267. HeartShare: Listener’s Questions: With the Right Person or Not, Expressing Needs Without a Fight
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In this solocast I answer two listeners’ questions. How do I know this is the right person for me and if not how to know when to break up? How do i express my needs with the conversation not turning into a fight? Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to , subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations, and Workshops at ....
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266. Unhealed Shame
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Aaron Froehlich moved to North Carolina in 2022 seeking a more intimate connection to the nature along with a deeper experience of belonging through community. He is a lifelong spiritual seeker and meditation practitioner, an avid student and teacher of Compassionate Communication as well as an active volunteer with Emberlight, the Center for Conscious Living and Dying. He works for Cornell University and is the proud father of two grown sons. In this episode, Aaron and I have a conversation about unhealed shame. We discuss how shame operates subtly and often unconsciously, driving...
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265. Are You Avoiding Hard Topics?
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about the challenges in talking about hard topics and ways we avoid doing it. We share personal stories as well as understandings in our work as therapists. Avoiding hard topic is one of the biggest silent killers in relationships. Many people dodge uncomfortable conversations to keep the peace, but that usually just builds...
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264. HeartShare: How to Choose a Partner-Choose Well!
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In this solocast I talk about probably the most important decision you will make in your life, choosing a partner. A strong match can amplify happiness, health and success for decades; where a poor one can drain energy, create chaos and affect children adversely. In the beginning when dating, date with intention rather than desperation or just entertainment. Know yourself well so you are clearer in what you are experiencing that is right for you. Many people also avoid deeper questions in the beginning of their relationship. I give examples of some of these questions to get clearer and...
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263. Re-Mothering From a Mother Wound
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Phoebe Klaus, L.Ac, MTOM is a practitioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine specializing in pediatric and teen wellness. A joyful devotee of Mother Earth, she explores the deep relationships between people, plants, and the spirit that connects all living things. From her off-grid home in the Appalachian forest, Phoebe spends her days growing and processing herbs, tending her homestead, and learning from the wisdom of both nature and human culture. She shares this life of wonder and joy with her husband, three teens, baby daughter, and two dogs. In this episode, Phoebe and I talk about her...
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262. Respecting People’s Boundaries
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Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he’s funny. In this episode, Derek and I have a conversation about the importance of respecting other people’s boundaries. It shows respect for autonomy-treating people as capable adults rather than extension of your needs, builds trust...
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261. HeartShare: Love is a Verb, Not a Possession
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In this solocast I talk about how love is a verb, it is in our actions. Possessiveness is usually guised in what people believe love is or in their ways they love. So we need to choose loving action over control. The idea that love is a verb emphasizes that love isn’t primarily a passive feeling, emotion, or static “thing” you fall into or possess. Instead it’s an active practice; a series of deliberate actions, choices, and behaviors you engage in daily. Possessiveness often shows up in jealousy, monitoring, restricting freedoms, emotional manipulation to name a few and it can...
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260. Blame Shifting and Deflection
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about a common but damaging pattern blame shifting and deflection. This repeated pattern creates a “blame game” or a criticize-defend cycle, where real issues never get solved. It builds resentment, reduces emotional safety, and can lead to one or both partners to walk on eggshells. Everyone deflects occasionally under...
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259. Can A Relationship Survive an Affair?
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Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, attorney, and author who helps individuals heal from infidelity and relationship betrayal on emotional, legal, and spiritual levels. A former attorney turned coach, she blends trauma-informed guidance, somatic attachment therapy, hypnotherapy, and intuitive insight to support both betrayed and betraying partners in rebuilding self-trust, repairing relationships, and living with integrity. Lora believes betrayal can be a sacred initiation—an opportunity to uncover the truth, reclaim sovereignty, and create a life rooted in deep...
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258. Moving Through the Pain of Disconnection to Connection
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Dan Hadley is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with over 36 years of clinical experience. Throughout his career, he has worked with a variety of therapeutic approaches, including Gestalt, psychodynamic, and systems-based therapies. He has practiced in diverse settings and worked with clients ranging from adolescents to adults. Dan’s primary focus has always been on relationships—how we navigate both the challenges and strengths within them, move through periods of connection and disconnection, and develop healthier ways of relating to ourselves and others. He has 3 daughters...
info_outlineCorey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.
In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about a common but damaging pattern blame shifting and deflection. This repeated pattern creates a “blame game” or a criticize-defend cycle, where real issues never get solved. It builds resentment, reduces emotional safety, and can lead to one or both partners to walk on eggshells. Everyone deflects occasionally under stress, it’s human, but when it’s a consistent pattern, it signals deeper issues like poor emotional regulation or unwillingness to take responsibility.
Connect with Corey:
- Still Point Wellness
- Still Point Wellness on Instagram
- Still Point Wellness on Facebook
- Still Point Wellness on Pinterest
- Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn
- Email: Corey@stillpointwell.com
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