#32 How To Have Judgment Without Being Judgmental
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In a world where the mere mention of judgment can spark controversy and shame, it's easy to lose sight of its essential role in our lives. There's a crucial difference between being judgmental and exercising sound judgment, yet the fear of judgment has led many to forsake their ability to discern, blurring the lines between criticism and discernment. Join us as we navigate this delicate balance, uncovering why it's vital not to shy away from judgment but instead to embrace it as a cornerstone of wisdom. And perhaps most importantly, why giving the gift of good...
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#31 Embracing the Uncomfortable: Understanding the Role of Judgment, Guilt, and Shame
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We've all experienced it—the gut-wrenching guilt, the overwhelming shame, the moments where we've passed judgment on others. Not the most pleasant feeling... Maybe that's why in today's world, there's a prevailing notion that these emotions should be erased from our vocabulary and emotional palette. But is this truly the best approach to raising our children and fostering healthy relationships? Join us on an eye-opening journey to challenge these societal norms that try to stop us from feeling these feelings and delve into the complexities of judgment, guilt, and shame. Learn why these...
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#30 Authentic Parenting: Beyond the Rulebook
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Ever found yourself meticulously following every parenting guideline to a t, only to feel like something crucial is missing? In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable truth about scripted responses and emotionless reactions and how they may be stifling genuine connections with our children. If you feel that the rules of gentle parenting are just not getting you anywhere - this might be an eye-opening truth as to what might be missing. Even more importantly how, unknowingly, you could have fallen into the traps of Robotic Parenting. Tune in and learn what Robotic Parenting...
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#29 Raising Resilient Kids: Should I Follow My Child's Lead?
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Ever wondered why today's kids seem less ready for adulting? This episode spills the beans on the real struggles – less independence, job hesitations, a bouquet of disorders, and major "not ready" vibes. Discover what's really going on with our young generation as we dissect the impact of excessive screen time, casual relationships, and the effects of super laid-back parenting. Brace yourself: it's a recipe for stress, anxiety, and more. But hey, no need to panic! We've got a solid game plan to prep your kids for success in the adulting game. Find out how setting boundaries, sharing values,...
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#28 Couples Therapy: Why It Isn't Always the Answer to Save Your Marriage
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"Have you tried couples therapy?" - that's the one and really ONLY solution that married couples are handed when they are on the brink of going their separate ways. And then... Many come to find that it's actualy not working, or working only for as long as you're going. What about the ones who can't even afford therapy? OR that partner who is frankly refusing to go. What choices are you left with then? Stay in missery or leave and break the family? There has to be a better way, and there is! In this episode, let's dive deep into the terittory of why therapy might be doing your relationship...
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#27 Your Relationship Shapes Your Child's Behavior
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What happens when peaceful parenting unintentionally takes a toll on your relationship? In this episode, we're unraveling the paradox of practicing zen parenting while forgetting to extend the same grace to our partners. It's not about the tools of peaceful parenting causing the turmoil; it's about the pitfalls of neglecting peaceful partnering too. What are those double standards that may be unknowingly sabotaging your efforts? Discover why your kid might be echoing negative behaviors, and how the example we set in our partnerships becomes the blueprint for their future interactions....
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#26 Feminism's Consequences on Your Marriage
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Feminism has contributed significantly to the world, bringing forth numerous benefits. Over the years, it has evolved into a complex and multifaceted movement. Alongside its positive impacts, however, some drawbacks have subtly infiltrated our subconscious. These factors now influence not only how women perceive men and themselves but also impact our relationships. It is crucial to acknowledge these aspects so we can build stronger families and marriages. If you're seeking a fulfilling connection and are curious about the silent forces shaping your perceptions of your partner - join us in...
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#25 Trade-Offs: Sleep, School, Screens & Sugar
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Sleep experts, parenting gurus, and influencers will come out with dramatic, dogmatic, and sometimes even fanatic statements, like "Never ____" or "The choice to ______ is akin to abuse". But these types of statements encourage a delusion in us parents: that there is ONE right, true and perfect way to parent. That there are whole and complete solutions to our queries and all we have to do is to keep swiping left until we find them. In this episode, I break down why Thomas Sowell was so, so right when he said: "There are no solutions, only tradeoffs." and I encourage you to take a more nuances,...
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#24 How to Raise Resilient Kids (Even When I Don't Feel Resilient Myself)
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One of the most common questions I get asked by parents around the world is: "How can I give my child something I, myself, don't have?" We all want to give the best to our children - to "level up" from generation to generation. But then we're faced with the reality that it's very hard to give something that we feel we lack! So, whether it's about body image, communication skills, health, or confidence - this episode will give you the framework to develop essential life skills in your child and impart the priceless asset of a strong mindset. ~ Want to develop true resilience? Become...
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#23 Strength Over Safety: Raising Courageous Kids in an Unsafe World
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It might be hard to imagine, but the emphasis on "safety" as one of the main goals for parents, was not always the prevailing value that humans sought after. Today, there's an acute obsession with physical and emotional safety. Caution signs and buzzwords like "safe space" and "trigger warnings" permeate societal circles. But "safetyism" actually leads us all to be less safe. In this episode, I share 3 surprising ways in which a high emphasis on safety actually deteriorates resiliency and 3 strategies you can start practicing now to raise children who are strong - physically,...
info_outlineAre you a working parent who tends to feel guilty while at work that you should be with your kids but then also feels guilty while with your kids that you should be working? Or perhaps you’re not a working parent but you are trying to meet your needs and desires in some way be it fitness, or a hobby and also feel guilty when trying to balance the two?
If you’ve ever felt like you’re a failure on all fronts this episode is for you!
This episode will mainly focus on balancing the needs from a work perspective but you can apply it to any faucet of your life. When we try to show up as different versions of ourselves and hide the parts of ourselves we don’t feel belong under that hat we can be left feeling fragmented, like we are a failure in both areas of our lives.
You’ll learn how to change your language to change your mind (spoiler alert: realize you have ONE life). Also, you’ll realize that it is ok and even expected if your experience in one role affects your experience in the other because after all, you are one integrated person.
In this episode we’ll discuss “work-life balance.” Is it an illusion to think that you can truly balance your work life and home life, especially in modern times when there is less separation between the 2? Here’s what you’ll hear:
[5:01] Conform to Society’s Desire?
[6:58] Bring home the bacon AND spend more time with your kids
[10:39] It’s all in how you frame it
[13:11] Drop “or” choose “and” instead!
[14:26] You don’t have to hide your “momness” at work
[17:17] You don’t have to hide your professional self at home
[18:41] Forget work-life, you have ONE life
[20:59] Working IS good parenting - drop the guilt!
[24:03] What are you teaching your children? (You don’t wanna miss this!)
[28:37] Resent the “2nd shift”? If so this is the reframe that will change your life!
So is work-life balance achievable? Yes, of course. But only when you stop treating them as separate things and treat them as faucets of the one integrated life you have.
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