#11 Are We Damaging Our Kids by Fighting?
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Don't believe the lies that either he changes or you need to leave. There is a third option and Married-U is it. Get the dream marriage you want with the partner you've already got! Check out Married-U today! ___________________________ In this episode, I answer two deeply honest questions: • When I get flustered, talk faster, interrupt, and leave to calm down — my husband says I’m aggressive and stonewalling. I know I’m dysregulated… but how do I explain that to him? • How do we avoid undermining each other in front of the kids? And is it harmful for them to see us disagree? ...
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#10 Should Kids Be in Your Bed? + Loving an Anxious Spouse
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For the woman who still believes her marriage can feel better than this… even if she doesn’t know where to start yet... Married-U is open! If you love your spouse but feel disconnected. If parenting has taken over everything. If your differences feel heavier than they used to. You’re not broken. Your marriage isn’t doomed. You’re missing a few key shifts most of us were never taught. - In today’s episode, I respond to two honest questions: • Should kids sleep in the marriage bed, or should that space be protected for the couple? • How do you support a spouse with social...
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#9 Why Perfect Couples Online Make Real Marriages Harder
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Married-U is open — for anyone who wants a better marriage. You don’t need your partner’s permission. You don’t need them to change first. You don’t even need them to join. Explore Married-U here → ________________________________________________ We live in a world full of curated lives, perfect marriages, and endless comparison. Some of it feels inspiring. Some of it quietly makes you feel behind. Some of it makes you question your own relationship. So how do we show the goodness and beauty of marriage without turning it into a performance? How do we share what’s possible...
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#8 What's Really Fueling The Divorce Boom
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You should get a divorce. Something feels off. More people than ever feel disconnected, restless, and quietly dissatisfied in their marriages… even when nothing “big” is technically wrong. You’re told it means you chose wrong. You’re told it means you’ve outgrown your partner. You’re told it means you should want more. But what if that story didn’t start with you? This is part 3 of my mini series "Instagram Ruined My Marriage". Get the Free worksheet to Scroll Proof Your Marriage at If you want real skills to build a stronger, healthier marriage with the partner you...
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#7 The Worst Relationship Advice On Instagram
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If you’ve been feeling more annoyed with your husband than connected… If small things suddenly feel unforgivable… If you keep wondering, “Is something wrong with him?” This episode may change how you see everything. This is the 2nd video of my miniseries of "Instagram Ruined My Marriage". I break down moments and expose a subtle cultural force that’s quietly turning couples against each other — without them even noticing. I've been there myself... Sometimes the real problem isn’t who you married… It’s what you’ve been taught to believe. Get the accompanying PDF here - ...
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#6 Instagram Ruined My Marriage
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Something subtle has shifted in how many of us experience love, partnership, and long-term commitment — and most people don’t realize it’s happening. This is Day 1 of me diving into how Instagram almost ruined my marriage. It's: Not about fixing your partner. Not about blaming yourself. Not about quick communication hacks. It’s about seeing something most couples miss… and once you see it, you can’t unsee it. If you’ve ever felt a quiet sense of dissatisfaction, restlessness, or “is this it?” — even in a good relationship — start here. Get the free companion...
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#5 Your Marriage Is Under Attack - And You Don't Even Know It
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Modern culture has a lot to say about marriage — and most of it sounds convincing… until you slow down and really look at it. In this episode, I react to a viral clip that perfectly captures the messages many women are absorbing every day — about men, motherhood, and when a marriage is “no longer worth it.” If you’ve ever felt confused, angry, or unsettled by the relationship advice flooding social media, this conversation will help you see it differently. 👇 Stay until the end for the mindset shift that protects marriages — not breaks them. Marriage doesn’t fall apart...
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#4 Why Won't She Cook Already?
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A husband asks a question that instantly triggers people — and yet, it reveals something many marriages struggle with quietly. This conversation isn’t really about cooking, laundry, or speed. It’s about responsibility, resentment, leadership, and the systems that quietly shape family life. If your marriage feels uneven, tense, or exhausting — this perspective may change how you see the problem entirely. ________________ Strengthen your marriage, improve communication, and create clearer agreements as a couple at Married-U: Go deeper into building strong family culture,...
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#3 He Cheated. Should I Stay or Should I Go?
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What do you do when you’ve decided not to leave — but your heart is still broken? In this episode, I respond to a question from a woman married 15 years, raising two children, and trying to make sense of life after betrayal. We talk about trust, limbo, stability for kids, and why staying without redesigning the marriage slowly corrodes the heart. This is not about blaming, fixing, or rushing to a decision — it’s about what must change if you’re going to stay without becoming smaller or colder. ________________________ If your marriage has gone through a rupture and you...
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#1 Be The Architect Of Your Life
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Are you living your life like an archaeologist — digging through your past, analyzing old wounds, collecting theories and “insights”… but not actually building anything new? In this lepisode, we’re flipping the script. I’ll show you why so many smart, capable women stay stuck in analysis, self-diagnosis, and overthinking — and how to step into the role of architect, the woman who designs her identity, her habits, her outcomes, and her future. If you’ve been doing all the “inner work” but still feel like you’re circling the same patterns… this conversation will hit like...
info_outlineIn this episode you’ll get to listen in on a conversation I had with Rachel Rainbolt from Sage Parenting. Rachel is a coach, writer, podcaster, and advocate of all things gentle parenting, natural homeschooling, and simple living.
We know you’ll get a lot out of this conversation with two mommas who don’t always get it right, who sometimes lose their cools or get overwhelmed, but always try to do what’s best for their ever-changing children and families.
[4:13] Find the overlap between your child’s needs and your concerns and collaborate with them to find a solution that addresses both.
[5:02] Example of overlap.
[6:30] “It feels really great to treat children like actual human beings, deserving of respect, and honoring our own needs and feelings in the process.”
[6:59] Some mistakenly believe this only works for older kids.
[8:18] Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations or have this “template” we try to use. We need to keep our expectations aligned with each unique, individual child.
[10:48] Have grace for yourself...we're not all born as great parents. It takes effort and work.
[11:23] Narrate out loud what's going through your head.
[11:36] We all lose it sometimes. Model what it looks like to ask forgiveness and make repairs.
[13:55] Get yourself out of that fight, flight, or freeze response so you can think and respond instead of reacting.
[14:48] Rachel’s approach to homeschooling.
[16:17] Started out in public school, but it didn't feel right.
[18:27] This is how children naturally learn and develop.
[22:16] When you hold space for your child's preferences & desires, they'll do the same for you.
[25:09] Some parents need a little more structure around their child's education, and that's ok. Find a balance.
[26:52] Relax on the timelines of what they're supposed to learn. don't need to push things so early.
[31:30] Rachel’s approach with screens at home.
[32:52] Don't fear technology. Screens are like a tool or part of the environment.
[37:38] We're all unique, and you have to do what works best for your family.
[40:59] What is the bucket system?
[45:02] Rachel’s approach to minimalism and simple living.
[45:32] We all need to simplify our lives to give us space to work on the things that are most meaningful.
[47:28] Involve your children in conversations about finances.
[50:13] You can bring your kids into money conversations without adding the burdensome or stressful elements of your financial situation.
[53:39] Many necessary life skills aren't learned in school.
[58:17] Keep a list of things that each child wants. As holidays or birthdays approach, revisit the list and ask if there’s anything they no longer want.
[58:43] Give things away to other families/children and allow your children to see the positive effect it has on that family.
If you make it a priority to discover and honor your child's preferences & desires, you’ll find that they'll do the same for you and it will completely change the dynamics of your family!
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Links & resources mentioned:
- Rachel’s website, Sage Parenting
- @SageParenting on IG
- Free to Learn by Peter Gray
- The Opposite Of Spoiled by Ron Lieber
Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/47