593: Why Addicts Get Angry When You Try to Help (The Real Reason)
Release Date: 02/11/2026
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If your loved one explodes in anger every time you try to help them with their addiction, this video will change how you understand what's really happening. After 15 years of sobriety, I can finally explain what was going through my head when I raged at the people trying to save my life. Their anger isn't about you - it's about shame, fear, and survival. Once you understand this, everything changes about how you approach them.
In this video, I break down: Why your offer of help triggers their rage (the shame bomb) What they're actually protecting when they push you away The real translation of "leave me alone" and "you don't understand" Specific phrases that work better than "you need help" How to stay present without enabling The person you love is still in there. Your job isn't to make them ready - it's to be there when they are.
0:00 - Why they attack when you offer help
0:45 - The shame trigger
3:30 - You're threatening their survival tool
6:00 - Anger keeps you away 8:30 - What they're really saying
10:30 - What actually works 13:00 - Final message for families
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