Executive Function Struggles in Homeschooling: Why Smart Kids Can’t Find Their Shoes (and What to Do About It)
Release Date: 08/15/2025
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info_outlineThis week’s episode of the podcast is all about executive function—what it is, how struggles in these skills show up in homeschoolers, and, most importantly, what you can do at home to support your child as they grow. Whether your child is gifted, twice-exceptional, or has a neurodivergence like ADHD or autism, these ideas are for you.
Here are some highlights and key takeaways:
- Executive function is more than organization. It encompasses a whole set of skills: from planning and prioritizing to task initiation, working memory, emotional regulation, and more. Many neurodivergent kids’ intellectual abilities often outpace these essential life skills.
- Scaffolding and modeling are key. Building executive function doesn’t mean doing it all for them. Instead, break down tasks, provide step-by-step support, externalize plans (think: whiteboards and visual checklists), and consistently model your own planning and problem-solving out loud.
- Progress, not perfection. Celebrate small wins and keep the focus on growth and effort. Building these life skills is a marathon, not a sprint. Our job isn’t to micromanage, but to guide, equip, and be a safe base as our kids grow into independent problem-solvers.
Whether you’re a parent or educator, this episode is a great reminder: little steps matter—and you’re not alone on the journey!
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