#34 - Solocast: Stop Saying Yes to Things You Really Don't Want to Do
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Stop saying yes to things you really don’t want to do, to make time for the ones that really matter. AKA: How to say “No!” ARRIVAL FALLACY: Is this all there is? When will the tasks/to do list ever end? They won’t. ABSOLUTELY YES or NO! Figure out your priorities based on your values…your calendar should directly reflect this. What does it look like to be a good enough wife, mom, doctor, friend? How can we stop saying yes to what we think we SHOULD do based on others expectations and choose to prioritize what’s truly the most imp to us. Have to really look downstream to figure out...
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#33 - Solocast: Mindfulness in Wake of 9/11, Queen Elizabeth II Passing
Paging Dr. Mom with Julie La Barba, MD, FAAP
https://www.thepoetrypharmacy.com
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#32 - Conscious Parenting with Dr. Misha Yajnik
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@consciouspediatrician Show Notes: Dr. Yajnik shares authentic awareness about parenting and mindset including: Real life struggles of working moms, The need for support that we don't ask for. Recognizing mom guilt and how to overcome that Recognizing that it is hard, and we don't have to pretend that it's not. "Your childs emotional health begins with you." We don’t realize how important our own mental health is when it comes to raising children, and why that's so important for pediatricians to help parents understand. ...
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#31 - Solocast: SMART Goals, Time Matters Today Recap
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by Dr. Martha Kenney, creator of Time Matters Today We are half-way through 2022, and, I have a quick question for you. Have you achieved your New Year’s resolutions? My guess is that most of you would say "no," because research shows that 80% of people abandon their New Year’s resolutions by the beginning of February. Why? Because although New Year’s resolutions may be the closest that most people will get to planning their goals in life, resolutions are more an expression of desires rather than "true goals." Vaguely stated goals that lack relevance to your values and are...
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#30- Time Matters with Dr. Martha Kenney
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Tune in with Dr. Martha Kenney who knows how much your time matters. Time management isn’t just about productivity, not is it about doing MORE things. It's about freeing up your time and energy to do the RIGHT things. And “the right things” are those things that line up with your personal values. Martha references Alice in Wonderland: If you don’t know where you’re going then why should it matter which path you take? Any one will do if you don’t have a true “destination” in mind. BIO: Dr. Martha Kenney is a board certified pediatrician and pediatric anesthesiologist, wife and...
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#29 - Solocast: Cracking the Code on Family Dinners
Paging Dr. Mom with Julie La Barba, MD, FAAP
Dinner with adolescents: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1JzmReRnWJ04_PANtpxe-cS6DibF28a4cG5l1INHdbgQ/edit#heading=h.96phn4gm8y38 Reducing conflict at the table: https://thefamilydinnerproject.org/food-for-thought/how-to-beat-tension-and-conflict-from-your-family-dinner/ The Family Dinner Project: thefamilydinnerproject.org
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#28 - The Family Dinner Project with Dr. Anne Fishel
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@thefamilydinnerproject (Harper Collins, 2015) (Familius, 2019). WHY THE FAMILY DINNER PROJECT? Research shows most think eating family dinner is a good idea, but fewer than 1/2 of American families do so. 70% of meals are eaten outside of the home and 20% in the car! The Family Dinner Project is all about the not perfect but “good enough” meal to inspire families to get back to the diner table. Bottom line: studies show regular family dinners reduce high-risk teenage behaviors such as: substance abuse, smoking, eating disorders, behavioral...
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#27 - Carpool Podcast... Then and Now with James
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#26 - Save Lives, Enjoy your Own with Dr. Barbara Hamilton
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Epic Failures Revealed! 7 Things to Keep You Going Strong on a Path to Becoming a Doctor Bio/Show Notes: Barbara Hamilton, MD is an interventional radiologist, leader, and the author of Save Lives, Enjoy Your Own: Finding Your Place in Medicine. She helps aspiring & early career doctors succeed in the surgically-oriented and traditionally male-dominated fields by pulling back the curtain on what it looks like to be a woman and parent in medicine. Ultimately, she strives to be an example of what is possible for those who would follow in her footsteps.Through her writing, speaking,...
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#25 - The Physician Philosopher Recap. Tired Superheroine up next!
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info_outlinehttps://hbr.org/2020/09/how-to-let-go-of-working-mom-guilt
Summary.
Working moms are chasing the balance of working a job that they want and being the mom that they envisioned. They feel bad about letting their kids, team, or boss down, and also feel guilt about practicing self-care, remorse for not helping aging parents enough, or embarrassment about admitting their stress. Additionally, the COVID-19 pandemic has left working parents — and in particular mothers, who still disproportionately take care of the housework and children — having to find solutions for education and childcare.
If you’re a working mother, you must let go of this guilt. Consider these five tips. First, forgive yourself for your choices and circumstances. Second, revisit your values and make them your top priorities. Third, ask for help from those around you. Fourth, remember the basics of being a good parent and let yourself be “good enough.” Finally, unfollow those on social media that bring you down.
Forget "Having It All": How America Messed Up Motherhood--and How to Fix It
by Amy Westervelt
https://www.amazon.com/Forget-Having-All-America-Motherhood/dp/1580057861
“We still ask women to work like they don't have kids and parent like they don't work.It’s well past time to change all that.”
What Exactly IS Mom Guilt Anyway? A Clinical Psychotherapist Explains
by Lori Mihalich-Levin | Oct 21, 2017 | Working Mom
https://www.mindfulreturn.com/mom-guilt/
Summary:
So-called “mom-guilt” is pervasive among mothers. It can strike at any time and can show itself in any number of “mom” situations. There are enormous expectations from society, media, family and friends about what mothers “should be like” and what we “should do.” Should a mom return to work or not? Breastfeed or not? Be happy she is a mom?
Unreasonable expectations of happiness are also commonly drilled into new mothers. However, at least 1 in 7 mothers experience postpartum depression or anxiety following the birth of a baby. Voicing true feelings may lead to judgement, though and then guilt begins to take a toll.
Being a mother can be filled with anxiety, stress, chaos, and can feel like one of the worst jobs on the planet. But we don’t have to let guilt shame and fear control our experiences, but rather work towards self-acceptance and letting go of guilt.