592: 4 Things That Will Destroy Their Recovery (Don't Say These)
Release Date: 02/04/2026
592: 4 Things That Will Destroy Their Recovery (Don't Say These)
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEB CLASS! If someone you love is struggling with alcohol and drugs, the words you choose matter more than you think. In this video, I break down the 4 phrases that push addicts deeper into their addiction — and what you should say instead. These are the exact things my dad said to me when I was using, and I'll show you why they don't work and how to communicate in a way that actually moves the needle toward recovery. 0:00 Intro: Words That Push Addicts Away 1:15 Phrase #1: "If you loved us, you would quit"...
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591: STOP playing the VICTIM: Michael Wall
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! Does your new sober life seem to be boring and mundane? Are you having a hard time finding purpose? This is an episode that you dont want to miss! Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
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590: The 90-Day Sobriety Framework (THIS WILL WORK)
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! What does it actually take to stay sober for the first 90 days? In this episode, we break down a simple, practical framework for alcoholics and drug addicts who want real stability — not just white-knuckling it. We also speak directly to families and loved ones, sharing clear benchmarks that help you tell the difference between real progress and empty promises. If you or someone you love is early in recovery, this episode gives you tangible actions you can start today and clarity on what healthy...
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589: Why I Kept Relapsing on C***aine (Until I Finally Did This)
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
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588: 4 MORE Manipulation Tactics Addicts Use Against their own FAMILY! (Be Prepared)
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling guilty, confused, or responsible for someone else’s choices? You’re not imagining it — and you’re not weak. In this episode of Real Recovery Talk, I break down 4 manipulation tactics addicts commonly use against the people who love them most. These patterns are subtle, emotionally charged, and incredibly effective — especially on parents, spouses, and family members who just want to help. I’ve been on both sides of this. I used these tactics...
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587: 3 Intentions to Help Families Start 2026 With Hope
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? As we head into a brand new year, many family members and loved ones are carrying a mix of hope, exhaustion, and uncertainty — especially when someone they love is struggling with addiction. This video is not about resolutions. It’s not about fixing anyone. And it’s not about doing more. In this episode, I share a few simple intentions you can carry into 2026 — practical, grounded ways to protect your own well-being, strengthen connection, and walk into the new year with clarity instead of fear. Join our SKOOL...
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586: Why You Feel Lied To, Manipulated And Guilty (Advice For Parents Only)
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? If it’s Christmas Eve and you’re lying awake right now, worried about your child, this episode is for you. While the rest of the world seems to be celebrating, many parents are quietly carrying fear, guilt, and exhaustion—wondering where their son or daughter is, if they’re safe, or if things will ever change. In this solo episode, I speak directly to parents who are struggling tonight. We talk about why Christmas Eve can feel heavier than any other night, the lies fear tells us when things get quiet, and what...
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585: My Mom Died From Alcoholism: Here is Why...
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Have someone in your life struggling with addiction? DO NOT MISS THIS! Free webclass: 5 MISTAKES FAMILIES MAKE WHEN TRYING TO HELP A LOVED ONE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION In this powerful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Ricki Santiago, a licensed clinician who opens up about his own experience growing up with an alcoholic mother—and how that trauma shaped his entire life. Before he was a therapist helping others heal… he was a kid watching his mom drink herself into the grave. Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG:...
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584: Addiction or Narcissism? How to Tell the Difference (Professional Opinion)
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Have someone in your life struggling with addiction? DO NOT MISS THIS! Free webclass: 5 MISTAKES FAMILIES MAKE WHEN TRYING TO HELP A LOVED ONE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION In today’s episode, we break down the difference between true narcissism and the narcissistic behaviors that show up during addiction. These can look identical — manipulation, gaslighting, lack of empathy, emotional abuse — but the root cause is often very different. Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
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583: What Families Get Wrong About Addiction (It's Not Willpower)
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Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! In today’s conversation, Hilary shares one of the most powerful trauma stories we’ve ever had on the podcast. Before addiction ever entered her life, trauma did. From growing up in chaos… to being pushed into acting at five years old… to living in fear, shame, and survival mode — her story explains EXACTLY why so many addicts and alcoholics struggle the way they do. Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
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If someone you love is struggling with alcohol and drugs, the words you choose matter more than you think. In this video, I break down the 4 phrases that push addicts deeper into their addiction — and what you should say instead.
These are the exact things my dad said to me when I was using, and I'll show you why they don't work and how to communicate in a way that actually moves the needle toward recovery. 0:00 Intro: Words That Push Addicts Away
1:15 Phrase #1: "If you loved us, you would quit"
3:45 Why conditional love destroys trust
5:20 What to say instead of questioning their love
6:30 Free Monday Workshop (Register Now)
8:10 Phrase #2: "You're weak - why can't you stop?"
11:40 Why willpower isn't the answer
13:25 What to say instead of calling them weak
15:50 Phrase #3: Bargaining - "If you do this, I'll do this"
18:30 Why rewards backfire in recovery
20:15 What to say instead of negotiating
22:40 Phrase #4: "I don't care anymore"
25:10 Why detachment works but verbalizing doesn't
27:00 What to say when you're at your breaking point
29:30 Final thoughts: Being strategic with your words
31:45 How to get support for your situation
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