Building Flexible Thinking Skills in Your Neurodivergent Child
Release Date: 07/30/2025
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info_outlineThis week on the podcast, we dive into a topic close to the hearts of many parents and educators: helping neurodivergent kids build flexible thinking skills.
Whether you’re parenting or teaching gifted, 2e, ADHD, autistic, or otherwise wonderfully-wired kiddos, you know that rigid thinking can turn even minor changes into big challenges. You’ll hear real-life stories, practical strategies, and compassionate guidance to help you nurture adaptability—without forcing your kids to just “go with the flow.”
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Validate Their Experience: Begin by acknowledging your child’s feelings when plans or expectations shift. Empathy and validation open the door to problem-solving.
- Model Flexibility: Your kids are always watching! Talk through your own changes in plans, letting them see that adjustment is a skill, not a failure.
- Use Playful & Structured Opportunities: Incorporate “Plan B” days, offer limited choices, and use stories or role-playing to gently stretch their thinking in a safe, fun way.
If you’re navigating homeschooling with neurodivergent kids—or simply looking to foster resilience—this episode is rich with actionable ideas.
Let’s raise lifelong learners who are ready to adapt, shift, and grow through all of life’s twists and turns!
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