instead, she posits that true resilience is about maintaining emotional regulation and resourcefulness in the face of life's inevitable challenges. Throughout the episode, Marsha shares her insights on how to shift perspectives, using a recent example of a client who expressed self-doubt. By flipping the narrative to highlight the client's belief in herself, Marsha illustrates the power of reframing one's story. She emphasizes that resilience is...
info_outlineIn this episode, I speak with Decision Making Coach, Author, and Innovator Mike Fink.
Mike is an author, coach, and the inventor of The Decoding Grid™, a revolutionary clarity and decision-making process. His work primarily focuses on helping women considering divorce who are stuck in indecision because they fear they’ll make a mistake they’ll regret. With a deep understanding of their unique challenges, Mike guides them through his process, enabling them to get Clarity and Certainty about their marriage in 30 days or less.
With over two decades of experience in personal development, Mike holds a Master of Science in Psychology from Yale University. He is a world-renowned coach and personal development expert. In the first part of his career, he helped more than 110,000 people across 157 countries achieve goals they once thought unattainable.
Following a painful turning point in his life, Mike created The Decoding Grid™, and since 2021, has been dedicated to sharing it with the world. He is also the author of the groundbreaking book Divorce Decision Decoded: The Revolutionary Process for Women to Make the Right Decision with Confidence.
HIGHLIGHTS
00:00:23 - Mike's Mission
00:00:44 - Personal Experience with Indecision
00:02:46 - The Impact of Indecision
00:03:24 - Understanding Indecision
00:06:15 - The Burden of Indecision
00:06:48 - Women and Decision-Making
00:09:57 - The Role of the Primal Brain
00:12:04 - The Challenge of Certainty
00:13:11 - The Importance of Values
00:20:40 - Decision-Making Framework
00:41:42 - Visualizing Decisions
00:42:37 - Book Introduction
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Website: https://www.getabsoluteclarity.com/
Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
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