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STOP THE SPIRAL — Training 2: The Let-Down Spiral Today we’re tackling one of the biggest sources of resentment in motherhood: when the people you love let you down. Your partner forgets something, your child ignores a request, your in-law makes a comment—and suddenly you’re spiraling. In this workshop, I’ll show you why nagging doesn’t work, why doing everything yourself makes things worse, and why neither option actually solves the problem. You’ll learn the third way: keeping your standards high while lowering resentment and raising collaboration. We’ll talk about...
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Feeling triggered, tense, or like you’re one tiny thing away from snapping? You’re not alone — and you’re not broken. You’re simply at capacity. In this special episode, I’ll show you how to stretch that capacity so triggers stop owning you. In this workshop, you’ll learn: ✨ Why traditional “stop, drop, and breathe” advice doesn’t work when you’re overwhelmed ✨ The real reason you spiral — and how to interrupt it fast ✨ The ONE shift that instantly increases emotional capacity ✨ 3 practical, evidence-backed tools you can use TODAY ✨ How to stay calm, clear,...
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Are adults really “messing up the world”… or have we created the safest, richest, healthiest era in human history? In this episode, I debunk the doom narrative that’s crushing our kids’ resilience — and explain why gratitude, realism, and strength are the real gifts we should be giving the next generation. We’ll talk about: - Why the narrative of “adults messed up the world” is false - How doom, pessimism, and fear harm children’s mental health - The real purpose of childhood (hint: it’s NOT endless happiness) - How to raise kids who are grateful, strong, antifragile,...
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Everyone is being pushed to pick a side — feminist or traditional, gentle or strict, self-care or self-sacrifice. In this episode, I’m breaking down why the BEST marriages, families, and kids are built by people who learn to hold two truths at once, instead of joining an extreme camp. Dive deeper with me: Get personalized, high-level guidance to transform your family, marriage, and mindset — work with me privately. 👉 Become the calm, confident leader your family needs — join The Studio. 👉 Turn your marriage into a true partnership — learn the skills inside Married-U....
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Your child was resilient… so why does it feel like it all disappeared overnight? In this livestream, I’m answering three real questions from our HiFam community — and each one touches a deep, modern pain point for parents. We’re diving into: 💪 1. When your child suddenly loses their grit Why an injury or big stressor can make kids regress (and why it’s normal), how resilience actually rebuilds through exposure — not protection, what “10% empathy, 90% coaching” looks like in real life, and how to speak to your child’s identity so they grow into the strong, capable person...
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When something bad happens to my kids — a fight with a friend, a missed goal, a tough day — I don’t rush to fix it. I’m actually… a little happy. 😬 Because this is where resilience is built. In the low-stakes moments of childhood, our kids get to practice what life will demand later: courage, recovery, and perspective. This episode explores the idea of antifragility — the mindset that what doesn’t kill us (or our kids) can truly make us stronger. When we stop over-protecting and start coaching, we raise children who can handle life with confidence. If you’ve ever wondered...
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Modern dating is broken — and no one wants to admit why. We traded commitment for convenience, love for validation, and real connection for swipes on a screen. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how the dating system collapsed — and what we can teach our sons and daughters to do instead. 💔 Why modern dating leaves everyone lonelier 🔥 How women became the gatekeepers of sex and men the gatekeepers of marriage ⚖️ Why hypergamy (dating “up”) broke the balance between men and women 💡 What to do differently — and how to find love that actually lasts If you’ve...
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If you’re ready to want your husband again... not out of duty, but true desire...! Then Desire Lab is built for you - https://hifam.com/desire , my membership for women who want to bring back passion, polarity, and partnership in marriage. He’s the main provider… so why do you still feel angry when he gets to rest? In this special recording, I unpack one of the most common (and taboo) relationship triggers for modern women — resentment. We’ll talk about: - The invisible scorecard in relationships - How to know if you’re owning your choices or secretly blaming your partner -...
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If you’re tired of screen battles, Reclaim Play () will help you build a home where kids actually want to live offline again. Every parent has been there — your kid sneaks an iPad, cracks the passcode, or watches “just one more episode.” What do you do next? In this episode, we’ll talk about how to respond when your child breaks your screen-time rules — without yelling, shaming, or losing connection. I’ll show you how to turn these moments into lessons in trust, honesty, and emotional growth, so screens stop being a source of conflict and become a chance to strengthen your...
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►► Get your kid playing for hours a day in just 3 weeks, no screens needed: Ever wonder how much screen time is “okay” for your kids? The rules change as they grow — and without a clear blueprint, it’s easy to spiral into guilt, panic, or constant battles. In this episode, I’ll walk you age by age (from babies all the way through teens) and show you the clear, big-picture boundaries that protect your child’s brain, body, and relationships — while keeping your family culture stronger than screen culture. And when you’re ready to go deeper: The Studio...
info_outlineIn this episode you’ll get to listen in on a conversation I had with Rachel Rainbolt from Sage Parenting. Rachel is a coach, writer, podcaster, and advocate of all things gentle parenting, natural homeschooling, and simple living.
We know you’ll get a lot out of this conversation with two mommas who don’t always get it right, who sometimes lose their cools or get overwhelmed, but always try to do what’s best for their ever-changing children and families.
[4:13] Find the overlap between your child’s needs and your concerns and collaborate with them to find a solution that addresses both.
[5:02] Example of overlap.
[6:30] “It feels really great to treat children like actual human beings, deserving of respect, and honoring our own needs and feelings in the process.”
[6:59] Some mistakenly believe this only works for older kids.
[8:18] Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations or have this “template” we try to use. We need to keep our expectations aligned with each unique, individual child.
[10:48] Have grace for yourself...we're not all born as great parents. It takes effort and work.
[11:23] Narrate out loud what's going through your head.
[11:36] We all lose it sometimes. Model what it looks like to ask forgiveness and make repairs.
[13:55] Get yourself out of that fight, flight, or freeze response so you can think and respond instead of reacting.
[14:48] Rachel’s approach to homeschooling.
[16:17] Started out in public school, but it didn't feel right.
[18:27] This is how children naturally learn and develop.
[22:16] When you hold space for your child's preferences & desires, they'll do the same for you.
[25:09] Some parents need a little more structure around their child's education, and that's ok. Find a balance.
[26:52] Relax on the timelines of what they're supposed to learn. don't need to push things so early.
[31:30] Rachel’s approach with screens at home.
[32:52] Don't fear technology. Screens are like a tool or part of the environment.
[37:38] We're all unique, and you have to do what works best for your family.
[40:59] What is the bucket system?
[45:02] Rachel’s approach to minimalism and simple living.
[45:32] We all need to simplify our lives to give us space to work on the things that are most meaningful.
[47:28] Involve your children in conversations about finances.
[50:13] You can bring your kids into money conversations without adding the burdensome or stressful elements of your financial situation.
[53:39] Many necessary life skills aren't learned in school.
[58:17] Keep a list of things that each child wants. As holidays or birthdays approach, revisit the list and ask if there’s anything they no longer want.
[58:43] Give things away to other families/children and allow your children to see the positive effect it has on that family.
If you make it a priority to discover and honor your child's preferences & desires, you’ll find that they'll do the same for you and it will completely change the dynamics of your family!
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Links & resources mentioned:
- Rachel’s website, Sage Parenting
- @SageParenting on IG
- Free to Learn by Peter Gray
- The Opposite Of Spoiled by Ron Lieber
Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/47