Ep. 195 - Compromise Is Not Healthy For Your Marriage
Thriving in Tandem: The podcast for married entrepreneurs
Release Date: 10/22/2024
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info_outlineOne of the most popular keys to a successful marriage is “compromise.” In our experience that is one of the most destructive methods in a marriage. The word compromise means “accepting a standard lower than is desirable.” Is that what you want for your marriage? I would think not but that is how many deal with disagreements.
When we compromise in a disagreement, each side gives up something they want and we agree on something we can both agree upon even if it’s not the best. So how do you get past disagreements if you don’t compromise? Come up with a better solution than either of you came into the argument with.
The choices shouldn’t just be yours and hers/his. It should be yours, hers/his, or a new solution. Kay Lee and I know treat our disagreements as an opportunity to come up with an even better solution. Tune in to hear how we do it.
Want to live a better balanced life and win in marriage AND business at the same time? Purchase our book Tandem: The married entrepreneurs’ guide for greater work-life balance. https://www.thetandembook.com/
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Key Takeaways:
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We need to take the word “compromise” out of our marriage
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Definition of “compromise” - Accept a standard lower than is desirable
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Compromise in disagreements can lead to resentment
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Compromise in our life accepting busy as the norm
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Compromise in our business as that’s the best it can be
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Compromise in our marriage that we naturally drift apart
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If you want to succeed, you need to be intentional and work at it
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If you see a problem, fix it
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Don’t accept less than