#50 Culture is Lying to You About Motherhood
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More and more women are quietly asking the same question: is motherhood even worth it anymore? Between the sacrifices, the cultural critiques, and the pressure to “have it all,” the question doesn’t come with an easy answer. That’s why I created The Studio (https://hifam.com/studio) — my membership where I help women design family cultures that feel joyful, resilient, and rooted in what actually matters. Because when your foundation at home is strong, everything else in life feels more grounded. But here’s the tension: our culture often paints motherhood in extremes. Either...
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#49 5 Things to Stop Saying to Your Husband
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When desire goes offline, everything in marriage feels harder. That’s why I created Desire Lab (https://hifam.com/desire) — my ongoing membership that helps women reignite polarity, chemistry, and attraction. Because when the spark is alive, conflict shrinks, connection grows, and everything else gets easier. But here’s the problem: today, so many couples are talking about their marriages in clinical terms. Words like unsafe, gaslighting, narcissism, or stonewalling have crept into everyday conversations — and instead of bringing couples closer, they often drive them further apart....
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#48 Self-Help Labels - The Hidden Harm of Personal Growth
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Mindset is everything. It shapes whether life’s challenges make us stronger — or keep us stuck. That’s why I created Alchemize, my signature mindset course where I teach you how to transform struggles into strength, and turn setbacks into resilience - Because here’s the truth: self-help promises transformation, but too often it does the opposite. Hidden beneath the buzzwords and labels is a trap. Instead of growing, we get boxed in by identities like “people-pleaser,” “perfectionist,” “trauma survivor,” or “high-functioning.” At first, those labels feel validating....
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#47 Top 5 Misdiagnosed Disorders in Children
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Most "sensory-seeking," "strong-willed," and "high needs" children don't need therapy — they need THIS → Here's what I've discovered after raising 5 kids: When children get the movement, exploration, and independent play they're designed for, most of those "diagnostic" behaviors naturally resolve. They develop focus, emotional regulation, social skills, and confidence — not through intervention, but through what their developing brains actually crave. Before you label your child, give them what they're biologically designed to thrive with. Yet... Here's what's happening instead - we...
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#46 10 Ways THESE Phrases Are Hurting Your Family
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Not everything is trauma. Not every disagreement is gaslighting. Not every meltdown is dysregulation. As therapeutic language becomes more mainstream, it’s seeping into how we talk about everything — from parenting and marriage to how we see ourselves. But what if constantly labeling our family dynamics through a therapy lens is doing more harm than good? In this episode, I share 10 ways therapy-speak might be unintentionally hurting your family culture — from overdiagnosing normal struggles, to turning illness into identity, to undermining repair in relationships. Whether...
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#45 10 Things To Try Before Getting Your Child Diagnosed
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“Something feels off with my child…” “Is this just a phase… or something more serious?” “Should I get them evaluated?” When your child is struggling socially, emotionally, or behaviorally, the pressure to seek a diagnosis can feel overwhelming — from teachers, doctors, friends, even your own inner panic. But what if we’re rushing to label what’s actually part of normal — if difficult — child development? In this episode, I share 10 things every parent should try before going down the path of evaluation. Not to deny or delay treatment — but to slow down,...
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#44 Coldplay Cheaters: What Nobody Noticed
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Marriage doesn’t come with a manual—but Married-U is close. Doors are OPEN - “It was just a kiss cam… until it wasn’t.” “How could they not know they’d be on camera?” “Serves them right.” Chances are, you’ve already seen the infamous Coldplay kiss cam clip. A CEO and his HR exec caught in a scandal, ducking for cover, going viral for all the wrong reasons. But why did this cheating story blow up more than any other? Why was it so satisfying to watch—and so easy to shame? In this episode, I’m not here to pile on. I’m here to ask: 💥 Why are we so obsessed...
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#43 What to Do When Your Husband Gives You "The Ick"
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"He just gave me the ick again." "The way he eats. The way he breathes." "I can’t explain it… I just can’t unsee it." At first, it was funny. Relatable. A little cringe, maybe. But lately? You’re noticing how quick the shift happens — from love to annoyance. From playfulness to disgust. From feeling chosen… to feeling trapped. You still care. You still want to want him. But something about him — about you with him — makes your skin crawl. Is it a sign? A red flag? The beginning of the end? Or could it be something deeper — something no one told you to expect when real life...
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#42 The 1 Thing That Will Transform Your Marriage (Starting Now)
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"We're just not compatible." "Why is marriage this hard?" "I keep getting the ick every time he does that thing." "Maybe I married the wrong person." You didn’t think it would feel like this. The silence. The tension. The resentment that creeps in even when he’s just breathing. You’re not dramatic. You’re not broken. But something isn’t right — and no one prepared you for what happens when the story in your head about your marriage starts to shift. You’ve Googled it. You’ve tried to talk about it. You’ve done everything “right”… and still feel more alone than ever....
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#41 What To Do When Your Husband Feels Like a Roommate
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Remember when you couldn't keep your hands off each other? Now you're lucky if you make eye contact over the dinner dishes. You've gone from lovers to logistics managers, and frankly, you're both exhausted. So you do what everyone tells you to do: you talk about it. You go to therapy. You communicate your feelings. You hash out every grievance, every unmet need, every way he's disappointing you. And somehow... things get worse. Here's the brutal truth no one wants to admit: You're talking your marriage to death. While you're sitting in therapy sessions dissecting every problem, the real issue...
info_outlineMore and more women are quietly asking the same question: is motherhood even worth it anymore? Between the sacrifices, the cultural critiques, and the pressure to “have it all,” the question doesn’t come with an easy answer.
That’s why I created The Studio (https://hifam.com/studio) — my membership where I help women design family cultures that feel joyful, resilient, and rooted in what actually matters.
Because when your foundation at home is strong, everything else in life feels more grounded.
But here’s the tension: our culture often paints motherhood in extremes. Either it’s glorified as the only path to meaning, or dismissed as a burden that drains your best years. Neither story captures the full truth.
In this episode, I want to explore that tension. Let's talk honestly about the costs, the rewards, and the deeper transformations of parenthood — without giving you a packaged answer. Because this isn’t about telling you what to choose, it’s about asking the right questions.
And if you’re ready to go deeper — to rebuild your mindset, rediscover play in your home, or strengthen your marriage — you’ll find that inside Alchemize (https://hifam.com/alchemize), Reclaim Play (https://reclaimplay.com), and Married U (https://married-u.com).