230.Understanding Our “Loops” (Patterns) and How They Affect Our Relationships
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Release Date: 02/18/2025
245. Demystifying Reproductive Health for Young People
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Julia Considine Pierce is a children's book author, educator, and advocate for the health and wellness of women and girls. For over twenty years, she has empowered women and girls through individual support and workshops, helping them honor their bodies and inspire their spirits while fostering their spiritual growth and health. Julia has shared her expertise in the public school system, where she taught puberty and sexual health education in addition to teaching health at the local community college. Julia earned a Master of Public Health degree from UNC-Chapel Hill Gillings School of Global...
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244. Betrayal Uncovers the Truth: Reclaiming Yourself After Relationship Ruptures
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Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, attorney, and author who helps individuals heal from infidelity and relationship betrayal on emotional, legal, and spiritual levels. A former attorney turned coach, she blends trauma-informed guidance, somatic attachment therapy, hypnotherapy, and intuitive insight to support both betrayed and betraying partners in rebuilding self-trust, repairing relationships, and living with integrity. Lora believes betrayal can be a sacred initiation—an opportunity to uncover the truth, reclaim sovereignty, and create a life rooted in deep...
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243. Don’t Do It Alone
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Thomas Doochin is dedicated to a world where men are well such that the Earth can be well. He is the founder and lead facilitator at Heart of Men, an organization working across the continent to provide men with the conditions to know who they are and why they’re here. Thomas lives in the Appalachian Mountains and stewards a 22-acre land project alongside his family and his parents. Becky Boisvert is a lover of life, a cultural change agent, a steward of the land and place-based living, a mother, a community visionary, and a maître d' of the house that is her body. Becky offers...
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242. Self-Discovery as a Way to Connect With Others
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Bodhi Samuel is a Zenthai Shiatsu practitioner, astrology practitioner, group facilitator, and community builder who is interested in supporting the birth of new ecovillages into the world and designing micro cultures. He currently holds long-term residencies focused on embodied connection, emotional intimacy, and being our authentic sweet selves. We discuss how self-discovery helps you understand your own needs, values, and boundaries, which makes it easier to communicate openly with other people. When you are clear about who you are, you can build stronger, more authentic connections without...
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241. Heartshare: Don’t Be a Fixer
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In this solocast I talk about how being a fixer can be detrimental in some relationship dynamics. The idea of “stop being a fixer” in relationships refers to avoiding the role of trying to change, rescue, or “fix” your partner’s behaviors, emotions, or life circumstances. The mindset often stems from a well-meaning desire to help but can lead to unhealthy dynamics. Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you....
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240. Self Regulation
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Megan Hearne is the owner of Vitality Coaching and provides neurofeedback and integrative nutrition health coaching in Asheville, NC. Her training was through the Institute for Applied Neuroscience, EEG Education and Research, New Mind Academy, and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Megan has been a neurofeedback practitioner for over 6 years. She is currently accepting new clients who are ready to ignite their vitality. In this episode, Megan and I discuss the importance of focusing and knowing how to self-regulate and the crucial role it plays in enabling individuals to manage...
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239. Heartshare: Relationships as a Spiritual Path
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In this solocast I talk about how focusing on your primary relationship to create a ripple effect of thriving in other areas of your life is about nurturing that bond with intention, presence, and care. By tending to your primary relationship with intentional acts, you're building a foundation of love and trust that makes everything else feel possible. That is why relationships can be viewed as a spiritual path. It can be a beautiful, messy, and deeply transformative journey—one that mirrors a quest for meaning, connection, and growth at the heart of spirituality. Related Content:...
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238. - Emotional Intelligence!
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Emma Olyff is passionate about artistry, personal development, and spiritual practices. Eight years ago, she founded Emwa Jewelry, a high-end brand where she creates collections, custom designs, and leads workshops. Alongside her work as a jewelry artist, she has also become a business coach. In both fields, she weaves together embodiment, practical tools, and spiritual wisdom—offering a grounded, holistic approach to creation and growth. I am so so grateful to have her in my life as my Daughter-in-love. In this episode, Emma and I have a conversation about emotional intelligence. Emotional...
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237. Heartshare: You Get What You Expect in Relationships
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In this solocast I talk about how you get what you expect in relationships. Expectations in relationships are a double-edged sword because they can both guide and undermine connection. On one hand, clear expectations set standards for respect, communication, and mutual effort, creating a framework for trust and stability. For example, expecting honesty or support fosters accountability and helps partners align their actions. On the other hand, unrealistic or unspoken expectations can breed resentment and misunderstanding. I emphasize how having positive expectations of your partner and...
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236. Mind Reading in Relationships
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about mind reading. Mind reading is a cognitive distortion where individuals believe they can accurately guess or know what others are thinking or feeling without direct communication. In relationships, this often involves making assumptions about a partner's thoughts, feelings, or intentions based on minimal or ambiguous cues. Attunement...
info_outlineDerek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he’s funny.
In this episode, Derek and I have a conversation about the loops or patterns in our lives. Patterns and loops in our lives often repeat without us realizing it, influencing our behavior, habits, and decision-making processes. These patterns can be both helpful and unhelpful, shaping our daily experiences and overall existence. Identifying and reflecting on these loops can help us take proactive steps to shape our destiny and break free from unproductive patterns.
Derek Rutter contact info:
Website: onebreathcounseling.net
Email: [email protected]
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